Angeltbay 612 Report post Posted February 27, 2011 think of the SP you have had in the past (no need to mention names) What would have made your experience better (if anything) would it be performance? length of time...etc i know id love to know, and perhaps some ladies could improve themselves as well, tell us what you really want! 1 Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Capital Hunter 18263 Report post Posted February 28, 2011 The emotional aspects of the experience is most important to me rather than physical aspects or sex itself (lots of huggings and kissings and emotions and feeling that she really likes me, enjoys me and my company and that she is having good time), but I may be in a minority in a sense so I am not sure I could help you with a majority response that you are looking for. 10 Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
The General 11309 Report post Posted February 28, 2011 I would say that the ladies that give an experience that shows that they appreciate the caller, is the one that is the best. As many have said, we are paying for the fantasy, and a lot of that is on the emotional side. However, I would say if the lady shows that kind of appreciation, the connection is also there and the sexual experience tends to be top notch too. Kissing and showing some receptiveness on the part of the lady, are big turn-ons for me. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
PistolPete 61421 Report post Posted February 28, 2011 Most definitely, for me is length of time, my last visit with a lady was 2 plus hours. My next visit with a lady I would like to do is 4 hours of lust,sensual fun,shower play,bath tub play,making out like teenage kids, chatting,cuddling,watching a movie and having lots of sex in the company of a lady that shows the same back. think of the SP you have had in the past (no need to mention names)What would have made your experience better (if anything) would it be performance? length of time...etc i know id love to know, and perhaps some ladies could improve themselves as well, tell us what you really want! Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
roamingguy 300292 Report post Posted February 28, 2011 The emotional aspects of the experience is most important to me rather than physical aspects or sex itself (lots of huggings and kissings and emotions and feeling that she really likes me, enjoys me and my company and that she is having good time), but I may be in a minority in a sense so I am not sure I could help you with a majority response that you are looking for. I guess I'm in the same minority too SA It's the emotional connection made during the encounter, the conversation, the kissing and cuddling. Yes, I enjoy the sexual aspect, but it's not the most important aspect When that emotional connection is made, you know the lady you spent time with is a unique individual with her own personality/character. Besides, if I just wanted sex, I would only need half hour, and that include undressing/dressing...me I like a two hour encounter at least RG 5 Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Old Dog 179138 Report post Posted February 28, 2011 For me, it's all about chemistry. It's nothing that can be anticipated, manufactured or faked. It's there or it's not. One the reasons that CERB is so important to so many people is that you can build a bond of sorts with the provider prior to any encounter. You can do that by watching what they say in threads, the way they advertise themselves or by the nature of the PMs. All the people that I know here become all the more special in person - it's tangible chemistry. At the session? It's about fulfilling that bond. Playful talk. Lingering touches. Kisses that are teasing, tasty and tantalizing... passion and play. Just a thought... 1 Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
747LeftSeat 699 Report post Posted February 28, 2011 The emotional aspects of the experience is most important to me rather than physical aspects or sex itself (lots of huggings and kissings and emotions and feeling that she really likes me, enjoys me and my company and that she is having good time), but I may be in a minority in a sense so I am not sure I could help you with a majority response that you are looking for. This is how I feel too. Not saying I don't enjoy the intercourse, because I do like it, but for me a feeling of being wanted and a feeling that I've pleased the lady are important aspects of the date. I especially like the cuddling and kissing and being teased all over. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
mrgreen760 37785 Report post Posted February 28, 2011 Chemistry!! And you know it immediately, the first seconds can make it break it for me. Peace MG 1 Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
BarrhavenWoody 10776 Report post Posted February 28, 2011 It seems like maybe it's not the minority opinion. I also like the emotional part and the hugging, kissing and cuddling. I like chatting and getting to know each other and making a connection. Without this connection, I leave feeling empty and disappointed, no matter how good the sex was physically. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Winnipegcub 21293 Report post Posted February 28, 2011 I'm with all the other gents and certainly doesn't look like we're in the minority. It is truly the connection. And yes I often know within the first 15 mins of the date. The best experiences are when I quickly feel consumed that I'm with my girlfriend. Some ladies are relaxed and love what they do and this comes out quickly in particular if a little chemistry is there. Unfortunately, I've had a couple times when overall things went fine, but it was just a little too mechanical. To take it outside the actual date, I think some ladies of CERB do an amazing job at the pre-date. This can be PMs, notes on profile page, or time in chat. But when you've already begun the connection well before the date - I think it makes the experience that much more. And I also value when that connection can continue between dates. This is what would make me keep wanting to see the same special lady. Cub 1 Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
roamingguy 300292 Report post Posted February 28, 2011 The two worse ones for me The first, where the SP made it clear from the outset, exact quote, "gotta pay the bills hun, gotta pay the bills"...a horrible encounter, not to mention poor services The second bad one (a Toronto lady), no chemistry, didn't have a conversation, more like a interview (question, answer, no natural flow) Services wise great, but no chemistry. One lady (also from Toronto), services not as good as the second lady (no names), but her interpersonal skills (we had great chemistry) makes her a lady I will repeat with So all in all, it's not all about sex Just some added comments RG Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
April Dawn 12207 Report post Posted February 28, 2011 I might also be in the minority as an SP but there have been more than a few appointments I have called off when I just didn't feel it... I got into this because I love sex and have a desire to meet and serve new people... texts, emails and pm's helpsmooth the way to a wild romp. The more fun I have the more fun they do! Posted via Mobile Device Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Kubrickfan 12836 Report post Posted February 28, 2011 Bad encounter -- SP rolling her eyes when I tried to ask polite questions telling me its my time to waste, bad odors (uggh), indifference. And that was all one encounter (smile). Good encounter -- mentioned by many of the guys above, emotional, fun, a little intense, a little aggressive, but mostly caring. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Angeltbay 612 Report post Posted February 28, 2011 thanks for the great feedback guys, and as an SP i agree also, if your not actually enjoying it yourself, how can the other person? thanks to all that replied! if anyone has any more feedback, dont be shy!! Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
just2enjoy 1621 Report post Posted February 28, 2011 Looks like the minority is the majority lol! I feel selecting a SP that appeals to me & having an emotional connection is far more powerful & enjoyable than just sex. Of course, sharing in the pleasures of sex can be spectacular too. Just one thing I don't care for, please don't make those fake noises like from a bad porn movie if you're not really enjoying - I'd prefer to be taught how to give an Orgasmic explosion. As for what April posted, understandable if there is no connection, but I can only imagine how bad that could personally sting if they're feeling down & lonely which is why they're seeking the GFE. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
April Dawn 12207 Report post Posted February 28, 2011 Thankfully I have yet to turn someone away at my door which is why getting to know someone first through emails is paramount to a fun experience. Posted via Mobile Device Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Capital Hunter 18263 Report post Posted February 28, 2011 (edited) Great to read all comments in this thread and to know that to so many, the emotional aspects of the experience are most important too. I am cheered up. It looks like this time round the silent majority spoke out:icon_smile:. Edited February 28, 2011 by S*****t Ad*****r Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
PistolPete 61421 Report post Posted February 28, 2011 Thankfully I have yet to turn someone away at my door which is why getting to know someone first through emails is paramount to a fun experience.Posted via Mobile Device So true, very seldom am I ever wrong about meeting someone. The chemistry is already there, the intimacy is there and therefore I would look for longer play time.If there is no connection I just don't go back. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
