NotchJohnson 214136 Report post Posted April 12, 2021 There are sex moves from porn that many of us would never want to recreate and for good reasons. If you watch porn like most of us do(don't lie we all know you do), some scene can't be replicated or duplicated. Slapping her face with your penis, I tried that once and the look on her face said it all. Lubing with a loogie....I once was with a new lady and she was dry, she didn't have any lube so I offered some spit and she refused because some guy grossed her out by trying to get some spit from the bottom of his throat...I mean WTF ! ATM, need I say more? Or even when doing a duo don't switch from one lady to the next without changing the protective cover...right? Do you have any to add to the list...I invite the ladies to chime in and share stories 4 Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Guest lydiahardwood Report post Posted April 13, 2021 Double dipping! Why that is shown in porn I will never know. Also I wish they'd show consent done in a sexy way in porn more 🙂 It's no wonder some guys say stuff like "I'm gonna destroy you", "you won't be able to walk once we're done". I don't wanna be destroyed and I quite enjoy walking lol! Gently does it; especially when the clit's involved! There's a time and a place for hard / rough sex but believe me, we don't wanna be pounded non stop haha. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
NotchJohnson 214136 Report post Posted April 13, 2021 3 hours ago, clearbluesky15 said: Hopefully no clients do this, but one thing I see more of in porn recently I s the ‘throat choke’ thing. Not sure why that would be fun and seems like it would be scary being on the receiving end. Actually being choke while being close to orgasm is a major thing for me. No I don't want to be choke to death but just as I'm about to shoot and have my airway choked my orgasm is much more intense, in a good way. I won't just let every girl I see choke me but a few can do it very well. Just saying....but I do agree that at some point choking someone else is scary. 1 Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
NotchJohnson 214136 Report post Posted April 13, 2021 2 hours ago, lydiahardwood said: Double dipping! Why that is shown in porn I will never know. Also I wish they'd show consent done in a sexy way in porn more 🙂 It's no wonder some guys say stuff like "I'm gonna destroy you", "you won't be able to walk once we're done". I don't wanna be destroyed and I quite enjoy walking lol! Gently does it; especially when the clit's involved! There's a time and a place for hard / rough sex but believe me, we don't wanna be pounded non stop haha. I do agree but have a question about this....if the 2 ladies are good friends and they please each other doing the "scissor" thing would it be "Okay" for the guy to jump from one lady to the next lady? Or do you mean from the backdoor to the front door? Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
NotchJohnson 214136 Report post Posted April 13, 2021 Name calling....I was doing doggy style with a sexy 20's girl and she turned around and said "how do you like your daughter's ass this way...Daddy !", lost my erection right away. I don't have a daughter only a son but having that image in my head was just an instant turn off. I can imagine the same with a lady if she was called "bitch", "whore", "slut" etc... she might be into it but this should be discussed between both parties before it happens. 8 1 Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Guest Report post Posted April 13, 2021 As cameras are everywhere, the fantasy and excitement of sex in public is not what it used to be. Can still roleplay, but doing for real may end you on the evening news or YouPorn. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Guest Report post Posted April 13, 2021 As for "double dipping", I'm sure there's a Seinfeld joke/debate to be done about it... Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Guest lydiahardwood Report post Posted April 13, 2021 1 hour ago, NotchJohnson said: I do agree but have a question about this....if the 2 ladies are good friends and they please each other doing the "scissor" thing would it be "Okay" for the guy to jump from one lady to the next lady? Or do you mean from the backdoor to the front door? I'm talking about backdoor to front door. First instance is fine - I imagine they all get checked beforehand! Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Guest Report post Posted April 13, 2021 (edited) 6 hours ago, NotchJohnson said: Actually being choke while being close to orgasm is a major thing for me. No I don't want to be choke to death but just as I'm about to shoot and have my airway choked my orgasm is much more intense, in a good way. I won't just let every girl I see choke me but a few can do it very well. Just saying....but I do agree that at some point choking someone else is scary. I like some forms of breath play with bearhugs and bodyscissors. But I don't feel comfortable playing with someone's neck or have them play with mine. Prefer keeping plenty of room to adjust to each other's comfort level. Edited April 13, 2021 by Guest Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Phaedrus 