stripclub etiquette??

[VedaSloan 119179]

My partner and I are going to the stripclub in a couple of weeks to celebrate my birthday. I'm very excited, but I've never been to a stripclub before and I don't want to inadvertently offend anyone or do something wrong.

 

So if there are any dancers who want to chime in on this one, please do. How do you feel about female patrons? What's a good amount of money to bring that will allow me to have some fun, but won't necessarily break my bank (can I get away with less than $100)? Tips for having a good time? I want to be a good patron, and I don't want to waste anyone's time unnecessarily. If you are not interested in a particular dancer who approaches you, do you simply politely say you're not interested? How do you get the attention of a dancer you are interested in? Do you wait for them to come to you?

 

Thanks!

[Megan'sTouch 23875]

Berlin,

 

Unfortunately ladies in the SC have a bad rep. Lots of jealous girlfriends/wives.

 

A good place to start would be to tip the girls $5 when they are onstage. You lay down on the stage (not too close to the lady, let her come to you) with a $5 bill in your mouth (gross I know LOL) and she will give you a little dance and then collect her tip. This will show the dancers that you are infact a willing participant and not just there for your BF, and that you are spending money.

 

If you are planning on getting dances with you SO at the same time, couples dances are $30-40/song.

 

There is nothing wrong with saying "no thank you" when asked for a dance by a lady you are not interested in. Feel free to approach a dancer if you like her!

 

How much money you spend really depends on you. $100 could look like this - $20 for drinks, $20 tips onstage, $20 one dance with a lady solo, $40 one couples dance. Sounds like a fine evening to me!

 

Have fun,

 

Megan

[Mister T 45020]

Berlin, I've seen couples a my favorite hangout. Never saw problems. Prices given by Meagan are about right. My two favorite clubs, the Fax and Pigale, have "rates" in or around the CR. If your BF pitches in, all the better...

 

What i noticed, and from discussing with my regular dancer, going in at a "quieter" time leaves some time to get to know each other. Like anything, have a chat, be polite, say no if you have to. When i went out with a friends ( a couple) they had chatted with the ladie's first to get a feel for each other and both be comfortable. Most will understand.

 

PM me if you want, I may have good suggestions for you.

[Guest Bri*****e Da****]

x2 on what Megan said.

 

Be prepared to be avoided by many dancers who have had bad experiences with female patrons. As long as you aren't glaring at the girls and trash talking them to your partner though, I'm sure some will warm up to your presence and come over to say hi.

 

If you have your eye on a certain girl or are a bit pickier about who you would like dances from, get ready to have to approach her yourself though. Tipping on stage is a great way to do that, but if you're a bit shy and don't want to, I recommend trying to make eye contact with her, smiling, and motioning her to come over.

 

You may also have to get up and approach her yourself, but keep in mind that if a dancer doesn't seem willing to even chat with you, she probably won't be that into dancing for you, and a dance is always better when all involved parties are enjoying themselves.

 

Oh, and be prepared for the dancer to pay more attention to you than your partner if your partner is a male. I do this in couples dances because I want to make sure you don't feel uncomfortable or like I'm trying to "steal" your partner by focusing more on him than you, and I know a lot of other dancers do the same. That and I so rarely get to dance for girls, so it's a nice treat for myself! ;)

[cat 262460]

Berlin....shy? Hmmmm. Now there is a novel thought! :tongue:

I have never been a dancer but celebrated my 3rd decade of being a patron. I love SCs and have never had an issue with a dancer. If I see one I like I tip her on stage or ask a waitress to send her over if she is cruising. If she's busy it's important to let her know that you would like to see her. She will put you on the dance card. Slower nights means she will have a little more time to sit and chat but if she doesn't thats ok.

I can't imagine you not having a blast Berlin.

cat

[Mister T 45020]

Forgot to add (thought about it while reading Bridgette's post) ... I made introductions in between the couple in question and 2 dancers, which made everything easy for everyone, including the dancers.

 

They ended up going with one, i went with the other. They both returned (without me) and were recognised by the dancer they hadn't been with. Since they had met .... well introductions were already made and everyone was comfortable. In this case, a good amount of time was spent talking at the table, i was told.

[Areez 11906]

i _Think_ the best approach to this in regards of "bringing" money is get as much as you want to spend for the evening in cash .. the worst part about SC is the ATM machine lol :P trust me i used it often enough that those fee could get me solid amount of CR time :P'

 

you should have lots of fun ... i've been to sc with girl friend and they dont seem to have problem getting approched. makes me a really happy observer.

 

All the best!

[Kubrickfan 12836]

I thought some of the clubs limited the ability of ladies to enter without a male companion on the "jealous wife/girlfriend theory." Is that not the case any more?

[E.D. man 691]

When I go to a club it takes about $200 for a good time with one dancer, if ou have the chemistry with her.

