dominoeffect 1077 Report post Posted March 23, 2011 My SO isnt alll that into going down. Wondering if anyone has input on how to tell her how important this is to me? HEEELLLLP DoM Posted via Mobile Device Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
April Dawn 12207 Report post Posted March 23, 2011 Chocolate sauce and a diamond cock ring might make her more agreeable Posted via Mobile Device Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
dominoeffect 1077 Report post Posted March 23, 2011 Thats some good advice. Thanks, then again if that doesnt work, i can always go see Samantha. She has some oral fetish... Maybe her duo partner is almost as good as her. mmmmm two tongues are better than one. DoM Posted via Mobile Device Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
April Dawn 12207 Report post Posted March 23, 2011 Now for a semi serious answer. Have you talked to her about it? Does she not like the smell or taste? Maybe change up the diet a bit to be a little more of a culinary delight to her? Does she get bored? Maybe let her watch tv while its going on? Maybe make it an adventure like leave a trail of gummi bears through the house and then she finds you covered in whipcream and candy... Sorry I can't be more helpful. Posted via Mobile Device Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
rickoshadows 937 Report post Posted March 23, 2011 I didn't get any head from my wife for years, (yes I married young) and we argued about it many times. I remember when that finally changed. During one of our agruments she said "If you loved me, you wouldn't ask me to do that." My reply was, "If you loved me, I wouldn't have to ask." Needless to say the argument stopped right there. We didn't talk about it for again for a few weeks, but suddenly one evening, I got a few licks and nibbles and it slowly improved from there, althoug a full bjtc is still a rare treat. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
NotchJohnson 214123 Report post Posted March 23, 2011 My SO isnt alll that into going down. Wondering if anyone has input on how to tell her how important this is to me? HEEELLLLP DoM Posted via Mobile Device I don't know if this can help but here it is. Does she like it when you go down on her? If yes then you can explain to her how important it is that she goes down on you also. I have friends that are a couple and neither one of them will ever go down on the other, they simply find it repulsive(smell, texture, looks, I don't know). I myself can't get enough off the smell, texture, looks, feel, wetness, and when I tell them about it they change the subject. As rickoshadows said if she can start slowly with nibbles and licks she might get the feeling to go further in time. Good luck. NJ Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Guest S***dst*** Report post Posted March 23, 2011 "Instead of investing in products like Cialis and viagra, instead...instead they should invest in a product that makes semen... Taste like chocolate." ' Ron White Problem solved :P SO: Come here Willy Wonka!! Sorry it's no help I just had to say it :D Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Meg O'Ryan 266444 Report post Posted March 23, 2011 I think April is on the right track...make it an adventure, something fun, be inventive! If you make it seem like a chore she will perceive it as such. Make it about slow sensual erotic mutual pleasure. Soft lighting, sexy music, porn in the background, wine, sensuous foods....take it slow and let it build. I know that I am not turned on by "I want you to suck my c*&k" Make it part of an experience not a 5 minute interlude. Don't forget...romance goes a long way to a woman! 1 Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
April Dawn 12207 Report post Posted March 23, 2011 "Instead of investing in products like Cialis and viagra, instead...instead they should invest in a product that makes semen... Taste like chocolate." ' Ron White Problem solved :P SO: Come here Willy Wonka!! Sorry it's no help I just had to say it :D I know its hard not to right other than advising having an open honest dialogue. Posted via Mobile Device Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
crankshaft25 125 Report post Posted March 23, 2011 my SO hasn't been into giving head or even jerking me off for the last while...like 6 months. She has health issues and part of it is nausea so it's understandable that she doesn't want to choke on my cock...lol before that she loved giving me head and just kept getting better and better. She even confessed to me that she would watch porn while I was at work just to see the techniques. Fuck I really miss bj's Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Hornee69 4851 Report post Posted March 23, 2011 I gotta find a girl that likes Gummi Bears!! Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
moonshadow 369 Report post Posted March 23, 2011 If you guys find the secret to getting your SO to give you lots of mind blowing head, please let the rest of us know. I'm sure some of us would hang up our CERB handles and stay home a little more then. Posted via Mobile Device Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Guest **n****er Report post Posted March 23, 2011 Im am firmly planted in this camp. Head is wonderful act that i havent had the pleasure of for 5 years. Marriage is rough. Posted via Mobile Device Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Grass_Hopper 18263 Report post Posted March 23, 2011 (edited) I remember when I first started BJ's... I thought this thing was a disgusting entity! I was affraid of hurting, bitting, do whatever was a turn off... Somebody helped me up by telling me what to do and what was wrong... And I ended up addicted! Maybe putting her perfectly at ease when she's going to be ready is the trick. Also, as state before, chocolate sauce or whipped cream will make it a true buffet! But keep in mind she's a woman and she probably did'nt see much man genitals in her life... Teach her and talk to her! Edited March 23, 2011 by Grass_Hopper And SHAVE! Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
