What interviews would you like to see?

[SarahAlexxx 2025]

On 9/15/2020 at 11:54 AM, lydiahardwood said:

I've had a thought. Could do one on toxic review board culture. I see a lot of people talking about that and I think it would be a great opportunity for us to talk about how *not* to be misogynistic when reviewing/recommending Providers. Thoughts? Any takers? 😛 

This. I vote. 

[waterat 20911]

54 minutes ago, SarahAlexxx said:

This. I vote. 

Sarah I agree with you and also agree that Lydia's idea is right on the mark. While cerb/lyla is the only board I'm a member on I have the sense that it is unique on the basis of it's positive approach. There is alot of work that needs to be done to build traffic, engagement and participation on this site - and I'm certain it's worth doing. An interview related to that topic is an opportunity for the board to reaffirm and establish it's position as a SW friendly space (for both SWrs and clients) and to build back to its former strength.

These interviews should be required viewing for all members joining the community - and I know that's perhaps a ridiculous expectation :)

[harboursmoke 3087]

@MsManda and I had chatted over twitter about doing an interview somewhat together as client and SP.  It was some time ago, she may not remember.  But I would be up for that.  

[Guest lydiahardwood]

On 9/21/2020 at 11:28 AM, Sharpe said:

Actually I would be interested in seeing @lydiahardwood herself interviewed. If the criteria for interviews is an active member and having a positive influence, Lydia would be at the top of that list.  The topic could be about herding cats or how to keep several hundred opinionated people polite and on track.  It could be like the movie “The Committments” where the lead character is always interviewing himself in predation for the big time.  “So Jimmy how did the band first get together?” “Well Jimmy let me tell you all about it...”

Haha what an idea, I would be happy to do this! If anyone wants to volunteer to ask me some questions feel free 🙂

 

[SarahAlexxx 2025]

^ whats your favorite part of Lyla?

^ how does being a part of the community better your life?

^ what do you feel is the toughest part of your job?

^ have you ever considered buying or selling services?

^ what made you choose this community?

^ if you could change one thing about SW, what would it be?

[StephanieMystique 1892]

What is your biggest goal and ambition for Lyla? 
What was the change and motivation to bring Lyla back to life? 
Running a website and a team behind Lyla, how is it funded? 
 

[Guest lydiahardwood]

Ahh these are all brilliant! Right leave these with me, we have an interview coming up with the gorgeous and incredibly intelligent @Kitten this Sunday but the Sunday after you can hear all about me... 😛 Lucky you! 😂

[roamingguy 300292]

On 9/22/2020 at 8:39 AM, SarahAlexxx said:

^ whats your favorite part of Lyla?

^ how does being a part of the community better your life?

^ what do you feel is the toughest part of your job?

^ have you ever considered buying or selling services?

^ what made you choose this community?

^ if you could change one thing about SW, what would it be?

Adding a couple more

Is this the first board you've "Admined/Moded" or have you previous experience being a "Mod"

Why did you keep the Lyla mantra "if you don't have something nice to say...."  Was there any pressure to change to a review board like the _erb sites (BTW glad it's not a review board) 

Just a couple more questions I could come up with...maybe another coffee is needed

RG

 

[roamingguy 300292]

This a separate post and suggestion for a topic.  How about screening/verification and paying  deposits (well you get the idea) to companions by clients.  There are still (or seems to be, based on what I read) some guys who protest being screened and paying deposits.  But this could be a topic for the "education" of clients.

BTW guess with this pic you can figure out my opinion on screening/verification

RG

 

[Jenesis 294]

19 hours ago, roamingguy said:

This a separate post and suggestion for a topic.  How about screening/verification and paying  deposits (well you get the idea) to companions by clients.  There are still (or seems to be, based on what I read) some guys who protest being screened and paying deposits.  But this could be a topic for the "education" of clients.

BTW guess with this pic you can figure out my opinion on screening/verification

RG

 

There are two camps on this. Those for and those opposed and I honestly don’t see that changing. Even with positive threads on the matter. 
 

I screen but at the same time, I totally understand guys who don’t want to screen. And to be honest; they are well within their rights. 
 

What the focus should be is how to post about things you don’t agree with it. Because if that was done, half of the threads on TERB about this topic, wouldn’t even be a topic. If a guy does not like “insert whatever here” about an escort, the proper thing to do is move on quietly. Period. End stop. It is that move on quietly part that some guys have issue with. 
 

So how to address that problem would be nice. 
 

Now I have a suggestion and it may get me many disliking me but I think a topic of how, where and when to report bad dates would be a good topic or good question to ask when interviewing sex workers or if we are taking about education. I get ladies are annoyed by time wasters, but it is not helping our screen cause when ladies are outing full phone numbers on Twitter because a guy asked if she was GFE\PSE before booking. That is not time wasting. 
 

So something to help address that and other things related to screening in interviews would be good, but something 
strictly about “educating” clients about screening I don’t think will work as well. It will just be considered “telling clients what to do” over educating. If that makes sense. 