209521 Report post Posted April 13, 2021 Oh, gawd... where to start? Double-dipping? Yes, they do it in porn and it's probably safe enough... but you don't get the see the hours of decidedly unsexy cleaning that goes into making sure you can do that without getting infections all over the place. Choking? From what I've read, this is becoming a huge problem. There's an entire generation of men that have grown up believing that grabbing someone's throat while you fuck her is an entirely normal thing to do. Fingering? If you go at someone's ladybits the way they normally do in porn, you're going to hurt her. This is why an increasing number of providers just don't allow it at all. Spit? If the number of "spit is not lube" posts I see on Twitter is anything to go by, this is another big one. And honestly, all the rough sex you see in porn. Hopefully that was all negotiated beforehand, but we keep reading horror stories about people who go beyond what was agreed on shoots. And even when that doesn't happen, it doesn't help with the people who get the idea that you can just start the slapping/jackhammering/whatever else without talking about it first. And on a less serious note: a lot of the positions in porn look really uncomfortable to me. But I guess they're driven by the need to let a camera in to see what's going on, which isn't a concern for most of us. 2 2 Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Guest Report post Posted April 14, 2021 Without hijacking the thread, I think we need to address the Ron Jeremy situation. For those who don't know, he was charged last year with 35+ counts of sexual misconduct, including groping, abuse, assault and rape on dozens of women(of all ages) in the span of the last two decades. He's currently in jail. There something remarkable in the fact he became one of the biggest icon in the adult industry. He started his career in the late 70's under many names including "The Hedgehog". At the time was skinny fit but in the shadow of bigger names like John Holmes and Peter North. Then the 80's happened and the industry went through a lot of changes. There was obviously the transition between films to home videos and the Traci Lords scandal, but also the end of many careers and lives due to drug related problems and HIV/AIDS. This is when Ron Jeremy gave up on his fitness and ate his way through his problems. While this should have normally killed his career, it instead made him stand out from others to become a fan favorite. Ron's current legal problems are a testament on how the porn industry radically changed in the past decades. From being controlled by large studios and distributors, to now mostly being independent performers and producers. What was tolerated and hidden before, is not anymore. He was lucky to get a career and to make it that long. If there any veracity to the charges, hope he'll get what he deserves. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
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WildTiger 1296 Report post Posted May 9, 2021 Watching the action in porn is like watching the Fast and Furious franchise. Looks exciting but I hope people aren't trying to drive like they do in the movies. (OK, there are idiots out there that do drive like that but they're IDIOTS!) As it was mentioned before, there is a lot of prep work and need to get specific camera angles involved as well as the desire to come up with unique positions to add variety to the films. Not necessarily practical or enjoyable. 1 Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
HenryOcean 196 Report post Posted May 9, 2021 Degrading dirty talk/abuse unless its requested (to each their own) Double dipping.. no... just no... Choking...I understand where @NotchJohnson is coming from but definitely must be with an experienced person Urinating (though that may be a turn on for someone..) Random Anal inserts... stay safe. Oral Gagging... again approval and experience matters with everything Rough Sex.. time and place for it but as @lydiahardwood mentioned, knowing my partner can walk decently normal the next day lol Also agree for the future, clear consent would help the next generations learn better then to cross unwanted boundaries, but so should parents be having these chats. Spontaneous bondage... I have had a new-ish fling tell me to lay down for a massage only to find her tying my wrists together... though her agenda was to rub ice over my body and I enjoyed it, we were not at a stage I expected it. I was glad it was only ice and only my arms, if it were whips or wax I may have went into defense mode lol @Allie Zeon what is your take on this all? 2 Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Allie Zeon 2925 Report post Posted May 9, 2021 (edited) 44 minutes ago, HenryOcean said: Degrading dirty talk/abuse unless its requested (to each their own) Double dipping.. no... just no... Choking...I understand where @NotchJohnson is coming from but definitely must be with an experienced person Urinating (though that may be a turn on for someone..) Random Anal inserts... stay safe. Oral Gagging... again approval and experience matters with everything Rough Sex.. time and place for it but as @lydiahardwood mentioned, knowing my partner can walk decently normal the next day lol Also agree for the future, clear consent would help the next generations learn better then to cross unwanted boundaries, but so should parents be having these chats. Spontaneous bondage... I have had a new-ish fling tell me to lay down for a massage only to find her tying my wrists together... though her agenda was to rub ice over my body and I enjoyed it, we were not at a stage I expected it. I was glad it was only ice and only my arms, if it were whips or wax I may have went into defense mode lol @Allie Zeon what is your take on this all? Hi naughty, Are you already my fans on onlyfans lol? Good remark btw. I have clients get turn off after joining my onlyfans because it's way too Raunchy for his taste. I told him not to look at the sex videos over there, instead just enjoy my day to day videos & photos. I have various styles and photos with different outfits and wigs and sexual acts from a sporty girl, sexy vixen to a dominatrix with latex and leather boots to satisfy the needs of all my fans. Few enjoy all contents, some unfortunately don't. From my observation, Majority of fans want something they don't have in real life therefore Raunchy contents sell the most. Anal, cum on face... etc etc. I do that just for the dollar sign to be honest lol. I can't believe I enjoy doing it in front of the camera. However, I won't do it for my regular clients unless they book me for my domination session simply because of the reasons you have stated above 🔥. Allie www.onlyfans.com/Allie_zeon Edited May 10, 2021 by Allie Zeon Additional pic 3 1 Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Kitten 1281 Report post Posted May 10, 2021 (edited) Oh man I enjoyed this thread. Things I agree with most would certainly be double-dipping is yucky and dangerous. A lot of what you see in porn like Phaedrus said does come with a lot of preparation. I am a fan of backdoor play from time to time and preparation for that is enough for me. I cannot imagine what they go through to prepare for some of the scenes I have watched. I do remember reading an article once about really hardcore scenes and some producers not signing the ladies cheques until after the performance was over, to encourage them to endure what they wanted on film. Horrible and when I read that I was quite happy I have never considered getting involved in that industry. I've always preferred to do my own thing. This way how weird I get is on me, not some dude with a pen. I know double dipping between ladies was mentioned but I'm not sure if I remember seeing from front to back. I'm not judging those who might be into something like that but I can certainly say the thought of it irks me. Ass to mouth is also a very hard limit of mine. I can go with it the hepatitis colada thank you! Some of the things mentioned were a little tame and with proper communication certainly enjoyable amongst certain personalities. I like to try new things and push it to the interesting side at times but don't go too far. Dominatrixes in porn are often very different from dominatrixes in real life. Every goddess has and sets her own style. A few times I've come across some confusion as I feel the client may have had a more porn based expectation in their mind. If this is the experience you seek, it is still valid but don't be afraid to admit that is all you know of it. It would be a shame to see anyone get themselves into a situation they're not sure how to talk their way out of 😸 More of these glorious and kinky conversations please! Edited May 10, 2021 by Kitten 2 Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Phaedrus 209521 Report post Posted May 10, 2021 11 hours ago, Kitten said: I do remember reading an article once about really hardcore scenes and some producers not signing the ladies cheques until after the performance was over, to encourage them to endure what they wanted on film. Horrible and when I read that I was quite happy I have never considered getting involved in that industry. I've always preferred to do my own thing. This way how weird I get is on me, not some dude with a pen. Yes, I've heard that this is a significant problem. And even if the money doesn't get withheld until after the shoot, anyone who doesn't go along with it is still likely to be labelled "hard to work with" and will find their opportunities drying up. There are some explicitly ethical porn producers, but... not enough. 11 hours ago, Kitten said: I know double dipping between ladies was mentioned but I'm not sure if I remember seeing from front to back. I'm not judging those who might be into something like that but I can certainly say the thought of it irks me. Ass to mouth is also a very hard limit of mine. Back to front happens all the time. Again, I think it's safe enough when you've spent enough time sanitizing everything beforehand and you're dealing with a rectum that's clean enough to eat your dinner off. But people forget that, and then start to emulate what they see on screen... 