Need some advices for this strange thing, thanks!

[vvv7455 0]

Hi guys, it is my first time of posting in Lyla. Nice to meet all of you!

 

Today in the afternoon, I contacted 2 escorts (both are unverified) on LeoList via text messaging (I use an anonymous iOS TextNow app). I contacted the first girl regarding an outcall service and eventually we settled the deal (during the whole process, I used a fake name that’s completely different from my real one). Therefore I provided my full home address to her for coming to my place. However, she never came. It is a no show up. I shrugged and did not think too much about it. I then continued my search of escorts on LeoList and found another woman. So I contacted her through anonymous text messaging and again settled the deal (I still used fake name this time). I again provided my full home address to this second escort in hoping that she would show up for the outcall service. But the same thing happened: just like the first girl, the second one also did not show up. 
 

Just minutes ago, I even opened my door and checked if there were anyone outside. None, no cars and no one. There are even no trails to indicate if someone even came to my door or garage. I live in a dense residential area in which that my house is surrounded by many other houses (the distance between each house is really short). Therefore I have neighbours on both of my left and right sides and in front of my house.
 

I previously ordered several outcall services and they all went smoothly (girls came to my residential place on time after having my address and they offered me the service which I happily payed for). So I do not really understand what happened today for the 2 escorts I contacted. So from these 2 communications, all they got is my full home address and my number on anonymous TextNow app. They did not have my money. They did not ask me for bank information or deposits. They even did not ask for my home address at first place, I voluntarily gave them my home address after settling a deal. They are just like completely vanished with my home address and anonymous TextNow phone number.

 

After feeling strange about this situation, I searched online and found some cases of outcall robbing (happened in the person’s home) and personal information theft (the person was threatened and blackmailed by the escort who possessed his clear selfie). So based on my case, they have my full home address, they may be able to use this address to get my personal information through various methods. Or with my home address, they can attempt to rob, assault my family members or invade my home. After thinking about all these possibilities, now I am really scared. What’s their purpose of not showing up for outcalls when having my home address? Did you encounter anything similar to these? What potential dangers I will face under the circumstance that they have my full home address? Do you have any advices for what I should do next? One thing for sure, I will never use escort’s service from now on because such exposing of privacy is scary.

 

Thank you so much for reading!

[East Coast Kimmy 1080]

I would recommend u find a reputable provider with references and recos — or at the very least a verified user 

Unfortunately for us all - not everyone is who they claim to be & others just have bad intentions. 
Everyone is entitled to their own opinions therefore I wouldn’t call ur fears irrational but I would say that it’s a bit of a stretch. The blackmail part could be very possible but the assaulting and robbing your family members, I would assume u are safe from that as that could result in the offender getting charged and most people are not going to sacrifice their freedom. 
Due diligence is the best advice for any consumer (ESPECIALLY HOBBYISTS) 

sorry this has happened to you — if u feel insecure I would suggest investing in home security 

[waterat 20911]

This is an unfortunate situation but also likely avoidable. Here are some quick suggestions: I make these with the understanding that you've seen escorts before, for outcalls, and not had problems.

1. Since you're now here on lyla use ladies who post on here and have a 'presence' and reputation on the board. You'll be able to have a good sense of what they're like and whether they might be a good fit by doing a review of their posts, comments and also recommendations if they have any. Some don't have recos but that doesn't necessarily eliminate them as good providers.

2. In my experience leolist is a bit of a crap shoot, has a much greater number of fake and misleading ads. Many lyla ladies also post on leolist so you can do a cross reference.

3. Do your homework and search out suggestions (ask) in your local area's forum. Again, reviewing the profiles of member who make suggestions will give you a sense of the value of the suggestions. You've given out your specific home address to complete strangers yet haven't identified the city/province you're posting from.....  makes it a little difficult to provide useful support.

4. Outcalls to your home are much less common than travelling to visit a lady at their incall. Your situation could require this so I'll simply suggest that I would never expect an outcall to happen without having paid a deposit. In my 10+ years in this lifestyle I've only hosted a few outcalls to my house and they all went smoothly but the background work was done and the ladies visiting were totally comfortable with my situation - the foundation for an enjoyable visit.

5. I wouldn't worry too much about having given out your home address - not much you can do about it now and besides, they still don't know that you actually live there (I assume) and they're not likely to invest the effort to do all the nefarious actions to do much harm. Too much effort for an unlikely benefit that could go very far south for them. I don't know any provider (I know a lot of them, lol) that would head out to the home of some unknown dude who has contacted them through some text app and hasn't paid a deposit to demonstrate their positive intentions. It doesn't take much imagination to consider the circumstance and suspicious  that the lady faces in attending your outcall. From what you've described I am surprised that the arrangements were actually agreed to....

There are resources and support available here on lyla but you're going to need to engage to access them effectively.

Good luck

[East Coast Kimmy 1080]

1 minute ago, waterat said:

This is an unfortunate situation but also likely avoidable. Here are some quick suggestions: I make these with the understanding that you've seen escorts before, for outcalls, and not had problems.

