discussions What to do when sp leaves you hanging?

[victorfrancis96 5]

To give context, I havent done this much and is pretty shy contacting service providers. There are occasions when I text for details and location, I get no reply. Or I get blanked (doesn't text or receive my calls) after coming to stated location(location agreed after initial discussion). I get panic attacks when these situations happen. Does anyone else feel the same?

[East Coast Kimmy 1086]

Seems like you keep running into lots of unfortunate events by the post history from your profile! 
 

Perhaps your initial contact with providers is a bit to vague & some won’t respond to just “hey” sent repeatedly by a number. 

Or maybe you’re using an app/apps and some providers will not accept bookings with app numbers for various reasons.  
 

 

Also, if a legitimate provider went ahead and disclosed their information to u for u to attend a session, I can’t see them sending u to said location and then deciding not to answer. It just doesn’t make sense and as said, it isn’t something a LEGITIMATE provider would participate in. 
 

Another option, perhaps you had a bad time with a provider (which by your posts it’s clear you have) that provider could have warned friends or other providers to not do business with you?

 

hope it all works

but the common solution to all the dilemmas you seem to be having with women, would be to look into who you’re wanting to have company with (due diligence is KEY 🔑) & perhaps find someone who is verified/recommended  & has a positive history of ads and posting! 
 

cheers 🥂 

[Janebondage 2264]

On 5/6/2022 at 5:28 PM, victorfrancis96 said:

To give context, I havent done this much and is pretty shy contacting service providers. There are occasions when I text for details and location, I get no reply. Or I get blanked (doesn't text or receive my calls) after coming to stated location(location agreed after initial discussion). I get panic attacks when these situations happen. Does anyone else feel the same?

Believe it or not, provider or not, as a female hobbyists I get super shy too. I always feel so awkward and hate booking new providers for the first time. It gives me actual anxiety. No joke, I tend to regular the same people to avoid it. Trust me…no here would call me shy.  Panic is a thing and is less uncommon than you think.

Your likely either not doing your homework looking into the ladies you book or something is off in the approach. Maybe a bit of both? 🙂

I am sure one of the gents will swing by here latter and link off some tips on homework. On my end I will say, keep in mind with strangers written form is hard to decipher. Don’t talk around things or make us chase you for basic information.  I also can’t read between the lines if your talking around things to be polite. I mean be polite, ☺️ but there  is no body language or voice to add the tone. You need to have a clear a clear message as to who you are, what you seek and when you had in mind. 

Lastly, I am biased here as I am a provider that only takes new clients with deposit. However, if your doing the above and having a hard time….book a reputable provider that seeks a deposit!

 

Just make sure she has a reputable name that she won’t want Loose. Scammers don’t care they are changing their names/pics/# all the time. For the ladies that their name is their brand they aren’t going to try to screw you over $100.

I turn down muli hour bookings that come up all the time because I have a single hour on the books with deposit. We all have…that deposit is our contract to you as well as yours to us. It protects your time as well as it protects our time. Plus a client putting it out there tells me he’s serious and respects my time and that’s a nice way to start the process. 😘

 

If your not willing to put a deposit down make sure you do your homework on verifying pics/other adds using them type deal. Watch for a repeated number in several ladies profiles, they have hidden management. Beware of posts that offer 24/7, party friendly, or unprotected sex. 🥺 They aren’t taking care of themselves. Don’t expect them to take care about you. Sure there are exceptions but your gonna get screwed over a lot finding them. 

Lastly, why don’t you drop me a message consistent to what you usually send a new provider. Don’t edit it to reflect the advice here. Send exactly what you send and I will give you private feed back on my end. I can only speak to me personally and not all providers. Just make sure it’s private in dm so we’re not affected by an audience. 
😘

I hope something in there helps.  If not Kimmys right on your likely in a shit list. 

[victorfrancis96 5]

Thank you for your reply. I am hesitant against booking as I was scammed of 1100 dollars. Initially, 100 for booking, then asked for 500 as insurance. Then further 350 as refund fee after cancellation. To say the least, didnt get the money. In other occasions, twice I booked (50 and 100) but was a no show. It was second time trying to book an appointment and it was before I discovered lyla. The provider/agency had a website and all.

Typically, I say "hello, how are you doing" and compliment the pictures before asking for further details. Do not want to share my detailed information unless I feel secured because of robbery and blackmail posts that I have seen somewhere else. So, please suggest me better opening.

In the past, despite not being avail to perform in the specific occasions, I paid my share and left early. No questions and didn't argue. So don't why the bad reputation 😕

I simply do not get aroused by nudity or lap dances (I don't know, too much porn effect or something but get erection while reading erotica and in the past relationships. Don't feel like it's a medical issue). So wanted to know full details so that I no longer disappoint the providers and myself. I don't know whether that enrages the providers. Sorry in advance to all the providers who are reading this. 

[Exotic Touch Danielle 31734]

I can only speak for myself ...

But I will not respond to texts that are asking me explicit questions

Endless back and forth conversation(I prefer to get the initial date secured and booked and then have an intimate conversation when together in person)

A deposit is a must to secure my time, without one I will not book 

Calling from a text app or blocked call I will not take serious or book

 

Perhaps you are you just having bad luck and picking the wrong ones or just not doing your homework to make sure she is indeed safe and reliable

Good luck!

[Guest]

I'm not gonna repeat what I mentioned in the other thread:

Anyone has the chance to visit her? - Lyla

But if a confidence(of lack of) problem. I suggest starting with massages from recommended ladies and start meeting other for more specific services once you feel more comfortable.

As for deposits, NEVER send to anyone with limited or no online feedback/recommendations from long time members. Do your homework.

How to: Verify pics, ads and identify potential fraud. - Lyla

[Janebondage 2264]

Sounds like you need a connection based provider and there are tons of us here on lyla. 

[Janebondage 2264]

3 hours ago, victorfrancis96 said:

 

Typically, I say "hello, how are you doing" and compliment the pictures before asking for further details. Do not want to share my detailed information unless I feel secured because of robbery and blackmail posts that I have seen somewhere else.

There’s a lot to unpack here but if your worries about them blackmailing you and getting scammed your not doing your homework on the provider. There’s info on the boards here on how to do that. Leave booking newer girls to the guys that are more experienced first and learn your lay of the land before taking chances. 

Try  looking at their references before booking and look at how long the name has been active.
 

Off the top it also sounds like your needing GFE or Conection Based Providers. There’s a lot of us here. Some key words to scan posts for that type of provider are: 

-GFE

-intimacy coaches

-connection based 

-empath/empathy 

 -fetish providers

-switches 

-pansexual

The bottom 1/2 being more controversial for some I am sure.  We’re generalizing here but law of averages I stand by it in my experience. Other have their own .
I say fetish providers and switches because we tend to work off the your reactions, read body language and are adaptable. A vast majority of  of us do gfe too…it’s about  connecting to that need more than it is the medium used. 
Pansexual is not a given on its own bout I included it as gender and sexuality tend to be more of a fluid concept for them and they don’t tend to think along gender and sex roles to the same degree as most. Sex is not typically not a binary concept for them. 

It really just a matter of doing your homework on the girl. But choose your providers based on what you establish your needs are. We don’t all service all needs and those that do likely don't do it well. 

[Orpheo12 70]

On 5/7/2022 at 6:46 PM, Janebondage said:

Believe it or not, provider or not, as a female hobbyists I get super shy too. I always feel so awkward and hate booking new providers for the first time. It gives me actual anxiety. No joke, I tend to regular the same people to avoid it. Trust me…no here would call me shy.  Panic is a thing and is less uncommon than you think.

Your likely either not doing your homework looking into the ladies you book or something is off in the approach. Maybe a bit of both? 🙂

I am sure one of the gents will swing by here latter and link off some tips on homework. On my end I will say, keep in mind with strangers written form is hard to decipher. Don’t talk around things or make us chase you for basic information.  I also can’t read between the lines if your talking around things to be polite. I mean be polite, ☺️ but there  is no body language or voice to add the tone. You need to have a clear a clear message as to who you are, what you seek and when you had in mind. 

Lastly, I am biased here as I am a provider that only takes new clients with deposit. However, if your doing the above and having a hard time….book a reputable provider that seeks a deposit!

 

Just make sure she has a reputable name that she won’t want Loose. Scammers don’t care they are changing their names/pics/# all the time. For the ladies that their name is their brand they aren’t going to try to screw you over $100.

I turn down muli hour bookings that come up all the time because I have a single hour on the books with deposit. We all have…that deposit is our contract to you as well as yours to us. It protects your time as well as it protects our time. Plus a client putting it out there tells me he’s serious and respects my time and that’s a nice way to start the process. 😘

 

If your not willing to put a deposit down make sure you do your homework on verifying pics/other adds using them type deal. Watch for a repeated number in several ladies profiles, they have hidden management. Beware of posts that offer 24/7, party friendly, or unprotected sex. 🥺 They aren’t taking care of themselves. Don’t expect them to take care about you. Sure there are exceptions but your gonna get screwed over a lot finding them. 

Lastly, why don’t you drop me a message consistent to what you usually send a new provider. Don’t edit it to reflect the advice here. Send exactly what you send and I will give you private feed back on my end. I can only speak to me personally and not all providers. Just make sure it’s private in dm so we’re not affected by an audience. 
😘

I hope something in there helps.  If not Kimmys right on your likely in a shit list. 

Really appreciate your advice to the OP. Clear, assertive, almost... commanding 😉

 

[Allie Zeon 2925]

On 5/7/2022 at 8:35 PM, victorfrancis96 said:

Thank you for your reply. I am hesitant against booking as I was scammed of 1100 dollars. Initially, 100 for booking, then asked for 500 as insurance. Then further 350 as refund fee after cancellation. To say the least, didnt get the money. In other occasions, twice I booked (50 and 100) but was a no show. It was second time trying to book an appointment and it was before I discovered lyla. The provider/agency had a website and all.

Typically, I say "hello, how are you doing" and compliment the pictures before asking for further details. Do not want to share my detailed information unless I feel secured because of robbery and blackmail posts that I have seen somewhere else. So, please suggest me better opening.

In the past, despite not being avail to perform in the specific occasions, I paid my share and left early. No questions and didn't argue. So don't why the bad reputation 😕

I simply do not get aroused by nudity or lap dances (I don't know, too much porn effect or something but get erection while reading erotica and in the past relationships. Don't feel like it's a medical issue). So wanted to know full details so that I no longer disappoint the providers and myself. I don't know whether that enrages the providers. Sorry in advance to all the providers who are reading this. 

It sounds like a soap opera.

Is it really a true story?

First off, you are already at the right place joining in here with tons of legitimate providers with recos to support their credentials but you still lost $1100? That's a lot of $

When was it?  Where did you get the info of that scammer who took the money.

 

[victorfrancis96 5]

3 hours ago, Allie Zeon said:

It sounds like a soap opera.

Is it really a true story?

First off, you are already at the right place joining in here with tons of legitimate providers with recos to support their credentials but you still lost $1100? That's a lot of $

When was it?  Where did you get the info of that scammer who took the money.

 

It was before joining Lyla I think. The ad was in leolist. The sp initial book half the payment (100). Then asked for 500 as insurance incase of medical risk or abuse. Then further to refund policy. Overall, lost lot of money. Couldnt go the police as well  I was so fucking horny that I was thinking with my dick and not my brain. My mind was telling me no and dick was telling me yes.

[victorfrancis96 5]

On 5/26/2022 at 5:56 PM, Allie Zeon said:

It sounds like a soap opera.

Is it really a true story?

First off, you are already at the right place joining in here with tons of legitimate providers with recos to support their credentials but you still lost $1100? That's a lot of $

When was it?  Where did you get the info of that scammer who took the money.

 

I still have the screenshot of the conversation and him scamming. Didn't find it. Couldn't go the police due to risk of crime

[Jane92 1]

On 5/8/2022 at 12:46 AM, Exotic Touch Danielle said:

I can only speak for myself ...

But I will not respond to texts that are asking me explicit questions

Endless back and forth conversation(I prefer to get the initial date secured and booked and then have an intimate conversation when together in person)

A deposit is a must to secure my time, without one I will not book 

Calling from a text app or blocked call I will not take serious or book

 

Perhaps you are you just having bad luck and picking the wrong ones or just not doing your homework to make sure she is indeed safe and reliable

Good luck!

Exactly how I work, without deposit I won't give you my direct line...I hate time wasters