Desirable attributes in the real world versus the world of hobbying.

[RobX 2084]

The results of a study just released in the journal Emotion indicate that women are more attracted to men who are "moody and ashamed" and least attracted to "smiling, happy men", while men are least attracted to women who appeared "proud and confident."

 

Read more: http://www.upi.com/Health_News/2011/05/24/Women-not-attracted-to-happy-smiling-men/UPI-82821306273160/#ixzz1NPx7UTFL

 

It is interesting that in the client-escort relationship the desirable attributes would seem to be exactly the opposite of these.

 

In the case of an SP, confidence is a very desirable characteristic, and the Aimee Mullins quotes rings very true: "Confidence is the sexiest thing a woman can have". Also, because clients are often nervous, they need the SP to be confident enough to take charge put them and ease, in order for the session to be a success.

 

With regards to the other side of the client-SP relationship I would be interested in the opinion of the ladies of CERB. However, I would venture to guess that SPs would much prefer "smiling, happy" clients to clients who are "moody and ashamed".

 

I just found it very interesting how what is desirable in real world relationships seems to be exactly the opposite to what applies in client-SP relationships.

[VedaSloan 119179]

I'd like to know who these women are who like their men "moody and ashamed"?

 

Professionally or not, I like a man who is intelligent, witty and confident.

[rickoshadows 937]

Perhaps it is a case of what we think or say we want vs what we really want, perhaps even unrealized by ourselves. A sexy confident might be subconciously percieved as less likely to remain in a relationship. Not an issue for a short term dalliance.

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[RobX 2084]

Here is the type of question asked in the study:

http://www.cbc.ca/news/yourcommunity/2011/05/smiling-men-study-do-women-prefer-bad-boys.html

 

Here is more info on the results, including an interview with one of the researchers:

http://www.cbc.ca/news/technology/story/2011/05/24/science-smile-men-attractive.html

[SamanthaEvans 166767]

Well, speaking as a "proud and confident woman," I've gotta say that "moody and ashamed" are not qualities I find attractive in men.

 

I noticed a long ago that, if a man has a Heathcliff-ian, brooding aspect, he may attract women who will hope to rescue him from himself, explain him to the rest of the world as a sadly misunderstood teddy bear, express confidence in his genius or goodness, yadda yadda, but I wouldn't say that this is a healthy dynamic. My experience is that moody men are often poor communicators with a sense of entitlement who may become very abusive. Coupling moodiness with shame is a toxic mixture. Such men are not ideal clients or dates and, when they meet women with low self-esteem I have to pray that those women have others in their lives who are looking out for them.

 

Men who are a little shy, uncertain and cautious, on the other hand, are often the best clients because their caution tends to mean that they want to assure their companion that they mean no harm. They relax into smiling, happy fellows, ready to have a good time!

[renegade 11027]

Maybe i,m missing something here but are they not just looking at images ? and if thats the case it makes sense somewhat,i don,t believe they are actually talking about personality traits !! think pics of james dean (very seldom photographed if ever with a smile) always deep and brooding or a smiling women looking friendly and inviting compared to a female ceo looking all business (therefore unapproachable to most guys)just my 2 cents