New unsure what to do

[funtimeshal15 0]

Hey all any suggestions on best place for someone new to this to look for a provider. There is so much different information out there. As well with Covid a lot of what might have been allowed in session is not, how best to go about asking without asking if you know what I mean? Who would be good for someone newer to this? 

[spong 1344]

There's a newbie section here, read through those threads. https://www.lyla.ch/forum/157-new-to-this-things-you-should-know/

Read through recommendations and ads carefully to figure out who might best meet your needs. If a provider has a website, read through it carefully.  Don't be afraid to ask a question - just try to avoid asking something that's clearly spelled out on a website or ad.

[Zachmont 3826]

Hello there!

No worries, everybody starts out somewhere, so no worries at all about your situation. Some small suggestions, if you will.

First, you’ve taken the right first step. Starting out, I’d highly suggest calling upon a well established regular lady on Lyla than a random ad on Leolist or another site. I'm not knocking LL at all; just, starting out, you’re so much more likely to have a great time from an established lady from here. Remember that when you communicate, be polite and don’t be graphic. Nothing wrong letting them know you're new to seeing escorts; most ladies will be exceptionally understanding and go the extra effort for you.

I'd start by looking in the forum "Nova Scotia - Schedules and Announcements". See if anyone interests you, and check their profile, look at their pictures. Many have websites and/or twitter accounts; research there as well. You can also check out the recommendations thread, to see what other people have said.

Each lady has different levels of screening to their comfort level. Once you make you decision to whom, contact them and see what theirs is. Some may request a reference from another provider. Some may request a copy of photo ID. Some may request a deposit; sometimes, that’s a warning sign of a scam, but the Lyla ladies are 100% legit and you have absolutely nothing to worry about. Take the screening in stride; these ladies are placing themselves in a state of vulnerability with an unknown stranger, so understand their caution. They’re not out to cause you grief, they’re looking out for themselves. I would be VERY hesitant providing any information (or deposit) to a lady contacted at random from Leolist, but you really don't have that worry here.

You’re going to be nervous as the time approaches, that’s expected. Here’s the thing... IF you get cold feet and back out, DO NOT ghost the woman waiting for you. Text (or call) and let them know about your anxiety. These ladies have cancelled their plans for the evening just to meet with you, and it’s wrong on so many levels to just not show up. Again, these ladies are awesome and can help you through your nerves.

Show up on time; If you arrive early, hang out nearby (though not on the doorstep!) til it’s your time, don’t show up 15 minutes early. Shower before you head out, brush your teeth. Manscape a bit (no one likes a jungle), and shave (or trim if you have a beard / mustache).

I don’t know your financial situation, but I'd suggest get at least an hour of time with the lady. I’d even consider an hour and a half or two hours, if you can swing it financially. You'll enjoyting yourself tremendously. Respect their limitations completely; if you’re unsure, simply ask once you’re there. No means no, it doesn't mean "what if I offer you more money".

As for who... there’s several options.

There literally is no wrong decision if you pick any of these (this isn’t by any means an exclusive list!).... if it were me in your position, I would think Kylie Jane would be a no-brainer decision as one of the best ladies to visit. Charlotte Quinn is a sensual woman who would absolutely rock your world; I've never walked away from a session with her and not been exhaustively ecstatic. Ms Manda has a stellar reputation and would give you a night to remember for the rest of your life. If you prefer the girl next door type, Melanie Rose is breathtaking and such an amazingly nice person, and quite possibly the best "girlfriend experience" I've ever had.  Stephanie Mystique is energetic, fun, and sensuous and definitely put the effort into making your time memorable.

Re: Covid, the ladies on Lyla are as concerned (if not more so) than you are. Most advertise that they are double vaxxed. Many have cut their client intake down because of the situation. Most will require you to sanitize on arrival. I share your concern as I am equally concerned with Covid (I have a person who is immune-compromised in my inner circle); I would have zero concerns with any of the ladies mentioned above. They have a high level of professionalism; it's their health as well as yours. I would not have the same level of trust in a random person off Leolist.

Any questions, shoot me a message!

 

[RayRenpelle 429]

Great advice. Something I wish I would have received when I started three years ago. Instead I got insults and was accused of being too promotional in my recommendations. But indeed you give sound advice and well written. Research is all important and the best place to start is right here on Lyla.

[beesh 1286]

all of the above and ...

1) if age is not an issue - then go for a recommended mature companion 🥰

• mature ladies are best - for beginners (& in general) - because they know exactly what to do.

2) if you wear strong perfume &/or smoke - ASK if that is okay 🙊

• if the companion has issues - then use odourless deodorant & gallons of mouthwash

3) no matter what anyone says - never drink Red-bull (or similar stuff) before love making - very bad idea 🥵

• keep water bottle for hydrating

~

[SarahAlexxx 2025]

😉

[StephanieMystique 1892]

This was a great article for getting started to. It's by a well written SP from the states. 

 

https://www.buzzfeed.com/jessiesage/how-to-reach-out-to-a-sex-worker

 

I do want to comment on activities; As per Canadian laws, it's legal to solicit activities, it's illegal to purchase them. Many of us have multiple profiles available that have an outline on activities we may be willing to provide and are linked on our websites.

Most of us want to keep you safe and not bring any harm to either of us, thus trying to keep within the lines of the law. 

 

All the ladies recommended by @Zachmont are incredible and would cover almost anything you could want or have a fantasy for. 😘

 

 

[Mikeyboy 27133]

On 1/30/2022 at 2:51 PM, Zachmont said:

Some may request a deposit; sometimes, that’s a warning sign of a scam, but the Lyla ladies are 100% legit and you have absolutely nothing to worry about

 

A lot of great advice here. I'd like to expand on this one point a bit, as it's the newbies that often fall victim.

Many of the legitimate providers do require a deposit to secure their time. Not all do, but some choose to take that step. It is understandable in my opinion as it can make sure the client isn't wasting her time.

There are also tons of "deposit scammers" out there, who post ads to simply get you to e-transfer a deposit and then you never hear from them again. The trick is being able to spot the difference.

Legitimate sp's often have reviews, web sites, social media presence, and many other means of confirming they are legit. It is normally pretty easy to find information on them if you look for it. The scam ads normally do not have any of these things. They also often use stolen photos. (Learning to do a quick image search will help you rule out many of them.) 

Basically, if you are asked to send a deposit, make sure you can find some verifying info before you send it. Also, keep an eye on the warning section here as many scammers get reported there.

Good luck and have fun!

Mikey

[funtimeshal15 0]

3 hours ago, StephanieMystique said:

This was a great article for getting started to. It's by a well written SP from the states. 

 

https://www.buzzfeed.com/jessiesage/how-to-reach-out-to-a-sex-worker

 

I do want to comment on activities; As per Canadian laws, it's legal to solicit activities, it's illegal to purchase them. Many of us have multiple profiles available that have an outline on activities we may be willing to provide and are linked on our websites.

Most of us want to keep you safe and not bring any harm to either of us, thus trying to keep within the lines of the law. 

 

All the ladies recommended by @Zachmont are incredible and would cover almost anything you could want or have a fantasy for. 😘

 

 

Thank you all if there is a certain service that is important to you how do you go about finding out if Sorry if stupid questions 

[Mikeyboy 27133]

2 hours ago, funtimeshal15 said:

Thank you all if there is a certain service that is important to you how do you go about finding out if Sorry if stupid questions 

There are no stupid questions if asked respectfully. 😉

Make sure you read the ads thoroughly to see if it has already been answered. Also read all of the recco's and see if it was mentioned. If not, then you can ask her. Again be polite and respectful in your communications. Most don't mind inquiries as long as they are polite and brief. (They aren't looking for pen pals, they are running a business.) I'm guessing there aren't many requests they haven't heard already. They will let you know where they stand on it.

You can also reach out to gents who post recco's. Many don't mind answering, at least from their experience. Just remember YMMV. (Your results may vary).

 

[StephanieMystique 1892]

On 2/1/2022 at 1:31 PM, funtimeshal15 said:

Thank you all if there is a certain service that is important to you how do you go about finding out if Sorry if stupid questions 

There are other places we advertise that allow check boxes of details that would be possible. Massage Republic, VIPfavours, and many other sites have activities we would typically offer. 

 

As Mikey stated, YMMV. For myself, it's an outline of what can be offered. When in doubt, ask politely. Consent is key and hygiene. I don't think there is anything sexier than the smell of a freshly cleaned client I am about to get naughty with.