What would you do?

[MyahMonroe 19]

Hi ladies & gentlemen. I’m in a situation. Recently one of my regular clients wives have reached out to me. I answered the phone and had a conversation with her about my services and such (I see couples and women all the time so it wasn’t weird that it was a woman) before she started bombarding me with questions such as have I seen her husband. I’ve never had something like this happen before, therefor I don’t know how to properly handle it. I told her I’d have to get back to her later.
 

So my question is, what do you ladies do if a significant other finds out and contacts you? 

*edited to add*

Or gentlemen, what you would prefer a lady do if your partner contacted them? 
 

Sorry if this isn’t allowed. 

 

[Jstsmguy4u 8]

If my wife contacted you and asked if you seen me I would definitely hope you would play no wiser and say you didn't see me. 

I would hope you would just ignore/block her number .

I know the ladies are going to say " If it were my husband I would want to know blah blah blah " but in reality who wants to find out their husband was sleeping with a sw??? 

 

[ManofFewWords 1471]

My view is discretion by both parties is part of the unspoken agreement in this business. What happens between the consenting adults stays between them. If the untruth of denying seeing the client causes an ethical dilemma, perhaps simply stating you do not discuss your clients with anyone will suffice.

Both clients and service providers deserve to have the expectation they will not be outed to people in their public lives. There are benefits of some discussion within the community, such as references or recommendations (with consent), and bad date lists for safety reasons. Beyond that I would expect that things stay between the respective parties.

[Phaedrus 209521]

Ugh. Sorry this happened to you!

You'll really need to get advice from other providers on this one, as they're the ones that will have been through it themselves. But if you want some random guy's opinion... TBH, I don't think there's anything you can gain from discussing it at all. Discretion demands that you can't confirm that you saw anyone. It sounds like the wife had figured out that you're an escort before she called, if she started out asking about services, so an innocent-sounding lie is probably off the table. It may well be that your best bet is to do nothing; don't call back, don't answer that number for a few days, and let the two of them sort it out for themselves. And if it ever gets abusive or threatening, cease all contact completely.

Bear in mind also that the reason the wife is contacting you at all is because of some lack of discretion on your client's end of things, so you may want to be careful with him in future...

[Littleg 1]

Definitely play it cool and deny that I had seen you. 

[Cheeky.char 459]

If she is messaging on her own phone, I would just leave it. I wouldn’t reply unless I had this client specifically tell me it was fine (not through a text) to provide him his discretion. 

 

If the wife is messaging through his phone (has happened to me) it’s a different story. Not sure what I would do in this situation. Luckily when it happened to me, she wasn’t angry at all. 

[TakeMeToParadise 21]

Oh wow what a tricky situation.. i have always wondered about how you might deal with that situation and i honestly can't tell you how i would want you to handle it .. I am not married and I am single so I can see any SP without all the unecessary drama

[Akira 31]

I can now see another reason why SPs don’t answer the phone and only take texts or emails. That would be an unnerving call to take. Though I agree with the majority of posts that state discretion is paramount. Don’t confirm/deny. Let her know that you don’t discuss clients. Then hang up. 

[George1387 8]

Personally I think if he's cheating on his wife then he deserves to get caught and she could potentially cause you problems so I would be honest with her. But that's just my opinion.