GFE details please

[Guest ***t***iv***]

I know GFE means 'girl friend experience' but what does that mean, most commonly?

I've heard it describe several different things but so far all I can figure is that it means something different to everyone but, what does GFE generally include?

If people reading this would give their Point Of View on the GFE, that would help me figure out what it means to most people, and if I offer that as a SP, too!

[samcro 63]

GFE usually means LFK or DFK along with bbbj

[Guest f***2f***]

this has been covered before....it does mean different things to different people but it generally seems to mean, LFK or DFK, DATY, bbbj, msog, generally everything you'd expect to do with a girl friend but not FS BB....

 

It seems to be the industry standard. Not many guys are content with a mechanical, "lay there and take it for the team" approach...that would be the WE Wife Experience!

[jimbean 101]

Wife experience..hehe...starts Monday off with a smile...thanks for the post...J

[Megan'sTouch 23875]

Ask the lady in question.

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[roamingguy 300292]

For me at least, it's more than the services, it's the social interpersonal connection made between the lady and yourself.

Anyone can provide services, but fewer can provide the social interpersonal connection.

Some quick thoughts before I go to work

RG

[etasman2000 15994]

GFE isn't just a list of services nor does it imply uncovered services either. Although some people use the term 'safe' GFE for everything covered, some GFE providers insist on a covered BJ yet willing to receive an uncovered DATY. I've even met a GFE SP who would do everything uncovered (except FS of course) but will not kiss ever.

 

Lets face it GF in real life aren't all alike, some don't care for deep french kissing, others love going down on their BF, some (yes they are out there!) love anal and the list goes on.

 

What is common though (or I hope would be common) with all GF is the sense of connection between two people. This connection can occur via physical contact (cuddling, foreplay), talking, teasing and whatever else floats your boat.

 

Bottom line, it is up to you to decide where your boundaries are and what you mean by GFE. Forget about what it means to most people....you are the one providing the service, what does it mean to you?

 

If people reading this would give their Point Of View on the GFE, that would help me figure out what it means to most people, and if I offer that as a SP, too!

[roamingguy 300292]

I know GFE means 'girl friend experience' but what does that mean, most commonly?

I've heard it describe several different things but so far all I can figure is that it means something different to everyone but, what does GFE generally include?

If people reading this would give their Point Of View on the GFE, that would help me figure out what it means to most people, and if I offer that as a SP, too!

 

Well I'll add a few more insights, mostly along the same lines as my morning post. To me, gfe means the lady you are meeting behaves like your girlfriend. It begins before any clothes are removed. The ladies that stand out in my mind and memory are ones that when they came to my hotel room, we sat down on the couch, carried on a conversation, had a real social/interpersonal interaction. When the sexual side of the encounter came, you were having sex with someone you know, not some anonymous stranger. And the encounter if it is good or great, isn't just a time you remember, it becomes one of your memories.

And the gfe develops if you see the same lady again. I saw one of my favorite ladies on Saturday for another encounter, and it has become a more intimate and personal time than the first time we met, it is fair to say we are friends within the confines of the sp/client releationship (no, I'm not going to meet her parents, she's not meeting mine, we both know the boundriesLOL)

I don't know if this make sense or if it helps, but an evening rambling

RG

[Capital Hunter 18263]

This recent thread posted in Ottawa section may help you out sugar Kayne.

 

http://www.cerb.ca/vbulletin/showthread.php?t=52545

[samcro 63]

I have to agree with face to face

That is the standard in GFE experience I have had with other SPs

 

Although roamingguy adds a few good points

[Guest ***t***iv***]

just a quick thanks to all who shared their thoughts on my question.

I appreciate that you took the time to answer a repeat post also.

special thanks to etasman for showing a caring side to his response.

and to secretadmirer:im checking out that post right now,thx for sharing the link

u guys r all great!

[samcro 63]

Hey Sugar

 

What does GFE mean to you?

[Angeltbay 612]

i would suggest you do what you are comortable with doing regarding GFE, ive read these posts, and i dont think that is really standard GFE for this city, things like BBBJ is more like PSE i would think, and even with both there is no right or wrong. You need to figure out what you think GFE is for yourself, not what people tell you it is. Perhaps in your ad you could state that you offer GFE, and what your version of it entails.

