seeing married/committed SP's

[danrica 431]

if i knew the sp was married i would stop seeing her. If she just has a so shes not married to i am ok with that. Hey if he wanted to tag team her i would be ok with that too.

[Katherine of Halifax 113932]

danrica, tag team her, really? Why do you say this ? IMHO that is a pretty rude comment.

[castle 38816]

if i knew the sp was married i would stop seeing her. If she just has a so shes not married to i am ok with that. Hey if he wanted to tag team her i would be ok with that too.

 

danrica, tag team her, really? Why do you say this ? IMHO that is a pretty rude comment.

 

Agreed. I'm sure you meant no offense, and I could be wrong about the term, but at least to me the term "tag team" has certain forceful or even violent connotations. I think the proper way of saying it would have been to say that if they were BOTH into threesomes then you would be ok with that.

[Guest S**a*Q]

Tag team: (to my understanding means) 2 guys 1 girl with No Male on Male touching or anything whatsoever.

 

Threesome insinuates that there will be three all the way around.

 

That's how I feel with that word... Tag team isn't offensive to me.

 

Maybe they call it tag-team cause they can high five while she's in the middle ;) HA!

[PistolPete 61421]

Not offensive, and yes it is a high five,either when she is in the middle or after completion the high five is given ^5

 

Tag team isn't offensive to me.

 

Maybe they call it tag-team cause they can high five while she's in the middle ;) HA!

[Katherine of Halifax 113932]

The rude part to me was the comment that perhaps her S O would like to tag team with him.

 

Although its not impossible that this would happen, pehaps there are couples that work together.

 

I do think that it would be a rare combo. Who knows though!!??

[PistolPete 61421]

now understand where you were coming from Cathy, after re-reading the text in his comment. You are right it is a rare combo.

 

 

The rude part to me was the comment that perhaps her S O would like to tag team with him.

 

Although its not impossible that this would happen, pehaps there are couples that work together.

 

I do think that it would be a rare combo. Who knows though!!??

[pbb1066 100]

Personally, this does not bother me. In fact, given that I like my SPs to be happy in their lives and work, I would consider this a good reason to see them. (As long as their partner doesn't own a shotgun.)

[Capital Hunter 18263]

I read the thread first time in a while. A few interesting posts since last I read it....

 

Just wanted to briefly point out (and I speak for myself) that the reason I have my personal choice of not seeing married women or having dance with them is not because (as it has been said again and again) that they cheat on their SOs (it is between them and their SOs, and none of my business) but because I feel I go against the standards that I was raised and I go against what I believe in (the breaking of the sanctity of marriage, the taking/borrowing of someone else's belonging, the fact that her heart and soul is with someone else and thinking about him while with me and many other reasons). I was fed up in my recent visit at Mates with one of the stubborn dancers who was trying hard and for an hour to convince me that it is okay for me to have dances with her because her husband is okay with it and was deaf to hear out my reasons lol.

 

As I said it is a personal choice. If you are comfortable with it to offer and to take, then by all means, enjoy.

[Guest C**rAz****e]

I read the thread first time in a while. A few interesting posts since last I read it....

 

Just wanted to briefly point out (and I speak for myself) that the reason I have my personal choice of not seeing married women or having dance with them is not because (as it has been said again and again) that they cheat on their SOs (it is between them and their SOs, and none of my business) but because I feel I go against the standards that I was raised and I go against what I believe in (the breaking of the sanctity of marriage, the taking/borrowing of someone else's belonging, the fact that her heart and soul is with someone else and thinking about him while with me and many other reasons). I was fed up in my recent visit at Mates with one of the stubborn dancers who was trying hard and for an hour to convince me that it is okay for me to have dances with her because her husband is okay with it and was deaf to hear out my reasons lol.

 

As I said it is a personal choice. If you are comfortable with it to offer and to take, then by all means, enjoy.

 

I couldn't agree more well said

[danrica 431]

wasn't ment to be offensive. just saying i don't care if her s o knows, or is there, or if they work together doing threesomes as long as they aren't married.

[fortunateone 156618]

if i knew the sp was married i would stop seeing her. If she just has a so shes not married to i am ok with that. Hey if he wanted to tag team her i would be ok with that too.

 

 

I don't get why it would be ok if she has a partner provided that the SO is in the room, but not OK if the SO is not in the room.

[roamingguy 300292]

I don't get why it would be ok if she has a partner provided that the SO is in the room, but not OK if the SO is not in the room.

 

Actually I don't get why it's ok if the lady and SO aren't married, but if married to her SO not ok. A SO is an SO, married or not, IMHO

But to me a SP's relationship entering the picture is a non-issue, the ladies are doing this to pay the bills

But I guess, ideally then:icon_rolleyes:, the only people who should partake in this lifestyle, if relationship status is that important a factor, are single gentlemen and single ladies. BTW said somewhat tongue in cheek and sarcastically

RG

[April Dawn 12207]

I always thought when the guys hi fived over her back that was called an eiffel tower :p oh the things I learn on here

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[Guest C*****tte]

Married versus any other relationship status... A few people have brought this specific consideration so this is not directed to any one individual.

 

So its OK if they have a significant other, but not if they are married? Religious marriage ceremony? Court ceremony? Romantic vows taken in private on a mountain top? What about common law? Living together for 15 years but sleeping in separate beds? Living together for 5 years? How about dating for 10 years but not living together? Where do you draw the line?

