alohan 2 Report post Posted August 10, 2023 If an SP no longer responds to messages on the day of the appointment, what could have caused that? Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
annapolis1949 340 Report post Posted August 11, 2023 There are so many possibilities , the mind boggles. The phone lost power and she cannot respond. She "lost " her contacts and text messages. She got a "better" offer. She is overbooked and you were bumped (the airline excuse). She left town in a hurry (for whatever a reason). She got tired of interminable text messages with you trying to "close the deal". She saw the light and left the industry. Maybe she is just "unprofessional" .Maybe you texted statements to her she found objectionable. Maybe she was a "scam". And then the darker ones I won't get into . I can think of other reasons but will let the community here weigh in. Could be a fun challenge. I find questions like this on this forum always a great read when folks post their opinion. Perhaps it was for the best. It certainly was not meant to be . 3 1 Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
peacectryguy 12547 Report post Posted August 13, 2023 Yep, what annapolis said. Could be anything from ghosting to her getting a bad vibe and all sorts of things in between. At this point in my experience, I just say okey doke and move onward. Btw, this rarely, if ever, happens with the well known and reviewed professional ladies. When we, as potential clients take the time to introduce ourselves properly and give her a good impression with our first text, she will respond and even if not available will just say sorry, all booked or something. I find the good escorts always appreciate a gentleman who makes an honest effort at communicating and they will ignore the fools who text the lame shit like "whatsup" or the classic "u avail?" Not that you are that guy OP. Just pointing out all the things that can play a factor. Good luck to you down the road, buddy. 3 2 Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
alohan 2 Report post Posted August 14, 2023 Thank you for your opinions. I'm only beginning to see how things are going in this business. I also have to learn to think like you peacetryguy. I've already been cancelled by an SP for asking questions about safety and how it works (I'm always polite and never do lame text). She said she didn't have to convince me and she was not interested. I think some SPs have too many clients to choose from to try to appease those who are new and still too anxious. Hahaha I didn't have the courage to try again after that. But now I'll try to move onward too. I wish you all health and prosperity. 2 Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
peacectryguy 12547 Report post Posted August 16, 2023 Yeah, having chatted with quite a few of the ladies, they just get inundated by so many questions sometimes and just get frustrated by it. They have so many guys asking things. I can usually tell by reading their ad where they stand on safety and again, the reputable ladies in the biz value their safety and ours so it's rarely worth worrying too much about. I do understand your nervousness though. We've all been there but forums like this can help you to feel at ease and safe. It's why we all have to try to help each other. It keeps us all safe and able to just enjoy ourselves. 3 Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Mokejomes 50 Report post Posted August 17, 2023 On 8/14/2023 at 4:45 PM, alohan said: Thank you for your opinions. I'm only beginning to see how things are going in this business. I also have to learn to think like you peacetryguy. I've already been cancelled by an SP for asking questions about safety and how it works (I'm always polite and never do lame text). She said she didn't have to convince me and she was not interested. I think some SPs have too many clients to choose from to try to appease those who are new and still too anxious. Hahaha I didn't have the courage to try again after that. But now I'll try to move onward too. I wish you all health and prosperity. the anxiety is normal at first . But if you’re going to do this and then go home and stress and have anxiety then it might not be worth it. no matter what anyone tells you there is always a risk. You just need to be smart about it. Avoid ads talking about “partying” and “party treats”. Always use protection . If the girl ever offers bareback for more money, then she’s offering it to everyone. ALWAYS trust your intuition. I’ve gotten to a few rooms and turned around and walked back out. Don’t be afraid to do this. Read reviews, do your due diligence & you will be fine. I like to think that the vast majority of us, both worker and client take measures to make it as safe as possible. Nobody wants a life changing illness for 10 minutes of pleasure or a couple hundred bucks. by following these safety measures you’re eliminating 99.99% of the risk. I have hobbied all over the world from the Maritimes to Montreal to Europe and to Thailand. I’ve spent an insane amount of money hobbying - haven’t caught a thing. 