 

[Guest lydiahardwood]

Hey guys. I published mine a little earlier than expected, hope you enjoy it! 

 

@Jenesis I love your idea, will send you a message now 🙂

[LifeLongJourney 14]

New to Lyla and getting used to the site. I'd like to see interview's with SP's. There are many questions that would either seem rude and prying, or would ruin the mood trying to be set during an appointment. There is a lot of stigma associated with their career choice and it could help break it.

[Guest lydiahardwood]

Hey everyone.

Just wanted to give you a bit of an update on upcoming interviews. We've got them planned weekly until end of November now! 🤩

Topics are:

• Managing your personal life as a Companion
• Navigating the industry as a cross dresser
• Toxic review board culture and how to combat it
• Sex work can be empowering
• Why screening isn't a choice but a necessity 
• Seeing older Clients as a young Provider
• Exploring your sexuality through Companions

So excited to share these all with you and if anyone wants to be interviewed please send me a DM. Here are some topics I would like to cover and please feel free to share your own. 

• The fetishisation of Asians
• Weird and wonderful kinks
• What it's like being a professional Domme
• Why do people get turned on from being humiliated?
• How sex work has increased my confidence
• Escort turned cam girl during COVID
• How to be an ally to sex workers
• Only Fans, has it made things better/worse for the industry?

 

[Sharpe 771]

I really look forward to reading these interviews!  Thanks Lydia and to everyone who is willing to be interviewed and share their stories.

[Guest lydiahardwood]

Hi everyone. I have some ideas for interviews but I need some interviewees! So please take a look at the suggestions below and send me a DM if you'd like to be part of them. 

• How to spot a scam
• Working as an escort/seeing an escort over the festive period
• Using escorts whilst in a sexless marriage (preferably a Client whose wife knows about it)
• Taking a Client's virginity
• Escort turned cam girl during COVID
• The fine line between over censorship and protecting the community from toxicity 

Thank you!

[vegeta85 1675]

I would like to see an interview with @VictoriaJolie 

[Sharpe 771]

Hey @lydiahardwood I was wondering about doing an interview with someone about offering online services in these COVID times.  Lots of ladies going this route and probably a steep learning curve.  I was thinking of maybe someone like @Cheeky.char.  I hadn’t heard of her before November and now she’s on several sites that I’ve never heard of.  I also get a strong sense of her personality just from her ads and tweets so she seems pretty media savvy.  Just throwing that thought out there. Thanks

[vegeta85 1675]

I would like to see an interview with @JAYMIEMAESPARX

[Guest]

If there a possibility of venturing "outside the box", would be interesting to read an interview with Jodie Emery. She's a long time cannabis rights activist and would be interesting to learn more about her rise to fame as the "Princess of Pot".

 

[Guest lydiahardwood]

On 12/13/2020 at 8:56 PM, Sharpe said:

Hey @lydiahardwood I was wondering about doing an interview with someone about offering online services in these COVID times.  Lots of ladies going this route and probably a steep learning curve.  I was thinking of maybe someone like @Cheeky.char.  I hadn’t heard of her before November and now she’s on several sites that I’ve never heard of.  I also get a strong sense of her personality just from her ads and tweets so she seems pretty media savvy.  Just throwing that thought out there. Thanks

Hey Sharpe! I'm hoping to do an interview on online work with the gorgeous @MsManda. As for Cheeky Char... my wish is your command, here's her interview on being a sw-er with a disability. Enjoy! 

 

@Greenteal I'll do my best to get in touch with her! Would be great to get her opinions.

 

 

 

[Sharpe 771]

Thanks Lydia.   Much more than I expected.  I’m sure Ms Manda has a lot to say about online work and is a good person to talk to.  I’m also glad to learn more about @Cheeky.char and her story.  Thank you for sharing Char!  Hope you’ll be able to travel in the near future.  

[Allie Zeon 2925]

I would like to read an interview from the legend like Victoria Jolie who used to be popular in the US and here in Canada 

[Ice4fun 78407]

It would be I interesting to hear from Nathalie Lefebvre or Ms. Manda

[waterat 20911]

13 hours ago, clearbluesky15 said:

While I'm sure she would do a great job on any of the sample topics @lydiahardwood listed 16 October... I'd be especially interested in her take on "How to be an ally to sex workers."

I like the idea of 'an ally to sex workers'. There are likely a few interviews worth of different takes on this topic and it is an important one. I'll overuse the common Covid-19 phrase: 'We're all in this together' .....

[Ice4fun 78407]

This may sound funny but it might be interesting to here from some former active members especially the ladies.   For most this us not a long term career so hearing about transition would be very interesting.  Lessons learned... and I don't just mean things that went bad.

Might be hard to get into contact with them but people here might still have some contact. I have a few retired ladies who I still exchange messages with from time to time.

Just an Idea