Daty vs. Digits

[Guest W***ledi*Time]

.....if God or evolution, depending on your outlook, had wanted fingers inside a woman your hands would look like a grouping of little sausages and not fingers with nails....

 

ha ha ... on the other hand, if God or evolution had wanted blow jobs to take place, human mouths wouldn't have teeth ...

 

and yet, with the proper technique, BJs can be quite pleasant, I've found! And some ladies really do seem to enjoy a finger or two or ...

 

Like anything else we do when we get together for some fun - mutual agreement is required, and two-way feedback and communication is vital.

[Capital Hunter 18263]

I find that only some oriental ladies have problems with digits. I do however communicate well in advance via PMs/emails as what my expectations are with the lady and usually note kissing and sometimes daty too as what I hope for (no mention of digits or even sex) but mostly I receive all with escort ladies that I have seen. May be I have been lucky so far.

[qwertyaccount 15793]

Just to lighten up the mood a bit, when I read jackhammering fingers, I remembered this:

[castle 38816]

I never before realized until this thread how many women don't seem to enjoy deep digits. I often perform digits with a lady with or without daty (assuming I've seen it as part of her services offered on her website or in an ad), and often building up momentum until it gets to be some pretty intense fingering, not quite the "jackhammer", but I suspect pretty close, and often with more than one digit (usually not more than 2)...and so far haven't had any complaints and the ladies always seemed to be enjoying themselves. If I get a sense she's not then I'll stop. I really hope the reason I've had no complaints is because they were genuinely enjoying themselves and weren't just "putting up with it" or pretending in order to spare my feelings.

 

I've said it before and I'll say it again.....please ladies, and this goes for any ladies reading this who I've seen or any ladies who I may see in the future...please, PLEASE....tell me if I'm doing something you don't enjoy, or tell me if you prefer I do it differently (faster/slower or not so deep/ or deeper)! The last thing I want is to cause someone discomfort....my pride be damned, the best encounter for me is the one where we BOTH get off.

[qwertyaccount 15793]

...please, PLEASE....tell me if I'm doing something you don't enjoy, or tell me if you prefer I do it differently (faster/slower or not so deep/ or deeper)! The last thing I want is to cause someone discomfort....my pride be damned, the best encounter for me is the one where we BOTH get off.

 

Me too!

 

I'm good with boundaries, I just need to know what they are.

[chavez 641]

Unlike quertyacct I am not very good about boundrys ( well other than the nessicary condom on penitration)

Like bewlayb I am totally about respect and go gentle.

Although I have been ridiculed here for keeping and bringing " a pooners kit" , In the bottom of my kit you will always find a nail file. My nails are such that they can be perfectly smooth when enter the hotel and 10 minutes latter have a small nick that could be quite uncomfortable. A quick brush over my upper lip with my finger tips will tell me if my nails are smooth. ( cleanliness is a must). Also I am not at all put off if a lady were to tell me that my nails have a sharp edge. By the time I would be playing at her pussy she would have plenty of time to assess this. Also I have never met a lady that enjoyed a jackhammer from my hand. A few that would like it from my penis, but never my hand.

All of that said; the first professional(?) lady I ever met had these restrictions. No digets, no daty, no lip to lip kissing. I asked her what I could do. IT AMOUNTED TO DICK ALL. I brought a nice wine but incase she didn't drink alcohol I also brought fruit juice and a very good ginger ale. When she said that she didn't drink alcohol,

I poured us each a fruitjuice and to give sparkle I added 1/3 portion of ginger ale. This was a potent gingerale that I am fond of and is lableled as " ginger beer" When she saw the word "beer" she refused to partake even though I assured her that there was absolutely NO alcohol content, and I showed her the bottle with full label.

To sum this up it was the least satisfying experience I have ever had. You can well imagine that there was no tip, no repeat, and totally no recommndation.

I can't help it. If I give a lady total respect, lots of time and good remuneration , I expect few unreasonable boundrys.

Since that day I am very happy to say that I am not often disappointed; and never again to that level.

[Cleo Catra 178382]

Why do some ladies allow Daty but not Digits, and vice versa?

 

I allow both, but before digits a man should always wash his hands, and be gentle. Hands can be quite rough and forceful during digits, which doesn't feel pleasant. Rough hard sex can be very fun, but it's different with a hand, having a few fingers roughly jammed into you can be painful.

[fortunateone 156618]

Yes, hands/fingers are not the same shape as a penis. Think for a moment, your hands cannot be replacements for one at all. Fingers and hands are hard and boney, knobby and knuckled, and come with sharp points at the end. Remember the joke: Don't point that at me, it's got a nail in it. Remember that every time you want to point that or insert that into something.

 

If you run the fingernails on the roof of your mouth, which feels good? Soft and gentle, or hard and jabbing? Imagine, if someone else was doing it to you? How good would hard and jabbing sound then?

 

Sps may enjoy digits, but won't offer it in sessions for all of the examples and reasons given above. It can be dangerous. It can lead to infections, like BV or yeast infections. It can cause tearing and damage.

I can't imagine too many sps (or any woman) who is going to look forward to a new encounter knowing they may be facing this service, and may be facing anything from mild discomfort to extreme pain.

 

And then there are many women who simply don't offer a service they don't enjoy, that does nothing for them, and has little or no effect on their pleasure factor.

 

Oh, but for the OP, really daty and digits are completely different things. It really is hard to cause problems or pain with daty, and really easy to do that with digits. It wouldn't be a hard choice to eliminate digits, all things considered. If a client is wanting to do it because they want to enhance the sps pleasure in session, then perhaps they might want to rethink that idea lol. If they still find it a deal breaker, then back off the thrusters and wear gloves or ask for a condom for the fingers. I think you'd find that a lot of sps would relax about it, and possibly find some way to enjoy the sensation once they know they won't be hurt or harmed in the process.

[qwertyaccount 15793]

If you run the fingernails on the roof of your mouth, which feels good? Soft and gentle, or hard and jabbing? Imagine, if someone else was doing it to you? How good would hard and jabbing sound then?

 

Great analogy!

[wellie 652]

Now that the temperature in this thread has cooled down a bit, I would like to make an observation. Before I started the thread, I believed that the percentage of ladies who would permit DATY but nor digits would be about equal the that of ladies who would allow digits but not DATY. I was clearly wrong. The concerns expressed about digits were much more numerous than those about DATY. This is surprising, because there ARE health risks associated with DATY. There is no complete agreement about the precise level of risk of transmitting an STI through DATY but most experts suggest that there is some. This post is not about fear mongering, but about my surprise that readers were totally silent on the health risks of DATY.

[fortunateone 156618]

Now that the temperature in this thread has cooled down a bit, I would like to make an observation. Before I started the thread, I believed that the percentage of ladies who would permit DATY but nor digits would be about equal the that of ladies who would allow digits but not DATY. I was clearly wrong. The concerns expressed about digits were much more numerous than those about DATY. This is surprising, because there ARE health risks associated with DATY. There is no complete agreement about the precise level of risk of transmitting an STI through DATY but most experts suggest that there is some. This post is not about fear mongering, but about my surprise that readers were totally silent on the health risks of DATY.

 

 

I think its because not all risks are std risks, and the outcome of digits are far more likely to end in a problem than thru daty, which is at the end of the day, a low risk activity for stds. It is similar in fact to the risk of stds via kissing. A possibility, but not a very likely one. It is nothing like the risk to an sp with a bbbj, which includes the fluids and skin contact right into the mouth. Fluids outside the body have less viability, you see, so the transmission rates and risks are much lower.

[Phaedrus 209521]

There is no complete agreement about the precise level of risk of transmitting an STI through DATY but most experts suggest that there is some. This post is not about fear mongering, but about my surprise that readers were totally silent on the health risks of DATY.

 

An observation, here: AFAIK the STD risks with DATY are almost entirely on the giver's side (and someone please correct me if I'm wrong about that), but the risks with digits are all on the receiver's side. It's the receiver making the decision on whether they're OK with either or both of these, and there's no way I'm going to argue with whatever decision each individual chooses to make on this.

[wellie 652]

An observation, here: AFAIK the STD risks with DATY are almost entirely on the giver's side (and someone please correct me if I'm wrong about that), but the risks with digits are all on the receiver's side. It's the receiver making the decision on whether they're OK with either or both of these, and there's no way I'm going to argue with whatever decision each individual chooses to make on this.

 

If your understanding that the risk of DATY is mostly on the giver's (men's) side is correct, the predominant response of ladies' being concerned about digits is understandable. It was mostly the ladies that replied and not the gents.