Why Greek?

[jafo105 39057]

I am curious about Greek. I do know what it is. I have seen it in porn and it looks to me that it is just about dominating the woman in an unpleasant way. If a woman wanted to be dominated in that way I can see trying/doing it for her pleasure. But to make love to another person is about pleasuring each other in a good way. Is it not?

 

As I said I am curious about it but not at the expense of causing discomfort or pain to a woman. I am not a well-endowed gentleman but I seem to cause a goofy grin on the face of the woman I am with (CFS). I think this is good... ;-p

 

I am not judging anyone. I am just curious as to what the appeal is. If the woman does not experience pleasure from it.

[Guest s******ecan****]

I've read plenty that women and men both enjoy recv'ng anal sex. Obviously its not for everyone but I think to suggest that it is "only about dominating the woman" is an outdated view.

[jafo105 39057]

I've read plenty that women and men both enjoy recv'ng anal sex. Obviously its not for everyone but I think to suggest that it is "only about dominating the woman" is an outdated view.

 

Scott, I know it is an outdated view and ignorance on my part. That is why I am asking about it. I want to open my mind and be more open minded of such topics.

[Katherine of Halifax 113932]

I don't think there is any need to feel judgement one way or the other. Some ladies enjoy anal sex, others so not. I for one do not think of it as being dominated.

 

I do not offer this as part of a visit but feel no judement toward any gentleman that is interested.

 

Each person should be able to experience what they are looking for and there is a SP for every want and desire .

[swegin 5885]

I just wish there was a nicer term for it. "Greek" always makes me think that feta cheese and tzatziki sauce are involved, and that's not something you want to be thinking about back there!

[Jabba 18389]

An acquired skill for sure. There is nothing more giving than to pleasure your partner by ass play. The ass is very rich in nerve endings and can heighten pleasure for both partners if play is done correctly and in a sensitive manner.

 

There's also the taboo factor which makes it enticing for those who want to share a certain naughty intimacy.

[Meg O'Ryan 266444]

I really like the two threads you have started. It will undoubtedly show that no two ladies are exactly alike! We all have things that make us melt and things that really turn us off. As far as ass play goes...mine is off limits! Don't like it, never have and never will :)

[jafo105 39057]

I really like the two threads you have started. It will undoubtedly show that no two ladies are exactly alike! We all have things that make us melt and things that really turn us off. As far as ass play goes...mine is off limits! Don't like it, never have and never will :)

 

I am glad you liked my two threads today.

[Guest W***ledi*Time]

Anal sex is not about dominance and it sure as heck isn't about pain! Like anything else, it's an error to take anything you've seen in porn as a guidepost for conduct in real life.

 

Also like many other things, anal sex isn't for everybody. But think about it ... humans have been engaging in anal sex for millenia. Why would they do that? Because they like it. It feels good. I myself enjoy both giving and receiving. (In my case, the receiving has been courtesy of toys, and, even better, ladies' strap-ons.) If it hurts, you're just not doing it right. If you're doing it right, the sensations are unique and can be very pleasurable and fulfilling.

 

The receiver should always be in control and the giver should go slowly at first, following the receiver's lead and the receiver's signals. Anyone who's truly curious about anal sex, may want to find someone who knows what they're doing, and try being on the receiving end first. Once you know how it feels to receive, you'll be in a position to be a much more skilled and appreciated giver.

[jafo105 39057]

Anal sex is not about dominance and it sure as heck isn't about pain! Like anything else, it's an error to take anything you've seen in porn as a guidepost for conduct in real life.

 

Also like many other things, anal sex isn't for everybody. But think about it ... humans have been engaging in anal sex for millenia. Why would they do that? Because they like it. It feels good. I myself enjoy both giving and receiving. (In my case, the receiving has been courtesy of toys, and, even better, ladies' strap-ons.) If it hurts, you're just not doing it right. If you're doing it right, the sensations are unique and can be very pleasurable and fulfilling.

