An Interview With... Andee - Working As a "Mature" Companion

[Guest lydiahardwood]

Happy Sunday everyone! This is a topic I've been wanting to cover since @beesh suggested it back in September and I am honoured that the wonderful @Andee has agreed to answer some questions for us on this topic. I hope you enjoyed this as much as I did and if you have any comments or questions I'd encourage you to put them in the comments. ❤️ 

 

Q: Hey there, Andee. Thank you for agreeing to be interviewed! So first things first, can you tell me a bit about yourself and your career?
A: I have worked most of my life as an administrative assistant and other office related jobs and from time to time, chose to work as a provider for mostly financial reasons.  I first started out when I was 34 in Alberta.  At that time, I was told I was too "old" but the agency owner I interviewed with liked me and a took a chance marketing as an "older escort" and was pleasantly surprised that there was actually a demand for providers over 30. From there I moved back to Ontario in the late 90s and continued to work off and on until the present time.  I became an independent in the early 2000's in Ottawa when where weren't many providers back then and we advertised on Escorts Canada and in the newspaper and then CERB, before the more predatory advertisers came on the scene.
 
Q: Wow, that's crazy that 34 would be considered "older"! So how would you define “mature”? I see some escorts in their 40s using it and that just blows my mind - that’s still young to me!
A: I think being mature is more of a state of being rather than a biological age, because I have met some women in their 30s who are definitely more mature than others I have met in their 40s and 50s.
 
Q: So when you started escorting, were you “mature” at that point?
A: I was 34 years old and considered "mature" by the standards set back in the 90s where it was not common to see agencies hiring escorts who were my age or older. By the time I came back to Ottawa and close to 40, I was one of the oldest escorts around, save a couple of other ladies who were older but advertised younger.
 
Q: Do you put “mature” on your ads?
A: I put mature on my ads because I am over 50.  And for the longest time, it was almost an insistence on the part of advertisers, that I do so, especially in my 40s.  I believe that in this industry the word "mature" is used to tag providers over a certain age which is subjective to the advertisers, clients and providers.
 
Q: Tell me about your average Client. Are they similar in age? Younger? Older?
A: Most of my clients tend to be in the age range from late 30s right up into their 70s.  I even have had a few in their 80s and one or two in their 90s.  I do get requests for younger men in their 20s, who I don't normally see mostly because of their approach in booking which I often find immature and offensive. If they aer courteous and respect my restrictions and don't try to bargain, I will consider men under 35 especially for older woman/younger man roleplay.  
 
Q: Have you got any age limits?
A: I state in my ads that I prefer men over 35 years old because of the reasons stated above.
 
Q: Can you tell me about the demand for mature Companions? Is there a big market for it?
A: I only know for myself, that when I advertise, I always have clients. I may not have as many as someone in their 20s, but I also believe I also don't have the same hassles and problems that many younger providers encounter. And my client retention is excellent.

There are many men out there who do not want a provider the same age as their children. I wouldn't say there is a "big" market for it, but I believe there is a constant market and it's now more acceptable to be attracted to older women. Thank you Helen Mirron.
 
Q: What are some of the reasons you think Clients seek out a more mature Companion?
A: Because they want someone closer to their age they can relate to. Or in the case of someone 10-20 years older than me, they consider me to be a "younger woman". In the case of someone 10 years younger than me, they want to experience someone older.  
 
Q: All women are beautiful to me, regardless of age. Have you found this job has made you more confident?
A: Yes, it has because clients choose ME. And they are willing to pay for my companionship. I also have less hang ups about my body because there are clients who actually adore the way I look. 
 
Q: I feel like as soon as women hit 25 we start getting anti-ageing products sold to us; botox, anti-wrinkle cream, fillers etc. Nothing wrong with any of those things, but I feel like society should also just let women age gracefully! Can you tell me your thoughts on this?
A: That's more capitalism; companies trying to sell products playing on women's insecurities that they aren't "good enough". I personally have never really bought into the hype. I have learned that at the end of the day, all men want is for us to happy with ourselves and happy to see them. Having impeccable grooming and hygiene and taking care of oneself is more important than caking on layers of make-up and and whether your eyebrows are waxed perfectly. I recently grew the colour out of my hair and have embraced my silver mane with no complaints.
 
Q: What about the narrative that women lose their sexual desire later in life? 
A: I believe there are a myriad of reasons why some women lose their sexual desire later in life. For example, hormonal changes, exhaustion due to work or life's challenges, annoyance with their partners etc. I believe there should be more support for peri and menopausal women both medically and socially.
 
Q: Have you got any advice to a woman who is becoming mature and is perhaps concerned about ageing? 
A: Just be happy with yourself and enjoy your life. As long as you take care of your hygiene and health, there's not much else you can really do to stop the aging process. You need to just love yourself and not worry about what others want or think you should be. Especially men.
 
Q: Any words of wisdom to a mature person thinking of becoming a Companion?
A: I may catch flack for saying so, but I would not encourage it unless they are going to go somewhere like a reputable agency to learn the ropes. There are too many predatory clients out there who will take advantage of their naivete when it comes to the business. In my experience, anyone I have known who started in this business later in life, did not have the street smarts to understand what they were getting involved with which never ended quite like they hoped it would be. This is not an industry for romantics or the faint of heart.
 
Q: Thank you, Andee. It’s been a pleasure. Anything else you’d like to add?
A: I would like to thank you for inviting me to participate in this interview. It was a pleasure. If any clients have any questions, they are welcome to book an appointment with me and ask me in person. If any providers have any questions, feel free to pm me. 

[Kitten 1281]

Yaaaaas! I Adore Andee and was thrilled to see an opportunity to read some of her words.

I noticed you had an ad that you were in Ottawa and I'm kind of sad I missed you.

Perhaps when covid-19 up a little more and sometime your back in the city, a couple of mature providers can get together for a drink or even dinner if you don't partake in alcohol?

I would certainly love to connect!

[beesh 1286]

Thanks so much @lydiahardwood for this interview, and to @Andee for such wonderful insight.

I quote my own recommendation for - Ms Rose of Fredericton (a 'mature' companion by certain definitions, who I visited & loved)  -

as one grows old, the very definition of intimacy changes (at least for me). One does not necessarily seek a certain body type or sexual act, but more of connection, respect, affection and engagement, in physical relations.

I am sure Andee's lovers feel the same way (now I feel jealous of them 🙃)

I understand some seek emotional excitement in a companion, but some like me seeks emotional calm & peace.

And you can receives that from one who TRULY believes "Just be happy with yourself and enjoy your life"

Lastly, to Andee & other mature ladies, I will say this - beauty is NOT about dazzling someone in the 1st encounter

Beauty is your lover mesmerized by you even the 15th time.  Thanks. ❤️

 

[waterat 20911]

@beesh What he said. Very beautifully stated.

[Andee 220524]

11 hours ago, Kitten said:

Yaaaaas! I Adore Andee and was thrilled to see an opportunity to read some of her words.

I noticed you had an ad that you were in Ottawa and I'm kind of sad I missed you.

Perhaps when covid-19 up a little more and sometime your back in the city, a couple of mature providers can get together for a drink or even dinner if you don't partake in alcohol?

I would certainly love to connect!

Sounds good, Kitten.  I'm not sure when I will be back in Ottawa, but definitely some time before May.

[NotchJohnson 214123]

Well said @Andee, mature women rock, it's so much better to have a date with an older lady if you want to connect with someone, specially older guys like myself.  BTW, I still remember that motorcycle ride we did on a Saturday morning, it was fun meeting you that way.  Thanks also to @lydiahardwood for inviting her for an interview.

[mustanggirl 104]

Hey Andee...Your words were just what I needed to hear today.  I am very glad I read to the end.  I am myself am mature companion.  I prefer the younger ones than the older but, agree totally with your assessment of the younger gentlemans booking ways which is typically immature and disrespectful, but, there are good ones out there.  I totally agree with you on the bargaining  aspect of the younger set, sometimes it is offensive.  But, I make sure I am clear with my words and a awesome sense of humour.  Would love to chat further.  If you are ever in the Kitchener|Waterloo look me up.  Would love to buy you a drink (if we ever get out of lockdown lol) and compare notes of us more mature companions.

 

Moncton's Jewel

[Phaedrus 209521]

On 3/21/2021 at 1:53 PM, lydiahardwood said:

There are many men out there who do not want a provider the same age as their children.

This. There are sooo many people who don't understand this...

Thanks for the insignts, @Andee

[Onceinawhile 1126]

Thanks to @lydiahardwood and @Andee for a great interview, i totally agree with every word that @beesh mentioned, I couldn’t have said it any bettermyself.

i personally love the connection you experience with a mature woman as you have a lot more in common.

[EmilyRushton 253372]

Excellent Interview and thank you for sharing your wisdom :)

[rob_otteast 142]

I know I'd prefer to be with someone who knows who the Beatles were and what the Apollo program was. 😀

[happywan4748 15]

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There are many men out there who do not want a provider the same age as their children

Excellent interview Andee. I am one of those guys. I tried to get with you when you were last in Kitchener and am sorry i missed out. You are the exact age of provider i am drawn to. I was married to the same girl for several decades and women of your age seem to intuit exactly what men my age need in terms of conversation and emotional support. Not pandering, but acceptance and awareness. You are still 'young stuff' to me. 😉 I will see you when you come back. Old guys need love too!

[KylieJane 5044]

Inspiration, shows sexy knows no age. Love your attitude and this helps ladies who worry about being 'older', such as myself. Thank you, xo