How do SPs view emails with clients - a time-consuming necessity or important tool?

[RobX 2084]

How do SPs generally view email correspondence with clients before, after and between appointments? I have read many posts where SPs have indicated that it is a good idea to communicate one's questions, requests and concerns to an SP prior to an appointment. Others have talked about exchanging fantasies via email to heighten the anticipation of the appointment. SPs have mentioned how important is for them to receive Thank You emails following an appointment. And I have read about SP-clent email exchanges between appointments.

 

However, my experience with emailing MAs and SPs has been somewhat different. In the case of of my first time seeing an SP, she "forgot" that I had told her in my introductory email that this was my first time with an SP. I have emailed an MA who addressed the first point in my email in her reply but ignored everything else I said. I have emailed an MA indicating in both the subject and body of the email that I was requesting a 90-minute appointment on such a day and time, and she replied: Yes, I'm available at that time. How long an appointment would you like?

 

I have thought about asking the MA or SP directly during the appointment if she remembered my email. But that is not such a good idea. If the apppointment is going well, it may put a damper on it. If it is not going well, it may seem confrontational. I have therefore opted to ask the question here.

 

I wonder how much attention SPs and MAs really pay to the emails they receive from clients. Are they so busy that they have only enough time to skim their emails looking for appointment dates and times, ignoring everything else. Or, have I just been unlucky in that the MAs and SPs that I have selected happen to less attentive to their emails than most?

 

I would be interested in the experience and opinions of both providers and clients on this issue.

[Megan'sTouch 23875]

I don't really have much input, other than that important info should be in the body of the email. I'll be honest, I don't read the subject. I just read the body of the email.

 

I welcome communication before & after the appointment (not during lol) but I personally don't like discussing fantasies with someone I've never met, the reason being there are a lot of "time wasters" out there who enjoy dirty talking with a lady but who will not follow through on an appointment. After a successful encounter, you are more than welcomed to email me your fantasies!

 

Today many people receive emails "on the go" straight to their phone. I think this may cause people not to pay as much attention. I will answer "easy" emails while on the go, but I save the important stuff (like responding to a screening questionnaire) for when I'm at my computer. Sadly, I do get people annoyed at this: "Megan, I just saw you post on CERB but you haven't replied to my screening questionnaire!!"

[Malika Fantasy 144625]

It's maybe a bit of both part...unlucky and yes answering emails can be time consuming.

 

I cannot take of all the SP/MA but I often receive 10 emails a day or so from people. 5 of them are the type asking are you available right now and can I get a discount because I am handsome. 3 of them may be the novel that a guy did copy-paste to all of the SP in his city, one that seem legitimate but the guy never answer back and maybe one that will actually be a following and meeting and such...

 

For myself I normally send a short answer answering the more details that I can, asking for more infos, details if needed, but I normally don't send all my fantasies and everything that I offer or like or do. Some people are time waster and literally just want to have an erotic email exchange.

 

As far as keeping contact by emails...I will often do it with regular clients that I saw more then once, since they come see me more then once, I open up a bit more about myself and tell them stories and they do the same, so yes we keep contact by emails asking how stuffs are in your life.

[roamingguy 300292]

I know for initial contact I prefer to use email or pm. And I'll make my enquiry well in advance (3-4 months). I like to confirm the encounter about two weeks prior to the scheduled date, with a final confirmation a day or two prior to the date

During the course of contact I provide a brief bio of myself, and if the lady has any verification requirements I'll provide them (except my work number)

I will say this, when I contact a lady I am serious about seeing her, I don't go about wasting someone's time.

Using a phone I find I don't like. I'm likely to forget a question, and not come across as suave and debonair as I do in an email LOL

As for guys asking for a discount because of being handsome, now the ladies know why I give a tip and gift in addition to the donation LOL

RG

[Parker 19761]

All e-mails get my full attention, I can't imagine someone wanting you to contact them via e-mail... just to have them not read it.

 

I can't say I'll remember absolutely everything in an email, but I doubt I'd remember everything from a call if I was taking calls all week. At least if I have an email, I can usually reread previous parts of the conversation.

 

I do find some people write overly long or hard to read emails, sometimes with lots of pointless information in an attempt to get absolutely everything out right off the bat... These can be overly tedious to weed through, looking for important bits.

 

If you're contacting multiple, reputable providers and getting the same types of responses I would suggest looking at if you're writing style may be causing it.

