BenDover78 109 Report post Posted April 22, 2019 How do escort /SP feel about going on Outcalls where there might be other people in the home/location? I have always wondered how they feel about visiting someone's home who is probably married or in a relationship and has kids. Just curious if that is a turnoff or a No Go area? Please provide me your input on the matter. BD 1 Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
EmilyRushton 253367 Report post Posted April 25, 2019 Speaking for myself, I will NOT visit at someones home unless we have met many times in the past at my location and they have proven that they are 100% living alone. No way would I ever put myself in a situation where someone else could unexpectedly come home. I don't care what your personal situation is, however I won't risk any safety and well. being to go make a house call. 5 Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Rambler1980 1359 Report post Posted April 25, 2019 I have a provider at my home from time to time. I know her well and we've discussed what the plan is if someone comes home while she's there. That said we align things to use the house at times when it's very very unlikely anyone would come home (and so far, so good). Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Guest Report post Posted April 25, 2019 On top of what others already mentioned, good communications and relevant transparency will make most situations work. Inviting someone in your home doesn't obligates you to share everything. Most providers don't care about your marital status. Unless it's your fantasy to shove that information down their throat to make them feel guilty, I don't see this as an issue. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Jasmine Rain 23126 Report post Posted April 25, 2019 I would never visit a home with other people there. I as well will only do outcalls to homes of clients I have met before. They are just safety issues and I think are pretty standard with most indies. 4 Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
roamingguy 300292 Report post Posted April 25, 2019 Although not an issue for me being single, I can't envision a rational reason for a client wanting an outcall to his place if his wife/SO and/or kids...especially kids!!!...could be there. This is far worse than clients leaving contact info/texts from companions etc on their cell phones that their wives can find. This lifestyle is based on trust and discretion, such a scenario lacks both IMO. Frankly it strikes me as something dumb for a client to ask a companion to do. If you want to do an outcall get a hotel. If you can't afford a hotel either save your pennies...'er nickels LOL to afford a hotel or see a lady offering incalls. A rambling RG 1 Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Andee 220524 Report post Posted May 7, 2019 On 4/25/2019 at 2:36 PM, roamingguy said: Although not an issue for me being single, I can't envision a rational reason for a client wanting an outcall to his place if his wife/SO and/or kids...especially kids!!!...could be there. This is far worse than clients leaving contact info/texts from companions etc on their cell phones that their wives can find. This lifestyle is based on trust and discretion, such a scenario lacks both IMO. Frankly it strikes me as something dumb for a client to ask a companion to do. If you want to do an outcall get a hotel. If you can't afford a hotel either save your pennies...'er nickels LOL to afford a hotel or see a lady offering incalls. A rambling RG Sometimes clients are not forthcoming or truthful about others being in their outcall which in the past has presented me with very uncomfortable situations so I make sure they are alone or forfeit their deposit. 1 Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Victoria Phoenix 3403 Report post Posted May 13, 2019 I myself only go to a home if I have met the gent before, assured there is No one else there, I wouldn't go if there was. 1 Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Exotic Touch Danielle 31713 Report post Posted May 15, 2019 I prefer to only go to hotels as i can call and confirm first he is actually there and who he says he is..no private homes my safety is upmost important to me(unless we have met several times and I feel safe and comfortable with you) .. it's a no no for anyone else to be present during our time together 3 Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
winerdiner 61 Report post Posted May 15, 2019 (edited) I would never and I mean never put an SP in a situation where there is someone else in the home. I have no children and if I did, rest assured they would never be lurking about. I can't imagine any man or woman wanting that type of drama. I've had SP's visits at my home. It took some courage on both parts. I always tell my SP I have a dog just in case there is a phobia. That's how sensible I am Edited May 15, 2019 by winerdiner Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
