Cowboy kenny 50799 Report post Posted August 17, 2008 am i over reacting? Inspired by a similar post by Kih, but not wanting to highjack the thread, I had a shocking experience with an sp this weekend, not the usual type of experience i usually write about. I recently was setting up an appointment with a well reviewed girl from CL, who has been described here as a sweetheart . When trying to set up an appointment she said she was unable to do in calls because it was N****r festival down town and no rooms were available, she was referring to the Caribe-Expo taking place this week. I was in shock, I told her she lost out on this appointment, i have no tolerance for that kind of ignorance. As we were communicating by email she had no idea what my race was, what a dumb move. I gave her the opportunity to explain and apologize, I've yet to hear back from her. A shame really because she's been well reviewed and I thought she'd be fun, but I can't have fun knowing that's the kind of attitude she has. I guess we're all entitled to think what we want but speaking outloud to strangers about such beliefs is a social landmine. I won't out the girl completely but if that sort of racist ignorance bothers you and you don't want to deal with someone like that feel free to pm me for details. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
d*mm*y 887 Report post Posted August 17, 2008 That comment in an email with someone that you have met is out of line. Unfortunately you can not be sure it was the lady, many ladies have handlers that help with corespondents, it could have been a flunky. So many things help us to decide who to see, and who not see, attitude, reviews, the way people handle them selves on the phone, in emails, the places they live, and hang out in, there habits etc... There are things that SP's can do to increase there chances of a meeting and basic manners is a good one to start with!! Now there maybe a market for a good white trash trailer park girl, maybe she should use that line in her advertising (oh shit I think was just as distasteful as her with that one) I apologize to anyone living in a trailer park!! Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
kih 458 Report post Posted August 17, 2008 CK, I agree, those words are inappropriate. I would like to point out that a particular lady that I recommended this week from CL does not correspond to her own emails but rather some agency dude is communicating on her behalf. She doesn't see or read the emails and she has no PC or laptop with her at the hotel or anywhere for that matter. All arrangements for appointments are done through this agency via email. I hope this gives insight if some vulgar comments are being made in correspondence, if it is the particular lady I recomended. Keep in mind its not her but rather the agency! Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
capitalman 3861 Report post Posted August 17, 2008 She did you a favour; she let you know a bit about who she is before you made a commitment to her. I've known guys for years then out of the blue they drop the N word and shock me, but I think it's more a reflection on our society as a whole. How come a black guy/gal can drop that word and it's okay, but if a white dude does it, it's racist? I don't know....everyone has their own beliefs and has grown up in different environments and I'm not sure we can judge someone based on one word...but that's just MHO. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
buggernot 588 Report post Posted August 17, 2008 Pretty sure it wasn't that particular girl who wrote the comment...just saw her and from the conversation we had (not specific to Cowboy's issue), it was another person that wrote it. Which makes it worse because not only is this person uttering crap like that behind the safety of anonymity, they are associating it to someone else entirely who likely doesn't deserve that label. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Cowboy kenny 50799 Report post Posted August 17, 2008 That's a shame as I've advised a number of members to steer clear, she should loose this idiot who's costing her business. Still I'm not going to partake if she chooses to associate with someone like that. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
loneskater 25635 Report post Posted August 17, 2008 Again we are back to agencies giving a bad name and the ladies are loosing. Wish the ladies would do their homework when they choose an agency. There are some who at least are very polite when dealing with customers during the booking process. Sounds like this lady needs to make some business decisions. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Guest k***e17 Report post Posted August 18, 2008 why ANYONE uses that word is beyond me.... Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
dreamer8 510 Report post Posted August 18, 2008 Please PM me her name etc so I can spread the word about her ... I hope it's not a girl I reviewed? Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
charbed 234 Report post Posted August 18, 2008 I'm with you on this one CK, attitude is 9/10 of the experience. How can you enjoy yourself knowing how they are towards others. Everyone is judged by the company they keep. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
jg24 3708 Report post Posted August 18, 2008 Well CK I doubt it was because of Caribe Expo I was apart of that parade Im not black this Parade was much smaller this year and 90% of the people involved in this Party are local I have been apart of it for 4yrs now at the Party that went on I saw alot of me and agin there may have been 15oo and I would say 1000-1200 are local Just my 2 cents CK On another note on Thurs I tried booking a room for an Associate and there was no rooms to be had I found one but was not easy I would say there was lots going on here this weekend Golf Summer games and just the everday travler also the Fireworks in Hull so I would say this lady was out of line Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
ulixestrojan 3757 Report post Posted August 18, 2008 Cowboy - a snake in the grass is a snake in the grass. It was inappropriate language in the context described. There are times, during dirty talk, where the word has been used and it totally works. Even the c-word works when you have your fist up one and she is digging being completely filled. All about timing. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
esoterica 624 Report post Posted August 18, 2008 Cowboy - a snake in the grass is a snake in the grass. It was inappropriate language in the context described. There are times, during dirty talk, where the word has been used and it totally works. Even the c-word works when you have your fist up one and she is digging being completely filled. All about timing. The N word makes me cringe every time. The C word - if she uses it while I am thrusting, *BAM*... "Pass me the Kleenex" E Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Cowboy kenny 50799 Report post Posted August 18, 2008 Cowboy - a snake in the grass is a snake in the grass. It was inappropriate language in the context described. There are times, during dirty talk, where the word has been used and it totally works. Even the c-word works when you have your fist up one and she is digging being completely filled. All about timing. Ulixestrojan, don't get me wrong i'm all for a little dirty talk durring the act(s) nuttin wrong with that! :) Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
r100rs 859 Report post Posted August 18, 2008 definitely unprofessional conduct in any business - who you associate with reflects on you/your business. please pm me details so I can avoid this provider. thanks r100rs Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
muff rancher 122 Report post Posted August 18, 2008 Ulixestrojan, don't get me wrong i'm all for a little dirty talk durring the act(s) nuttin wrong with that! :) True enough CK. And like all fans of the ranching sciences, I'm fond of a little dirty talk while in the saddle ;) . But there's a difference between that and racist talk. You have every right to feel ill at ease about it...I know I sure would have as well. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
shymale 10234 Report post Posted August 18, 2008 there's is no reason at all to use the n word. using the n word just shows how ignorant the person his. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Dash (No longer a member) 102 Report post Posted August 18, 2008 I'm pretty shocked that an SP would be so blatant and use such poor language to a new customer she had yet to meet. I agree that really is totally out of line and you did the right thing. In fact you might have been too kind in giving her a chance to explain. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
THRacer 370 Report post Posted August 18, 2008 Totally offside. Please pm me the name to avoid. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
ulixestrojan 3757 Report post Posted August 19, 2008 Okay - so the n-word is bad in conversation, bad in booking, bad generally. What about the black American girl that I used to bang in New York City that used to yell - "Make me your nig..., beat me, make me your... you get the idea. So I stop or continue the ride. She would cum hard and then curl up in my arms. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
capitalman 3861 Report post Posted August 19, 2008 Obviously she was a 19th century slave reincarnated as a service provider. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Cowboy kenny 50799 Report post Posted August 23, 2008 I thought I would update folks around here about this situation. It would seem that the provider her self was not responsible for the offensive message, but rather her 'helper' although I'm not sure how much help he is by sending messages out like that. My advice to her is to loose the help and deal directly with clients. I know that can be overwhelming but you can be assured no mix ups like this would occur. She continues to be positively and consistently reviewed on a number of boards, we may have found our selves a new gem. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
cat 262460 Report post Posted August 25, 2008 The "N" word, hmmmmm. Coming from the south it is often used, but it no longer is a reference for skin color, how very "70's" to say the least! At home it is a term used to describe someone who is ignorant. It describes someone so set on being right at any cost, that they never see the world with any clarity. They come from every walk of life, every demographic out there. Since arriving in Canada, I am amazed at the lengths Canadians are willing to go to, to ensure the appearance of racial harmony here. But then I encountered the "frenchie" and "quebexico" mentality and realized that racism is here, it's just more discreet. Hats off to all who replied to this with the honesty needed. As I have said before, we all bleed red... Catherine Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
crazy_adam 100 Report post Posted August 25, 2008 Could you please PM the SP's info so I know that I should avoid her. Thanks Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
antlerman 17064 Report post Posted August 25, 2008 Since arriving in Canada, I am amazed at the lengths Canadians are willing to go to, to ensure the appearance of racial harmony here. But then I encountered the "frenchie" and "quebexico" mentality and realized that racism is here, it's just more discreet. Catherine then of course there are the "Newfies".....do not leave them out!!!....... hahahahahahaah Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites