Guest f***2f*** Report post Posted July 18, 2008 Start shaving everyday, there should not be any red flags.Tell you are doing it for her so she won't get whisker burns, and maybe she will DFK you alot;) Whisker burns from my nuts?? If only she was that devoted to get down there and nuzzle them everyday!! I might not have to look for consolation elsewhere...know what I'm sayin ? Love the video...LMAO!! Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
PistolPete 61421 Report post Posted July 18, 2008 Whisker burns from my nuts?? If only she was that devoted to get down there and nuzzle them everyday!! I might not have to look for consolation elsewhere...know what I'm sayin ? Love the video...LMAO!! Just laughing my ass off good buddy:D, hopefully she will be that devoted....still smiling and laughing right now:p oops a tear rolled down my face..somebody going wonder why I'm laughing my head off in front of my computer!!! I know what you're saying..just had throw that out there, figured I get a rise...sorry Cat for getting off the topic Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
esoterica 624 Report post Posted July 18, 2008 I started shaving when I had my vasectomy.....and then I said I liked it so much I stuck with it....she is happy now that I did. That's how I started shaving. Two unshaven bodies gliding together... feels so ummm good. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
esoterica 624 Report post Posted July 18, 2008 I prefer a slow simmering session opposed to a porn star experience. One shot on net is enough as it's the quality that counts. I do expect that she stay for the time booked and prefer that she keep track of the time. If it was an incall the reverse would be true as I wouldn't want to overstay my welcome. A cuddle / massage after the event is always valued. Good point here I always tip 10% regardless of service and already have that money in the envelope. If she provides a wonderful experience that I will add an additional tip afterwards. This is a good idea. This thread has been an educational experience for me. At the end of the date I always ask if she would like to be escorted out of the hotel. That one is good for brownie points! In the email setting up an appointment, I always ask "Red wine, white wine or none". I make sure she sees me open the bottle. e Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
PistolPete 61421 Report post Posted July 23, 2008 Cat.... couple of other items to consider.... 1)Always respect the SP's privacy, if you are going to an incall, the door is not answered to let you in, don't hang out..leave. 2) Always check your emails/pm box (if you had set your appointment that way) to ensure your appointment is still on. Your SP has an outside life, and could have issues arise that she can't make/host the specific appointment. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
tmroper41 100 Report post Posted July 23, 2008 Excellent thread....being a relative newcomer to the hobby, my biggest concern was discretion on the sp's part. Boards like this one helped me search out reputable sp's. After searching for 3 months, I finally settled on a girl in Calgary and had a very enjoyable time. I am now hooked and use these boards to help me in my selection process. As far as uncomfortable situations, my biggest beef is the gals that insist in using foul language. Most sp's are quite willing to not talk like this as long there is some communication in the beginning. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
playtoe 201 Report post Posted July 24, 2008 My one offer for this thread is in the first contact. For the SP's with little to no free parking I think it's only fair to relate to your client that they will need money for parking. I've been caught with my pants almost down a few times. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
d*mm*y 887 Report post Posted July 25, 2008 Ah how about SP's that validate parking!@! now that is a novel idea! Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Guest f***2f*** Report post Posted July 25, 2008 Ah how about SP's that validate parking!@! now that is a novel idea! That's an awesome suggestion...and Air Miles???:D Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
randy36 1078 Report post Posted July 26, 2008 Thanks CAT for initiating this interesting discussion. I hope I get to read the final version of your "How To .." book. I am interested to know that if you have to say no to an SP whether incall or an outcall, how to do it politely without being rude and without hurting sentiments. Thanks. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Love2Cum 100 Report post Posted July 26, 2008 Yes, I'm also interested in this. If you setup a date via an agency and the girl that shows up is not as promised, it may not be her fault but you still may want to cancel. What is the best way to say no here? Thanks CAT for initiating this interesting discussion. I hope I get to read the final version of your "How To .." book. I am interested to know that if you have to say no to an SP whether incall or an outcall, how to do it politely without being rude and without hurting sentiments. Thanks. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Love2Cum 100 Report post Posted July 26, 2008 I may have missed this earlier in the thread but also if an SP does not want to discuss services in detail until she sees you in person, if you then decide the services aren't what you are looking for, it would be good to know if there's good etiquette for stopping the date there too. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
d*mm*y 887 Report post Posted July 26, 2008 If the ladies opt to work for an agency that over sells them or is unable to match SP's to clients that she will eventually get the point and move on, perpetuating the bad service by putting up with so you don't hurt there feelings helps no one. If an SP insists on discussing details and then is unable to satisfy you when you arrive is there problem for not getting background info and setting the stage for the visit again leave. Equally so if a gentleman arrives and he is not suitable for the SP it is her prerogative to not follow through the sword cuts both ways. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