 

The receiver should always be in control and the giver should go slowly at first, following the receiver's lead and the receiver's signals. Anyone who's truly curious about anal sex, may want to find someone who knows what they're doing, and try being on the receiving end first. Once you know how it feels to receive, you'll be in a position to be a much more skilled and appreciated giver.

 

Thank you WIT for your comments and advice. They are always appreciated.

[Guest *i*n*a]

yeah I wonder the same thing i dont do and ive had ones try and force me and it hurs terribly. So i consider myself like a straight guy lol I just hate it

[Capital Hunter 18263]

My understanding all my life was that it is a painful act and not normal (not making judgement just saying what my understanding was) since kitty is there for this function and pregnancy and buttom has another function which sex is not one. When I started seeing escorts I realized that most if not all charging extra for this act. Then it was my (likely incorrect) conclusion that it is painful for receiver and more pleasurable for the other side and that is why they charge extra since they may need money bad and hence prepare to go through pain. I said to myself I will NEVER try this as for my pleasure causing pain on another human being, no way in hell....

 

One SP told me two years ago that she takes some stuff (not sure she meant medication or elicit drugs) so that she doesn't feel the pain of Greek. Though at the time I believed her, not so sure now ......So now I am not sure whether it is pain or pleasure on receiver. I guess it depends on individuals. Quite frankly at times I wondered how such a big thing can fit in such a tight small thing!!!! It is like fitting an elephant in a dog kennel lol!!!!. Yes I acknowledge I lack total understanding.

 

Greek is a taboo to me (I prefer kitty to buttom, much cleaner and sweeter and wetter) though I have been curious at times to find out why some prefer it and pay extra. Also I am not sure if this will cause any pain on the other side (I read a few posts saying that if it is done properly (whatever that is) it is not painful on receiver), so no thanks I will not try it on anyone. It is my choice and others have equal rights to choose to do it or receive it.

[Guest W***ledi*Time]

Two reasons to charge extra for Greek: First, it's not offered by everyone, so it's possible to treat it as a bit of a "premium" service. Second, it requires time to clean and prepare for it - and time is money.

 

Yup, the anus, like the pussy, just seems too small on first inspection! But consider the size of what can come out of the anus in its excretory function, and the lack of pain in its doing so.

 

One very good reason to never take anything to dull or mask any anal pain: the anus does not naturally lubricate in the way that the pussy does (that's why greek should involve lots of lube!), and the tissue is (comparatively) delicate - pain is an important signal that damage may be being done and to "stop doing that"! If you take something to dull the pain and therefore override the body's natural warning mechanism, you risk allowing unknowing damage.

 

Yes, the anus is sensitive. That's the whole point! Sensitive spots on the body are erogenous zones. Treated right, this sensitivity makes anal sex great. Treated wrong, this sensitivity makes it painful. Just like sexual activity involving any other erogenous zone, except to an exaggerated degree.

[VedaSloan 119179]

Speaking as a woman who LOVES anal sex, I can tell you, it is NOT PAINFUL if DONE PROPERLY. Done improperly and yeah, you're going to hurt.

 

The key is foreplay and lots of lube. If you're not relaxed enough, your ass will clench up tighter than a Nun's kitty. My preferred method is to warm up like I would for anything else, lots of teasing and oral and then have the gent insert a finger while pleasuring me orally and go slowly. From there, I can usually cum pretty easily and it's great to go from the big O to anal penetration-again with lots of lube. And since you've just orgasmed, everything is nice and relaxed.

 

Please don't ever ask your provider for Greek and then expect to get there and penetrate her ass immediately. It won't happen.

 

Also, even with cleaning there is still *occasionally* a bit of mess, so if that is going to gross you out, anal isn't for you. Porn ruined that too--you don't get to see the guy whose job it is to wipe up anal leakage in between scenes.

[Carley Chase 18985]

Speaking as a woman who LOVES anal sex, I can tell you, it is NOT PAINFUL if DONE PROPERLY. Done improperly and yeah, you're going to hurt.