winerdiner 61 Report post Posted May 15, 2019 On 5/7/2019 at 3:14 AM, Mature Angela said: Sometimes clients are not forthcoming or truthful about others being in their outcall which in the past has presented me with very uncomfortable situations so I make sure they are alone or forfeit their deposit. That really sucks! It's unfortunate that some are so untrustworthy and you found out the hard way BUT you found out and learned from the experience. There are good and bad gentlemen and good and bad ladies. Mostly, good gentlemen find good ladies by trial and error too 1 Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
winerdiner 61 Report post Posted May 15, 2019 To be honest, I've seen an SP who has children in her home. They're school age children and never there when we're together. If they were I would leave instantly Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Exotic Touch Danielle 31713 Report post Posted May 15, 2019 That would be sick if children were present during an encounter..i was more so speaking on another gentleman being there that's scary 3 Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
VioletSin 4 Report post Posted May 29, 2019 Myself I will only go to a clients home if we have met a few times at my home and we have established that they live alone. It is all for security purposes. I sometimes make exceptions for new clients if they are in a hotel where i can call them in the room and confirm first. 1 Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
katie 1337 Report post Posted May 29, 2019 On May 15, 2019 at 2:53 PM, winerdiner said: To be honest, I've seen an SP who has children in her home. They're school age children and never there when we're together. If they were I would leave instantly There are Sp's, that Will Still Host.. With Her Children Home! Weather, they are In Bed, Outside Playing, or "..... " I don't even want to say it. 😬... Yes, I know this for a Fact! Shame On Her.. But Double Shame on Him for Knowing and Still will Continue with the Encounter. I Just Can't Imagine Anything like that .. On Either Side! I Guess, it comes Down To Showing What Kind of People Both Are ... Sorry, if I Offend... But ... That's Just How I Feel... (Oh .. and The Law.) .. Yes, just thinking of this.. Gets me ... Boiling/Sicken.. 😮.. Outcalls, Yes... There are always Extra Concerns. Outcalls to Hotels, a bit less Concern.. Yes. Either 1 ... Most of us knows.. The Extra Precautions one has to take .. Offering them. (Most do..anyways) I Don't Offer Outcalls.... (Yes, unless it's discussed as a possibility during a Visit). Truthfully, I prefer most times not ... Enough though the Donation May be Higher .... Still not worth it the Extra ... Everything.. But That's just Myself Also.. 😚.. PS: Mind you the Outcalls I have Agreed too.... Was A lot of Fun ...😉.... And Never Ever if There is Anyone There.. Ever! That would be.. Just plain Insane! xoxo's 💋 Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Emma Alexandra 123367 Report post Posted May 30, 2019 I'm the same as Emily, I would have to know you very very well to go to your home. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Raquel Brooks 151 Report post Posted June 2, 2019 I've held off on commenting on this thread as the original post wasn't all that clear. The first time I read it, I took it to mean would an SP go to visit a house where it was obvious other people lived. I didn't think he meant there were people actually IN the house at the time of the call. Everything I'm addressing relates to the concept of nobody else but the client being at the location. I started with an Agency and most houses I went to, it was obvious other people lived there. But none of those people were home. Just the client. Nothing wrong with that, we know most Hobbyists have other people in their lives. As I started from that side of the business, going to an Outcall isn't that big of a deal to me at all. If they pass my other screening measures before the appointment, there's no qualms. That being said, having a trusted friend to do Call Out service is helpful when going to someone else's place. You just call them when you get there, tell them how long the appointment is, and they give you a time's up call back. Once out of the place, you call and let them know you're out OK. The entire time, the client knows if you DON'T do your 'everything is ok' call, someone else knows where you are and WILL send backup. The backup we used at the Agency, was the police! "If my boss doesn't hear from me, she WILL call the cops". Makes a lot of idiots behave really fast. This was never an issue for me, only one of our girls ever had to use that line. Would I go to an OutCall where other people WERE in the house? No. That's just not safe. If it's a sleeping child, they could wake up. Someone in another room, I'm not that good at being quiet at certain key points in an encounter 😉 So all around, if you're looking to book an SP and can't guarantee privacy, get a room ❤️ Raquel 1 Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Phaedrus 209521 Report post Posted June 2, 2019 2 hours ago, clearbluesky15 said: Why would one add more people / variables that increase risk of quite negative social and employment outcomes for both sp and client. Seems a high price vs finding a great incall or getting the ocasional room. Not sure i get the rationale. Some people might not think it through. Some might just not understand that it's a big deal. Some people might consider the risk acceptable, compared to the certainty of having to pay for a hotel room or something. And some people might consider the risk to be part of the fun. Irrespective of the reasons, this is one of the many things that providers need to be careful about. 1 Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
drlove 37204 Report post Posted June 3, 2019 On 6/2/2019 at 11:38 AM, clearbluesky15 said: Why would one add more people / variables that increase risk of quite negative social and employment outcomes for both sp and client. Seems a high price vs finding a great incall or getting the ocasional room. Not sure i get the rationale. Just guessing here, but some hobbyists may feel more comfortable with a lady coming to them. Incalls have their own pitfalls such as potential unwanted interaction / questions from the concierge or nosy, suspicious neighbours etc.. 1 Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Phaedrus 209521 Report post Posted June 8, 2019 On 6/3/2019 at 8:22 PM, drlove said: Just guessing here, but some hobbyists may feel more comfortable with a lady coming to them. Incalls have their own pitfalls such as potential unwanted interaction / questions from the concierge or nosy, suspicious neighbours etc.. You may be on to something here. I remember that horrible feeling as you go to someone's incall that you have a flashing neon sign over your head saying, "THIS GUY IS GOING TO SEE AN ESCORT!!!", and that paranoia never entirely goes away. I've learned to just ignore it and walk in like you'd go anywhere else, but it's entirely possible that it might ruin the experience for people to the extent that they're only comfortable in their own space. 2 Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
50 Shades Raven 31380 Report post Posted July 28, 2019 Going to someone’s home, I have to be assured they live alone ALL the time and that we’ve seen each other quite a number of times. The risk of going to a strange home is not worth my safety. I’m sure the guys feel the same way about coming to the space a provider has, but following instructions and walking in with a sense of where you are going will make the visit more pleasurable. Safety is a concern on both sides. 1 Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
NotchJohnson 214123 Report post Posted August 28, 2019 I would never ask a lady to come to my place and for many reasons. First, my house is my home, my wife lives here and even if I'm 200% sure she will not be there I would not invite a lady over, even if we have seen each other many times. Second, I'm not worried about the neighbors finding out because they are far from my house and my family will not visit before calling first. Third, I do not have cameras in the house but I have 8 cameras around the outside of my house, my wife can check the recording at any time. She has been checking out when the delivery guy comes over to drop off parcels and even can talk to him while he is at the front door through the intercom, and that even when she may be out shopping. Fourth, when she is away and ask me to go and let the dog out for her routine potty she will review the recording and see how long I was there and see what the dog did while I was with her, if I picked up the poop etc... So she can definitely see the person that comes over and how long she would be in the house for. And to be quite honest simply the first reason would be enough for me to not have a lady do a outcall to my house. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Meg O'Ryan 266444 Report post Posted August 28, 2019 I simply do not offer outcalls. I am far more comfortable in my own surroundings which means we will both have a better time! I tend to shepherd my guest to the room and they have full access to the bathroom. The rest of my home is off limits as it is my home where I spend time with family and friends. I get annoyed when people ask if they can look around. I don't feel comfortable enough to go on an outcall to someone's home. I do sometimes consider a hotel however if the person is from out of town. I feel that if you are local and can't be bothered to come to my incall I probably wouldn't get a long with you. Cheers all! 1 Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Alexia Woodroe 0 Report post Posted September 4, 2019 Knowing that people in this industry are married, in relationships, and do have children or parents that they care for Im sure there are workers who would gladly make a house call 🙂 As for the rest, I would never judge another escort for making choices around her safety. Survival based workers and workers with addictions may choose to take on more risks, while a worker with significant social/ financial capital and or privilege might be able to be successful taking minimal to no risk. Its quite disheartening to read the comments of finger waggers judging other workers Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
KylaAnderson 41 Report post Posted October 4, 2019 I did see a man who had a roommate and but he warned before I showed up. He also said that if it made me uncomfortable I could leave Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites