Tiffany Amber 7031 Report post Posted April 5, 2011 When writing a pm, email or texting, please do not send one liners! Many times, it come across as being rude. Ive been on the recieving end of this threw txting, hence the reason why I do not text anymore to make a 1st appointment! WE can not hear your tone of voice, so when you send something like this: "WHEN CAN I SEE YOU?" It just sounds rude. First off, INTRODUCE yourself! Say hello, how are you, I am Mr.XXX. The reason why you are emailing or pm'ing: I am interested in meeting with you on this date and time for this long. A little about yourself, if your comfortable saying anything, some ladies actually request that you do, some don't. Then sign off... Looking forward to hearing from you, Until we meet, or what ever. When you write an actual pm or email, we WILL respond! When I see something that is not like the above described, I dont even want to put in the effort to respond, since you did not take the effort to say more than 3 or 4 words to me! And I am sure I am not the only lady that feels like that! And most importantly!! Read her Ads, website and profile!! They are very imformative. Hence the reason why we put so much effort into them! The effort your going to put in by pm'ing "Whats your rates?", "What time do you start?", or the big question, "What do you look like?" will be alot less than clicking your mouse on the link to her website/profile! You just look very lazy and disrespectful! We are not asking you to write an autobiography about yourself or a novel! 5-6 lines is not asking for much! I know some men are men of very few words, but if you cant take a few minutes to learn about us and say more then a few words, then imagin how we think the encounter will go with you?! Starting an email/pm politely can and will get you a better or if any encounter with your choosen SP/MA! ****************** I've searched and could not find a thread about etiquette on pm'ing, but found this thread, which only shows you how to START a pm: http://cerb.ca/vbulletin/showthread.php?t=15861 If I missed it someone let me know and Ill ask the Mod to add this post to it! Thanks, Tiffany Amber xoxo 43 Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
mikkismitty 197 Report post Posted April 5, 2011 Very well said. I totally agree with what you said. Sometimes I feel that we are going too fast sometimes and are losing our way with words. Come on guys and girls......let's put some effort into this. 1 Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Sensual Erin 33935 Report post Posted April 5, 2011 Hi Tiffany. My comment box cut me off so adding here. I do all my first initial bookings online. An introduction is what I expect in booking. It makes me feel more comfortable to know that I am respected as a lady. Please treat us as one. To approach a lady with these one liners is disrespectful and in my experience, is indicative of a different kind of client that I won't take a chance on. I value my approach and so happy with the Gents that are here and treat us well. :) 4 Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Meg O'Ryan 266444 Report post Posted April 5, 2011 "Hi, when are you available." Just don't cut it lol 3 Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Paradise Spa 24019 Report post Posted April 5, 2011 What I get sometimes is literally "who's on now?" LMAO So guess what I do? I send them the link of our schedule ha ha 2 Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Gabriella Laurence 301887 Report post Posted April 5, 2011 (edited) "Hi, when are you available."Just don't cut it lol Thanks Megan! I recently recieved a PM saying: "Yo Gab, 25 year old male here. How much for an hour? I really want to F@!k you." I kindly replied to the "gentleman" and explained that the hour would be free since we would not be spending any time together! MOD, any way of blocking certain members from contacting us again after receiving a PM of this type? Thanks! Edited April 5, 2011 by Ga*****la L****nce spelling mistake 4 Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Miss Scarlett 25073 Report post Posted April 5, 2011 I completely agree with this. There is some info also available on this thread: http://www.cerb.ca/vbulletin/showthread.php?t=48721 As I put in the other thread, I understand not everyone is good with writing. And I do not expect to know everything about someone, but we all need to screen potential clients, so therefore we need to know certain information. This is why I swear by the contact form, this allows people who are not good with writing emails, or PM's still make contact with me. But at the same time I will also collect the information I need to continue to the next step of screening. Just my 2 cents! 3 Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Tiffany Amber 7031 Report post Posted April 5, 2011 What I get sometimes is literally "who's on now?" LMAO So guess what I do? I send them the link of our schedule ha ha I've done that in the past, but sometimes I will respond, but from now on your just getting the link to my Ad and or website! Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Shelly Lane 13856 Report post Posted April 5, 2011 I agree with what was recommended. I too have had to many one-line inquires. And the same for texting.I love, U AVALIBLE! I dont even answer an inquiry of this nature,it sounds like your a gentleman of many words. 1 Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Paradise Spa 24019 Report post Posted April 5, 2011 Good girl LOL.....you get what you give right? I've done that in the past, but sometimes I will respond, but from now on your just getting the link to my Ad and or website! 2 Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
roamingguy 300292 Report post Posted April 5, 2011 I agree, a respectful pm (or for that matter email or text) is a must. A person gets one chance to make a first impression, your pm kinda makes that first impression RG 1 Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Tiffany Amber 7031 Report post Posted April 5, 2011 I agree, a respectful pm (or for that matter email or text) is a must. A person gets one chance to make a first impression, your pm kinda makes that first impressionRG Exactly! First impressions last a life time! Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Mister T 45020 Report post Posted April 5, 2011 Gabriella, Etasman started a Thread today with instructions : http://www.cerb.ca/vbulletin/showthread.php?t=49620 Hope this helps!!! Thanks Megan! I recently recieved a PM saying: "Yo Gab, 25 year old male here. How much for an hour? I really want to F@!k you." I kindly replied to the "gentleman" and explained that the hour would be free since we would not be spending any time together! MOD, any way of blocking certain members from contacting us again after receiving a PM of this type? Thanks! Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Kubrickfan 12836 Report post Posted April 6, 2011 I'm a lawyer, so brevity is the least of my problems (smile) ... if anything, I tend to ramble on a bit. Its nice to get to know someone a bit as an icebreaker. Also, those e-mail conversations give you an easy way to start up the face to face conversation when you finally meet. Not to mention that its just plain f...ing rude to send a lady a message like that. 2 Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
EmilyRushton 253377 Report post Posted April 9, 2011 if I have posted in my advert that I do not wish to be contacted via PM, please respect it. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
mm99 285 Report post Posted April 25, 2011 I had my first sp encounter ever on saturday and admit I used a one liner pm. Now that I've gone through the forums and read these types of posts, I won't do it again. I totally missed the "New to this" as I was "so excited to be new to this". 2 Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Tiffany Amber 7031 Report post Posted April 25, 2011 I had my first sp encounter ever on saturday and admit I used a one liner pm. Now that I've gone through the forums and read these types of posts, I won't do it again. I totally missed the "New to this" as I was "so excited to be new to this". Congrats on your first encounter! You missed it the first time, but at least now your reading it! Many never do! Thanks, Iam sure the next lady you contact will greatly appreciate it! Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Meg O'Ryan 266444 Report post Posted May 27, 2011 When you send a PM requesting information such as availability, please respond to the response. I answer each and every PM as quickly as possible and if between 8am and 8pm it's usually within 30mins. When I get a PM asking if I am available at, let's say, 10:30am tomorrow morning and I reply within 10 minutes saying, not until 11:30; common decency indicates that you let me know that it's not convenient...even if it takes you 12hrs to reply, a reply is warranted!!!!!!!!!!! 7 Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
alexgrenyait 2186 Report post Posted May 27, 2011 I couldn't agree more,one liners do not do it for me and I usually do not respond to them but if I do I am on alert,not a good way to initiate a first date alex xo Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Katherine of Halifax 113932 Report post Posted May 27, 2011 I agree with Shelly, all one liners or anything rude is deleted and fast. I used to write back and explain my idea of proper manners but then realized if I have to explain common sense I don't want to see the person anyway. 3 Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Isabella Gia (Banned) 53881 Report post Posted May 27, 2011 Yes, I agree with you ladies. A one line Pm comes across as it may be from someone who is not serious about getting together however the tone of the Pm says a lot. I have learned that some here are 'men of few words' but that does not make them disrespectful. A message like the one Gabrielle posted though is disrespectful for sure. It is 'funny' some people need to be taught on Pm etiquette. I doubt they comunicate that way when they send an email or letter to anyone outside of this industry. But what bothers me the most is when I get asked by someone to send a message with my availability or upon my return when I have been away only to get ignored. As Meg said common courtesy is very simple to have and expected, especially if you started or requested the communication. 2 Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Nicolette Vaughn 294340 Report post Posted May 27, 2011 Please don't send PMs with one likers like the classic "What's up?" or "Hi". I don't have time to start a dialogue and go back and forth. Please state your intentions from the beginning. Please read our ads from start to finish. Don't PM me and ask what I look like, services or rates. It's all in the ad that I post everyday. Or if you PM an SP for a certain time don't send the message then disappearing and leaving us hanging. That's why I get people to text me or call me directly because there are times when I'm not on this site when I'm at one of my incall locations. Don't send out PMs to several SPs asking for the same time. Many of us know each other and in some cases are good friends. You will be branded as someone who is a time waster and you will never get a serious reply or be blown off and I don't mean in a good way! 1 Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Nicolette Vaughn 294340 Report post Posted June 3, 2011 I will reiterate what I said in the above post because it's happening to me again. Please don't send me a PM and a text asking for a specific time a couple of days in advance and then you don't respond back by text or PM when I need to confirm for the next day. If I don't hear back from you with an "Okay, I'll call you on this day an hour before we meet", there is no appointment. I'm not going to chase anyone down nor am I going to call anyone without their permission if they don't have the courtesy to reply back which takes only a minute or two. I have better things to do with my time. 2 Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Touch 57501 Report post Posted June 4, 2011 I used to write back and explain my idea of proper manners but then realized if I have to explain common sense I don't want to see the person anyway. It is so refreshing to read something so terse, on point, and logical! Touch Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
da2root 871 Report post Posted July 6, 2011 It is 'funny' some people need to be taught on Pm etiquette. I doubt they comunicate that way when they send an email or letter to anyone outside of this industry. My primary job is one that is done 90% via email communication and believe me, the majority of people out there do not communicate properly by way of email even outside of this industry. Most people treat PM's, emails, and message boards like they're talking to a long lost friend on MSN. This morning at work I got more than one mail from "clients" (for lack of better wording so that I don't go into what I do) that consisted of 4 to 5 words expecting me to understand what they want. As a newbie to this site/industry I don't think it's a viable excuse to say "but I'm a newbie" either. I'm taking the time to read the boards and make sure that I don't offend the lovely women who work in this industry. I really appreciate all the input put forward by the SP's on this site. Although I will be taking my time to make the jump from participating on the board to actually meeting with a SP all of the input & information is wonderful. common sense unfortunately is not all that common :-( Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