2 1 Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Grilled Jeez Manwich 5 Report post Posted February 12 On 8/10/2023 at 7:22 PM, alohan said: If an SP no longer responds to messages on the day of the appointment, what could have caused that? Sorry to hear that happened to you my friend. I wouldn't just throw in the towel because of a shaky start... Who begins a process as an expert? Everyone has to learn. What I do if I'm ever dealing with an SP that is new to me, is , I have a set list of questions that I put to them They address my main queries and concerns: Location, Rates, Restrictions, Extras, Specials, etc. Over the years, I have obviously tweaked my list according to many different factors, (SP feedback, relevant information, pandemic, etc) I just keep this list as a template saved in my notepad on my phone and copy and paste it when texting a new SP It's simple, comprehensive, and with the template, I know I haven't left anything out. Do your research. Think of your expectations what you would like out of a session. Read reviews Go for verified SPs Try to keep your questions brief and to the point SPs get inundated with queries and don't have time to deal with an excessive barrage of questions They will quickly ghost you. I hope my suggestion works for you 3 Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
letsplay_57 3581 Report post Posted February 12 I like all the replies posted so far.....But why is it "ok" for them to ghost us...they could send a quick text OR next day send a text "hello" & if you respond They Should Explain or Apoligize for ghosting a client!! If you don't inundated with queries It's the least they could do!! If we ghost them they have a Discussion Section for them only....where it can be posted "name" ghosted me..... 2 Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
NotchJohnson 214123 Report post Posted February 12 31 minutes ago, letsplay_57 said: .they could send a quick text OR next day send a text "hello" & if you respond They Should Explain or Apoligize for ghosting a client!! If you don't inundated with queries It's the least they could do!! Exactly what happen to @alohan happened to me many years ago. Here is the sad thing, she replied the following week with something in the line of "I'm available in your town this week sweetheart...you can text me back and we can f*ck anytime you want". That's when I was in the pool and my wife heard the phone vibrate and picked up to see who it was. That was a tough one to get out of. When I told her that she had the wrong number, she kept telling me that I could only have sex if I was paying for it, etc... My wife was reading all of this when this was happening. 1 1 Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
justhavingfun 966 Report post Posted February 13 I agree, when it happens to me I'll wait a few days for maybe a post on social media saying something came up, a text or an email. Anytime I have been ghosted a lot of the time it's been from woman who don't have websites, reco's are limited, ads are infrequent.. not to say it hasn't happened with heavily reco'd sp's as well but they'll usually provide some sort of an explanation. If I've gone through the screening process, prebooked days in advance, confirmed the date following her instructions then there is no explanation for ghosting I consider it disrespectful for sure as my time is as valuable as hers but I also find it kind of a relief because I just saved some money and won't try to reschedule. There are so many other amazing woman in this industry to spend time with. Stick to woman with websites that you can find 99% of all info required, woman who post regularly on social media with updates on availability and just general postive posts, woman that have a history of reco's showing reliable great service that makes you want to become a regular. There are a lot of flakes out there on both sides. 2 Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
NotchJohnson 214123 Report post Posted February 13 13 hours ago, NotchJohnson said: Exactly what happen to @alohan happened to me many years ago. Here is the sad thing, she replied the following week with something in the line of "I'm available in your town this week sweetheart...you can text me back and we can f*ck anytime you want". That's when I was in the pool and my wife heard the phone vibrate and picked up to see who it was. That was a tough one to get out of. When I told her that she had the wrong number, she kept telling me that I could only have sex if I was paying for it, etc... My wife was reading all of this when this was happening. Because of that incident I have opted for a second text in the line of "If you are unable to reply to this text before **:**pm please disregard a meeting until I can clear my schedule. So please don't text me after this time." This as worked for me since. It still doesn't solve your problem of her not replying back to you, if you wanted her to do so. 1 Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