If you are looking for a time when there are both alot of female and male patrons. Go to the playmate Wednesday during their free buffet, as the buffet is actually pretty good and a lot of the female gov't workers from place vanier go there just for the buffet on average their are bout 10 female patrons their for the food and every once in awhile a girl goes to cr with her bf or have a dance at the table.

[Megan'sTouch 23875]

I thought some of the clubs limited the ability of ladies to enter without a male companion on the "jealous wife/girlfriend theory." Is that not the case any more?

I have met many jealous wives/girlfriends there with their husband/boyfriend. One time, I asked a man if I could sit with him and he said yes. We struck up a good conversation and I was about to ask him to the champagne room when his wife appeared back from her trip to the washroom and chewed me out for sitting with her husband. I think she was completely out of line because, after all, they are in a strip club, and if he was not supposed to be talking with dancers while she was in the washroom, why didn't he tell me he was just waiting for his wife?

 

Long story short, there are wives/girlfriends who go to the strip clubs either because they are pressured to, or because they want to "babysit" their husband/boyfriend. The accompaniment rule doesn't stop them.

 

On a side note, I'm thoroughly against the accompaniment rule. This isn't the 19th-century and women should be able to go all the places that men go without a male companion. Sheesh!

[Mister T 45020]

I have met many jealous wives/girlfriends there with their husband/boyfriend. One time' date=' I asked a man if I could sit with him and he said yes. We struck up a good conversation and I was about to ask him to the champagne room when his wife appeared back from her trip to the washroom and chewed me out for sitting with her husband. I think she was completely out of line because, after all, they are in a strip club, and if he was not supposed to be talking with dancers while she was in the washroom, why didn't he tell me he was just waiting for his wife?

 

Long story short, there are wives/girlfriends who go to the strip clubs either because they are pressured to, or because they want to "babysit" their husband/boyfriend. The accompaniment rule doesn't stop them.

 

On a side note, I'm thoroughly against the accompaniment rule. This isn't the 19th-century and women should be able to go all the places that men go without a male companion. Sheesh![/quote']

 

Pressuring and / or babysitting denote, for me, trouble in the couple. Why go then, if both in the couple is not open to it. Can't imagine it's a very pleasant situation. I agree that women should be going everywhere man can (referring to strip clubs), but i'm sure that is balanced against the "jealous wife / GF" theory.

[Hornee69 4851]

I have taken my girl many times to a SC. Sometimes I will send her for a dance and sometimes she sends me for a dance. We have never gone together but I usually have a decent bar tab & we buy certain girls some drinks, shooters & one we even buy her a sandwich. We love it at Pigales. My girl even attracts more dancers to our table than when I am alone.

[VedaSloan 119179]

Berlin' date='

 

Unfortunately ladies in the SC have a bad rep. Lots of jealous girlfriends/wives.

 

A good place to start would be to tip the girls $5 when they are onstage. You lay down on the stage (not too close to the lady, let her come to you) with a $5 bill in your mouth (gross I know LOL) and she will give you a little dance and then collect her tip. This will show the dancers that you are infact a willing participant and not just there for your BF, and that you are spending money.

 

If you are planning on getting dances with you SO at the same time, couples dances are $30-40/song.

 

There is nothing wrong with saying "no thank you" when asked for a dance by a lady you are not interested in. Feel free to approach a dancer if you like her!

 

How much money you spend really depends on you. $100 could look like this - $20 for drinks, $20 tips onstage, $20 one dance with a lady solo, $40 one couples dance. Sounds like a fine evening to me!

 

Have fun,

 

Megan[/quote']

 

 

I certainly don't want to be thought of as a jealous gf or wife, this trip is totally for me, cuz it's my birthday :) Thanks for the monetary breakdown. I was having trouble visualizing how to spend the money, or how much $100 would get me.

 

x2 on what Megan said.

 

Be prepared to be avoided by many dancers who have had bad experiences with female patrons. As long as you aren't glaring at the girls and trash talking them to your partner though, I'm sure some will warm up to your presence and come over to say hi.

 

If you have your eye on a certain girl or are a bit pickier about who you would like dances from, get ready to have to approach her yourself though. Tipping on stage is a great way to do that, but if you're a bit shy and don't want to, I recommend trying to make eye contact with her, smiling, and motioning her to come over.

 

You may also have to get up and approach her yourself, but keep in mind that if a dancer doesn't seem willing to even chat with you, she probably won't be that into dancing for you, and a dance is always better when all involved parties are enjoying themselves.

 

Oh, and be prepared for the dancer to pay more attention to you than your partner if your partner is a male. I do this in couples dances because I want to make sure you don't feel uncomfortable or like I'm trying to "steal" your partner by focusing more on him than you, and I know a lot of other dancers do the same. That and I so rarely get to dance for girls, so it's a nice treat for myself! ;)

 

Ha, I am totally okay with more attention on me. I'll have to work on looking like I'm not glaring though; people have said I look angry when I'm not smiling.

