Cerb Lyla's Guide for SC Newcomers

[WillingtoSpend 1520]

Hey all,

To try to get this section a bit more active, and also after seeing a few SC newcomers around (i.e. someone PM'd me asking for recos for a club that gives free lap dances lol), thought it would be fun for us to generate a list of tips/things to consider for customers who are new to SCs. 

Some ideas:

1) What should they know before going in?
2) What should they avoid doing while at a SC?
3) How can a newcomer avoid many of the trappings of a SC? Or should they? 
4) What should a newcomer's mindset be going in?


I also encourage dancer participation and input to this thread as well! 


Best,
WtS

[r__d 12698]

One of the best pieces of advice to give a "newcomer" is concisely spelled out in your handle, WtS.

Be polite, respectful, patient (if interested in a particular lady in the club who seems to be busy a lot of the time) and informed. Get a sense of what one might expect at various clubs at various times - a lot of info could be gleaned by browsing this forum for those who are not too lazy or impatient to do so.

Above all, if one has decided beforehand not to engage in CR visits, don't allow a dancer to think that one might. A brief, direct comment to the effect that one is not planning CR visits, or at least not on that particular occasion, strikes me as the only fair approach to take.

[1963Kennedy 10698]

r___d said it perfectly; he must have been reading my thoughts. I'll add a few lesser important things:

1. late Friday or Saturday night is not best time for 1st visit. Try going day time or earlier in evening.

2.tip doorman (usually night only) $2, waitress $1 each round, Bathroom guy $1 your 1st visit & NOT every visit

3. drink slowly-don't get drunk.

4. wash your hands after pee

[cgnex 1616]

Understand that dancers deal with cheap, creepy assholes all day long. 

 

My advice and golden rule?

 

Don't be a cheap, creepy asshole.

 

Be respectful, kind and clean. No matter what you seek, it will always be more enjoyable if you create an environment that is pleasant for everyone.

 

I have been fortunate enough to meet many wonderful women who are intelligent, kind and beautiful; and happen to dance.

 

Start with that and then proceed to question #4.

 

Your mindset going in will determine what type of experience you seek. While I prefer some degree of connection that is heightened by intelligence and good conversation, others may be looking for specific physical features and a quick grind.

 

Depending on your mindset, specific guidelines will vary widely but are less important than mindset and respect.

 

 

 

 

 

[WillingtoSpend 1520]

Great posts so far.

A few tips to have an enjoyable time at a SC:

1) Treat everyone with a high level of respect. It is so rare in SCs, you will be greatly appreciated for it. Display common decency which can be interpreted through how you dress, smell, communicate, and interact with everyone in the establishment. If you are looking like you just came off an oil field, you're doing it wrong. 
2) Do not think you're "better" because you're a customer. Everyone can sense it, and it will effect your experience. Just be normal.
3) The dancers aren't into you which at the end of the day doesn't matter because there is a middle ground where good conversations and times can be had. Don't go into a SC thinking you'll leave with a girlfriend - won't happen. 
4) Have control over your reality - be aware of all elements in the club and how that may effect your experience. Do not let your emotions, views, drinking habits effect your behaviour to the point it gets you into trouble. For example: you are in a conversation with a dancer and you feel adamant about your position. In the real world, you may aggressively argue for your position, but for the sake of the flow of the conversation, concede and go onto the next topic.
5) Understand there is a flow to conversations in a club. Realize when a dancer is signaling to you they don't want to talk about a particular topic and pivot from it.
6) Beware that there are scams in the club - do not reward scammers. Take note, don't cause a scene, and don't reward it in the future. 
7) Don't evade the comfort zone of the dancer in the back. Comfort zones are established either verbally from the dancer (ask), or through your experience with the dancer over time. Don't assume all dancers have the same comfort zones. 
8) Be upfront about your intentions when a dancer approaches your table. Don't start talking to them if you won't be taking them to the back. Or communicate that you are 1) waiting for someone else 2) just having a drink before leaving. If they choose to stay at your table, than at least your intentions have been transparent and you have not mislead them. 
9) Dancers enjoy compliments, be perceptive and considerate - perhaps they have done their hair or worn something specifically because they know that you enjoy that. 
10) A more general principle: I don't believe in Karma in the real world as much as I do in a SC. Your actions have reactions, and they are quite immediate. The more good you put into the environment, the more likely you will receive a good experience. Lastly, as RD has mentioned, have realistic expectations on your overall experience.