etiquette Incall Etiquette

[StephanieMystique 1892]

I am feeling the need to have a refresher for those that have visited an incall before and to those that are new. 

I have had a few people recently not respect the safety and privacy when it comes to my incall location both as I am traveling and here at home. I am hoping to put this out publicly to help everyone can maintain discretion and safety for all parties involved. 

 

Personal, Professional, Private Incall

Every provider has their own way that makes them feel safe and be able to provide the best situation for all parties involved. These are items that reflect my preferences. 

 

Communication is key.

Follow how the provider wants to be communicated with, i.e. text, phone call, email, ect. 
Follow every direction they give you to a T.  We do our research and give you the best way to maintain privacy and discretion for you and the provider. 

After the booking has been confirmed; not before, an address or location near to the incall will be given to allow you to make your way close by. A rough neighbourhood, or intersection of the location may be given before hand to judge timing on arrival (given this is a short notice appointment).
Communicate that you have arrived. 
The next step if there is one, will be the location and parking instructions if any are needed.
DO NOT approach the building till you are communicated to do so. They may need a moment to finish getting ready, or finish setting up a request. 

If you have been to the location many times before, DO NOT, approach the building until communicated to do so. 

If you are early, let them know but do not expect to come in till your expected time. 

The best way to enter the building details will be given; A buzz code, apartment number, door to knock on, ect. I like to add in how to go to elevators and where to go off of them to make it seem more like you know where you are going. 

If you happen to get into the building without buzzing, please let the provider know. 

Please knock softly in a large building. The provider is normally waiting on the other side of the door, keeping an eye out for you. We don't want to alert the neighbours to the coming of you or us. 

Please fully come into the place to allow the provider to close the door. Depending how we dress to greet clients or requests asked for, we may not be able to greet you normally. Save all the good stuff for when the doors are closed. 

DO NOT EVER EVER EVER! show up unannounced at a providers door. Schedule your time with your provider always. If you have a reoccurring date with them, always confirm before hand. Evening before or morning of date is best. We all have lives outside of this and wish to maintain discretion for everyone.

Do not speak to any building staff or management. Do not communicate why you are there with anyone. Maintain the high honour of the awkward elevator silence at all times, okay maybe conversations of the weather is okay. 

ABOVE ALL remember; safety, privacy and discretion is important for all. Most of us do our very best to be able to maintain that for everyone. Please do your part so we can all continue enjoying the fun we get to have.

 

Hotel, AirBnB, commercial space

Much to the same as above but a few differences. 

Follow how the provider wants to be communicated with, i.e. text, phone call, email, ect. 
Follow every direction they give you to a T.  We do our research and give you the best way to maintain privacy and discretion for you and the provider.
If the provider is using a hotel. DO NOT ask which hotel. For safety of both parties. We don't broadcast which hotel we are staying in. We will give near by intersection or location to be able to arrive 5 to 10 mins to location.
Once the appointment is confirmed, the hotel I am at will be given, along with parking instructions if needed. 

Communicate when you've arrive. Depending on the hotel, I would highly suggest staying outside until given the okay to come in. I have been to a few that you would get lost in the lobby they are so big and busy. Those are okay to wait inside. 
Stay away from the front desk. DO NOT speak with anyone at the front desk or other staff members of the hotel. As we like to refer to it; You are a ghost to the building. You are there but not known to be there. 

Communication will be given to elevators and room number when the provider is ready for you. 

Please knock softly. Depending on the housekeeping location, some providers may have the door ajar for you. This will be noted in communication.
Please fully come into the space to allow the provider to close the door. Depending how we dress to greet clients or requests asked for, we may not be able to greet you normally. Save all the good stuff for when the doors are closed. 
Do not lock the door. The key card and Do not disturb sign is enough. This is safety for both parties. 

Please be as clean as possible. This isn't our space, we may not be able to use hundreds of towels or change of sheets as needed. 

There maybe special exit instructions for smaller hotel locations. This may be given in person or with the parking instructions.

ABOVE ALL remember; safety, privacy and discretion is important for all. Most of us do our very best to be able to maintain that for everyone.  

 

 

I personally reverse this for outcalls and maintain communication as much as possible with my ETA, when I have arrived and when I am on my way up. Communication gives everyone peace of mind and allows us to feel safe. 

 

Providers; if there is anything you would personally like to add to this please do. 

Clients; if there is anything you like to add or have a question about please share. If you prefer to PM, you are welcome to. 

 

Please excuse any spelling and grammar errors. 

 

I hope this helps everyone. 
Stephanie ❤️ 

[drlove 37204]

Excellent advice, and very well articulated! 

[NotchJohnson 214123]

Before walking into an establishment (hotel mainly and apartment building) you should walk in like you belong there, not as if you are lost.  This is why it's best to get instructions from the provider on where are the elevators and which floor to go to, and that is always given at the last minute.  If you walk by the front desk do not look at the people standing behind it because they will ask if they can help you, what would you say "I'm looking for miss____XXX the porn actress...can you tell me which room she is in?"

[RayRenpelle 429]

Thank you Stephanie! Very well written and you convey the message perfectly. It is almost exactly what I have been doing as a client. If I know the location already, as a repeat client, I do not go near the location until almost time for my visit. If I am too early( my arrival depends a lot on highway conditions) I will find a non-descript location like a store or mall parking lot and wait there till the right time. You are right, safety and privacy are important! Again thank you!

[KylieJane 5044]

On 1/7/2020 at 8:53 PM, StephanieMystique said:

I am feeling the need to have a refresher for those that have visited an incall before and to those that are new. 

I have had a few people recently not respect the safety and privacy when it comes to my incall location both as I am traveling and here at home. I am hoping to put this out publicly to help everyone can maintain discretion and safety for all parties involved. 

 

Personal, Professional, Private Incall

Every provider has their own way that makes them feel safe and be able to provide the best situation for all parties involved. These are items that reflect my preferences. 

 

Communication is key.

Follow how the provider wants to be communicated with, i.e. text, phone call, email, ect. 
Follow every direction they give you to a T.  We do our research and give you the best way to maintain privacy and discretion for you and the provider. 

After the booking has been confirmed; not before, an address or location near to the incall will be given to allow you to make your way close by. A rough neighbourhood, or intersection of the location may be given before hand to judge timing on arrival (given this is a short notice appointment).
Communicate that you have arrived. 
The next step if there is one, will be the location and parking instructions if any are needed.
DO NOT approach the building till you are communicated to do so. They may need a moment to finish getting ready, or finish setting up a request. 

If you have been to the location many times before, DO NOT, approach the building until communicated to do so. 

If you are early, let them know but do not expect to come in till your expected time. 

The best way to enter the building details will be given; A buzz code, apartment number, door to knock on, ect. I like to add in how to go to elevators and where to go off of them to make it seem more like you know where you are going. 

If you happen to get into the building without buzzing, please let the provider know. 

Please knock softly in a large building. The provider is normally waiting on the other side of the door, keeping an eye out for you. We don't want to alert the neighbours to the coming of you or us. 

Please fully come into the place to allow the provider to close the door. Depending how we dress to greet clients or requests asked for, we may not be able to greet you normally. Save all the good stuff for when the doors are closed. 

DO NOT EVER EVER EVER! show up unannounced at a providers door. Schedule your time with your provider always. If you have a reoccurring date with them, always confirm before hand. Evening before or morning of date is best. We all have lives outside of this and wish to maintain discretion for everyone.

Do not speak to any building staff or management. Do not communicate why you are there with anyone. Maintain the high honour of the awkward elevator silence at all times, okay maybe conversations of the weather is okay. 

ABOVE ALL remember; safety, privacy and discretion is important for all. Most of us do our very best to be able to maintain that for everyone. Please do your part so we can all continue enjoying the fun we get to have.

 

Hotel, AirBnB, commercial space

Much to the same as above but a few differences. 

Follow how the provider wants to be communicated with, i.e. text, phone call, email, ect. 
Follow every direction they give you to a T.  We do our research and give you the best way to maintain privacy and discretion for you and the provider.
If the provider is using a hotel. DO NOT ask which hotel. For safety of both parties. We don't broadcast which hotel we are staying in. We will give near by intersection or location to be able to arrive 5 to 10 mins to location.
Once the appointment is confirmed, the hotel I am at will be given, along with parking instructions if needed. 

Communicate when you've arrive. Depending on the hotel, I would highly suggest staying outside until given the okay to come in. I have been to a few that you would get lost in the lobby they are so big and busy. Those are okay to wait inside. 
Stay away from the front desk. DO NOT speak with anyone at the front desk or other staff members of the hotel. As we like to refer to it; You are a ghost to the building. You are there but not known to be there. 

Communication will be given to elevators and room number when the provider is ready for you. 

Please knock softly. Depending on the housekeeping location, some providers may have the door ajar for you. This will be noted in communication.
Please fully come into the space to allow the provider to close the door. Depending how we dress to greet clients or requests asked for, we may not be able to greet you normally. Save all the good stuff for when the doors are closed. 
Do not lock the door. The key card and Do not disturb sign is enough. This is safety for both parties. 