capitalman 3861 Report post Posted July 28, 2008 Hillarious video! So should you be upfront in an email or telephone call about what services you want, or is the SP's website listing enough to assume it's on the menu? For example: I'm looking for a greek provider and I have a few in mind that have it listed on their sites as something they do, but do I need to tell them ahead of time this is what I want? Should I be telling them my cock size or telling them I want it hard and upside down? Or should I just book then when I get there mention it? Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
d*mm*y 887 Report post Posted July 28, 2008 Greek should be discussed, it may take a little extra preparation on the ladies part. 1 Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
cat 262460 Report post Posted July 28, 2008 Gentlemen, Great input! It is all appreciated and I'm continuing to work on getting it all together. Every post is appreciated. Thank you! Catherine Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
ulixestrojan 3757 Report post Posted August 1, 2008 Catherine and Cerbians: I have returned from Germany (more on that later, just to say - woo hoo!!) and wanted to share this little video that might bring a few laughs. It fits with the theme of "how-to". The Sebastian Horsley Guide to Whoring Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Susie 1472 Report post Posted January 30, 2011 hi everyone! what an amazing thread!! i just wanted to share a link to some work done by annie temple - trade secrets- sex industry occupational health and safety that also includes information from consumers for consumers and from workers for consumers as well as finally from consumers for workers; www.tradesecretsguide.blogspot.com i can't wait to see the outcome cat!! it's sure to be amazing! stella also have a sex consumer guide known as dear client... it rocks!and inspired the work we did here in vancouver! www.chezstella.org love susieXXXO Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
roamingguy 300292 Report post Posted January 30, 2011 Any wonder I missed this thread, very informative btw...it started in 2008, I didn't join CERB, nor begin hobbying till 2010 RG 1 Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
da2root 871 Report post Posted July 6, 2011 very informative information although the thread is older. In terms of etiquette and how to treat a SP I read this on another site: "Hiring a sex professional is the same as hiring any other professional, like a doctor, lawyer, or auto mechanic. You pay them money for a service. It doesn't matter what the service is: if you're nice to the professional, you generally get a better result than if you aren't." Only makes sense to me; kind of goes back to kindergarten where we're all taught to treat others how you want to be treated. If only our government recognized this as a legitimate service industry then the girls would be much safer! Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
mikey76 438 Report post Posted November 11, 2012 i have taken the next step yet what the first time like meeting a pro. i don't want to be a disappointment to her. will she be able to handle some one who is nervous ie anxiety what can i expect for the first time or any other time. i can keep going just pm Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
cat 262460 Report post Posted November 12, 2012 i have taken the next step yet what the first time like meeting a pro. i don't want to be a disappointment to her. will she be able to handle some one who is nervous ie anxiety what can i expect for the first time or any other time. i can keep going just pm Spend a little bit of time reading the Newbie section here on CERB (depending on how fast you read!) then make contact with a provider that interests you. This is like learning to high dive. You can play it out in your head forever and a day but until you climb the ladder, walk the board, hold your breath and jump; you're not actually doing anything. As long as you can swim, the first jump is just a faith action. The nuances are learned over time and repetition; no two hobbyists have the same experience twice. Be clean, respectful and realistic in your expectations and you will be fine. I promise... cat Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Phaedrus 209521 Report post Posted November 14, 2012 This is like learning to high dive. I disagree. My first visit to a SP was a LOT more pleasant than my first leap off the top board at the pool. Which was fortunate :) 1 Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Guest *on***e2 Report post Posted March 22, 2013 Sounds good Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Meaghan McLeod 179664 Report post Posted March 22, 2013 Thanks Cat. I also think that a blerb on the do's and don'ts... Had a client once call my agency. Told them he had seen me before. The agency asked when, how he had seen me. Told them "She brought a gun" to the call. Literally the agency's mouth dropped to the floor. She said "Meaghan did not bring a gun to the call, you must have her mistaken for someone else" and did not want to book the call. Really, talking about guns is kinda way off the mark in this business. As it turned out, I had seen him before, and our conversation was actually "I Bought a gun from where you live", not BROUGHT, but purchased...Some people mumble, and this gent does. The agency does not know our conversations. So if they are asking if you saw her before, say, yes, last week at the Howard Johnsons. Don't tell them about our conversation or what we did. Tell them where and when you saw her before...It really helps. However, we had a big laugh about this, because those that know me, know I hunt and have a gun license and own guns. But, no I don't bring my guns to my calls. Also, I think a thread of funny things that happen when seeing sp's. I had a Lab once, and she got out of the room I had her in for the call. Not sure how she opened the door, but she did. So I said to her "go lay down" in my stern dog voice, but the client thought I was talking to him, and when I turned around he was laying down, with all his clothing on, awaiting my next command. Turns out I might be good at dom after all...I had to chuckle over this one and he still sees me and is not the same man he was before this call. Turns out he likes being dominated and didn't really realize this until the incident with the dog happened. I think a blerb on funny things would really help. Good luck, and look forward to hearing your novel. Meaghan Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites