Escorts are like waitresses

[yak30000 1012]

If you have been in a resturant (who doesnt), you can agree with me that when you do not need a waitress, she is always around asking you how is food or if you need something else. But when you really need one, nobody comes to you.

 

Why escorts are like that? when you are just browsing and text to get some info you get an answer right away, but when you need one on the spot, no one answers back :S

[guyfox80 20]

I can't say that I've thought of it that way.

But in a way I guess it makes sense.  Depending on how busy the restaurant is, if I need a refill on my drink I would ask on the first chance the server came by and not expect them them to be there as I emptied my glass.

Planning ahead helps and everyone has their own things to deal with.

 

And unlike a server, escorts are business owners and have a lot more to deal with.  So just because you "need" one on the spot doesn't mean they're going to jump to the pump for you.  And even though they might be losing out, to maintain they're own sanity it might just be easier to deny you you're soup.

[Guest]

But with a restaurant waitress you don't risk prosecution for simply asking for the menu...

[Janebondage 2264]

My Provider Response: 

Wait…silly me here has been living my life and working with other clients when what I should be doing is waiting for your ‘maybe gonna test’ text. 🙄 I apparently missed the memo about not spending time with my family or making doctor appointments so I can accommodate you on your last min whims. Silly me and wanting a quality of life outside of work. Yes work. This is a job, I don’t sit around waiting to answer clients when I am not at work. I know the value of my time and have a work and personal life balance just like I assume you do outside of your Mon Fri 9-5 or what hours you work. 

 

Can I assume by your stance  sir your okay with me answering other Customers texts and calls in your paid session. Great…now excuse me well I take a break from being impaled on your 🍆 to answer this random text, oh and that text, and this call. Sorry an email just came in..got to answer that too. 
 

That’s okay right…I mean they are trying to reach me NOW after all. I am suppose to drop what I am and do that by your logic. So you won’t mind me taking time away from your paid session to do that right? 🤔 Or, does this fast answer world you seek only revolve only around you and your needs, not the other gents seeking my service too.
 

Let me put it in your own language:

I don’t have a hard time getting a serviced or my needs met, not even in a busy restaurant. Not ever…

Maybe it’s because I treat my servers like people and they respond to that and meet my needs.. Maybe because when it’s busy I know they have 7 other tables and are getting their food and drinks from a busy bar or kitchen that also serve all the tables in the restaurant. So I  don’t wait till my drinks empty expecting them to magically appear like the bottom of the glass as an alarm to notify them it’s empty. Common sense kicks in and I ask the service to swing by with a refill when I am low, not empty cause I know life takes a min and they aren’t able to snap their fingers to make it appear. After all, I am not their only customer. 
 

My Hobbyist Response:

As a hobbyist myself I find this frustrating too. I promise, I get the frustration but I manage my expectations accordingly. Those that know me know I even find booking stressful. I tend to internalize that it’s a problem with me or me being female when I don’t get an answer. It sucks but it’s life and I manage this by pre booking and allowing response time. 

Please try to understand this is our work and Most of the messages we get do not turn into bookings.  Your not actually a client until money exchanges hands. Manage your expectations around that. If this is happening a lot you may want to change your approach. Consider we’re both two sides of the same coin and if you can understand our needs when approaching us I promise we will better try to  accommodate yours. 

 

[Janebondage 2264]

5 hours ago, Greenteal said:

But with a restaurant waitress you don't risk prosecution for simply asking for the menu...

 

[Exotic Touch Danielle 31720]

22 hours ago, yak30000 said:

If you have been in a resturant (who doesnt), you can agree with me that when you do not need a waitress, she is always around asking you how is food or if you need something else. But when you really need one, nobody comes to you.

 

Why escorts are like that? when you are just browsing and text to get some info you get an answer right away, but when you need one on the spot, no one answers back :S

Probably because we have personal lives that come first ... families... businesses...maybe we just don't feel like being available at that time or maybe we have set hours we are available between

But I find it hard to believe there are never none available.... 

 

[Orpheo12 70]

On 5/18/2022 at 2:19 PM, Exotic Touch Danielle said:

Probably because we have personal lives that come first ... families... businesses...maybe we just don't feel like being available at that time or maybe we have set hours we are available between

But I find it hard to believe there are never none available.... 

 

Hi Danielle,

I agree -- but am also waiting not so patiently for a response. A long conversation with a local Lyla member who recommended others (TY! ) and says I can't afford her. Several introductions to others and no response at all. I think the reality is that Thunder Bay has very few if any really active. So what advice can you offer to a SP virgin no-one has actually met? 😉

 

EDIT: the first text was weeks ago and the conversation with SK over several weeks since. Last three introductions Friday with my birthday tomorrow. Guess I should have asked for a bike?

[Exotic Touch Danielle 31720]

1 hour ago, Orpheo12 said:

Hi Danielle,

I agree -- but am also waiting not so patiently for a response. A long conversation with a local Lyla member who recommended others (TY! ) and says I can't afford her. Several introductions to others and no response at all. I think the reality is that Thunder Bay has very few if any really active. So what advice can you offer to a SP virgin no-one has actually met? 😉

 

EDIT: the first text was weeks ago and the conversation with SK over several weeks since. Last three introductions Friday with my birthday tomorrow. Guess I should have asked for a bike?

Move on and contact someone else .. only thing you can do