LusciousLaceyxo 1642 Report post Posted January 26, 2022 (edited) I was talking to a friend today and I got very emotional .. I never thought I would ever want to talk about this or even put it out there for everyone to see because I put it behind me and never looked back and was embarrassed frankly even though I still deal with the constant reminder of it every day ... im just putting my story out there because I wonder if my friend was right and so im going to ask you for your opinions . A few years ago I was at a party and ended up fighting with a girl and after that, her cousin (male) attacked me and pulverized my face to a pulp . I lost 3 teeth and one was knocked out of place and i got that one stitched back in and got temporary partial dentures ... I always had perfect teeth and most of us girls when something like this happens to us, are afraid to call police and dont want to "snitch" and ive always been that way so when it happened i got a friend to pick me up and never went to hospital just told them not to leave me alone out of fear i would harm myself at this point ... I knew how much it would cost and how much savings would be going into this and how much time off I would have to take and how many surgeries . All the money I earned doing this trying to get out , just GONE ! .. I always think to myself everything ive had to do for this money... we don't have benefits as sex workers ... and no I wasnt working when it happened .. im just an escort trying to make it who has worked hard and SAVED her money .. just for this to happen to me .. So here's the deal .. my friend brought up how I should make a gofundme and tell my story but as a sex worker I told her there's no fucking way I would put myself out there to be humiliated when I already feel pretty miserable as it is and that people don't sympathize with sex workers I would just be embarrassing myself . They will tell me to get a job , they will tell me if I had a job i would get benefits and more ... Listen .. im more than aware of that ! It takes time to get the benefits !! And then I will have to ask for months off once I do get the benefits at that job and I will need money to take all that time off and a 9-5 just won't cut it im sorry . Literally covid happened right after this happened to me THANK GOD SO I WORE MASKS WITHOUT JUDGEMENT !! But this job isn't what it used to be with covid and ive been taking different courses trying to better myself and maybe open my own business i DONT want to be doing this forever and this really destroyed me ive been depressed and not really motivated to do this more than i already have. My friend keeps telling me i think too low of myself since the attack and should take the chance and fuck what others will say or think but the little voice in my head keeps telling me im unworthy of asking for help and ive never been the type to ask for it and maybe after years of doing this and realizing that all my hard work is going to teeth and not to my future and a home or investments I feel defeated .. nobody wants to do this forever ... after what happened and then covid hitting ... I honestly just needed to see what you guys think about how im feeling and what I should do ? Is my friend as crazy as I think they are for telling me to start a gofundme ? Edited January 26, 2022 by LusciousLaceyxo Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Phaedrus 209521 Report post Posted January 27, 2022 Sorry to hear all that, Lacey. Sounds like you've had an awful time. I guess you could do a GoFundMe. If you did, it might be better to keep some of the details out of it and only put in things that will help tug at people's heartstrings. So, saying that a guy punched you in the face and now you need a lot of expensive dental work is probably worthwhile, but leave out the bit where you'd just had a fight with his cousin. It's probably fine to say that you've been struggling to find work as a result of both this trauma and the pandemic, but maybe forget to mention exactly what kind of work you do because as you say, sex work doesn't always get a lot of sympathy. It's probably worth keeping expectations realistic, though. We hear about the GoFundMe campaigns that have gone viral and raised a ton of money; my understanding is that the vast majority don't, and make very little. It's not like there's a deal where you put yourself out there and in return you'll get your medical expenses taken care of; you could put yourself out there and get nothing. The only people who reliably make money from GoFundMe are the ones running it. 1 Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
LusciousLaceyxo 1642 Report post Posted January 27, 2022 Thanks for your input ! I appreciate it ! And i forgot to mention that i was attacked in first fight as well ... i wasnt the abuser here in any way ... the girl didnt like me for whatever reason i knew that already . I was on the phone with my best friend she heard the first altercation . The girl left the party after our fight and I went to sleep and someone let her back in when i was sleeping and others were there and this happened .. its been hard to get over mentally i dwell on it alot nobody even stood up to stop it from going that far .. I just want my smile back I just wish they never took it away from me that night . I tried to fight back but was asleep before i got dragged out of the bed and never had a chance to see it coming ... by the time someone got him off me my teeth were gone 2 Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
TakeMeToParadise 21 Report post Posted February 7, 2022 Aww that is so sad.. you really should have pressed charges .. i hope you can find your self confidence and that this year is much better for you.. you are absolutely beautiful Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