Please be as clean as possible. This isn't our space, we may not be able to use hundreds of towels or change of sheets as needed. 

There maybe special exit instructions for smaller hotel locations. This may be given in person or with the parking instructions.

ABOVE ALL remember; safety, privacy and discretion is important for all. Most of us do our very best to be able to maintain that for everyone.  

 

 

I personally reverse this for outcalls and maintain communication as much as possible with my ETA, when I have arrived and when I am on my way up. Communication gives everyone peace of mind and allows us to feel safe. 

 

Providers; if there is anything you would personally like to add to this please do. 

Clients; if there is anything you like to add or have a question about please share. If you prefer to PM, you are welcome to. 

 

Please excuse any spelling and grammar errors. 

 

I hope this helps everyone. 
Stephanie ❤️ 

So well done Steph, you laid it out perfectly my friend, i hope it's paid attention to, xo. 

[katie 1337]

4 hours ago, RayRenpelle said:

Thank you Stephanie! Very well written and you convey the message perfectly. It is almost exactly what I have been doing as a client. If I know the location already, as a repeat client, I do not go near the location until almost time for my visit. If I am too early( my arrival depends a lot on highway conditions) I will find a non-descript location like a store or mall parking lot and wait there till the right time. You are right, safety and privacy are important! Again thank you!

 Your Great  saying this also! 😘

As a repeat Special Friend (Client), your aware of this Paticular Service Providers Protocol, and still follows it with most likely Maybe a bit directions but still doing the "I'm Close" are you ready.. Which is perfect. Safety and Discretion is 100% 💋

[katie 1337]

"Stephanie", This was so well said! 😘

I'd also like to Add a little something. It's actually not really "Little".. This is Huge, (to myself) and to others.. Mind you we all have our own "Protocols" too. 

"A Phone Call To Confirm" .. "No App Number" .. No Blocked or Private Numbers" 

I Understand that the Reasoning behind these "App Numbers" I Really Do. Maybe, some have had "Bad Experiences","Have Been Blackmailed", "Your Discretion was not Kept", "Unexpected Texts or Phone Calls from a Provider"... Gosh Knows I know there more! Please, keep in Mind the "You Can't Use the Same Brush To Paint Us (Service Providers) All! 

"A Phone Call to Confirm".. With Some (Service Providers) only a Phone Call is Used For Everything. 

Phone Call to Confirm, Weeds out the "WOTS", the Aholes that like to play games. Weather it's "Fake Booking","Collecting Address", ect.. ect... ect... (There's lots more). Most Aholes, that play this game.. Doesn't want to talk to you.. Hide behind Text.. I guess. 

I could make this longer but I'll spare you all.. Haha.. Most Will Understand, Although some will still no.. And I'm Sorry for that. 

Service Providers use Certain Procedures for "Safety & Discretion"

Service Providers aren't trying to make things more difficult, nor are Bichhhy... We Have These For A Reason.. "For Our Safety & Discertion AND Yours"!! 😘

So, Yes.. It seems to be a lot in all.. but it's Not.. When said and done. 

For Myself, if "The Protocols Aren't Followed For a SAFE & DISCRETE Date.. My DNR List Gets 1 More. 

If Someone Can't Follow The Rules Outside.. Then They Aren't Going To Like Following The Rules Inside .. 

To The Ones That Follow The Rules... Your Great Dates.. 😉.. 

Katie xoxo's 💋 

 

[Sharpe 771]

Thanks for this summary.  Lots of good information here

[Katherine of Halifax 113932]

On 1/7/2020 at 8:53 PM, StephanieMystique said:

I am feeling the need to have a refresher for those that have visited an incall before and to those that are new. 

I have had a few people recently not respect the safety and privacy when it comes to my incall location both as I am traveling and here at home. I am hoping to put this out publicly to help everyone can maintain discretion and safety for all parties involved. 

 

Personal, Professional, Private Incall

Every provider has their own way that makes them feel safe and be able to provide the best situation for all parties involved. These are items that reflect my preferences. 

 

Communication is key.

Follow how the provider wants to be communicated with, i.e. text, phone call, email, ect. 
Follow every direction they give you to a T.  We do our research and give you the best way to maintain privacy and discretion for you and the provider. 

After the booking has been confirmed; not before, an address or location near to the incall will be given to allow you to make your way close by. A rough neighbourhood, or intersection of the location may be given before hand to judge timing on arrival (given this is a short notice appointment).
Communicate that you have arrived. 
The next step if there is one, will be the location and parking instructions if any are needed.
DO NOT approach the building till you are communicated to do so. They may need a moment to finish getting ready, or finish setting up a request. 

If you have been to the location many times before, DO NOT, approach the building until communicated to do so. 

If you are early, let them know but do not expect to come in till your expected time. 

The best way to enter the building details will be given; A buzz code, apartment number, door to knock on, ect. I like to add in how to go to elevators and where to go off of them to make it seem more like you know where you are going. 

If you happen to get into the building without buzzing, please let the provider know. 

Please knock softly in a large building. The provider is normally waiting on the other side of the door, keeping an eye out for you. We don't want to alert the neighbours to the coming of you or us. 

Please fully come into the place to allow the provider to close the door. Depending how we dress to greet clients or requests asked for, we may not be able to greet you normally. Save all the good stuff for when the doors are closed. 

DO NOT EVER EVER EVER! show up unannounced at a providers door. Schedule your time with your provider always. If you have a reoccurring date with them, always confirm before hand. Evening before or morning of date is best. We all have lives outside of this and wish to maintain discretion for everyone.

Do not speak to any building staff or management. Do not communicate why you are there with anyone. Maintain the high honour of the awkward elevator silence at all times, okay maybe conversations of the weather is okay. 

ABOVE ALL remember; safety, privacy and discretion is important for all. Most of us do our very best to be able to maintain that for everyone. Please do your part so we can all continue enjoying the fun we get to have.

 

Hotel, AirBnB, commercial space

Much to the same as above but a few differences. 

Follow how the provider wants to be communicated with, i.e. text, phone call, email, ect. 
Follow every direction they give you to a T.  We do our research and give you the best way to maintain privacy and discretion for you and the provider.
If the provider is using a hotel. DO NOT ask which hotel. For safety of both parties. We don't broadcast which hotel we are staying in. We will give near by intersection or location to be able to arrive 5 to 10 mins to location.
Once the appointment is confirmed, the hotel I am at will be given, along with parking instructions if needed. 

Communicate when you've arrive. Depending on the hotel, I would highly suggest staying outside until given the okay to come in. I have been to a few that you would get lost in the lobby they are so big and busy. Those are okay to wait inside. 
Stay away from the front desk. DO NOT speak with anyone at the front desk or other staff members of the hotel. As we like to refer to it; You are a ghost to the building. You are there but not known to be there. 

Communication will be given to elevators and room number when the provider is ready for you. 

Please knock softly. Depending on the housekeeping location, some providers may have the door ajar for you. This will be noted in communication.
Please fully come into the space to allow the provider to close the door. Depending how we dress to greet clients or requests asked for, we may not be able to greet you normally. Save all the good stuff for when the doors are closed. 
Do not lock the door. The key card and Do not disturb sign is enough. This is safety for both parties. 

Please be as clean as possible. This isn't our space, we may not be able to use hundreds of towels or change of sheets as needed. 

There maybe special exit instructions for smaller hotel locations. This may be given in person or with the parking instructions.

ABOVE ALL remember; safety, privacy and discretion is important for all. Most of us do our very best to be able to maintain that for everyone.  

 

 

I personally reverse this for outcalls and maintain communication as much as possible with my ETA, when I have arrived and when I am on my way up. Communication gives everyone peace of mind and allows us to feel safe. 

 

Providers; if there is anything you would personally like to add to this please do. 

Clients; if there is anything you like to add or have a question about please share. If you prefer to PM, you are welcome to. 

 

Please excuse any spelling and grammar errors. 

 

I hope this helps everyone. 
Stephanie ❤️ 

Awesome reminder and so important!!

[Archangael 323]

Excellent post Stephanie!  I thought that this should be fairly straightforward and common practice that folks would normally be doing this anyways.  But that you have to point it out, really must mean that there are some hobbyists that need to learn basic principles of this business.  So definitely good on you, to lay down the ground rules so that everyone knows what they are doing!

I definitely like how you say that we are a ghost.  Indeed, you want to be on super stealth mode.  I don't want to at any moment bring attention to myself.

I would add that for a hotel, always act as if you are staying there, and are just returning to your room.  And if it is a private home or apartment act as if you are visiting an old friend and have been there before.

And probably always act cool and chill, and remember to keep your distance.  As Han Solo once said, "Fly casual."

[StephanieMystique 1892]

Bumping

as we seem to need a reminder of how to maintain discretion and safety for providers and clients. 

[StephanieMystique 1892]

Bumping for the benefit of new people. 

Firing clients for not maintaining the safety and discretion for incall is not fun.