pandacrazy 185 Report post Posted July 1, 2011 alright.. kinda an annoying problem but i can't have sex with a condom because i just can't feel anything with one probably because i am not circonsised and i basically feel nothing and my boner gets off only after a few mins due to lack of feeling and I really don't know what to do about it.. I can't cum either so I am pretty much out of options except bbbj and massage which is not too bad but i want more than that and i am pretty sure most of you understand that It really makes me cry at some point to not be able to do anything with a condom but w/e.. might have to deal with it and stick to the bbbj but that kinda sucks for me. :( any idea on this? Thanks max Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Megan'sTouch 23875 Report post Posted July 1, 2011 Handjo/blowjob, the female condom, or a sexually monogamous relationship where you've both been tested. Posted via Mobile Device Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
castle 38816 Report post Posted July 1, 2011 I think he meant any tips on how to resolve the issue, but your input is always welcome none the less, Megan! :). I'm in exactly the same boat, also non-circ, also can't stay hard with a condom on. Right now I don't mind BBBJ's and HJ's.....in fact with the right provider they can be just as much fun (if not more fun) as the real thing. But yes, the temptation for FS is always there. From everything I've read I don't think not being circumcised is the issue though. I actually believe non-circumcised men have more pleasure, as our heads are more sensitive. I think personally for me my issue is a combination of age, masturbating too much (usually once a day), and probably watching too much porn (I think subconsciously, this actually can affect your ability to maintain an erection with a condom on, as most porn doesn't feature condoms). I've also read that masturbating with a condom on can get you used to the feel of it. I tried it once or twice, but never kept up with that habit, so that's my fault. I'm fairly certain that if I cut down on how often I masturbate, use a condom every time I do masturbate, and cut out the porn altogether, then I should be good. That'll be a true test of wills for me though! Haha :p However everyone's issues are different. A lot of men go limp from having to stop the "Action" to put the condom on. In this case maybe turn the condom into part of the foreplay....get her to put it on in a playful manner, maybe with her mouth, and keep the condom wrapper slightly open prior to beginning with the lady, struggling to get that blasted thing open when right in the heat of the moment can be the BIGGEST turn off! If anyone else has any tips to overcome this particularly annoying issue, both the OP and I would appreciate it. 1 Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Soleil Sublime 38108 Report post Posted July 1, 2011 Try a supplement called L-Arginine. It does a host of good things to your body like lower blood pressure and detoxify your body of ammonia, but it also increases blood flow to the penis and the clitoris. I heard about it on Dr. Oz and thought for kicks I would try it out. Wow! I had to stop because it worked too damn well! I have no problems with sensitivity and such, but once I started L-Arginine it was unbelievably more sensitive...Perhaps it's worth a shot for you guys to try? I just want to help because although I obviously don't suffer the same ailment, I do empathize greatly. Good luck! 2 Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Guest tr*****e Report post Posted July 1, 2011 Try a supplement called L-Arginine. OMG Thank you soooo much I have almost the same problem, and I wasn't aware anyone else had it, too. muah! Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
qwertyaccount 15793 Report post Posted July 1, 2011 Delayed ejaculation, a condition that affects one man in 10. "Delayed ejaculation is a medical condition in which a male is unable to ejaculate, either during intercourse or with manual stimulation in the presence of a partner. Ejaculation is the action in which semen is release from the penis." More here: http://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pubmedhealth/PMH0002678/ Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Guest s******ecan**** Report post Posted July 1, 2011 talk to your Doctor and also consult a nutritionist, as men approach middle age there are a lot of factors that can impair sexual performance. Also make sure you are aware of the effects any prescriptions you are taking has on sexual performance. I've never bought into the "I watch too much porn" or "I whack off too much" theories. However if you feel that is an issue don't be shy about a little manual stimulation to keep things firm :) Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Reddog01 30280 Report post Posted July 1, 2011 I have had the same issues at times. I think it is partly do to "mental" distraction. You have to not think about the condom but concentrate on the moment and really appreciate what is in front of you. Men are very visual look at what is happening; use a mirror on the wall to take in a different angle. As already mentioned have the condom at the ready and try a drop of "approved" lube inside the condom as well. I have found it increases the feeling. 1 Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Guest S*rca****sid Report post Posted July 1, 2011 alright.. kinda an annoying problem but i can't have sex with a condom because i just can't feel anything with one probably because i am not circonsised and i basically feel nothing and my boner gets off only after a few mins due to lack of feeling and I really don't know what to do about it.. I can't cum either so I am pretty much out of options except bbbj and massage which is not too bad but i want more than that and i am pretty sure most of you understand that It really makes me cry at some point to not be able to do anything with a condom but w/e.. might have to deal with it and stick to the bbbj but that kinda sucks for me. :( any idea on this? Thanks max Join the "Turtleneck" social group. You're not the only one. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
fortunateone 156618 Report post Posted July 1, 2011 Its not really a condom issue, if you are having this difficulty even when you go to hj. There are lots of good tips here, but just try to eliminate your assumption that the condom is the problem, and concentrate on the sensations/feelings, etc. Another good suggestion is repeat visits with a single sp, don't try to mix it up, just work with a comfort level with one person. And think outside the box, do fs condom on, knowing that the finish will be by hand (or bbbj if offered) at the end. There is absolutely nothing wrong with this, and is a great way to make a compromise of covered fs and the extra sensation of uncovered finish. Also very porn ish, to cum outside the box, so to speak. Female condom is a great idea, but you'd have to work that out with an sp who is comfortable with how to use them. I've seen lots of different people, circumcized and uncircumsized, and this issue is not only experienced by the uncircumcized clients. Also to keep in mind, is to experiment with how the condom is being put on. I've seen some fellas uncircumsized where the foreskin does not go down at all, and with condom on, they still have no issues at all with making FS work. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
rickkm 328 Report post Posted July 1, 2011 It's all a question of focus; focus on giving her a good effort and making her happy, that way the focus is not on you and therefore could turn this around. While we may not be as good at a certain age as we once were, we are still as good once as we ever were!! Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Guest W***ledi*Time Report post Posted July 2, 2011 Yes, there are physical aspects and conditions that can contribute to this problem. Depending on the individual case, of course certain physical barriers are conclusive. But mental barriers can be important obstacles too. In my own case, I "always" had considered myself the ultimate poster-boy for not being able to cum through condomed FS. Then, a little over two years ago (perhaps not coincidentally during a duo, ha ha) I somehow got a tad over-stimulated - and praise-the-lord, I was suddenly granted a reprieve from my malady. I was incredulous and delighted at my one-time luck. It so happened that I had another appointment two hours later (insert long story about scheduling nightmare here to explain such wantonness), and darned if it didn't happen again. Never ever ... then twice within two hours. And I hadn't even eaten my wheaties (although I definitely remember a visit to the Scone Witch between sessions). My conclusion: paraphrasing Yogi Berra - this game is ninety percent mental and the other half is physical. I have enjoyed the full benefits of condomed FS greatly since that day. Each encounter is different, of course, and, frankly, there have never been any guarantees that I'll cum at all during a session, although I usually do. It's never been a do-or-die thing for me. But one thing is sure - the cure for me was in removing a very long-standing mental block. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
SamanthaEvans 166766 Report post Posted July 2, 2011 There's a wealth of great advice in this thread already, but I'll add a few things anyway. If you're middle-aged--that is, over 40, and particularly if you're over 50--your age, weight, cardio-vascular fitness, cholesterol level, blood pressure and status in relation to type-2 diabetes (ie., being either pre-diabetic or diabetic) can all have an impact on your sexual function. If your inability to have an orgasm with a partner is recent, see your doctor! Changes in sexual function and libido are common symptoms of significant medical problems. You could be saving or prolonging your own life by having a good discussion with your doctor. Many kinds of medications have a significant impact on erectile function, libido and orgasmic ability. Some of the most commonly prescribed medications are almost guaranteed to result in erectile dysfunction (ED). Statin drugs, which are used to lower cholesterol, are strongly associated with ED. The most recent, most popular, and coincidentally (not) most expensive statin drug, Crestor, has been directly associated with ED, although the manufacturer has done its best to suppress this information. The problem with statins is that the body requires cholesterol in order to produce sex hormones and testosterone. Low cholesterol has also been associated with increased rates of memory loss, muscle aches and elevated liver enzymes, among other symptoms. When cholesterol is low, the body is inhibited from producing dolichols, which are necessary for the production of neuro-peptides, the basis of every thought, emotion and sensation we ever experience. Anti-depressant medications, particularly selective serotonin reuptake inhibitors (SSRIs) like Cipralex, Prozac and others, are commonly associated with decreased libido, impotence, difficulty in achieving or maintainin erections, premature ejaculation, weakened penile sensitivity and decreased response to sexual stimuli. Blood pressure medications decrease chemicals that tighten blood vessels so that blood flows more smoothly and the heart can pump more efficiently. Common side effects of these medications include decreased sex drive and impotence. However, there are literally hundreds of blood pressure medications and combinations on the market; with time and patience, it's usually possible to find medications that will lower blood pressure effectively without causing erectile problems. If you're shy or nervous about discussing your erectile and ejaculatory problems with your doctor, try to identify whether you're comfortable with him or her. Would it be easier for you to discuss your problems with a different doctor? If so, find that doctor! But if you think it's mostly your problem, try to get over that. I guarantee that your doctor will have had patients who are younger, fitter and better-looking than you are who are also having erectile problems! Not only that, but erectile issues are one of the most common reasons for men to seek medical help, which means that these problems are things that your doctor will hear a lot about every week! Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
cuteFrenchy 403 Report post Posted July 2, 2011 Comdoms are not all alike. You should experiment with various types. Maybe you are larger than average and simply need a less constricting condom. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Guest s******ecan**** Report post Posted July 2, 2011 Great ideas, and if you think it is mental be sure to indulge yourself with the type of SP you find most exciting. Try limiting your other sexual activities for a few days prior, tease yourself with some porn browsing (but no whacking off!) ahead of time as well. Then once you are there just relax, don't focus on "completion" do your best to just have fun. Being naked with a sexy lady is fun in of itself whatever the "outcum" lol. :) Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
pandacrazy 185 Report post Posted July 2, 2011 Lol thanks alot guys and sweeties for all the help... many many many usefull tricks here that i cant even count them now :D I appreciate it and I will be working on it for sure... It is all good but some ppl still missunderstood my point... I have no signs of impotency or erectil dysfunction... Ill be hard as hell forever w/o a condom and wont ever have any problem to cum either... the only reason i cant hold my erection for so long with a condom is that i just dont feel any single thing and probably dont feel very excited about it. anyway.. I appreciate it so much and that reminds me why i love this community so much too :) Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
cat 262460 Report post Posted July 2, 2011 Lol thanks alot guys and sweeties for all the help... many many many usefull tricks here that i cant even count them now :D I appreciate it and I will be working on it for sure... It is all good but some ppl still missunderstood my point... I have no signs of impotency or erectil dysfunction... Ill be hard as hell forever w/o a condom and wont ever have any problem to cum either... the only reason i cant hold my erection for so long with a condom is that i just dont feel any single thing and probably dont feel very excited about it. anyway.. I appreciate it so much and that reminds me why i love this community so much too :) My gentle suggestion is go and spend some time on the STD/STI websites; look at pictures of the diseases and infections that will be prevented by the use of a condom. If this a mental hang up, you simply need to familiarize yourself with why a condom is your friend... cat 1 Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
fortunateone 156618 Report post Posted July 3, 2011 Lol thanks alot guys and sweeties for all the help... many many many usefull tricks here that i cant even count them now :D I appreciate it and I will be working on it for sure... It is all good but some ppl still missunderstood my point... I have no signs of impotency or erectil dysfunction... Ill be hard as hell forever w/o a condom and wont ever have any problem to cum either... the only reason i cant hold my erection for so long with a condom is that i just dont feel any single thing and probably dont feel very excited about it. anyway.. I appreciate it so much and that reminds me why i love this community so much too :) Just try out some of the tips, at home if you have to lol. You can get a lot of diffferent brands and types of condoms in 3 packs, enough to experiment with a few. You do need to add some lubricant, perhaps a warming one, to encourage extra sensation. You should avoid all condoms that do not say they are ultra thin, extra sensation, or similar words. You should try non-latex brand, an acrylic (?) I think it is, like or latex free like Lifestyles Skyn, for example. Most of these offer more sensations than the regular brand regular style condoms. At least it will give you an extra edge. One problem with FS completion is hardness, if that isn't a problem, you are half way there. Deciding you cannot cum with condom on is the biggest problem, as far as I can see. Once you decide you CAN cum with condom on, you will be all the way there. I've encountered a number of people who tell me the first time they cum in session was with me, they didn't expect to. A LOT of my session is in preparation, teasing, arousal, hand work, cbj, foreplay, etc etc, before getting to FS. If you visit someone who is able to engage all of your senses, relax and stimulate your entire body, your mind will forget that your body cannot cum with condom on in FS, imo. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
SamanthaEvans 166766 Report post Posted July 3, 2011 You should avoid all condoms that do not say they are ultra thin, extra sensation, or similar words. You should try non-latex brand, an acrylic (?) I think it is, like or latex free like Lifestyles Skyn, for example. Most of these offer more sensations than the regular brand regular style condoms. At least it will give you an extra edge. Non-latex condoms are sometimes thinner than latex ones, it's true. There are very thin condoms made from sheep intestines, for example, but while these are effective in preventing pregnancy, they're NOT effective against HIV transmission. (The HIV virus is much smaller than semen and will pass through this barrier.) Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Parker 19761 Report post Posted July 3, 2011 Non-latex condoms are sometimes thinner than latex ones, it's true. There are very thin condoms made from sheep intestines, for example, but while these are effective in preventing pregnancy, they're NOT effective against HIV transmission. (The HIV virus is much smaller than semen and will pass through this barrier.) I use non-latex condoms that are made from a polymer, not sheep gut... and they just as effective as latex condoms. (Durex Avanti Bare) Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Dutch Rudder 120 Report post Posted June 6, 2013 I've seen lots of different people, circum I've seen some fellas uncircumsized where the foreskin does not go down at all Ok, so I am not the only one that can't quite pull back the skin all the way during erection. Well there's one problem I should try to get out of my head. This is one thing I've been most nervous about all my life thinking women would find it weird...it's good to know I am not alone in this. Thanks for the boost in morale!! Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