[GuyLabamba 104]

Why would anyone expect a reduction in rate because they think they're handsome? Just because someone thinks that they are handsome doesn't mean they are - isn't attractiveness different for everyone?

 

Would an obese person expect McDonalds to give them a discount? Would an amateur musician expect a discount from iTunes because they play a musical instrument? I find the fact that people expect to pay less than the next person because they think they're good looking absurd...

[timbo9998 100]

I normally will e-mail an SP prior to an appointment. I will outline the services I am looking for and that way the SP can either agree or let me know what they do allow. Nothing worse than spending the first 15 minutes of the hour sorting out details. I will be in Ottawa this weekend. I have e-mailed a few SP's that got my attention. Two e-mailed back and one still has not. I will call the ones who replied and confirmed services.

[MightyPen 67414]

I always like making initial contact by e-mail so I can express my interests clearly. I also send an e-mail afterward to thank the lady and let me know what inspired me about our time together.

 

I don't usually initiate any more than that, out of fear that I'd be one of many guys taking up her time with casual e-mails. But if the SP contacts me, I reciprocate and sometimes an ongoing conversation ensues. Those have been some interesting conversations!

 

As for guys asking for a discount because of being handsome, now the ladies know why I give a tip and gift in addition to the donation

 

I'm in the same boat. I like being up front with the ladies, so I always ask them during the initial contact to double their fees or cut our time in half, just to make up for the fact that I'm ancient and hideous. ;)

[Gentleman11 10508]

As a new (but not young) hobbyist starting to get a little "traction" in the field (to use a guy term), I find this thread very interesting. I'm starting to enjoy SP talents that have been learned over a period of time, at considerable expense by the SP's in terms of time and resources (emotional & other) and investment in their lovely and sensual craft.

 

I think that email responses are but one of many ways a lady gets across her message by: accurately answering, curtl;y dismissing, obscurely enticing, intentionally confusing, politely discouraging or saying what she damn well feels at the moment!

 

The more I learn about the nice folks who are quickly becoming friends on this site, the more I like to listen to them - email being one of the many venues open.

 

After all the guy upstairs gave us two ears and one mouth - use them proportionally.... Thanks for this thread and am looking forward to hearing more.

 

Musings late Sunday evening...

[Winnipegcub 21293]

Good subject. I have been one to use email (if rqstd by the lady) as a means of introducing myself and providing a little background. The responses have been very hit and miss. Some have gone into a black hole, some receive very brief responses and usually only answering one question "yes I'm available and my rate is...", while some have been very nice. Even with ladies I've met before the 'email connection' can be hit and miss. I try to take this as more the personality/business conduct of the individual rather than something specific towards me. I can also appreciate that the ladies receive many emails/PMs from guys which really go nowhere. It can be hard to sift through these to find the callers who may truly be geniune and I think at times we get swept away in this approach. But by the same token I think as clients we need to respect the ladies time and not draft a storybook. However, in the end if good communication is established by email, then it is likely we'll have good communication when we meet - which will make for a more enjoyable time for both. Cub

[Guest s******ecan****]

I do find some people write overly long or hard to read emails, sometimes with lots of pointless information in an attempt to get absolutely everything out right off the bat... These can be overly tedious to weed through, looking for important bits.

 

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I notice this a lot in my business (both clients and associates). I find as a form of business communication email is best at exchanging small amounts of information, a more indepth exchange is best handled by the phone or in person. This is increasingly the case with regards to mobile devices.

[RobX 2084]

I do find some people write overly long or hard to read emails, sometimes with lots of pointless information in an attempt to get absolutely everything out right off the bat... These can be overly tedious to weed through, looking for important bits.

 

If you're contacting multiple, reputable providers and getting the same types of responses I would suggest looking at if you're writing style may be causing it.

 

Naomi, I am the OP of this thread. In your post you indicate that my writing style may the reason my emails are not receiving the attention I expect. Since the writing style I use in my emails is no different from that of my original post in this thread, could you point out what specific parts you have noticed in my post that are deficient in the areas you specified - i.e overly long, hard to read, lots of pointless information.

 

If my writing style is indeed the culprit, then I should make the required adjustments. However, it is not obvious to me what parts of my post are deficient in the areas you mention. Could you be more specific.

 

Thanks.

[Miss Scarlett 25073]

This is why I have a contact form on my site. For the initial contact email is great, but I do prefer it to be on my contact form. All the questions I need answered in the beginning are there. Also saves people from writing me novels I do not have time to read.

 

The contact form also helps me see that they actually read my site info and know what I am looking for in an encounter.

