Daty vs. Digits

[wellie 652]

Jafo recently started informative threads about "sensitive breasts" and "greek". Quite a few ladies gave their reasons why they liked certain activities but not others. Many readers of these threads found them interesting and revealing.

Here is another question: Why do some ladies allow Daty but not Digits, and vice versa?

[Malika Fantasy 144625]

I don't know where your fingers where before, and it's easier to have dirty fingers then a dirty tongue...and also trying to touch the cervix trust me doesn't feel good

 

 

fingernail...it's easy to rip the inside

[wellie 652]

I am assuming that men interested in digits would have very clean hands and trimmed nails.

[VedaSloan 119179]

I am assuming that men interested in digits would have very clean hands and trimmed nails.

 

Well you know what they say about making assumptions...;)

 

If you want digits and your hands aren't clean and nails trimmed, you get to wear latex gloves. It is far too easy to get cut and then get an infection because some asshat doesn't know how to groom himself. And you would not believe the number of guys who try to do this.

 

That, and a lot of guys like to jackhammer you with their fingers and yeah, it can be painful and more than unpleasant. Listen to what the lady tells you!

 

As for DATY, there isn't much chance you'll cut me, and plus, I love good DATY. I can only orgasm via clitoral stimulation, so good DATY is a must in my books if you want to get me off.

[Cowboy kenny 50799]

LOL, Asshat ! Berlin, tried to give you reppoints for that I love that word as defined on the urban dictionary

 

One who has their head up their ass. Thus wearing their ass as a hat. Asshat

[Tiffany Amber 7031]

Well you know what they say about making assumptions...;)

 

If you want digits and your hands aren't clean and nails trimmed, you get to wear latex gloves. It is far too easy to get cut and then get an infection because some asshat doesn't know how to groom himself. And you would not believe the number of guys who try to do this.

 

That, and a lot of guys like to jackhammer you with their fingers and yeah, it can be painful and more than unpleasant. Listen to what the lady tells you!

 

As for DATY, there isn't much chance you'll cut me, and plus, I love good DATY. I can only orgasm via clitoral stimulation, so good DATY is a must in my books if you want to get me off.

 

 

I totally agree with Berlin here!! Especially the jackhammering thing. It's unpleasant and I wont get off from it. I too, can only orgasam from clitoral stimulation, so I prefere DATY over digits!

[Guest E*******h S******s]

I am assuming that men interested in digits would have very clean hands and trimmed nails.

 

Berlin is completely correct with respect to "assumptions". Even trimmed nails can slice delicate tissues when they haven't been filed down. The last time I allowed this (with a very good regular), I was off work for a week because he scratched my insides so badly. Even with latex gloves, I won't allow it again.

[Nicolette Vaughn 294340]

Guys think the deeper they go the better it will feel. NOT! And when an SP asks you if you need to use the washroom such as washing your hands, I would suggest doing it especially if you will be doing things with your hands. I tell guys how I like it even it sounds a bit bossy. I'm not going to pretend to like something if it's painful.

[Gringo_Love 573]

I didn't understand the reasons for no digits... but Malika and Berlin provide very good reasons. I love to touch a woman and feel her wet and warm...never have been the jackhammering type. So when touching is off the menu I am a little disappointed but always completely respect the limits. Is there any way to approach the topic with an sp or would it be bad etiquette to try and chat about that?

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[Gabriella Laurence 301887]

I didn't understand the reasons for no digits... but Malika and Berlin provide very good reasons. I love to touch a woman and feel her wet and warm...never have been the jackhammering type. So when touching is off the menu I am a little disappointed but always completely respect the limits. Is there any way to approach the topic with an sp or would it be bad etiquette to try and chat about that?

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As long as it is done with respect and with a positive attitude, I do not see a problem with it.

After all, open communication prior to a rendez-vous is one of the important key factors

that contributes to a successful sensual time! :)

[bewlayb 7480]

I am assuming that men interested in digits would have very clean hands and trimmed nails.

 

Just to make sure my nails are as trim as possible, I always try to carry around a small set of nail clippers for last minute touch-ups. Of course sometimes I find myself without, so I'll stop by a drug store on my way over. I must have a dozen of those little suckers in various coat pockets, laptop bags, glove boxes...

[SamanthaEvans 166767]

I didn't understand the reasons for no digits... but Malika and Berlin provide very good reasons. I love to touch a woman and feel her wet and warm...never have been the jackhammering type. So when touching is off the menu I am a little disappointed but always completely respect the limits. Is there any way to approach the topic with an sp or would it be bad etiquette to try and chat about that?

 

I can't see why there would be a problem with asking, politely, why the companion doesn't allow digits. Would she be okay with it if you wore a glove? She might.

 

I sometimes allow it, and sometimes I don't. A lot depends on the mood and chemistry between us. I always ask clients to wash their hands on their way into the bedroom. Some hesitate, but then understand. The one guy who hesitated, then went into the bathroom and did a very quick, pretend wash:icon_wink: only got a hand job from me that day. He asked why and I said that since he wasn't willing to take a couple of minutes to wash his hands properly, I wasn't willing to take any risks with him, even with the condom. He wasn't too happy, but he did try to re-schedule with me. I declined.

[mrgreen760 37785]

Grooming and hygeine are given to me and I always let the woman take the lead. I'm very gentle and haven't had an issue with either daty or digits and I've found women will let you know quickly if your being too gentle. Just like kissing, some women prefer softer kissing and some are more agressive. Paying attention to your partner and going slow will go along way toward each having a rewarding experience ;)

 

Peace

MG

[PistolPete 61421]

Peace Mr.Green !! :) I agree with your statement above..... you should always pay strict attention to your partner, it is very rewarding for both! as you said! :) Oh nothing like a single soft digit,while giving oral at the same time, yummy :) 'Finger licking good'

 

 

Grooming and hygeine are given to me and I always let the woman take the lead. I'm very gentle and haven't had an issue with either daty or digits and I've found women will let you know quickly if your being too gentle. Just like kissing, some women prefer softer kissing and some are more agressive. Paying attention to your partner and going slow will go along way toward each having a rewarding experience ;)

 

Peace

MG

[Katherine of Halifax 113932]

It is the roughness and deep thrusting that is the problem.

 

I have told people to slow down and most pepole do respect this. However it takes only one person to cut and scratch taking my ability to work away for several days, not to mention the pain.

 

Becasue of this I have become more strict , its now very light digits and if you are hurting me I will have no problem telling you to stop.

 

On the other side of the coin I know some ladies that are fine with this, its just a matter of finding out what each lady likes and respect her preferances!!

[antlerman 17064]

Damn I hate mobile!!!!

But my feeling is this......if God or evolution, depending on your outlook, had wanted fingers inside a woman your hands would look like a grouping of little sausages and not fingers with nails......even society has made just about every woman's play toy smooth and gentle that goes in them......

So if you like it shoved down the end of your dick....there is a chance a woman would let you stick it in her.....

 

Opinions expressed above are those of antlerman and do not reflect those of other members or cerb as a whole.......

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[PistolPete 61421]

Ya I don't get some guys that think their finger or fingers are huge pocket rockets,or power tools for immediate stimulation. I find the slower the pace wins the steady race, 'in other words,go slow young young man' make her orgasm,squirt by delivering sensual touching,lapping,sucking,listen to her moan,breath deep,yelling perhaps yelping,perhaps pulling your hair on your head and burying your face in her moist wet pussy...but most of all enjoy yourself..by letting her tell you what is good.

 

If you need lessons just watch some porn, two ladies going at it you will always noticed they have those beautiful long nails, but they are NOT cutting into the pussy,they are massaging the clit, with their finger tips,getting their partner aroused.

 

If you are unsure, again ask her- talk :Cunning: unless your head is buried..lol

 

 

 

It is the roughness and deep thrusting that is the problem.

 

I have told people to slow down and most pepole do respect this. However it takes only one person to cut and scratch taking my ability to work away for several days, not to mention the pain.

 

Becasue of this I have become more strict , its now very light digits and if you are hurting me I will have no problem telling you to stop.

 

On the other side of the coin I know some ladies that are fine with this, its just a matter of finding out what each lady likes and respect her preferances!!

[Rounding Third 9568]

I have not following recently with the General Discussion and that is my bad as discussions like this are helpful.

 

I second Mr Green's comments as others have before me in this thread.

 

In a Seinfield eposode George and Gerry were discussing this topic and concluded "no man knows what goes on down there, it is a whole different world" Be that as it may, I love it down there, but the truth is since I do not own one and since every lady responds differently I never profess to being a expert. So ladies, as as guy, I appreciate any direction, hints, preference, you may give. When it comes to that activity I have no ego.

 

As to daty vs digits. Of course I love daty, but usually do a combination. The comment the tongue is cleaner than fingers is true. I would never dream of being in that situation without clean hands and trimed nails.

[wellie 652]

The responses above are very informative. It would never occur to me to use a finger as a jackhammer or reach as far into the vagina as the cervix. My idea of digits is slow gentle stimulation around the clitoris, on the hood and along the labia. When lubrication is sufficientle availabe, move on gently to the tip of the clit. Take direction from the lady, as to speed and intensity of the stimulation, but always be gentle. I have never had objections from the lady.

[jafo105 39057]

I don't know where your fingers where before, and it's easier to have dirty fingers then a dirty tongue...and also trying to touch the cervix trust me doesn't feel good

 

 

fingernail...it's easy to rip the inside

 

Well you know what they say about making assumptions...;)

 

If you want digits and your hands aren't clean and nails trimmed, you get to wear latex gloves. It is far too easy to get cut and then get an infection because some asshat doesn't know how to groom himself. And you would not believe the number of guys who try to do this.

 

That, and a lot of guys like to jackhammer you with their fingers and yeah, it can be painful and more than unpleasant. Listen to what the lady tells you!

 

As for DATY, there isn't much chance you'll cut me, and plus, I love good DATY. I can only orgasm via clitoral stimulation, so good DATY is a must in my books if you want to get me off.

 

I totally agree with Berlin here!! Especially the jackhammering thing. It's unpleasant and I wont get off from it. I too, can only orgasam from clitoral stimulation, so I prefere DATY over digits!

 

Berlin is completely correct with respect to "assumptions". Even trimmed nails can slice delicate tissues when they haven't been filed down. The last time I allowed this (with a very good regular), I was off work for a week because he scratched my insides so badly. Even with latex gloves, I won't allow it again.

 

Guys think the deeper they go the better it will feel. NOT! And when an SP asks you if you need to use the washroom such as washing your hands, I would suggest doing it especially if you will be doing things with your hands. I tell guys how I like it even it sounds a bit bossy. I'm not going to pretend to like something if it's painful.

 

As long as it is done with respect and with a positive attitude, I do not see a problem with it.

After all, open communication prior to a rendez-vous is one of the important key factors

that contributes to a successful sensual time! :)

 

I can't see why there would be a problem with asking, politely, why the companion doesn't allow digits. Would she be okay with it if you wore a glove? She might.

 

I sometimes allow it, and sometimes I don't. A lot depends on the mood and chemistry between us. I always ask clients to wash their hands on their way into the bedroom. Some hesitate, but then understand. The one guy who hesitated, then went into the bathroom and did a very quick, pretend wash:icon_wink: only got a hand job from me that day. He asked why and I said that since he wasn't willing to take a couple of minutes to wash his hands properly, I wasn't willing to take any risks with him, even with the condom. He wasn't too happy, but he did try to re-schedule with me. I declined.

 

It is the roughness and deep thrusting that is the problem.

 

I have told people to slow down and most pepole do respect this. However it takes only one person to cut and scratch taking my ability to work away for several days, not to mention the pain.

 

Becasue of this I have become more strict , its now very light digits and if you are hurting me I will have no problem telling you to stop.

 

On the other side of the coin I know some ladies that are fine with this, its just a matter of finding out what each lady likes and respect her preferances!!

 

Thank you ladies for your words of wisdom. :icon_biggrin:

[BownChickaBown 4829]

Vs.? With!! :icon_confused: (Note, this is a guys POV based on simply being amazed with the female body, and never knowing if I will see/touch one again.)

 

...but either way, I concur with always playing safe and being utmost respectful, as if so - Long will your big jib draw ;)

[ottawaadventurer 5114]

Ahhhh.... Memories of screech....

 

I, for one, love digits.... I'm older and wise enough to understand the need for impeccable cleanliness, trimmed nails, and gentle moves... No jackhammering for me.... But I am good with my hands and love to feel myself in there....

 

"no digits' is a deal breaker for me for an encounter with an SP.

 

That being said, I totally understand the restriction. Moreover, I wouldn't enjoy it at all if I knew the woman I was with was reluctant. Which is why I firmly believe that pre-appointment communication is so critical.

 

And, while I know many of us on CERB get it, it is worth repeating. None of us guys are entitled to anything. Money or not. A session is a privilege and is always defined by the rules/limits of a provider. It's our choice whether or not to proceed once we get the 'rules', but it's always a privilege.

 

Thanks ladies.

[Meg O'Ryan 266444]

I think the reason some of us advertise no digits is because of the few bad apples that upset the cart! For all the rough digging around you would think they were looking for gold! There is a time and a way to use your fingers in a good way and the only way to figure it out is to communicate with your partner!

[ottawaadventurer 5114]

Meg - could not agree more. With age comes wisdom, I think. I can remember my first few times "fingering" and I shudder. :-)

[Sensual Erin 33928]

I know I may have a few dissagreements on this one but this is a question that should be answered by open communication, trust that is established through time with someone that we connect with, respect and of course personal hygeine. I don't think it should be asked as a random public question as the answer is very personal and between two consenting adults. I know menu items are put on the plate for the Gents to explore, question and decide, but where is the sensualty and mystery of an experience that can be amazing if two people explore together and build upon by trust, respect and exploration? How clean your nails are have no meaning if the connection is not built. Then it's just a menu item, or I may just be a little old school on this topic.