Hotel vs. Home

[fullastars 123]

Hi all,

I've always been curious as to where it is best to meet a provider for those who are locals - in a hotel or a home.  I understand that from a provider point of view incall (controlled setting, safer, etc.) might be ideal, but looking for the more general opinions of those who partake in the hobby.  Given the fact that there is an obvious additional cost associated with getting a hotel, but could be offset by anonymity and assured privacy, I wonder if it's something hobbyists think about.  I know I do and have done both.  Curious to know if providers prefer hotels or homes as well. 

 

Cheers and have a great Christmas

[Ice4fun 78407]

I am assuming you are referring to home as the SP's home or incall location?

If I am correct with that assumption then from my perspective I would only care if either location was in a bad area of the city otherwise I will have dine my homework and would not care if it was hotel or SP's home/incall.

Just my Opinion 

[Guest]

     Meeting locations are often dictated by circumstances. Hotels are mostly used in a context of business trips or special occasions. And I don't agree about the "anonymity and assured privacy" part. Unless you go to a cheap motel with hourly rates and no questions or names asked, it's never really anonymous. Mostly when hotel employee are familiar with the in and out of local providers and providers do their own verifications.

     Incalls from a discreet apartment/home remain the simplest and most cost effective way to meet. Also, if things don't go as planned it's much easier to get out of the deal. Some ladies will prefer outcalls. All depends on the clientele they prefer and for who they're working for. It's never really about what's "best", but more about what's more convenient and appropriate for the experience you want to live.

[jeffmac1984 1727]

I usually set up outcalls (to my home).  My neighbourhood is a clean and quiet one.  I personally prefer that if it is an option.  I never have had a problem yet.  I always make sure to make the SP feel comfortable and safe.  I have visited an SP in a less desirable area of the city and I felt somewhat uncomfortable.  I guess everyone has a different preference.  I feel safer being at my own home since I can control the situation if something goes badly.  There was even a time where an SP hung out a bit afterwards and watched Netflix (I think it was an episode of Breaking Bad).  Ultimately, if you treat these ladies with respect and understand that they are doing a job and are actually people then it can make the experience a much more enjoyable one for both of you.  

[Steveborden 1002]

It’s a tough situation for me, for what I usually look for from a provider can be provided in my car which is where i feel safest, however most SPs look down on car dates and would rather not do them.. Creates a problem for me as  I can not host and getting a hotel room  is usually not an option.. I’ve also had the scam done on me where girl leaves the room at her house/hotel and in walks the muscle threatening bodily harm if I don’t leave immediately. So it’s almost always a nerve racking experience going to an incall for me now 

[Guest]

8 minutes ago, Steveborden said:

It’s a tough situation for me, for what I usually look for from a provider can be provided in my car which is where i feel safest, however most SPs look down on car dates and would rather not do them.. Creates a problem for me as  I can not host and getting a hotel room  is usually not an option.. I’ve also had the scam done on me where girl leaves the room at her house/hotel and in walks the muscle threatening bodily harm if I don’t leave immediately. So it’s almost always a nerve racking experience going to an incall for me now 

    Unless your car is an RV and can offer privacy, it's not really safer. If someone sees and complains, you can be charged for indecent act under section 173 of the Criminal Code of Canada for sex in public view. And as this could potentially raise other charges, it's understandable why most SP's will reject that option.

[Steveborden 1002]

Well for starters I don’t have car dates in the middle of the day or out in the open. Secondly I never said I don’t know why SPs don’t do car dates. I clearly know why they would prefer not too. I was just stating that it’s the only time I ever truly feel safe when meeting  a SP for the first time 

 

[Sweetie506 3402]

I like hotels. Keeps where I live private. When I get a regular and trust is established I don't mind them coming to my home. Outcalls make me nervous. New place nee person. Hotels are a mutual ground. I find it makes it easier for both parties to get comfortable. 

 

But one thing about certain hotels is requirong a key card to operate the elevator (ex: Delta). Then youre seen together. Or stuck waiting in the lobby for the other party. 

 

Car dayes are a big no for myself as it is extremely illegal.

[SussexCowboy79 3]

On 12/20/2018 at 10:22 AM, jeffmac1984 said:

I usually set up outcalls (to my home).  My neighbourhood is a clean and quiet one.  I personally prefer that if it is an option.  I never have had a problem yet.  I always make sure to make the SP feel comfortable and safe.  I have visited an SP in a less desirable area of the city and I felt somewhat uncomfortable.  I guess everyone has a different preference.  I feel safer being at my own home since I can control the situation if something goes badly.  There was even a time where an SP hung out a bit afterwards and watched Netflix (I think it was an episode of Breaking Bad).  Ultimately, if you treat these ladies with respect and understand that they are doing a job and are actually people then it can make the experience a much more enjoyable one for both of you.  

After my first experience of inviting a SP (please do correct me if I’m wrong, the polite way to refer to escort or companion) I am very uneasy about inviting someone into my home after the negative experience thst happened the first time. I’m an older gentleman in my 60’s , I live alone out in the bush my eyes have began to fail me and I am no longer safely able to drive to go to the SP’s home and I wish I could but I just cannot afford to rent a motel just to be able to feel comfortable spending time chatting and enjoying the company of a beautiful SP.  That being said maybe I should just give up ? I want to be able to feel relaxed, and enjoy my time and not be worried or constantly on edge waiting for something terrible to happen. I’m a harmless old fella and just don’t want to be labeled an easy target to these dishonest SP that I have been learning about ! Any suggestions fellow members may have on how can screen a SP, types of questions to ask? Signs to look out for Red flags ect ! would really help this out fella out. Thank you in advance for reading my letter and have a wonderful evening stay safe . 

[Main mod 1216]

7 hours ago, SussexCowboy79 said:

After my first experience of inviting a SP (please do correct me if I’m wrong, the polite way to refer to escort or companion) I am very uneasy about inviting someone into my home after the negative experience thst happened the first time. I’m an older gentleman in my 60’s , I live alone out in the bush my eyes have began to fail me and I am no longer safely able to drive to go to the SP’s home and I wish I could but I just cannot afford to rent a motel just to be able to feel comfortable spending time chatting and enjoying the company of a beautiful SP.  That being said maybe I should just give up ? I want to be able to feel relaxed, and enjoy my time and not be worried or constantly on edge waiting for something terrible to happen. I’m a harmless old fella and just don’t want to be labeled an easy target to these dishonest SP that I have been learning about ! Any suggestions fellow members may have on how can screen a SP, types of questions to ask? Signs to look out for Red flags ect ! would really help this out fella out. Thank you in advance for reading my letter and have a wonderful evening stay safe . 

Hey Sussex, 

My suggestion would be to post on here about looking for an SP willing to do home visits and of the SP's that provide a reply I would look for their recommendations and reviews. If you can find a well known and respected provider I'm sure you can find someone suitable for you. 

Now normally we don't allow posts "Looking for someone" only asking for advice etc, but as your circumstance is a little outside the norm I'm happy to allow it if it will help you moving forward. 

[katie 1337]

On January 2, 2019 at 4:07 AM, SussexCowboy79 said:

After my first experience of inviting a SP (please do correct me if I’m wrong, the polite way to refer to escort or companion) I am very uneasy about inviting someone into my home after the negative experience thst happened the first time. I’m an older gentleman in my 60’s , I live alone out in the bush my eyes have began to fail me and I am no longer safely able to drive to go to the SP’s home and I wish I could but I just cannot afford to rent a motel just to be able to feel comfortable spending time chatting and enjoying the company of a beautiful SP.  That being said maybe I should just give up ? I want to be able to feel relaxed, and enjoy my time and not be worried or constantly on edge waiting for something terrible to happen. I’m a harmless old fella and just don’t want to be labeled an easy target to these dishonest SP that I have been learning about ! Any suggestions fellow members may have on how can screen a SP, types of questions to ask? Signs to look out for Red flags ect ! would really help this out fella out. Thank you in advance for reading my letter and have a wonderful evening stay safe . 

SussexCowboy79, never give up. You will find a "Honest Sp", that those kinds of worries, won't even come to mind... I know you wil... 

  Cheers Katie xoxo's 👄