 

A label or a ceremony doesn't make a relationship more significant or precious. It seems rather random and doesn't reflect the true significance of a relationship. The truth is we don't know these things - especially about others. It is something only the SP can truly know of hers and the client of his.

 

As my mother told me, la vie de couple est privée.

[Capital Hunter 18263]

For me (and I can only speak for myself) it is a religious marriage (even stronger if also legally married) that makes it a marriage and that is a bond traditionally between a man and a woman that I personally will not knowingly break by intruding into it knowingly as this is how I was raised to behave. How long married? It doesn't matter to me, a few hours, a few days or a few decades.

 

PS - I am not critical of married people entering other relationships (none my business) or very last of all making a judgement on how people or couples live their private lives, or try to define what a marriage is. I am just responding as what my view is on marriage or relationships that I personaly will not enter even temporarily for an hour. Others may have and entitled to completely different views as stated in many past posts in this thread and I fully respect them. Another view in likely minority posted by Secret Admirer lol :-).

[Nicolette Vaughn 294340]

How are you going to know an SP is married or not unless she tells you? Or you see someone who is young enough to be jail bait and even they could be married. lol. She is advertising a service and her personal life has nothing to do with it and is actually no one's business. As long as her work is kept seperate and no man is in sight, why would anyone be bothered by this? Their relationship and whatever agreement they have about her being an SP is private.

[Megan'sTouch 23875]

How are you going to know an SP is married or not unless she tells you?

Exactly! I've heard women in this industry say both the following: "I'm single but I tell guys I have a boyfriend/husband because they are less likely to get attached, and I feel it's less likely they'll stalk me or show up unexpectedly" and "I have a boyfriend/husband, but I tell them I'm single because I don't want to ruin the fantasy and I think they might not want to see me anymore."

[Malika Fantasy 144625]

So seeing an SP that is married or in a relationship is wrong? what define relationship? What if I have sex with people for free in my personal life, is that a relationship? You won't see me? What if I am in love with someone but not "officially" committed , should I advertise it, and what does it change? What if I am polyamorous (which is my case), and I am committed to more then one person? If I was dated a girl, would it be ok, since well it's a women?

 

To think that an SP or stripper is single and not emotionally attached to someone is more then foolish in my own opinion as we are humans and we feel emotions. And we like to be with someone for the companionship. Honestly of all the SP on cerb, I wouldn't be surprise that about 85% are in a relationship of some kind or have some feelings for someone.

 

I never told my clients if I am in a relationship of some kind and it doesn't concern them at all. Business is business, you aren't my psy and I am not there to talk my emotional bounds

[Nicolette Vaughn 294340]

Exactly! I've heard women in this industry say both the following: "I'm single but I tell guys I have a boyfriend/husband because they are less likely to get attached' date=' and I feel it's less likely they'll stalk me or show up unexpectedly" and "I have a boyfriend/husband, but I tell them I'm single because I don't want to ruin the fantasy and I think they might not want to see me anymore."[/quote']

 

Yes exactly! This can be a double edge sword. If an SP tells them, then the client is likely to judge them or worse make comments that aren't appropriate like "Does he know you're an SP? or "Why does he let you do this?" Or "He must not love you if he lets you do this." And if you tell some not so clients or weird/freaky ones that you are single, they want to date you or free sex or stalk you by trying to find out stuff about you.

 

These ladies can't win so it's in their best interest to shut their mouth and not say anything. Therefore the client does not know 100%. Making a comment that you don't see married SPs is an exercise in futility to me.

[Andee 220524]

After reading this thread, my head is spinning. I am so happy that for now, at least, I am single. But if and when I am attached, I do not think it is anyone's business. Whoever I am seeing will know I am an SP and will need to be okay with it for the relationship to continue.

 

And if I decide to leave the business, that will be my choice, not because another person insists on it or makes it the condition of us being together.

 

Nicki brought up an excellent point. How do you know for sure that a lady is telling you her real marital status? And what is the difference between being single and in a committed relationship than being married and in one?

 

At the end of the day, it's really nobody's business.

[Capital Hunter 18263]

Posted on page 6 ..... lol.

 

just adding that I would never KNOWINGLY see a lady (sp or otherwise) if she is married, but likely would see an sp if she is just dating. In the past I have stopped having dances with a few dancers after I found out or they told me they are married. But that is a personal choice and I respect others' and I think it a lot depends on how one is raised or how strongly one believes in the sanctity of the marriage.

 

Usually in the past they told me they are married during social conversations. If they don't tell me (and I never ask. None of my business) as far as I am concerned they are not and I am not breaking anything (I would have if I had supernatural powers to know things without being told but no I don't). But knowingly breaking the sanctity of marriage (SP or not) which I believe in, that I don't do and that is my choice (we hobbyists have the right to have a view or choice too). Besides, I see escorts and dancers between the ages of 19 to 25, usually in that age range a good majority are not married.

 

As a final comment just to say that I was asked a question (by the OP) and I gave an honest answer. I am sorry if my answer was not what you wanted to hear but I assume you wanted an honest answer rather than a popular lie. I never impose my views on anyone but only express them and I fully respect other people's choices, views and preferences and expect same from others. Is that too much?. I only speak for myself. As for others (who posted they won't see married women/SPs in this thread) I let them respond themselves.