Winnipegcub 21293 Report post Posted July 30, 2011 So those who know me will know how much planning and research I put into dates. As it comes to this hobby I'm not particularly a spontaneous guy and especially with ladies I haven't met. So in some recent research/selection I found a lady I thought I might be interested in who was advertising on another site. (Unfortunately CERB doesn't have strong presence in all cities). She had the kind of look that caught my attention. Well in cross-checking on yet another site I found out that she might have been a post-operative transexual. Looking further I confirmed that in fact she advertised as a female escort under 1 name and in a different spot as a transexual. I also found she has changed her name numerous times which made me further suspicious. I never did book the date but was left wondering if this is wrong. Technically with all surgery complete I guess she is a woman. And going by 2 different names I guess she can attract those looking for women but also under a different name, those interested in meeting with a transexual. I'm not judgemental but would have liked to know this. I'm left wondering if I ever would have. Or frankly should it matter to me? Hmm wonder in past dates if this has already happened? What do others think? Should this be disclosed? Or should it matter at all and in particular if surgery has been done and all complete. Does that make a difference? Truth in advertising? Just wondering. Cub Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
bcguy42 38594 Report post Posted July 30, 2011 If all the surgery is complete and she is fully a woman, I don't think she should have to reveal her medical details anymore than anyone else should. Of course, if there are still "spare parts', that should be mentioned fairly early in the deal. As to whether you have already been with such a person... if you couldn't tell, then there is no problem, right? 2 Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Miss Scarlett 25073 Report post Posted July 30, 2011 I agree with BC guy. I don't disclose all my medical issues before every appointment. Not that I am a transsexual. But I believe as long as you are not getting anything extra that you did not anticipate on, then there shouldn't be a problem. Now I also know that there are people who will disagree, that they have a "right" to know. But I also believe that the person has a right to their privacy. Whether it be transgender surgery or cancer surgery. No one has a right to choose what we feel comfy disclosing. As long as they are not currently a male advertising as a female (false advertising), then I see no issue with it. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Megan'sTouch 23875 Report post Posted July 30, 2011 If she is as advertised I don't see why she should have to disclose her medical history. Posted via Mobile Device Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
VedaSloan 119179 Report post Posted July 30, 2011 If there are no surprises, I don't see the problem. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
roamingguy 300292 Report post Posted July 30, 2011 I'm may be sticking my neck out and going out on a limb here. First, when it comes to a person's sexuality I'm not the least bit judgemental And as Megan said, if she is as advertised, she shouldn't have to disclose her medical history. But, and this is the but...it sounds as if she is advertising as a woman on one site, and a transsexual on another site. So the question to be asked is this, is she a woman or transsexual (I hope worded right), it sounds like she is advertising as both Like I said, I'm not judgemental about a person's sexuality. But this sounds to me on the face of it a case of the lady/transsexual not being honest with potential clients, on who they are going to meet I just hope that limb isn't snapping off behind me now LOL Just a quick thought RG Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Mr.Goldfinger 2287 Report post Posted July 30, 2011 I to agree if there posting on two site ? Why hide the fact on another ? Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Isabella Gia (Banned) 53881 Report post Posted July 30, 2011 I think Cub's main concern is her posting ads under 2 different names when in my opinion the right thing to do would be to be honest which from my point of view would involve the person in question post availability either in the female announcement one without having to give any details on her previous identity or in the transexual ads section but the perception I get from Cub's post is that the fact of her having 2 online identipties may mean she probably is not truthful about other things and that although he mentioned the transexual part it was mostly to explain why he decided not to see her and to ask if others consider the 2 identities issue right or fishy. I may be wrong, hopefully the OP will correct me if that's the case. To me the SP should choose how she wants to advertise and not have 2 names. Posted via Mobile Device 1 Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Winnipegcub 21293 Report post Posted July 30, 2011 Just to help clarify a little. Yes she has 2 identities with different names and posts with 1 name as a Female Escort and then a different name under the Transexual section. Actually I've found her with 3 different names advertising recently. I will be honest and actually both aspects turned me away from booking. I respect everybodies view and in my mind if she is now a woman...she is a woman. But knowing her history, I'm just not ready to book. And the two identity, well I guess in her case it probably is necessary to be able to advertise seperately so I get that. I question myself on this one and appreciate everyones views. Thanks. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
etasman2000 15994 Report post Posted July 30, 2011 Likely old name for her previous clients and they would know or be informed that she is now post-op. New name would be to create a new identity and a new set of clientale as a physical female. At this point the above is pure speculation, I say ask her directly and remove all doubt. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
bcguy42 38594 Report post Posted July 30, 2011 Addendum: I get the part about adverts and different names in two different circles. That the TS name being kept for old clients and new ones that get off on her having been a him (don't try to figure out all the possible things that gets some one off. That way lies bat-shittery. The 3rd identity raises a whole host of new question having less to do with sexuality and more to do with business. If you reallly want to know you would want to ask her about that one specific pointn the 3rd I'd and leave the sexuality alone. Posted via Mobile Device Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