fortunateone 156618 Report post Posted March 23, 2011 Soap and water. Rinse, repeat, rinse again. Never ever return from the bathroom after a pee, not using soap and water to even wash your hads, and expect any action whatsoever. Also, give and ye shall receive. What have you done, non-sexually speaking, for her lately? Do you clean up after yourself, make dinner, reduce her at home work load at all, are you more work than a kid? Do you ever just give her some affection without expecting or suggesting it lead to more right now? Date nights? Demands and expectations without reciprocation never go down well with women. They keep a list, and everytime you disrespect them, hurt their feelings, fail to deliver on a promise, a black mark is put down against you. If the marks against you outweigh the marks for you, you get nothing. If the marks of approval outbalance the marks against you, you get rewards. Women are very simple lol. Don't expect a bj if you smell stinky. Assume at all times that you smell stinky, and always wash, rinse and repeat until no one can ever say you smell stinky, and once she has the trust that you don't stink, she will be less reluctant to go there. 3 Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
rep_pot 661 Report post Posted March 23, 2011 You have to be very clean. I wonder how some of the ladies perform this when guys come in less than sanitary. As a guy, I wouldn't be able to perform on a woman that was "not well washed". Is there a "Honey do" list around your house. Get busy. You need to score points. After that, a nice dinner out and a rose when she gets home. Plus, really letting her know that she makes you feel on cloud nine when that happens. If none of this works....well thats why I'm a member here. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
NotchJohnson 214123 Report post Posted March 23, 2011 Soap and water. Don't expect a bj if you smell stinky. Assume at all times that you smell stinky, and always wash, rinse and repeat until no one can ever say you smell stinky, and once she has the trust that you don't stink, she will be less reluctant to go there. DO NOT USE PERFUME ON OR AROUND YOUR GENITALS, this is a no no. Just saying. 5 Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
slurp 7020 Report post Posted March 23, 2011 if it's a taste issue then chomp some pineapple before so you taste better to her..... hell, have pineapple every night just in case. I always get complimented when I have pineapple .......... Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Guest **n****er Report post Posted March 23, 2011 All of this is great advice. And it would probably work for the traditional woman. Mine on the other hand....lol! She feels it is "degrading". Like the first 7 years of enthusiastic mind blowing blow jobs was some sort of punishment I was bestowing upon her. I keep clean...very clean. Take good care of the kids laundry...bathrooms etc. It's a mental thing with her. I wish it would change because of love the crap out of her. But no head is killing me.... Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
lookingforfunxxx 615 Report post Posted March 23, 2011 Diet is important. I was getting no bjs for a while until my wife told me it had a funny taste like food almost. After a bit of trial and error, we figured out it was onions and garlic in our food that did this. We cut those way back and now she has no problem going there. As a side benefit she tastes better now too. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
roamingguy 300292 Report post Posted March 23, 2011 Although single, a week before my once a month encounter I cut out beef, onion and garlic. And 3-4 days before the encounter I eat fresh pineapple every day, and drink pineapple juice. RG 1 Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
sysiphus 100 Report post Posted March 23, 2011 I remember when I first started BJ's... I thought this thing was a disgusting entity! I was affraid of hurting, bitting, do whatever was a turn off... Somebody helped me up by telling me what to do and what was wrong... And I ended up addicted! Maybe putting her perfectly at ease when she's going to be ready is the trick. Also, as state before, chocolate sauce or whipped cream will make it a true buffet! But keep in mind she's a woman and she probably did'nt see much man genitals in her life... Teach her and talk to her! Ho, Sabrina, i know you love it...those eyes tell all! Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Guest S****tha Ott*wa Report post Posted March 24, 2011 Thats some good advice. Thanks, then again if that doesnt work, i can always go see Samantha. She has some oral fetish... Maybe her duo partner is almost as good as her. mmmmm two tongues are better than one.DoM Posted via Mobile Device Missy is learning.. it could take awhile to perfect. lol She is not into anything rough or deep like I am but shows her love for it in her attitude. Performing oral is extremely pleasurable for me. I love doing it. I have always loved doing it. Have been known to cum from it. My ex-SO had extreme stamina and loved my oral which meant me performing 3times a day for 45min sometimes each. He was very dom and we liked exploring many positions with this act. With your SO, sadly I am not sure you can change anyone to really enjoy this act. I can say make it fun maybe with food or body paint. lol pointing arrows saying LOVE NEEDED lol. I would find something your SO loves to do and concentrate on that for abit. Sometimes that will make her want to give you something you like in return for showing her attention. Eating Pineapples is the best.. STay away from Mcdonalds! Dom..I am here for you :-) Not only are two tongues better but the positions we come up with are amazingly hot ! Cant wait to show you Dom :-) Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Maverick 2873 Report post Posted March 24, 2011 It might just be something she won't ever be comfortable doing, so you might end up having to either deal with it or go find another wife. I know that sounds extreme but everyone has some "deal-breakers" they look for in prospective wives/husbands. I know I wouldn't marry a woman who didn't want kids for example. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Andee 220524 Report post Posted March 25, 2011 I believe that the reason why so many men come to see me is because they aren't getting it at home, so that is good for me. Seriously though, I think Meg and FortunateOne said pretty much what I would have said. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites