OldandNerdy 1303 Report post Posted October 9, 2020 Hey folks, So this is something that's been discussed in multiple threads, but given recent discussions I figured I'd do a bit of a compilation in a single thread. If you're new to this, or have been having trouble making connections, please read through this - it will take a few minutes, but there's lots of tips included Tips for finding a provider - Decide what you are looking for in an experience - Search on Lyla in your local regional forums in the Schedule forums - Look on the various provider advertising sites, such as Leolist, Massage Republic, VIPFavours & many more - Visit the provider's website, Twitter, IG or whatever and actually read the text, don't just look at the photo gallery. There are more than likely answers to most of your questions there, including an up to date schedule, how to contact them, what they offer, etc. Make notes if you need to. Choose a provider - Make a short list, or a single entry list for someone who offers something that matches what you are looking for - Look in the recco threads on Lyla for mentions of this provider to help guide your decision - Use the Lyla search feature to find relevant threads if you are having trouble deciding if someone is "real" or not. (If you are looking at private provider owned websites, social media etc - it's a good indicator that the provider is probably legit) - If you can't find any web or social media presence, and the photos on the ad seem "too good to be true", try using a site such as Yandex and do a reverse image search - if you find hits on porn sites, or "photo sharing forums", or find concurrent ads in multiple cities for the same time frame - you might want to consider someone else - If the ad you are looking at uses some hinky words or phrases - you might want to consider someone else Client etiquette - Now that you've made a choice, it's time to make contact - Treat this like an application or an interview - both of you are now going to make a choice on whether this seems like a good idea - BE RESPECTFUL - Use their preferred contact method - it is definitely listed somewhere, and you should have made note of it previously - Be prepared to offer some sort of verification - it was probably mentioned when you were looking at their ad/social media/website, but even if it wasn't and comes up after you make contact, be prepared to provide the info, or respectfully decline. - Make contact - Use a greeting, even as simple as "Hi!". Follow it up with details on what you are looking for, such as date/time, a name that you can be referred to as, and perhaps questions that you have about general location (this is not an address!) or something else that IS NOT ALREADY DOCUMENTED ON THE INTERNET - Patiently wait for a reply - you are interacting with a human being, not a bot or a machine. People are sometimes unavailable immediately. Often providers will note on their sites their reply etiquette, follow that. If you don't hear anything back the same day, try again the next day. If you don't hear back then, respectfully move on. - Once they reply, continue the conversation and work out the details. Don't ask for something that is obviously not going to be provided. Don't expect an exact location until right before the appointment. Follow their screening process. Dont haggle - you knew the cost going into this. - Remember that you are paying for an experience/time - not a person. - If at any time you arent comfortable, it's ok to stop. Be polite, say thank you, Date time! - Show up on time not especially early or late - Keep in communication - shit happens and sometimes we can't help being a bit late - COMMUNICATE! - If you do need to cancel your appointment, give as much notice as possible. Think of this like a specialist appointment - if you can't give at least 24 hours notice, then you might want to consider paying for their time. - Don't approach the location until you confirm its ok to do so - Have payment ready - you will more than likely already know their etiquette around this. Follow it - Act like a human being interacting with another human being - Prepare to leave at the agreed upon time Afterwards - If you had a good time, consider leaving a recco on Lyla. This helps the provider out a lot. - If you didnt have a good time, don't go bashing them online. That helps nobody, including yourself. Just move on. Often you have to visit a few providers before you find that compatibility - Human interactions don't always work out. Don't blame them and don't blame yourself - sometimes people just aren't compatible and THAT'S OK Congrats!! You made it!! This was a lot of reading I know, but this will help save everyone time and energy in the long run! Here's a 🍩 for your perseverance 7 1 Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Exotic Touch Danielle 31728 Report post Posted October 11, 2020 This an an awesome read and everyone should read this to have a better understanding on how to find and approach a lady of your choice *Do your research on the lady/READ the ad/website *Be respectful and courteous when contacting her Chemistry is key in having a great time and enjoying each other Thank you for posting this😊 4 Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Alex Shannon1 26 Report post Posted October 11, 2020 Yes!! ✨ 4 Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
LifeLongJourney 14 Report post Posted October 11, 2020 Pretty much covered it all. The only thing I could see being added is not to expect a right now appointment. If it's short notice the SP will try to accomodate but they may already be booked for the day and they also have to prep for you. Plan ahead if you can but be prepared to hear they may be unavailable if it's short notice and don't be disappointed if they are. 3 1 Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Guest lydiahardwood Report post Posted October 12, 2020 Love this! Thank you for taking the time to write it @OldandNerdy Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