[jimbean 101]

Wow....GFE...been reading the thread...even contacted a couple of ladies...forgive my ignorance...Girl Friend Experience...as a man who has only experienced the pleasure of a very few...sp's.....my opinion may be relevant or not....the SP's that I have had the pleasure of...have made me feel like a man...interpret that anyway you want. GFE...make me feel like all is well on planet earth...I smile when you come in...I smile when you leave....thats GFE..to me...just a guy who appreciates what you do...and what you do for me...thank you...JB

[samcro 63]

I've dated a few girls

I don't think a girlfriend has ever given me a cbj

Its GFE

For Girl Friend Experience

 

If an SP doesnt want to do GFE

Then don't advertise it

Not a big deal

What SPs do is false advertise to get the booking

Then not delivery

[cat 262460]

GFE DOES NOT INDICATE SERVICES AVAILABLE.

I REPEAT...GFE DOES NOT INDICATE SERVICES AVAILABLE.

Now I have your attention, I would like to clarify that GFE does not indicate services available but the attitude and feel of the experience you will have. A GFE will come in and be glad to see you, she will be warm in her attitude and ensure you feel like she is a girlfriend. It DOES NOT MEAN ANY UNPROTECTED SERVICES OR ANYTHING THAT MAY COMPROMISE HER HEALTH AND SAFETY.

http://www.cerb.ca/vbulletin/showthread.php?t=52545 as SA mentions....

Just sos ya know...

cat

[Guest ***t***iv***]

I have asked for others thoughts so that I could draw my own conclusion, as stated in my request for information. and thanks to everyone who shared their opinions and experiences, I was able to determine the type of GFE I provide.

 

the true GFE, which to me is about the interaction, not the type of services offered, is by definition something I have always provided to my clients. after reading all the posts I could find on the subject, I realized that I do provide the 'true' GFE, even though safety is always my first priority regarding types of services offered.

 

bottom line is, I agree 100% with cat's post. It is not about type of services offered, but simply encompasses the feel of the interaction as being genuine; with feeling, caring and sharing happening between two people. Thats what GFE means to me my loves. ;)

[Guest t**obb****]

GFE is an advertisement of a style of service indeed intended to separate your service offering from what would be considered standard, aiming to attract a specific style of client.

 

PSE (Porn Star Experience) is also intended to advertise, and attract a style of client.

 

Take a look at Emily Rushton's ads. GFE not PSE.

VictoriaJolie GFE, PSE and more.

 

I think the best thing about cerb is that a commonly used acronym can catch your attention, an add can wet your appetite, and the recommendations can encourage you to contact the SP who will best meet your needs with their services.

 

Of course as cat mentioned, a pm will answer most questions or clarify the offering, but it doesn't hurt to explain what you mean (as samcro mentioned)

[roamingguy 300292]

A few further thoughts. There are a few ladies I have met that I would catagorize as GFE. Some ladies are ladies I want and will see again

But something wonderful happens when you meet a lady, that you repeat with. Just had my third encounter with a great lady, and it becomes less of the lady providing a GFE experience, and more a natural encounter with two friends. Certain things take place in an encounter, on the business side. For example, the lady counts her money, bottles are sealed (no matter what I always keep bottles sealed), she watches her possessions (ie purse etc)

Well this lady and I have developed a rapport and trust naturally. She said she didn't even notice if the wine bottle was sealed or not, she trusted me.

And when she used the washroom, her purse was left out in the room, because she trusted me, and she took the envelope of money without checking to see if the money was all there.

And this lady is an experienced SP, not a rookie. In fact she is semi retired, and only sees a few clients now

My point is that the GFE can develop with a lady/gentleman from a service provided, to two friends meeting "within the confines of the SP/Client relationship more as intimate partners than SP/Client. Kinda hard to word, because underlying this is a SP/Client relationship, but it is one where the SP/Client are intimate friends

RG

[TBayBoy 265]

Jumping in here:

 

In a recent professionally conducted survey 42.9% of the service users reported being victimized by service providers in the form of not receiving services paid for.

 

Now before everyone sets me on fire, if we look at that number and this discussion thread, maybe the real problem is the "self defined" GFE term.

 

Maybe if there were standards to the definition, this 42.9% would drastically drop and the gap in understanding would shrink.

 

I can't advertise my services inaccurately. Many SP's are very open and honest about their services and experience, but many others are making it harder for the honest quality to shine.

 

I guess the bullet point I'm trying to make, is the SP's that are making up their own definitions and rules are ruining it for the rest.

