Texting advice needed.

[NuckenFutz 1010]

Well. After doing more and more searching i finally decided to contact a couple of SP's yesterday. the response was delayed which i completely understand. I started both message with "Hello is this "Sp"? . waited, got a "yes and (after a few hours) still interested from the second"

So i said yes i am. I explained this is my very first time contacting a SP and that i was nervous,and not exactly sure how it works.  (one girl said she even like first timers on her add??) . The questions i then followed up with were " Details on rates and service" (ads  never really mentioned it).  "if kissing was ok?" (like im totally cool if it wasn't) . "And if the service was multiple rounds during our time?" (also not mentioned on the ad)

So i waited all night until i fell asleep with no reply. Awoke this morning, and still nothing. So i sent one  SP a "Good Morning. Am i still able to book my time with you? I was thinking this weekend if that works for you"?  then i thought shit maybe im spam texting her now and thats rude, so i didnt bother to do the same with the other SP.

But what do i do now?? like did i come across as rude?was my text to long? Maybe i wasn't formal enough?? Like should i have asked how she is and how is her day going ? i didnt want to waste her time so i didnt bother with small chit chat, texted wait for the response got it and asked. I feel like I totally fucked things up and wont get to see them now. Do i wait and text them in a couple days? do i move on? (which is so hard because i took so much thought as to who i wanted). Maybe Im just over reacting? 

Any advice or stories youd like to share will be greatly appreciated. Maybe tell me what your usually texting styles are i can finally join in on this fun =p 

i will be replying after i get off work, thought that would build up some time to get read

[jnhfxboy 590]

I usually start off with:

 

"Hi ____, my name is _____. I am __ [years old], do you have any availability on ____[day of the week] for ___ [30/60/90 minutes]?"

 

Fill in the blanks.

 

It appears you jumped right over the preliminaries and right into the details. I wait for them to provide the details.

[jnhfxboy 590]

I might try a second time depending on the circumstances, but not usually.

[Halihotfun 28]

I’d recommend Barbie doll haily for a first encounter.    Her pics  are legit. And her add will answer most of your questions. If you find her attractive go for it! https://www.leolist.cc/personals/female-escorts/nova-scotia/halifax_other_hh_120_special_dartmouth_902_981_6914_xo-4670948

[pony1966 1090]

If you ask if they are available at a certain time or day, how long you want and what are they rates they will usually text back what is included. IE: GFE, DFK, BBBJ, DATY etc. If you are looking for something else you can usually then ask. The first time is a little intimidating but once you get that first time under your belt it gets easier. Also yourfrenchlady.com is really easy to book and the ladies are great but I don't think they have anyone in Halifax right now.

[NuckenFutz 1010]

5 hours ago, jnhfxboy said:

I usually start off with:

 

"Hi ____, my name is _____. I am __ [years old], do you have any availability on ____[day of the week] for ___ [30/60/90 minutes]?"

 

Fill in the blanks.

 

It appears you jumped right over the preliminaries and right into the details. I wait for them to provide the details.

yes after seeing these examples i see that i jumped over a few stepping stones, i was trying to short n sweet kinda thing, i was for some reason under the impression that if i drug out the convo that they might get up set so i sent it all in one text haha. And for some reason i never even thought of giving a name or age. and i dont think ill retext the same sp, atleast not any time soon, i dont want to seem naggy or spammy. Thank you muchly for insight. 

4 hours ago, onepound said:

This is how i text every time. Most sps unless you’re booking through the sps website would prefer you to text the day of, usually within a few hours of the time you’re looking for. So if you’re looking to meet up around 8, maybe shoot them a text at 5 or so. I text like this every time and never have any issues . 

 

Hey - you around tonight ? 

Yes. (If you got the number wrong you’d get a reply ...uhh.. what?”) no need to ask if she is an sp. just make sure you get the number right . You’ll know right away if she’s not. 

 

Im looking for hh/hr around 8pm. What’s the rate? 

 

150 hh 8 sounds good babe. 

 

Alright sounds good. Are you open to “foot fetish” (just an example)? 

 

Yes i am, but it’s _____ extra.