 

The key is foreplay and lots of lube. If you're not relaxed enough, your ass will clench up tighter than a Nun's kitty. My preferred method is to warm up like I would for anything else, lots of teasing and oral and then have the gent insert a finger while pleasuring me orally and go slowly. From there, I can usually cum pretty easily and it's great to go from the big O to anal penetration-again with lots of lube. And since you've just orgasmed, everything is nice and relaxed.

 

 

 

Berlin just said it all! When done right, it can feel very erousing.

[Malika Fantasy 144625]

I, in my person life, really enjoy anal. As Berlin say if it is done properly it doesn't hurt at all, and it can feel really good, sometime even more then vaginal sex, as you use muscles that are not working each day...With lots of lube and foreplay it can be really nice and feel really good...

 

as being a domination act...at some point maybe it it was or can be for some, but if the women is on the top, let me trust you that we are not getting dominated....though being submissive in bed while doing anal...;)

 

I use to offer greek for a little extra, but I found it too much hassle with someone that I never saw before, and also it need to be pre-book, not last minute...now I only offer it to people that I have meet in the past, or those that will come and see me for a second time as I know them a bit better:)

[SamanthaEvans 166766]

I just want to endorse what WrinkleInTime, Berlin, Carley and Malika have said. Anal sex can be glorious when done with sensitivity. Good communication is the key to just about everything that's new or potentially challenging. If your companion doesn't like it or doesn't want to try it, let it go. But if she does, enjoy!

 

Personally, I love anal sex for a lot of reasons. I like the intensity I feel. The nerve endings are more alert, ready to tighten up or relax--their job is to respond, and they do, beautifully. I enjoy the feeling of having to submit to it, by which I mean that I have to relax deliberately and as completely as possible in order for this to happen. I find it very arousing and I have magnificent orgasms from it that feel somehow deeper and stronger, possibly because the man isn't stroking directly against my g-spot.

 

Anal sex is usually and "end of scene" activity. After oral and regular sex, anal usually is the last thing. Most men find that it doesn't take long to reach orgasm in part because the woman feels much tighter than with vaginal sex.

 

But if you're a guy who feels that he can carry on for hours at this, please recognize that the woman involved probably won't share your opinion. A long ride really has more to do with intensity and heightened sensations for both parties, not a long time at it!

[twoblues 258]

Anal sex is not about dominance and it sure as heck isn't about pain! Like anything else, it's an error to take anything you've seen in porn as a guidepost for conduct in real life.

 

Definitely has not been about dominance with the ladies I've experienced it with (well, except for this one crazy red head...that's another story).

 

The best experience I have had with it was with a lady who let me do it as an extreme form of intimacy for her. Vaginal sex was sex, but anal sex was an act of her trusting me enough...plus she used to squirt through anal sex because she came so hard ;)

[Guest gagagaga]

I have had anal several times with several different women, although, because my cock is quite thick, I have never had a woman who wanted me to be her first grecian explorer.

 

as for dominance...if a woman is screaming "stick in it my ass NOOOOWWW" who is dominating whom??

[jafo105 39057]

Thank you everyone. I have learned a lot about this type of experience.

I will give it some more thought. As WIT suggested I will have be on the receiving end the first few times. This will take some time to warm up to. Perhaps a prostate massage and go from there. For those curious I am heterosexual. I only play with the ladies...

 

This will be on my "bucket list" for now.

 

Cheers,

Jafo

[bcguy42 38594]

Jafo, my first experience with anal sex was at the hands of a wonderful, caring woman with a huge-ass (no pun intended) dildo. That was when I found I really enjoyed it. Later there were male lovers but as noted before, there was always a lot of prep, lube, and sensitivity involved. In my humble experience, there has never been an element of domination involved. Should you be so fortunate, I suspect the first time you are having an anal experience while getting a bj, you'll figure it out. :)

[Guest S***dst***]

I would like to chime in here from a different perspective

 

First as on the male side. Not done properly and gaining no satisfaction/pleasure works on both ends. If the lady is offering/"letting you" have anal sex but doesn't enjoy it herself you can't/won't either.

