Clock Watching

[Dorinda Bloom 44036]

There are always tidbits about clock watching on here and wanted to share my 2cents.

 

Being called a "Clock Watcher" is NOT a compliment by ANY means is it? But let's get real shall we? A set appointment is a particular time from beginning to end.

Obviously, if someone were to constantly and overtly be looking at their watch it would put one off. However, if I Dare to look in the direction of the clock I do not want to be called a "CW"! In fact, it would at times be appreciated if visitors Were CW'ers from time to time....instead of s l o w l y dressing and chatting 10 - 15 minutes after said time.

No, it is not that I have been called that Bad Name, but do I look at the clock? You're damn right I do; certainly discreetly, it is not as though I am saying, "Honey, move your shoulder - I can't see the time."

One Must be attentive to time (as with say a RMT, it is up to them to tell when the service is completed). In my opinion, the provider ought to be watching.

Yes, I have gone over time (and very rarely thanked for it or compensated with a courtesy tip), but please do not take advantage of this kindness. It seems to me that if you look at the time you are criticized and if you are generous with it you are taken advantage of (somewhat self-imposed in order to maintain a good rep).

This simply is not right and wanted to share my opinion. I welcome you to share yours as well.

[etasman2000 15994]

I'm a clock watcher. Usually have to high-tail into work or a meeting right after and can't afford to be late. That or the parking meter is ticking and not looking for a ticket.

 

Other then setting an alarm how else would you know the time if you don't even glance at the clock ?

[Miss Scarlett 25073]

I am not a clock watcher, actually far from it, but I do agree with you Dorina, I find a lot of guys take advantage of that and well over stay their welcome. I have in the past actually had to tell clients it was time to leave because 30-45 min later they were still there naked yapping!

 

Now I don't mind going over time because I am not high volume, but I still have a personal life, I would like to do stuff, and it is hard and makes me feel weird having to ask them to get dressed and leave!

[Nicolette Vaughn 294340]

I do watch the clock but do it discreety and it's not because I can't wait to get out of there or hate my job. SPs have other obligations and clients to attend to and while clients don't necessarily like to think of this in order to fulfill their fantasy of the SP just focusing on them, it would be foolish of them to think otherwise so they also need to be aware of the time.

 

I usually don't have this problem because I only escort during daytime hours and the clients I see are visiting me on their lunch hour so this hasn't really been a problem. The only issue I've had is when people linger for 10-15 minutes afterwards. A few in particular I've had to tell them that I had to be somewhere else for a certain time and that I wasn't trying to be rude.

 

What I don't like is when someone tries to prolong a half hour or hour appt and purposely not "finishing" because they want to hang on longer. I no longer put up with someone trying to take advantage of me. Or there have been situations where I was a bit more lackadaisical with the time and the client expected it every single time afterwards and got upset when I did want or have to leave on time. Consider this a privlege, not a right and respect the time.

 

I feel I offer a good service and do so within the time frame that the client is paying for. After the time is up and the SP has fulfilled what the customer was looking for, she is not obligated to do anything else.

[Kubrickfan 12836]

I think "clock watching" is different than being sensitive to the time. I assume a clock watcher would be distracted by the time to the point where it has a negative effect on the visit.

 

Being sensitive to the time is the responsibility of both the client and the lady. That being said, I'd going to say something a bit controversial and assert that ... in the long run ... neither the client or the SP should be concerned if things are a little shorter or a little longer. I'm not looking for a refund if things dont go for the full time alloted, and I dont think its a reasonable expectation that if we are having a natural conversation or "whatever" and things run over a bit that there should be more money involved. Frankly, life is just too short.

[JuliasUndies 7288]

Once a client said to me "Stop watching the clock" , and I politely said "I wasn't watching the clock, I was looking at myself in the mirror, there are no clocks in here"

laughs*** he was embarrassed.

[Guest W***ledi*Time]

I am a clock watcher. Being retired, I don't watch the clock because there's anywhere else I have to be - it's just that I never want to run the risk of imposing on a lady.

 

But I don't wear a wrist-watch, so am constantly trying to keep an internal count in my head if the lady does not have a clock in a visible location. The first thing I do upon entering the play area is look hopefully for a clock to help me out in this regard.