 

alright sounds good I’ll see you at 8. I’ll message you when I am leaving and again when I get to the parking lot. See you soon.

 

sounds good babe, see you soon xo. 

 

This is generally how every conversation goes . The odd time I get asked my age, and then I just tell them that , and move the conversation forward from there. 

 

Youre thinking about it too much, normal though if you’re nervous and if it’s your first time. 

yes this example is much better then mine. See i live out side of halifax, over an hour, so i thought that pre booking was the better alternative, just cause of delays and such. I think ill try sticking to something like this if pre booking is mentioned. or maybe just ask if theyd consider a pre booking. And thank you very much for your example, this helps more then you know haha, 

[NuckenFutz 1010]

7 minutes ago, pony1966 said:

If you ask if they are available at a certain time or day, how long you want and what are they rates they will usually text back what is included. IE: GFE, DFK, BBBJ, DATY etc. If you are looking for something else you can usually then ask. The first time is a little intimidating but once you get that first time under your belt it gets easier. Also yourfrenchlady.com is really easy to book and the ladies are great but I don't think they have anyone in Halifax right now.

I see some of the french ads but never saw the website before thanks. and yes very intimitdating, even more so when you read about negative stories like scams and such. And for some reason, i always worry about my car when i play out situations in my head hahaha. (its my baby) but thats me over thinking again haha, Thank you for your reply !! 

[Rambler1980 1359]

I typically politely ask for rates and availability. I usually then try to ask a couple questions about the kind of service I might be looking for. Part of that is to make sure her and I are on same page about service and price, other part is to get a sense of their personality. Are they all business, slow responses, responses that don't answer the question, do they seem fun, flirty, are they going to be rush rush rush, etc. 

 

BUT Having seen the texts the providers receive I see a lot of frankly rude or at least crude texts, lots of time wasting conversations, lots of people asking for stuff like bare services or discounts or trades (drugs). I would think if you polite and not wasting their time then they should be more than willing to chat with you. 

 

In my experience though, getting slow or no response is very common. Unsure why but I just move on. I am willing to try a couple times to get an answer but after that I don't bother with them anymore. Also once you've started the conversation someone who is always super slow to respond (like consistently many many minutes between responses), I usually move on. Their mind is elsewhere or they've got conversations going with other clients, or whatever but it's enough of a turn-off I move on. I'm meaning once they respond to my text, if I text them back in seconds and then each response from them is 5-10min I assume my business is not a priority for them and move on. 

 

On the other hand, anyone who's a quick responder with friendly flirty texts, I'm very likely to book with them and usually tell them how much I appreciate their quick responses. Again, I'm not talking first response, but how fast they respond once a conversation is started.

 

[NuckenFutz 1010]

7 minutes ago, Rambler1980 said:

I typically politely ask for rates and availability. I usually then try to ask a couple questions about the kind of service I might be looking for. Part of that is to make sure her and I are on same page about service and price, other part is to get a sense of their personality. Are they all business, slow responses, responses that don't answer the question, do they seem fun, flirty, are they going to be rush rush rush, etc. 

 

BUT Having seen the texts the providers receive I see a lot of frankly rude or at least crude texts, lots of time wasting conversations, lots of people asking for stuff like bare services or discounts or trades (drugs). I would think if you polite and not wasting their time then they should be more than willing to chat with you. 

 

In my experience though, getting slow or no response is very common. Unsure why but I just move on. I am willing to try a couple times to get an answer but after that I don't bother with them anymore. Also once you've started the conversation someone who is always super slow to respond (like consistently many many minutes between responses), I usually move on. Their mind is elsewhere or they've got conversations going with other clients, or whatever but it's enough of a turn-off I move on. I'm meaning once they respond to my text, if I text them back in seconds and then each response from them is 5-10min I assume my business is not a priority for them and move on. 

 

On the other hand, anyone who's a quick responder with friendly flirty texts, I'm very likely to book with them and usually tell them how much I appreciate their quick responses. Again, I'm not talking first response, but how fast they respond once a conversation is started.

 

 Yes, see I pictured them getting lots and lots of horrible and rude texts from many people. Hence why i was so confused during that night. So when it comes to you getting a no response lets say. You say you might try a couple times, are all those attempts within the same day? an hour later?