 

Thank you both for your advice and tips, it is very much appreciated!

[moonshadow 369]

Megan,

Your description of laying on the stage with the five between your teeth

is really cool. Is this something only a woman should do?

I saw a guy do it about a year ago and I thought that he was going to get his head kicked

in by a bouncer...but nothing happened to him. I guess this method of tipping

is an accepted practice?

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[The General 11309]

Pretty common practice in most clubs. Somes the ladies will give a sexier dance and pretty awesome show for the guys. For 5 bucks, while very public, it can be a great rush. Done it a couple of times myself, but prefer the private confines of the CR.

 

 

Megan,

Your description of laying on the stage with the five between your teeth

is really cool. Is this something only a woman should do?

I saw a guy do it about a year ago and I thought that he was going to get his head kicked

in by a bouncer...but nothing happened to him. I guess this method of tipping

is an accepted practice?

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[Megan'sTouch 23875]

Moonshadow - It's quite common 11pm-2am on Fri/Sat nights, and less so during the week and daytime/early evenings. I think guys need to be drunk to get up there LOL

[Hornee69 4851]

I have done it at Pigales but only if I am friends withe the dancer. MY girl has done it also, in fact I have even financed nher. lol

[Winnipegcub 21293]

I've only been to 1 SC in 1 1/2 yrs since I found escorts but when I used to visit them I did the 'Bill on Stage' all the time. Well at least once a night if a special lady I liked or thought she had a great stage show. I generally sit at a back table so always was a little macho to be able to head up to the stage and lay back next to a bunch of young guys who might get in Aww at what I was doing. Find the ladies very much appreciate it whether, 5, 10 or 20. Trick is to keep your hands down on the stage and let the lady do what she wants. Did it with a $50 once and wow did I get a reaction. I'll save that story for another thread some day.

[waterat 20911]

Saw this happen late afternoon on Fri. at Barb's. A fellow lay back on stage with the bill in his teeth and the talented dancer managed to pull it from his teeth using her pussy!!!

 

I was quite impressed at the skill!

[moonshadow 369]

Saw this happen late afternoon on Fri. at Barb's. A fellow lay back on stage with the bill in his teeth and the talented dancer managed to pull it from his teeth using her pussy!!!

 

I was quite impressed at the skill!

 

I was at Barb's Friday after work for a couple of drinks.

Saw the lady remove the bill the way you described...very talented woman.

Although I was not at the correct end of the stage to see the actual

monetary exchange...my impression was that she removed the bill the way you say.

Was entertaining for sure.

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[Adamo90 231]

Saw this happen late afternoon on Fri. at Barb's. A fellow lay back on stage with the bill in his teeth and the talented dancer managed to pull it from his teeth using her pussy!!!

 

I was quite impressed at the skill!

 

 

Sweet Jesus!

I need to get out more often.

Never been to an SC.

Might become a second hobby.

[ged69u 150]

I stopped by Pigale last night (Saturday, first time ever on a Saturday) and was amazed at the number of ladies in the audience. The place was full on both floors and had a bunch of male only groups, but also had a supprising number of couples as well as some female only groups. In all there must have been 40 or more female customers over the course of the night.

 

Berlin, seems like if you want to have comfortable first trip to a SC with your SO this atmosphere might be a good one for you.

[Polecat 100]

On a side note, I'm thoroughly against the accompaniment rule. This isn't the 19th-century and women should be able to go all the places that men go without a male companion. Sheesh!

 

Great point, my GF goes on her own, comes home and is horney as can be!

[Guest Kr****er09]

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[ripleymonroe 794]

Here are my thoughts about going to a strip club as a woman - most clubs in Ottawa require that you come accompanied with a man... but that rule doesn't really stick if you become a regular.

 

I frequent a couple of clubs in the region and have found that the dancers won't approach you until they know for sure that you're there for them. In my case, I just make eye contact with them and smile. If the woman I'm interested in doesn't approach me, I'll go up to her and strike up a conversation and ask her for a dance. Once you ask one dancer for a dance, it's pretty much a green light for the other dancers to know that you're safe to approach.

 

It really comes down to respect. I'm there to enjoy the experience and they need to make sure that I'm not there to cause trouble. Another good thing to do, if you don't want to have to bring a male friend each time, is to introduce yourself to the manager. Once he gets to know you and sees that you're not there to cause trouble, you will be able to go back on your own or with female friends. I was a VIP at one club at one point (didn't have to pay cover) and I think that more women should come out and enjoy themselves!

 

Just as a side note, I find it interesting that this rule still exists in Ottawa - I've never had a problem going to clubs in Toronto or even Sudbury without a man by my side.