Good Manners or offensive?

[Good Gloria 100]

I had an experience the other day where I had received an email from someone expressing interest in seeing me.

His note gave me enough information for me to know that I wasn't interested.

 

So I responded, thanking him politely for his email - and that I did not feel an appointment would work for either of us.

 

I received an extremely rude reply.

I did not write back.

 

Should have just deleted his message and ignored it if I wasn't interested.

[PistolPete 61421]

Seriously...simply put him on your trash email list, if he could not a accept the fact you did not want to see him, he may re-think his mannerism when dealing with ladies. There is polite ways in asking, I'm not privy in seeing your email from him, but there something that alarmed you, so you have the last word! Good choice on your part always let your first instincts and stay with them in decision making.

[Guest f***2f***]

I think people like this don't amend their ways cause they just don't get it. I remember an employee a few years ago who I had to discipline for making continued rude comments about a fellow workers breasts after she repeatedly told him it bothered her to be centered out in a male dominated workplace with such rude comments. He just didn't get it. The Recorded Warning he received was what at least got him to shut his mouth. Some people were just never taught good manners.

[halfbelgian 101]

I think you did the right thing. I know that I'm annoyed when I don't receive any acknowledgement of an e-mail, that seems to me to be a bad business practice and calls into question (for me) the professionalism of the person. That being said there can be lots of legitimate reasons for not replying and if I'm really interested I usually send a follow up about a week later indicating that if there's no response I won't be contacting them again (just so they know I'm not a stalker or nut case ;) ).

 

You're between a rock and a hard place here as this person was obviously insulted by your declining of his generous offer to spend time with you :rolleyes: , and by his subsequent actions confirmed your reading of the situation. So in a way he validated your instincts. If you don't reply then people who share my opinion may think you're a flake or unprofessional. Possibly a neutral sounding refusal like "I'm not accepting any new clients at this time..." may assuage the hurt feelings of tools like that guy and prevent you being subjected to abusive replies.

 

In any event hope you're having a great summer!

[Fatbody 100]

Well now you've got me all curious. Can you PM what he said in the original email to make you not want to see him?

[amadeus65 113]

I agree with HB on this, I have had several e-mails go unanswered, however that was when I was relatively new. Now I usually include a reference from an SP so the girl knows I am legitimate plus my handle on cerb and cerf, usually I receive a reply promptly. I don't usually see girls now unless I have read their reviews, also if they post on our forums rudely or with anger, hatred etc, then I wouldn't bother as it wouldn't be worth my time. I find the way a person posts is usually a good indication of what kind of service you can expect from them.

 

As for replying Gloria, a simple no thanks is good enough if he responds rudely I would discuss this with the other sp's that you know for your safety and theirs in case he's a nut or something, not on here though but in private, As HB said follow your instincts there are alot of nuts out there, even some that might post on these boards.

[Guest DaveLB]

I had an experience the other day where I had received an email from someone expressing interest in seeing me.

His note gave me enough information for me to know that I wasn't interested.

 

So I responded, thanking him politely for his email - and that I did not feel an appointment would work for either of us.

 

I received an extremely rude reply.

I did not write back.

 

Should have just deleted his message and ignored it if I wasn't interested.

 

You had the right attitude and this dude was wrong all the way. There is maybe a lot of lonely guys around. With this job I don't think you'll get the type of guy like Brad Pitt...etc We are just normal guys with faults, qualities and weakness. It's probably a tough job and I appreciate all of you ladies.

[Emma Alexandra 123368]

Sometimes i receive rude emails as well . I'm sorry but i will not respond to such letters...manners is a big thing with me and if a potential client cannot write to me with respect then i will not satisfy him with a response...sometimes thats all they want is some kind of banter ..i learned this the hard way...so don't let him get to you its not worth it.

kisses,

Emma

[Good Gloria 100]

Now to learn how to multi quote. ! My first attempt failed !

 

Each an every letter had a very good point, most of which I use or am practicing. Thank you thank you.

 

Intuition is huge, a lot is said in the written word.

 

"not taking on clients.." that is the one I could have used to avoid him feeling rejected.

 

A lot of men, the new ones especially, are not aware of the rules, guidelines and etiquette that pertain to Escorts/Ladies. Where is the manual ??? Hence my reason and intution for declining. (I was not in the mood for 50 emails and a training session !)

 

one more note...I will not be accepting friends on this site. :( I just got blasted on another forum :confused: and it has left me with a scar. Ya, I know...gotten toughen up ! I am thinking it is best to keep low, advertise and stay away from groups ! It is not the men, bless your souls !!! (they hate the drama) it is the Ladies,,of which I was warned would happen.

 

I have learned very fast, that how a SP posts is often the opposite of

what she writes in her web page. !!!! (I got slammed bad by a !!!??? "non judgmental" caring !!?? Lady)

 

Please understand my not wanting any visible "friends" but I will gladly accept any private messages.

 

thank you all. I really enjoyed reading the responses, it has helped greatly with putting me back on track with my emails.

[amadeus65 113]

Sometimes i receive rude emails as well . I'm sorry but i will not respond to such letters...manners is a big thing with me and if a potential client cannot write to me with respect then i will not satisfy him with a response...sometimes thats all they want is some kind of banter ..i learned this the hard way...so don't let him get to you its not worth it.

kisses,

Emma

 

Very true emma, I never e-mail unless I am ready to meet, unless it is to inquire about availability and travel dates if the sp is from somewhere else. I find its good for us pooners if we have references, that way the girl can check with other sp's and know the person is for real and not a nut. Can't wait till september emma :p

 

Now to learn how to multi quote. ! My first attempt failed !

 

Each an every letter had a very good point, most of which I use or am practicing. Thank you thank you.

 

Intuition is huge, a lot is said in the written word.

 

"not taking on clients.." that is the one I could have used to avoid him feeling rejected.

 

A lot of men, the new ones especially, are not aware of the rules, guidelines and etiquette that pertain to Escorts/Ladies. Where is the manual ??? Hence my reason and intution for declining. (I was not in the mood for 50 emails and a training session !)

 

one more note...I will not be accepting friends on this site. :( I just got blasted on another forum :confused: and it has left me with a scar. Ya, I know...gotten toughen up ! I am thinking it is best to keep low, advertise and stay away from groups ! It is not the men, bless your souls !!! (they hate the drama) it is the Ladies,,of which I was warned would happen.

 

I have learned very fast, that how a SP posts is often the opposite of

what she writes in her web page. !!!! (I got slammed bad by a !!!??? "non judgmental" caring !!?? Lady)

 

Please understand my not wanting any visible "friends" but I will gladly accept any private messages.

 

thank you all. I really enjoyed reading the responses, it has helped greatly with putting me back on track with my emails.

 

Glad we were able to help you out Gloria, anything else I can do for you don't hesitate to pm me;)

[Emma Alexandra 123368]

Now to learn how to multi quote. ! My first attempt failed !

 

Each an every letter had a very good point, most of which I use or am practicing. Thank you thank you.

 

Intuition is huge, a lot is said in the written word.

 

"not taking on clients.." that is the one I could have used to avoid him feeling rejected.

 

A lot of men, the new ones especially, are not aware of the rules, guidelines and etiquette that pertain to Escorts/Ladies. Where is the manual ??? Hence my reason and intution for declining. (I was not in the mood for 50 emails and a training session !)

 

one more note...I will not be accepting friends on this site. :( I just got blasted on another forum :confused: and it has left me with a scar. Ya, I know...gotten toughen up ! I am thinking it is best to keep low, advertise and stay away from groups ! It is not the men, bless your souls !!! (they hate the drama) it is the Ladies,,of which I was warned would happen.

 

I have learned very fast, that how a SP posts is often the opposite of

what she writes in her web page. !!!! (I got slammed bad by a !!!??? "non judgmental" caring !!?? Lady)

 

Please understand my not wanting any visible "friends" but I will gladly accept any private messages.

 

thank you all. I really enjoyed reading the responses, it has helped greatly with putting me back on track with my emails.

 

I agree with you on having other sp's for friends...i'm the same way. You can never know whom you can trust....your always better off just doing what you do best and keeping to yourself around other ladies...they then can't make things up and slam you because they don't really know you. Your clients do know you and how you really are...so that being said just smile because you know who you are as well.

kisses,

Emma

[Guest E**a]

I think that no matter how polite and civilized you reply, some people will get rude anyway.

 

He probably would have acted nasty during the appointment so it's a positive thing that he showed you his true colors in an email rather than in your presence.