Thanks for your insight. 

[bigmack40 32]

If you stick to girls record on here it will be simple 

Hi babe busy tonight seen you info on Lula. How about 8.00pm hhr...most people don't want to put time and money and acts in a text. Could be referred to a C36.   

Stay will addictive Barbie  amarra   or if you like a bit older Crissy..... Kylie 

Play safe.  

The new ones on leolist  you don't know what your in for. See the horror stories  and that the good. At worst you may make the news...hope this helps my opinion

[harboursmoke 3087]

Personally my opening txts go as follows: 

Good Morning/Afternoon ______________, how are you ?  My name is _______________; and I saw your ad online.  I was wondering what more you could tell me ? 

I find I get good responses from that.  Being pleasant and polite will take you far. 

I cannot stand; and wont reply to responses that just go straight into rates and "menu" or one word replies.  If a lady cant engage me through txt there is no way she will be able too in person. 

Just me and my way of doing business. 

 

[NuckenFutz 1010]

1 hour ago, harboursmoke said:

Personally my opening txts go as follows: 

Good Morning/Afternoon ______________, how are you ?  My name is _______________; and I saw your ad online.  I was wondering what more you could tell me ? 

I find I get good responses from that.  Being pleasant and polite will take you far. 

I cannot stand; and wont reply to responses that just go straight into rates and "menu" or one word replies.  If a lady cant engage me through txt there is no way she will be able too in person. 

Just me and my way of doing business. 

 

thank you for your example. Yes i can see be being the same way with one worded answer, i hate that regularly as it is haha.

[NuckenFutz 1010]

sorry i am responding to messages but some are still staying hidden! 

[Rambler1980 1359]

3 hours ago, NuckenFutz said:

 Yes, see I pictured them getting lots and lots of horrible and rude texts from many people. Hence why i was so confused during that night. So when it comes to you getting a no response lets say. You say you might try a couple times, are all those attempts within the same day? an hour later?

Thanks for your insight. 

 

I usually try them and if there's no response I'll try them either in about an hour or another night. I have people I usually see and stick with them mostly so it's only occasionally I try someone new. 

 

Other's have recommended and I agree, try addictivebarbie. She's friendly, attractive her rates are reasonable and she's very easy to talk to. Great for a first time experience. Other's that are good, Katherine is always well regarded and very popular, I like Nerdy Catherine 3.14 too also easy to talk to, Kylie Jane is a great pick. All these ladies are class acts, good responders, good at what they do and easy to talk to. There should be enough age, size & shape variety among those I just listed that it will get you started. lol

 

 

[Raquel Brooks 151]

What a great thread!  I'd like to add, a lady may be in an appointment! 😄

 

I can't speak for anyone else, but I never look at my phone during a session.  I also don't answer texts or calls when I'm driving, with family, at work, etc, etc.  I DO always try to return a text right away.  But I never return phone calls, I will put that on my site when I get it up.  Unless it's like 2 minutes after, I don't want to jeopardize your privacy by calling at the wrong moment.  I know how that can be!  

 

I almost feel like I should have a code phrase on my site so a visitor will know, I just CAN'T talk.  "I'm sorry, I don't want to buy any vacuum cleaners right now".  Hahaha.. Then you'll know to just try back later, don't try to further the discussion.  Some phones can be really loud at the wrong times and people can hear every word even across the room. 

 

I had this phone call two weeks ago, didn't realize someone was nearby, saw them as I answered:

"Hi there!  Is this Raquel the Escort??" 

 

For some reason it was really loud and I'm sure the other person nearby heard every word.  Now here's my dilemma, I don't want to lose a client by just saying, "No!" and hanging up.  I guess I should have. 

 

I tried to make it a joke "Hahaha. that's funny" sorta stuff.  But he continued on at full roar asking about rates, blowjobs, etc.. O.O

 

Me whispering now, "I can't talk", and he's like, "well can you just answer yes and no to questions?"... "I can't talk".. panic had set in and my brain had frozen.  I got out of the call very awkwardly and was too in shock to come up with something believable to say to my friend.  "It was the guy about the stuff.. "  O.o  

 

I always want to assure a discreet encounter for myself and my guest.  If I feel I can't provide that, I'm not going to want to book.  But horny fellas want to book NOW!  LOL!  You guys are so cute 😉   Planning is actually a big key to a successful session.

