Date Etiquette

[swampgas 838]

So, I've got a question about... date etiquette I guess you could call it, but first a quick story. I arrive at the escorts in-call freshly showered, well groomed and nicely dressed. I lay my envelop on the table and we sit to chat... and chat, and chat, and my time is up and I'm out the door. This has never happened to me before and I was kinda gobsmacked.

1. Guess that I'm to take from this that she didn't want to get intimate with me?  I always follow the ladies lead... clearly.
2. Is this normal, okay, should she have just asked me to leave?

Anyway, just thought that was odd and want to know if it's ever happened to anyone else.

[Guest]

    Not knowing what was agreed on, it's hard to say if she took advantage of you or simply assumed you only wanted to talk. The time you pay is yours. And as long you respect her rules and restrictions, you can do what you want during that period.

    It's not her responsibility to tell you to stop the chit-chat and get down to business. If you didn't kept track of time and didn't do anything, she's shouldn't be blamed.

[katie 1337]

Well, I don't know. 🤔.... I'm going to Disagree. Greeting you at the Door, have a seat with some Chit Chat, Yes of Course. However, She could of moved the meeting along into the other room. I'm thinking if Someone was Booking a Meeting to "Converse Only", that would of been said When the meeting was being arranged. I'm going to say that Very Nice (is one way I can put it) how that went. "The Lady can take the Lead.. With the Gent Following." 

Just my Opinion 😘

[Guest]

  To be clear, I don't say this is typical. As we don't know what was said, agreed on and the circumstances, it's hard to say if intentional or simple misunderstanding.

  If in the first minutes he doesn't hint or mention he want's to get confortable, it's not her responsibility to remind him. Again, it's his time. And if he doesn't look concerned that 15, 30 or 45 minutes have passed, not sure why she should be. Even if this was intentional from her part, it's quite hard to pull off without him playing along with it.

  The only circumstances I seen where my time was abused/robbed, was with hour sessions where I was pushed out the door after only 20 to 30 minutes. But I never been in a situation where I completely missed the boat. 

[swampgas 838]

I’m certain that expectations were clear. She did send me an email apologizing for loosing track of time, but I’ve still got an itch to scratch and no cash. Anyway, chalking it up to lessons learned. Think I’ll stick to MA’s at spas after this experience.

[West End Tara 12]

I'm always suspicious of men who just want to sit and "chat awhile" especially after I told them to put their things on this chair and they sit in it instead and ask if they can chat a few moments and haven't paid me yet.  Once they pay me, I expect them to do as I asked them to.  If they don't it usually means they are trying to get more services than was agreed to on the phone and not pay anything extra or they are trying to obtain personal information from me that is none of their business.  (how many clients do you see in a day, do you have kids etc.)

Discussions about services on the menu for the money being paid needs to be done prior to the booking so any chit chat can be done as the booking is in progress otherwise the man has to expect it will come out of the time he booked and not that the SP is going to give him additional time once the chit chat is over.  Mostly it's door to door for the time booked otherwise it would be next to impossible for her to schedule her own time around his booking.

 

[Penultimate 0]

I can easily see how I would permit/tolerate an initial chat occupying the entire time slot. I am far too agreeable and would almost rather die than offend or scandalize anyone.

[SarahAlexxx 2025]

I've gotten lost in conversation many times. If you were both enjoying yourself, than whats wrong with the picture?

In reality, you're paying for time... not services. So, if you dont take the lead, or mention you're unhappy, I'm going to assume you're having a great time. You can move the session as you desire. 

Many folks have asked me if they can just chat. Sometimes thats the beauty of this life..  you expect to get services, but once you're there... you realize you actually need to vent, cry, chat, ect... I wouldnt say it was bad services, just someone who values conversation over intimacy.

Next time, suggest moving the session to another room, or ask for a kiss, ect... simple solution. 

[waterat 20911]

4 hours ago, SarahAlexxx said:

I've gotten lost in conversation many times. If you were both enjoying yourself, than whats wrong with the picture?

You're right on point here. SarahAlexxx, I've often admitted to providers that I would leave happy if they ended the session after our glass of wine and chat. They've never asked that and I never take advantage of their generosity and always respect their time. A conversation with an open minded, thoughtful woman is just as attractive and satifying as wild sex!

Both parties need to communicate their expectations. 

Communication: the cause and solution to all the world's problems. 

[Phaedrus 209521]

On 7/2/2020 at 10:39 PM, SarahAlexxx said:

Next time, suggest moving the session to another room, or ask for a kiss, ect... simple solution. 

 

Although it's probably not great to do that immediately after you walk in the door :)

 

On 7/3/2020 at 2:56 AM, waterat said:

Communication: the cause and solution to all the world's problems. 

As a wise man once said, the biggest problem in communication is the illusion that it has taken place.

[West End Tara 12]

They can talk all they want to AFTER they pay me.   Too often the "chat request" coming before payment is nothing more than  an attempt to lowball you for a lower rate or to get you to include services that are only included in a more expensive package.   Services included are always discussed by phone before a booking is made so any chatting they want to do becomes part of their time at their expense, not mine.  Few things are more annoying than spending ten minutes convincing Mr. Nervous Joe that he should not feel guilty about the girlfriend while seeing you, only to have him change his mind about booking you, then leaves.    Good luck getting any kind of "cancellation fee".