 

OK, asbestos undies on, flame away :)

[etasman2000 15994]

I guess the bullet point I'm trying to make, is the SP's that are making up their own definitions and rules are ruining it for the rest.

 

There is no standard definition because every SP is within her means and rights to define it as she so pleases. The service offering is something each SP has to individually and personally decide if they are comfortable with it.

 

It is up you, the client, to make sure she is offering what you are looking for.

 

Caveat emptor.

[Rob01 170]

just throwing my 0.02 in

I hate to use this as a comparison but it's been a long day and I'm tired.

Some say gfe is an attitude ... yes but when it is used to describe services offered there should be an industry standard. The "service" is after all what most of us are there for so a standard title makes sence.

I hit the drive through for a sandwich I know whats on that sucker when I order it, "2 all beef patties special sauce cheese lettuce onions on a sesame seed bun and it's the same every time, you know what your getting, thats why you order it.

Personally I think gfe is the same thing, just like ordering off a menue and expecting to get what you order. I have never had a cbj from a gf.

I have to wonder if competition within the industry is forcing the providers to call thier service gfe in order to compete with the other sp's that are true gfe providers. I'm thinking sp's should offer what they offer and call it what it is safe or covered gfe and true gfe.

[roamingguy 300292]

just throwing my 0.02 in

I hate to use this as a comparison but it's been a long day and I'm tired.

Some say gfe is an attitude ... yes but when it is used to describe services offered there should be an industry standard. The "service" is after all what most of us are there for so a standard title makes sence.

I hit the drive through for a sandwich I know whats on that sucker when I order it, "2 all beef patties special sauce cheese lettuce onions on a sesame seed bun and it's the same every time, you know what your getting, thats why you order it.

Personally I think gfe is the same thing, just like ordering off a menue and expecting to get what you order. I have never had a cbj from a gf.

I have to wonder if competition within the industry is forcing the providers to call thier service gfe in order to compete with the other sp's that are true gfe providers. I'm thinking sp's should offer what they offer and call it what it is safe or covered gfe and true gfe.

 

The best encounters I have had, have unfolded naturally, and not focused on just the so called menu, nor was there a pre arranged script of activities.

I think the GFE is more about the interpersonal/social aspects of the encounter (and definitely chemistry between both the lady and gentleman, and the ymmv factor)...and when both the lady and gentleman click, well the sexual side becomes more than a impersonal physical activity between two people. And for me at least, the GFE begins when the lady arrives, and even before clothes come off

As for a menu, well one well known lady doesn't have a menu, at all, but offers a great and memorable GFE.

For me, there is only one menu item essential for a GFE, and that is kissing

Some more thoughts

RG

[April Dawn 12207]

Well I will chime in here. I have had boyfriends that I have given blowjobs with flavored condoms on. Trying to force women to do things that make then uncomfortable based on the stereotype that a "real" girlfriend would do that is absurd. Its all about health, safety and the woman comfort. That goes for ALL women not just SP's.

Each person is different. If I was to offer a "true" girlfriend experience that would entail backrubs for me, lots of cuddles and a total focus on me. As a girlfriend I am totally selfish!! As April Dawn I am focused on your needs, desires and making your fantasy come true. Every woman is different and just because some civilian girlfriend will do something doesn't mean another will preform the same service.

A gfe to me is about making my visitor feel comfortable, to create an air of normalicy, ease of conversation and basically have it feel natural, unrushed and personal.

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[PistolPete 61421]

To be quite frank, the term GFE means squat to me. I have met ladies(quite a few I guess ;) ), and services offered are entirely different with all ladies, and there is a very broad range that can be offered pending on the lady you seek out.

 

Getting that extra touch with lady all really depends on any gentleman's behavior,attitude,personality and how he respects the lady during the encounter.

 

I just ask the question now-"what services do you not provide". If she tells me or advertises that she won't kiss, then I move on. For me that who is seeking a lady, my preference is being intimate, that would mean kissing to DFK as I thoroughly enjoy this part of a date.

 

So WE SAY GFE how about.... Girl Intimate Encounters as intimate is defined

 

(as intimate relationship is a particularly close interpersonal relationship, and the term is sometimes used euphemistically for a sexual relationship)

 

Isn't that why we are seeking a lady for a sexual relationship? of course based on time spent either an hour or two with monies exchanged for her time. :)