 

I read some fellas suggesting calling the day of, or texting (I prefer text).  From my point of view, again, not speaking for others, I prefer advanced bookings.  If I could have my whole week planned in advance with dependable appointments, life would be golden and I'd be the most joyous, phone answering SP you ever did see 😉 

 

I know, life is never perfect.. hahah.. and on the up side, I'll have my own place next month and the privacy issues will be gone! ❤️

 

Last minute and day of appointments are fine, don't get me wrong!  Something like, "Hey, wondering if you're available today for half hour around 2pm?"  If I've only a moment to look at that but I can make that appointment, "Sounds good, can't text now, can chat more in an hour?"  Wow, we're almost done in two lines! 😄  Of course in the follow up we can chat about rates, preferences, etc.

 

I love all the suggestions everyone is making, and I am going to re-read the thread to try to fix my own shortfalls.  😉

 

Peace and Love,

Raquel

 

[NuckenFutz 1010]

3 hours ago, Raquel Brooks said:

What a great thread!  I'd like to add, a lady may be in an appointment! 😄

 

I can't speak for anyone else, but I never look at my phone during a session.  I also don't answer texts or calls when I'm driving, with family, at work, etc, etc.  I DO always try to return a text right away.  But I never return phone calls, I will put that on my site when I get it up.  Unless it's like 2 minutes after, I don't want to jeopardize your privacy by calling at the wrong moment.  I know how that can be!  

 

I almost feel like I should have a code phrase on my site so a visitor will know, I just CAN'T talk.  "I'm sorry, I don't want to buy any vacuum cleaners right now".  Hahaha.. Then you'll know to just try back later, don't try to further the discussion.  Some phones can be really loud at the wrong times and people can hear every word even across the room. 

 

I had this phone call two weeks ago, didn't realize someone was nearby, saw them as I answered:

"Hi there!  Is this Raquel the Escort??" 

 

For some reason it was really loud and I'm sure the other person nearby heard every word.  Now here's my dilemma, I don't want to lose a client by just saying, "No!" and hanging up.  I guess I should have. 

 

I tried to make it a joke "Hahaha. that's funny" sorta stuff.  But he continued on at full roar asking about rates, blowjobs, etc.. O.O

 

Me whispering now, "I can't talk", and he's like, "well can you just answer yes and no to questions?"... "I can't talk".. panic had set in and my brain had frozen.  I got out of the call very awkwardly and was too in shock to come up with something believable to say to my friend.  "It was the guy about the stuff.. "  O.o  

 

I always want to assure a discreet encounter for myself and my guest.  If I feel I can't provide that, I'm not going to want to book.  But horny fellas want to book NOW!  LOL!  You guys are so cute 😉   Planning is actually a big key to a successful session.

 

I read some fellas suggesting calling the day of, or texting (I prefer text).  From my point of view, again, not speaking for others, I prefer advanced bookings.  If I could have my whole week planned in advance with dependable appointments, life would be golden and I'd be the most joyous, phone answering SP you ever did see 😉 

 

I know, life is never perfect.. hahah.. and on the up side, I'll have my own place next month and the privacy issues will be gone! ❤️

 

Last minute and day of appointments are fine, don't get me wrong!  Something like, "Hey, wondering if you're available today for half hour around 2pm?"  If I've only a moment to look at that but I can make that appointment, "Sounds good, can't text now, can chat more in an hour?"  Wow, we're almost done in two lines! 😄  Of course in the follow up we can chat about rates, preferences, etc.

 

I love all the suggestions everyone is making, and I am going to re-read the thread to try to fix my own shortfalls.  😉

 

Peace and Love,

Raquel

 

thank you for your stories, That phone call sounds soooo awkward. Even more so since you was with friend ! oh my. I.d probably keel over on the spot XD I will totally keep this is mind if i ever call some one!