 

Some ladies seem to have the knack of magically managing the time -- the sessions pretty much always wind down to a natural conclusion at right about the originally agreed-upon session duration. There are plenty of polite signals, both verbal and non-verbal, that allow a lady to give even a clueless client the hint that it's time to start thinking of the door. A client who ignores the obvious has committed a serious breach of proper manners.

 

Others ladies (those who are "not clock watchers", I take it) seem content and often eager just to keep going and going, expiry of the agreed-upon time notwithstanding -- even with a play-area clock available and in plain view.

 

As a client, I feel the etiquette in this situation is that keeping track of time is a shared task, and as such does fall partially within the client's realm of responsibility. I have only once ran seriously overtime (by my interpretation of serious, anyway), and I was quite taken aback and embarassed when I realized what had happened - although when I pointed out we were running waaay overtime, the lady told me not to worry about it, stay as long as I liked. I didn't have extra cash in my wallet that time (I have long since revised my practice in case this happens again), but I included an extra donation/tip for the overtime in the envelope the next time I met with that lady.

 

I don't feel I should be expected to pay for extra time I did not request if the lady does not alert me to the expiry of time -- but I nonetheless feel guilty about not paying for a part of the service in fact received, even though I did not ask for it. I also don't feel comfortable in abruptly jumping up and sprinting madly for the door when the clock chimes midnight, in order to avoid the extra time -- that feels like an insult to the lady, too. That's why I try my best to be in control of the time myself.

 

As far as hanging on to chat at the very end of a session, I make a point of gradually taking steps towards the door, and finally putting my hand on the doorknob. If the lady ignores these obvious signals and keeps right on talking, I don't feel guilty in chatting as long as she wants.

 

It's true that in more recommendations than you can shake a stick at, ladies are referred to as "not a clock watcher". I noticed a few ladies include the same claim in their ads. The impression left is that this means that the lady by policy allows the session to "run overtime".

 

Of course, ymmv on this as in all other respects (no surprise!). I remember one lady a couple of years ago, who was repeatedly described in her recommendations as "not a clock watcher", who started giving me warnings (not that I needed them, since she had a clock prominently displayed in her incall play area): "you have 20 minutes left", "you have 15 minutes left", "remember I'm running a professional business; you have 10 minutes left". (Well, that was fun ... not! She somehow managed to consistently pick the crucial moments to break my concentration!) I have also been hustled out the door with a cheery "times up!" by other "non-clock watchers" ... only to check on my way to the parking lot and finding up to 20 minutes left on the session-time.

 

I'm happy to watch my own time, and try diligently to do so. And all (discreet and polite) help in doing that is appreciated!

[The General 11309]

I am very conscientious of the clock, but wouldn't say I am a watcher myself. I don't want to run past my time with the lady, but at the same time don't want to be rushed at the end.

 

I pretty much always book an hour, so I must be getting pretty good at having a sense when this is up. And if I am at the end of my time, I will not hang around and chat. Actually, for some that know me, a chatter I am not.

 

It is really about two-way respect, and sometimes when you arrive at the location, the lady isn't ready, and she should not try to make this time up for her next appointment by cutting this one short. A few times, I have felt this way, this is about the only time I feel non-at-ease.

 

So guys, remember, be respectful, and that means that you need to keep a general eye on things and when your time is up, or near up, it is time. If the lady obviously wants to chat, I would say that is okay, but make sure it is not you that is extending things.

[Dorinda Bloom 44036]

I am very conscientious of the clock, but wouldn't say I am a watcher myself. I don't want to run past my time with the lady, but at the same time don't want to be rushed at the end.

 

I pretty much always book an hour, so I must be getting pretty good at having a sense when this is up. And if I am at the end of my time, I will not hang around and chat. Actually, for some that know me, a chatter I am not.

 

It is really about two-way respect, and sometimes when you arrive at the location, the lady isn't ready, and she should try to make this time up for her next appointment by cutting this one short. A few times, I have felt this way, this is about the only time I feel non-at-ease.