Why would they let you/ask for it? Not sure to be honest.

Some women really want to try it, some really want to make you happy and figure what the hell and in the case of (FEW) SP's they want more $.

Now you may feel the need to flame at me for saying that but I have visited a few who offer "greek" only to find out they hate it and just wanted the dollar.

Perhaps this is why I'm not fond of doing it *shrugs* I may give it another try in the future but for now it's off my list.

 

 

WARNING NERD TALK INCOMING

 

From an anatomical stand point I want to chime in on two things, to perhaps shed a bit more light on the issue.

 

MEN:

Human beings are all templated as female in the womb. When the "Y" chromosome kicks in, the clitoris evolves into the male penis, The ovaries into testicles, the outer vaginal lips form the scrotum and the G-Spot becomes our prostate.

 

Perhaps now you see why prostate stimulation (via the anus) can be/is very pleasureable. It has the same nerve ending/sensations as the female g-spot and provides the same (well close to) sensations.

 

Also take that into consideration when you think about clitoral stimulation. The clitoris has the same number of nerve endings and the head of our penis, all condensed into that tiny pleasure package; they don't call it the clitoral shaft to sound cool ;)

You know how sensitive you get after an orgasm? That's just how sensitive it gets aswell.

 

Women:

The nerves that stimulate/innervate the penis also innervate the vagina; i.e both sexes genitals. They are refered to as S1,S2,S3,S4 and in some people S5 (rare)

Nerves are names after the section of your spine from which they exit:

C = cervical (neck) - 7 total

T = Thorasic (Rib/thorax) - 12 total

L = Lumbar (Low back) - 5 total

S = Sacrum (between hips and anus) - 4/5 total

 

As you can probably see since all the nerve endings exit your spine at the level of your bum, stimulating the anus/glutes gives you faster stimulation of those nerves (closer to the source)

These nerves are (in most cases) designed for sexual arousal. When a women is sexually excited her vagina if filled with blood pockets (similar to a male errection) that cushion/add elasticity to her vaginal cavity; also a bit more durability.

After having an orgasm her body releases a hormone called "relaxin" (think the guy who thought up this name had a weird sense of humour) which causes her vaginal cavity and generally most of her genital area to become....relaxed :P...(this also affect the anal regions, hence why, as Berlin states, having an orgasm makes it better/easier)

 

This hormone is also released when your infant presses on your G-spot during labour..natures way of helping to not split you into 4 when giving birth.

 

(interesting fact) The above mentioned nerves (S1-S4) also innervate the your inner thighs and all of your feet.

Anyone remember "don't massage a pregnant woman's feet" :redface:

[Cato 160314]

Berlin just said it all! When done right, it can feel very erousing.

 

 

Carley, I keep learning new things about you!

New horizons to explore together..

[Cleo Catra 178382]

Jafo, my first experience with anal sex was at the hands of a wonderful, caring woman with a huge-ass (no pun intended) dildo. That was when I found I really enjoyed it. Later there were male lovers but as noted before, there was always a lot of prep, lube, and sensitivity involved. In my humble experience, there has never been an element of domination involved. Should you be so fortunate, I suspect the first time you are having an anal experience while getting a bj, you'll figure it out. :)

 

I'm happy to see a comment about this. Since I've started advertising that I have a strap-on, I've received multiple requests from men stating they are a sub and looking for a woman to dominate them.

 

I am not a dom. I am not looking to dominate a man. I will, however, help him enjoy anal sex by using a strap-on with him. A lot of people can't seem to understand that by doing this, I'm not being a dom. Anal sex is about receiving pleasure - at least it is to me, when I've been on the receiving end (although I don't offer greek any longer), and when I'm on the giving end, it's about giving pleasure. No domination involved in either situation.

[lipualipua 4704]

"The nerves that stimulate/innervate the penis also innervate the vagina"

Speedstick: Shouldn't we expect the same nerves to stimulate the clitoris and the penis as the latter is derived from the former and so have the same embryologic origin? What is the male analogue of the vagina as the vagins is just a hollow muscular tube?