 

To the OP, do I mind emails for first contact no, I don't mind them at all. Do I read the emails that I receive yes, yes I read them thoroughly. Do they always get a response no. I do not do last minute bookings, and some of the emails I get are I want to book you NOW!

 

If the gentleman reads my site info, and fills out my contact form accordingly, he will get a reply back from me. However I do not screen clients via email.

 

Hope this helps.

[Guest S**a*Q]

I guess it depends on the girl.

 

I like to receive emails, but not like the "I wanna lick you and do this to you" emails, but like correspondence emails.

 

I guess this stems from being in Thunder Bay and having time to plan before a call, as I would be pre-booked a lot more up there than here. I also on the other hand, keep in contact, again to an extent with people that I've seen, especially if we have a common interest or something.

 

Again it depends on what I have going on in my life, and where I'm at. With summer coming up, I''m sure that I"m going to spend less and less time on my computer, as I am always out somewhere in the summertime. Winter keeps me stuck to my computer a lot more.

[Parker 19761]

Naomi, I am the OP of this thread. In your post you indicate that my writing style may the reason my emails are not receiving the attention I expect. Since the writing style I use in my emails is no different from that of my original post in this thread, could you point out what specific parts you have noticed in my post that are deficient in the areas you specified - i.e overly long, hard to read, lots of pointless information.

 

If my writing style is indeed the culprit, then I should make the required adjustments. However, it is not obvious to me what parts of my post are deficient in the areas you mention. Could you be more specific.

 

Thanks.

 

If your original post was similar to a contact e-mail sent to me, I would say shorten it slightly.

An introduction of yourself is nice, since I typically know nothing about you at that point. A couple questions are fine, but try not to be too overwhelming... a few important ones is better than 10 all at once.

 

I'll remember you like kissing and stockings, but only if it's not buried in story about the time you were 18 and went off to college and met a girl and thought she was great...

 

I personally don't mind longer e-mails, but I do find some people overdo it and would have been better off adding some information into their next e-mail.

 

If you want a bit of back and forth, learn a little and engage the lady... that's perfectly acceptable.

I would hate for someone to think I'm saying there's only one way to properly contact a lady, there are many.

 

If you'd just like to set up the booking and leave the 'getting to know you' for when you meet, keep it simple.

 

When you put some care and effort into writing a lady, we pick up on such and don't really care if you're not the best writer. If you're putting in an effort and not getting the response you want, it could be you're just not compatible with the lady you're thinking about seeing.

 

We might be human and forget some things or have bad days... but I think providers like myself (and especially the ladies here) are out to give you a pleasurable time, not a hard time because you're nervous or new to escorts and didn't write the perfect first email.

 

Avoid; Jumbled thoughts, one liners, forgetting a name, coming off demanding or rude, or being completely thoughtless.

 

Remember; We're real people, we have different lives and preferences and we (at least most of us) want to give you an enjoyable experience... but you have to help us a bit with that part.

 

Some of us have websites and contact forms, take advantage of these. They're a way of helping you contact us.

[Sensual Erin 33928]

I completely agree with how that ladies have responded to this thread and the gents that have gone through the "intro phase" with their experience. I like to initiate a bit of a "getting to know you process" by email to break the ice and add anticipation and seduction to an appointment.

 

In my experience, I have chatted more with a client that may be a little shy or nervous about the encounter to let them know I'm real, down to earth, and interested in them as a person. This is where it's not just about the hour we spend with you. I know this is a different topic but thinking of another similar thread about "money." Often we will spend a few hours getting to know you and preparing so the one hour fee includes so much more. I know some do not get this and think we are there all day to just talk it up. There have been others as well, that have included a nice additional tip for these kind of services. We don't know until we meet you. I've gone from being tipped generously for my time as well as spending many hours communicating ahead with only compensation for the actual appointment. We learn with experience. I do become uncomfortable as well when clients ask personal sexual fantasies before a meet. I don't know who you are and have other things on the go as well. There are time wasters that will use this approach whether it be by pm or on chat.

 

All the ladies I have spoken with are great people with wonderful reviews and contribute to this community with thought, respect and grace. If you take the time to look us up, read our thoughts, our contributions and get to know our personalities a bit......,,,there shouldn't be anything more that just good old ice breaking before the appointment.

[mrrnice2 157005]

Interesting and informative discussion. It is pretty well leading me to a decision that I know I have to make.