 

So guys, remember, be respectful, and that means that you need to keep a general eye on things and when you time is up, or near up, it is time. If the lady obviously wants to chat, I would say that is okay, but make sure it is not you that is extending things.

 

 

Thanks General! That totally resounded with me about having a sense when the time is up because you always book the same amount of time for appointments; I imagine you also know how long you can "manage", as it were! :icon_wink:

[Guest tr*****e]

This is a business, and I feel no offense if I'm shown hints that it's time(no pun intended) to wind down. But as others have mentioned, if the session has taken on an organic life of its own, a few extra minutes isn't going to hurt anyone. On the other hand, we all have lives, and an sp's time is just as important as her client's. This is an unspoken reality for me, and respect is always a two-way street(I respect her, she respects me), so this is to mutual advantage.

 

Just my thoughts.

[Old Dog 179138]

I used to watch the clock, but it only got one channel. Now I have TV. Life is much better.

[mrgreen760 37785]

I have a sense of time whether I see a clock or not. Frankly 45 minutes ish feels about right to me. At 45 min ish I'll be making pack up noises for sure. A habit of a gifting a cd of music has helped as I know where I am time wise by the song playing. Very rarely have I spent a full hour with some one. But that's just me.

 

Peace

MG

[Guest jake_cdn]

Funny there is lots of talk about clock watching and it is always directed at the SP. I have to say that I am more guilty of clock watching than any SP that I have had the priviledge of being with.

 

Inevitably it is not the lady who rushes me out. I am very conscious of the time and the constraints that may or may not be on the SP. I usually discretely mention that I should be going but it is out of respect for the time that WE have alotted and agreed to.

 

Perhaps I have been lucky as I am sure that clock watching exists with regards to the SP and their time management but I have never felt rushed or disconnected by any of the people that I have been introduced to through this site.

 

At the most basic element this becomes an issue of mutual respect for both parties.

[SamanthaEvans 166767]

I see most of my clients during the day. I always tell new clients that I need us to be ready to part by a certain time. My son comes home from school at the same time every day.

 

If I go out to meet a client at a hotel, I insist on being at home by the time my son goes to bed.

 

I've only had one client who had trouble respecting time limits. He tried to drag a two hour meeting to almost three hours. When he wanted to re-book, he suggested seeing me at 11:30, for two hours. That would have been okay had he not had the nerve to point out that we'd surely be finished by half an hour before my son would return from school. In effect, he was expecting to pay for two hours but actually stay for three and a half. I declined and haven't seen him again.

 

I'm always ready on time and I've only arrived late for a meeting twice in the last three years. I don't mind going overtime by 10-15 minutes--sometimes that's just the best thing for everyone. But I don't think I should tolerate being taken advantage of. If someone wants more time with me, that's great. Book another meeting!

[silverado17 12689]

i have never noticed any girl watching the clock i've been with one that set a timer now that was bad

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[mrrnice2 157005]

I am learning my way through CERB and protocol of appointments and the "do's and don'ts", and again am so impressed with these discussion threads and the thoughtful responses from everyone involved.

 

My experience to this point has been wonderful in every aspect, including time restraints, or lack thereof.

 

I have never had a sense of having had to watch the clock or of having her watch the clock but that is also due in part to my own respect for the woman that I am meeting with. As much as I wish the time was unlimited to allow for conversation and connection, I am very aware that the person I am with is ultimately working and has her own schedule to adhere to with both personal and professional obligations to meet.

 

An underlying theme that I am seeing here in many posts and in my few personal interactions so far, is the theme of respect - from everone involved. Respect always serves as a good guideline in all personal interactions.

[PistolPete 61421]

I would guess that on the most part (95% or better) men really don't take advantage of the time.Most gents that hobby quite frequently ;) understand the boundaries and rules. Those that try and take advantage of the time frame with ladies, could possibly get themselves in hot water with other ladies.

 

 

My appointments have ended up 5 minutes early, exactly on the hour,or maybe 5-10 minutes over, but that may be from taking a shower prior to me leaving or small chat.

 

Being respectful of the allotted time and ensuring your time is up, means get on your way.

 

Another point is, that if you happen to frequent the same lady,time after time, sometimes the clock does not become an issue and you both may get lost in keeping track of time. ;) which is very pleasant, so frequent flyers do have their advantages sometimes with some ladies. :)

[Nicolette Vaughn 294340]

I just wanted to clarify my last statement when I said I was a clock watcher. Yes, I am aware of the time but I am not looking at the clock every 5 minutes or telling the client he has x amount of time left. That is extremely rude and no way to run a business.

 

I am guilty of going overtime with clients in the past and I have put a stop to it because I do share a space seperately with another lady and I have to respect her time as well. Usually I leave when her clients arrive. These days I am on a tight schedule and have a very limited amount of time to myself and while I enjoy seeing my clients, I cannot linger for extended periods of time.

 

I've had to stop seeing one client recently because he was a half hour guy and kept trying to push it to 45 mins. I told him that maybe he needed a longer session each time he saw me but he refused. Well, if you don't respect me and my time then I will have to stop seeing you. I also pay for incall space and I have to pay for whatever was agreed upon for the time I have used the place. If a clients purposely goes overtime and not taking hints that the time is up then I am stuck paying for 45 mins instead of a half hour and that is on my dime not the clients.

 

 

I think it is safe to say that if you and SP run overtime and she is not demanding extra money from you, consider it a form of gratitude or a way of her saying thank-you for being one of her customers and because she enjoys your company. This may only happen once so it's best not to expect it all the time. To pay for one hour and then expect to have a 2 hour session is rude.

[Jake_1957 1301]

I'm impressed so far in my experiences, no clock in the bedroom but we always seem to finish around the correct time.

 

Even if there was a clock in the room I couldn't tell you the time seeing I can't see worth shit without my glasses.

[Guest W***ledi*Time]

... i've been with one that set a timer now that was bad

 

If a lady sets a timer that simply goes off after the designated time has expired, I don't think there's anything wrong with it. I wouldn't consider that as being any different than a lady who gets her check-up phone call at the appointed time, from either her agency or her security-buddy.

[Ashley Ann 75247]

 

Yes, I have gone over time (and very rarely thanked for it or compensated with a courtesy tip), but please do not take advantage of this kindness. It seems to me that if you look at the time you are criticized and if you are generous with it you are taken advantage of (somewhat self-imposed in order to maintain a good rep).

This simply is not right and wanted to share my opinion. I welcome you to share yours as well.

 

I know just what you mean...I am very generous with my time too, especially if they have not finished within their selected time, I feel it would be wrong to say: OK..YOUR TIME IS UP... I will give them the extra time, but at the same time I feel , if you KNOW you are not a HALF HOUR kinda guy, and require longer ,,,,well then you should book longer...I have recently stopped providing half hour services due to the fact that I am low volume and hate the pressure of rushing. I do however still accept half hour sessions to a handful of regular clients...and one of them always goes over his time, and he is fully aware...because he always pays me afterwards ( I trust him) and checks the time out too, so I know he knows he is usually overstaying the time he requests...and he NEVER compensates me for it...... Since it's been a few times now, I have no choice but to inform him we have 30 minutes or so to spend together....not 50 minutes for a 30 minute rate.

 

Being the super friendly person I am, I always feel awkward to indicate this....I feel like I am going to hurt their feelings or come of as rude...or worse, lose a client.

 

It's nice to be paid to do what you like, but at the same time this is a business otherwise we would all be doing it for free right? Sounds harsh, but it is what it is :ThankYou:

[Winnipegcub 21293]

Like a few others I have a good sense of time so have never gone over. I try and ensure it is a non-issue by first being respectful of the time we've booked and then nearing the end of the session making sure we have idle time to cuddle and chat and cuddle. I also do at least 2 hour appts just to avoid feeling rushed. Cub

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[Mutau 2516]

Without being too crass or disrespectful, our lovely ladies are business women who make appointments and then take the time to prepare themselves to receive us. Naturally, there are occasions when an appointment may run over the agreed upon time. But to continuously try and extend an appointment is not correct and should be discouraged.

 

We are adults and know what time we are requesting for an encounter. If you want to spend more time with the lady, book a longer appointment. Just because you have met with Mlle XYZ for several delightfully sexy rendezvous, do not expect her to prolong the time.