mrrnice2 157005 Report post Posted February 28, 2011 As a relatively new member to CERB and to the entire independent service provider experience, it is with great interest that I read these posts above, and it looks as if I shall also maintain the same thought flow. In looking back at the three experiences that I have had, I always think first and foremost about the woman as the person herself.....her interests, her ability to converse, her genuineness, and her enjoyment of being there with me. Sometimes I think that if I left with nothing more than that I would leave happy! It IS however that "connection," that makes any further sexual involvement so erotic and pleasurable. And here I thought it was just me that felt this way about this question. Apparently not. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Guest jake_cdn Report post Posted February 28, 2011 (edited) I have to agree with almost all in this thread that the most important thing for me is the connection. How personable she is and how affectionate. For me the preamble is just as important as the event. I am truly amazed when small details are remembered and discussed at subsequent meetings. This shows an interest to detail in the client and a desire to continue the bond between the two parties. For some this is not simply a money transaction and those are the individuals that you want to see time and time again. Edited February 28, 2011 by jake_cdn spelling Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Loki318 1631 Report post Posted February 28, 2011 I'm with all the rest here the best, no matter what you call it, emotion, chemistry, connection etc is when the sp and the hobbyist is when each makes the other feel special, they fulfill the fantisy.... All the bad dates start with, no this or no that, or I dont do or you cant .... Once with a very good very well reviewed traveling lady here .... chated first ... the "connection" was made the date set, arrival (to her hotel room, she was traveling) right on time .... had a great 2 hr session! then went into the wc to wash up and noticed the wast bin there over half full of used condoms and wrappers.... Yea I know its what she dose for a liveing, and all tha but it sort of spoiled the date for me ...a little... it was a midday date I remember my first thought was OMG she's seen this many guys already today! then realised it must have been more that that day. Would I see her again? Hell yea! I wasnt that turned off ... So if your looking for ideas for the extra little touch's .... keep the wash room clean and empty the trash or hide or some thing.... Just my 2 cents Loki318 Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Studio 110 by Sophia 150333 Report post Posted February 28, 2011 I usually can tell what the gentlemen are looking for by the way we connect threw PM and phone conversation. Some do want to just come, get it on, with little or no conversation, and want to run out the door right after. Which is fine, and that is why I offer half hour rates. But I much prefer the GFE for the same reason as you gentlemen, I too want to feel connected,adored and truly desired. The quicky is good too, especially if you have already bonded, and you just stop in, that can be exciting for the mid afternooner. But I want to enjoy you as well!I love the 4 hour or all night calls, they are such a great time to develop a mutual desire. 1 Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Boomer 33202 Report post Posted February 28, 2011 I've always approached the first date with the attitude that based on what I already know about the service provider that I'll want to repeat. I expect her not to be too passive, and be able to take charge at times, relying on her experience to show through. An hour passes quickly to make an initial decision. That said she has to be genuine and willing to becomes a friend. Straight sex is great but won't sustain a long term relationship, intimacy i.e. Kissing, cuddling, and massage is more important. And personally I like a lady who doesn't mind bathing together to start (great way to get aqauinted). Lastly I think the lady has to show a comfort level and show her own satisfaction, I need a participant and feel a I have a responsibility to also see that she walks a way from a date happy, it's a two way street when you gat betwen the sheets. That's what defines a GFE. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
velaxun 100 Report post Posted February 28, 2011 Wow, the minority certainly turned into the majority. I've only been with one SP before, but she was amazing. We spent a long time talking about anything and listened to some music. Of course we had amazing sex too, but getting to know her beforehand definitely added to the experience. What made it amazing to me is that right away she invited me in and sat me on the couch, rubbed my hands (it was cold out that day and I rely on buses to get around) and just started talking. I love it when the SP takes the lead and opens herself up. I love women, and I really appreciate just being able to sit and talk to all the beautiful SP's out there. To me, sex is a nice bonus :P I definitely appreciate the more intimate approaches like kissing and cuddling and LOTS of intimate foreplay. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
renegade 11027 Report post Posted February 28, 2011 its been well described here already and for me as well theres no question it is the connection !!!simply not enjoyable without that. I would also like to add please please when you have a regular try and respect that client by not taking them for granted- keep it new ! appreciate their loyalty Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