[Sensual Erin 33928]

The communication process can be such a double edge sword as well both ways. I get concerned with meeting a client that wants to see me right away and not have at least a little rapport before a meet.

 

I think a formal introduction is at least necessary with even a fictitious name. I appreciate a "How are you today?" or anything to address one another and take the first steps to getting comfortable with each other.

[Vanessa381 110]

I personally don't mind answering a clients questions, but you know in some cases after a few emails, that some have no intention of booking anything, they just want someone to chat with. I thought I'd post this link to a page that is on the site that hosts my web page. It addresses this and other issues that pertain to seeking the services of an SP. I thought it made some good points, and was a bit of a chuckle as well. You might want to give it a read. Thanks, Vanessa

http://discreetseductions.com/Client_Booking_Etiquette.php

[Andee 220524]

E-mails are just one form of business communication which I use as part of conducting my business and treat them as important.

 

Clients who send rude e-mails are obviously dealt with differently than the polite ones. Also, to the OP, when it comes to e-mails, some ladies are tardy or lazy in responding, ignore or flat out refuse to deal with e-mails, which is unfortunate. I would estimate 30% of my business comes from initial e-mail contact.

 

Like any business, one has to consider how important it for them to be taken seriously.

 

I am not so much interested in the length or writing style, as to the message in the e-mail. I always follow up by telephone, so if there is anything that needs to be clarified, I do it then.

 

Not everyone is as adept with the pen as others.

[Alexandra-Sky 12606]

I don't really have much input' date=' other than that important info should be in the body of the email. I'll be honest, I don't read the subject. I just read the body of the email.

 

I welcome communication before & after the appointment (not during lol) but I personally don't like discussing fantasies with someone I've never met, the reason being there are a lot of "time wasters" out there who enjoy dirty talking with a lady but who will not follow through on an appointment. After a successful encounter, you are more than welcomed to email me your fantasies!

 

Today many people receive emails "on the go" straight to their phone. I think this may cause people not to pay as much attention. I will answer "easy" emails while on the go, but I save the important stuff (like responding to a screening questionnaire) for when I'm at my computer. Sadly, I do get people annoyed at this: "Megan, I just saw you post on CERB but you haven't replied to my screening questionnaire!!"[/quote']

 

I agree with Megan.

 

Also

 

Personally, I like communicating over email and my questionnaire requires people to disclose at least a little bit of info on what kind of encounter they're seeking and some of the things they enjoy doing. I do this because I feel like, often, in our personal lives, we don't have much of an opportunity to communicate the things we like to do in the bedroom with our other sexual partners and I would like to encourage the opposite (communication and consent are so sexy!).

 

If people are serious about booking with me (I can usually tell who these people are by their emails), exchanging emails about how excited they are for the appointment is always fun as it builds up anticipating and gets me particularly excited.

 

 

I read through the entire body of the email and usually respond to all the comments/questions in it. I also try to re-read the email right before the appointment to make sure i remember everything, except sometimes my time does not allow for this.

 

Communicating pre-encounter makes for a more comfortable and exciting environemt during the actual session!

 

Sky

[Nicolette Vaughn 294340]

No one really emails me anymore and this is a good thing because I prefer that people PM me here to book in advance or call or text me directly. I do not have email forwarded to my phone since I like to cut costs and not use internet on my cell. I am a busy person and always on the go so it doesn't work for me.

 

I prefer not to engage in long email conversations back and forth about fantasies etc. I try not to let clients have really, really high expectations about the appt and choose to play it by ear. I'd rather talk to clients on the phone, answer their questions and keep it simple. This also gives us both the opportunity to have a live chat as you cannot get the same vibe about someone through email.

[Guest 9**A*****]

I find it cutely ironic that Naomi critiqued the OP about too much content in emails and that a few quetions are nice, but not 10...yet her comments to the OP was precisely 10 paragraphs...lol

[roamingguy 300292]

One thing I should add, from this guy's point of view, that I'm not interested in writing out a script for how the encounter should go. The most enjoyable encounters have just naturally unfolded like a date. I don't like knowing in advance what is going to happen, the encounter should have it's own ebb and flow IMHO

Just added for conversation

RG

[April Dawn 12207]

I love getting emails and pm's, I only give my number out as the final stage in my screening. That being said I don't like overly short or overly long intro emails, there should be a nice balance. I have a few clients I keep in pretty close contact with after the fact but I don't really like

multiple emails before a session. I'd much rather get to know you face to face then over emails. I am much more interesting in person then type!

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