happywan4748 15 Report post Posted June 2, 2021 (edited) I have been using escorts for the past few years exclusively for my sexual needs. I am a single mature caucasian genleman. When i started as a hobbyist i ws looking for mature caucasian women and found a few that i clicked with and as i enjoy familiarity i tend to see the same women until circumstances dictate a change. Most of the 50 YO providers have hung up their nighties, so to speak and a couple of years ago i started seeing Asian women. I usually go for mature women i can find, but have found that Asian escorts actually enjoy entertaining gentlemen of my age. Now for my quandry, have i developed an asian fetish, or is it that i prefer asians to other races. It may be that i have not really paid that much attention to Asian women, as i was married for almost 40 years, but now i find them to be very attractive en masse. I only search Asian ethnicity. Is this 'Yellow Fever' or just a personal preference? happywan4748 Edited June 2, 2021 by happywan4748 1 Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
NotchJohnson 214132 Report post Posted June 3, 2021 We all have our strange and different fetishes and if this is what you enjoy to have then consider it a normal fetish. I tend to try a bit of everything myself and have had the "yellow fever" a long time ago but it was hard to find one who could speak my languages( I speak 3 btw) so I moved on and like yourself I have one for the mature women. 1 Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Jenesis 294 Report post Posted June 7, 2021 I think it is a good question to ask. Some men go for Asian women simply because they are very good at being subservient. These ladies who you see maybe “act” very well or they may truly like you. The former seems more likely. Here is the a great definition of the two I found in article. Racial Preference: Our backgrounds, and where we grew up and who we surround ourselves with and the media, all play a part in our perceived racial preference. Therefore, you are attracted to a particular person based on factors such as; race, culture, religion, environment and background. However without the elimination of other ethnic groups. Racial Fetishism: Only acknowledging and fixating on someone's race, making it the only part of their identity you consider. Furthermore, you do not take their personality or opinions into account and your perception of them is based on harmful stereotypes. So if you only go to Asian women because of their nature to be subservient, then yes you may have turned it into a fetish. But if you are getting to know these women; the same you would with any other race, then no it is not a fetish. More from the article. https://medium.com/equality-includes-you/racial-preference-vs-racial-fetishism-e20b8dc6f525 3 Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Guest lydiahardwood Report post Posted June 7, 2021 I've been looking to interview an Asian Provider on this very subject. If anyone sees this and is interested in sharing their thoughts please send me a message. In the meantime can we avoid the term "yellow fever" on here - I don't think it's a term favoured by that community. Thanks. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Guest Report post Posted June 8, 2021 Had different type of relationships (casual and industry related) with Asian women and always more cautious with service providers. Not due to potential fraud or misrepresentation, but more of meeting someone against her will. Domination and servitude is fine in the context of roleplay with rules, but absolutely not when a real 24/7 situation. When living and working in a free country, one should be allowed reasonable work conditions and enough free time for a real life. Sex trafficking/slavery is not just a problem with Asians, but the most visible and too often ignored due to pop culture references and stereotypes. We do see occasional police raids, but not enough considering the amount of full page ads and obvious storefronts. It's not hard to find independent Asian providers, but worth the effort to find someone with the capacity to choose who she'll meet and what services she's comfortable offering. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Guest Report post Posted June 8, 2021 As for the question of "Preference or Fetish", I suppose it depends on the nature of the attraction. If you got a true interest for the person, lifestyle and culture, this would likely be categorized as a preference. But if purely sexual and becomes a necessity for arousal, would probably be a fetish. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
happywan4748 15 Report post Posted June 8, 2021 Greenteal wrote: Quote Sex trafficking/slavery is not just a problem with Asians, but the most visible and too often ignored due to pop culture references and stereotypes. I have been to places in my city where i was certain that the girls were there, and i am assuming here, to pay off a debt for being brought to this country or being trafficked. As you might imagine it is hard to get them to open up to a 'white ghost', the asian term for white men, but i sat with a girl who was very emotional about the rough treatment she received from customers. She didn't cry, but she was one step away. We talked some and then I just hugged her until she said time was up. I raised daughters. That was an emotionally devastating experience for me. As a dad i ran the gauntlet of emotions as you might imagine. 1 Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Phaedrus 209521 Report post Posted June 9, 2021 Something I've read elsewhere, which sounds reasonable (and no, I can't remember where - sorry): If it's something you like, it's a preference. If you're really into it, it's a kink. If you can't get off without it, it's a fetish. 2 Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Guest lydiahardwood Report post Posted June 9, 2021 6 hours ago, Phaedrus said: Something I've read elsewhere, which sounds reasonable (and no, I can't remember where - sorry): If it's something you like, it's a preference. If you're really into it, it's a kink. If you can't get off without it, it's a fetish. This is my understanding too. Fetish means it's either imperative for arousal or very dependent on, from what I understand. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Andee 220524 Report post Posted August 5, 2021 To the OP on this comment: "Most of the 50 YO providers have hung up their nighties, " Seriously? As to Asian providers, a lot of stereotyping going on in this thread. Please educate yourself, then have a real conversation about this. https://www.butterflysw.org/ Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
happywan4748 15 Report post Posted August 6, 2021 Quote "Most of the 50 YO providers have hung up their nighties, " Hi Andee and thanks for replying but as a resident of the K-W area i stand by my remarks. I do have a type and it is older and slender, my current provider is a 60 year old asian woman. I do filter ads by age, and have fond memories of several of the local ladies who have hung up their nighties, and still see an old faithful once in a while. The timing of your last visit to our fair town was not condusive or we would have met in person. I am afraid we will have to agree to disagree, but i will continue to educate myself. always happywan Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