1. Since you're now here on lyla use ladies who post on here and have a 'presence' and reputation on the board. You'll be able to have a good sense of what they're like and whether they might be a good fit by doing a review of their posts, comments and also recommendations if they have any. Some don't have recos but that doesn't necessarily eliminate them as good providers.

2. In my experience leolist is a bit of a crap shoot, has a much greater number of fake and misleading ads. Many lyla ladies also post on leolist so you can do a croww reference.

3. Do your homework and search out suggestions (ask) in your local area's forum. Again, reviewing the profiles of member who make suggestions will give you a sense of the value of the suggestions. You've given out your specific home address to complete strangers yet haven't identified the city/province you're posting from.....  makes it a little difficult to provide useful support.

4. Outcalls to your home are much less common than travelling to visit a lady at their incall. Your situation could require this so I'll simply suggest that I would never expect an outcall to happen without having paid a deposit. In my 10+ years in this lifestyle I've only hosted a few outcalls to my house and they all went smoothly but the background work was done and the ladies visiting were totally comfortable with my situation - the foundation for an enjoyable visit.

5. I wouldn't worry too much about having given out your home address - not much you can do about it now and besides, they still don't know that you actually live there (I assume) and they're not likely to invest the effort to do all the nefarious actions to do much harm. Too much effort for an unlikely benefit that could go very far south for them. I don't know any provider (I know a lot of them, lol) that would head out to the home of some unknown dude who has contacted them through some text app and hasn't paid a deposit to demonstrate their positive intentions. It doesn't take much imagination to consider the circumstance and suspicious  that the lady faces in attending your outcall. From what you've described I am surprised that the arrangements were actually agreed to....

There are resources and support available here on lyla but you're going to need to engage to access them effectively.

Good luck

 

VERY WELL THOUGHT OUT & PUT!! 👏🏼👏🏼👏🏼👏🏼💋

[Guest]

   Got two hypothetical scenarios:

 The first, they did a reverse lookup with your home address and found a different name and from there decided not to bother.

 The second being the possibility of their intentions not being so good, but decided not to go being a dense neighborhood.

 Quite likely was the first scenario and there not much to worry about. But like @East Coast Kimmy recommended, dealing with ladies with solid reputation should help avoid those type of situations.

[Mikeyboy 27133]

It's already been said but cold calling ladies from ll without doing any research is a crap shoot at best. Stick with ladies that can be verified as being real. Sites like this one are useful for that.  (If several of the established posters have had a good experience,  then it's a pretty safe bet.) Also look for things like having a web sites,  a social media presence,  etc in addition to recommendations. 

 

That said,  most of the established ladies will avoid text apps like the plague. Like you,  they need to verify that you are real, and establish comfort in their own safety.  It's give and take.  That's why I like to see ladies with an established reputation.  You can trust them with your details.  Their reputation and business depends on it.  They are professionals. 

 

I wouldn't worry too much about having given them your details in this case.  My guess is they saw the text app and decided to mess with you for trying it.  

 

Better luck next time and welcome to Lyla.

[Exotic Touch Danielle 31729]

Why not contact a verified lady one that has recos and a good reputation 

I always recommend doing research on the lady perhaps having a conversation with her first before just randomly booking 

Most safe verified ladies require a deposit to secure their time amongst other screening info for our safety...I personally will not book with anyone using a text app/fake name

I highly doubt they are going to come rob you or hurt your family they just didnt show up for whatever reason...us ladies go through this all the time no shows and guys taking our hotel rooms and locations and no show

 

 

 

[East Coast Kimmy 1080]

5 minutes ago, Exotic Touch Danielle said:

Why not contact a verified lady one that has recos and a good reputation 

I always recommend doing research on the lady perhaps having a conversation with her first before just randomly booking 

Most safe verified ladies require a deposit to secure their time amongst other screening info for our safety...I personally will not book with anyone using a text app/fake name

 

 

 

 

Yesss girl! Quality service speaks for itself 👏🏼 👏🏼 

Everything that has been said above will help u avoid any further negative experience in this industry @vvv7455

[Exotic Touch Danielle 31729]

10 minutes ago, East Coast Kimmy said:

Yesss girl! Quality service speaks for itself 👏🏼 👏🏼 

Everything that has been said above will help u avoid any further negative experience in this industry @vvv7455

Right like you basically get what you pay for.. you want good service then you have to do your research and put some effort into actually finding what will work for you

[StephanieMystique 1895]

What everyone else has touched on is great and what you should be doing anyways. 

I'd honestly not worry about them coming after you or blackmailing after the fact. Considering these are less than reliable sources, I think, they got a booking better than what you had to offer. i.e  an incall vrs an outcall, something closer to where they are located, or something longer. 

Like many have pointed out. If they are a provider and doing their own research, they will be less likely to book you using a text app and fake information. 

You do sound like you handled yourself well through the conversation. Other than doing a little more homework, a couple quick google searches (name & number) would help you in the long run. I'd say it was just a bad luck for today.