11 hours ago, Kitten said: I can go with it the hepatitis colada thank you! I'm not even a fan of pina colada, so I'll definitely steer clear of the hepatitis one.... 3 Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Kitten 1281 Report post Posted May 10, 2021 I suppose a good deep clean is enough to be safe. Ill still leave that niche for the next lady. Labelled difficult to work with is an easy feat. It's something I come across quite often in my muggle work and why this type of work is far more suiting for women like myself 😽 I cannot wait to get that needle in my arm so I can get back to the fun! 3 Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Neil young 79 Report post Posted May 12, 2021 Great topic! As a middle-aged man, I remember being a youngin and thinking porn was like a how-to- video. As I have aged , and gained experience, I know better! Some dudes like to be rough with sp, agreed upon or not, as though hurting a women is the turn on. I think a sp really needs to put the restrictions on the table from the get go and hopefully, weed out gents that are all but gentlemen. 3 Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Kilt Boy 29353 Report post Posted May 30, 2021 I used to do live sex shows at a bar, and some of the acrobatics we practiced were definitely not for amateurs. It was dangerous enough because we were on a narrow stage, high up behind the bar. If we slipped, it would have been very bad. We got really good at performing all manner of difficult, but exciting-to-watch positions. None of these are things that I'd normally do with a partner. 2 1 Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Guest Report post Posted June 3, 2021 I think the state of mind and context for intercourse are as important if not more than positions, locations and other details around sexual activities. Most mainstream porn imply lust and consent. But in exploitation and deep art films, the context tend to be more violent or unhealthy ways to deal with severe mental issues. When meeting strangers for sex, it's not the kind of thing that pops out immediately. But when signs start to emerge, it's normally a good time to take some distance. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
IsabellaDivine 56 Report post Posted June 18, 2021 On 4/13/2021 at 3:01 AM, clearbluesky15 said: Hopefully no clients do this, but one thing I see more of in porn recently I s the ‘throat choke’ thing. Not sure why that would be fun and seems like it would be scary being on the receiving end. Is THAT why all of a sudden I have guys trying to choke me? They also don't get it when I remove their hand from my throat so I have to stop what we're doing and explicitly tell them to stop or they're out. Who TF thinks this is a fun idea to spring upon someone? 1 1 Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
happywan4748 15 Report post Posted June 25, 2021 (edited) I first learned about the choking thing during sex from a movie called Rising Sun (i think) with Sean Connery and Wesley Snipes. Sean Connery called the victim a 'gasper'. Also David Carradine from Kung Fu died in Bankok by hanging and the unofficial story was that he liked being fellated while being deprived of air. The closest i can come to relating to gasping is positioning my face under a BBW's business end and having her drop all of her weight down and grind. NOT FUN! Just happened recently i might add. Double diping transfers bacteria and if proper evacuation and multiple douches are not followed can lead to infections and illnesses. We did do it once in a drunken stupor in the 80's and neither one of us had any symptoms but luck happens to fools and saints alike. The thing that i find totally unbelievable in porn is dry anal. I mean, i like riding the speed bumb as much as anyone but i couldn't imagine it dry. That must be excruciating. Lubing with saliva. I was married to the same girl for a very long time and as menopause approaches, (or she got tired and just wanted to sleep), my wife would get dry. So i would slather some saliva on my hand and wind it down the girth and length and keep on laying pipe. We didn't consider it unsafe or unclean as i like to pay oral attention to my favorite orifice as foreplay and there would be saliva already in the mixture, so meh. Quote "how do you like your daughter's ass this way...Daddy !", lost my erection right away. This very thing happened to me. I got up and dressed and left right then and there. I do like sleeping with younger women, but would like to qualify this by saying that - At one time i was her age and when i am with her i am re-experiencing part of my youth that i probably didn't appreciate fully when i was young. Young men are such fools and i was no different Just my two cents worth, Happywan Edited June 25, 2021 by happywan4748 Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Phaedrus 209521 Report post Posted June 25, 2021 9 minutes ago, happywan4748 said: I first learned about the choking thing during sex from a movie called Rising Sun (i think) with Sean Connery and Wesley Snipes. Sean Connery called the victim a 'gasper'. Also David Carradine from Kung Fu died in Bankok by hanging and the unofficial story was that he liked being fellated while being deprived of air. Entirely possible. The use of asphyxia to enhance orgasm is definitely a thing. Here's an example (read about his death). Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites