SP requests for client photo as a precursor to appointment?

[PistolPete 61421]

allright anyone want to go on a date, lol

 

If you are quite sincere, just let me know, but I won't send you pictures.;) We could hit the casino, and you dress up, so will I...the after date could be very nice as well.:cool:

[girorok66 110]

May be this suggestion is totally out of the question but anyway: how about a (paid) 'precursory' coffee session for the 1st meeting? Both the SP and the hobbyist will have a chance to see each other in person and chat a bit to find out more. Not the sure bet as some people can really hide their real intention but at least it is better than just a pic or two? Personally I don't mind to just have a coffee or two sometimes with the couple of lovely MPs I have seen so far.

[PistolPete 61421]

May be this suggestion is totally out of the question but anyway: how about a (paid) 'precursory' coffee session for the 1st meeting? Both the SP and the hobbyist will have a chance to see each other in person and chat a bit to find out more. Not the sure bet as some people can really hide their real intention but at least it is better than just a pic or two? Personally I don't mind to just have a coffee or two sometimes with the couple of lovely MPs I have seen so far.

 

My opinion...yup... your suggestion for me... is totally out of the question...coffee session?no thanks...WHY? it would take probably an hour of my time and her's....so who is going to foot the bill for an SP at 300 per hour for a coffee?and my time is also valuable as well, (so the hour that I do take for an actual appointment to see/have sex with an SP is the time I've set up, not for coffee) just my take on that! Not trying to knock your thread...or suggestion, its my personal preference.

[girorok66 110]

My opinion...yup... your suggestion for me... is totally out of the question...coffee session?no thanks...WHY? it would take probably an hour of my time and her's....so who is going to foot the bill for an SP at 300 per hour for a coffee?and my time is also valuable as well, (so the hour that I do take for an actual appointment to see/have sex with an SP is the time I've set up, not for coffee) just my take on that! Not trying to knock your thread...or suggestion, its my personal preference.

 

No problem. That's why I said "out of the question" even with a bit of donation :D But if someone really want to have a better feel of the other a personal meeting is a must since a pic or two won't cut it.

[Guest hot_lyxxx]

Time is money so it won't fly IMOP. Besides, it would be just my luck my wife would be sitting at the next table!

 

My opinion...yup... your suggestion for me... is totally out of the question...coffee session?no thanks...WHY? it would take probably an hour of my time and her's....so who is going to foot the bill for an SP at 300 per hour for a coffee?and my time is also valuable as well, (so the hour that I do take for an actual appointment to see/have sex with an SP is the time I've set up, not for coffee) just my take on that! Not trying to knock your thread...or suggestion, its my personal preference.

[Guest hot_lyxxx]

allright anyone want to go on a date, lol

 

LOL...In my (wet) dreams perhaps! That said, in reality, a date with you would certainly be very memorable for me.

[Capital Hunter 18263]

allright anyone want to go on a date, lol

 

If you don't mind someone twice your age, sure. Besides if I remember correctly, we have a common sweetheart (Kitty at barbarellas). Isn't she beautiful inside and out :). We might have seen or even met at barbarellas already as I used to be there every Saturday afternoon, couple of years ago (to see big blue eyed beautiful Mary Jane who was my sweetheart\angel and also to see beautiful Kitty). I have almost stopped going to SC though (the new hobby is much more fun) .

 

I always date in private though (at my apartment). I used to have a number of dancers (friends) used to come over and dance for me in private (after having dinner, wine and chocolate) in full light (I am sure this is how it must be in heaven) before I started this hobby. Unfortunately never dared to ask above most favourite two dancers for private dance (I didn't want risk losing their friendships and most likely they would have declined anyway, so why risk).

[Dreamgirl 246]

If you don't mind someone twice your age, sure. Besides if I remember correctly, we have a common sweetheart (Kitty at barbarellas). Isn't she beautiful inside and out :). We might have seen or even met at barbarellas already as I used to be there every Saturday afternoon, couple of years ago (to see big blue eyed beautiful Mary Jane who was my sweetheart\angel and also to see beautiful Kitty). I have almost stopped going to SC though (the new hobby is much more fun) .

 

I always date in private though (at my apartment). I used to have a number of dancers (friends) used to come over and dance for me in private (after having dinner, wine and chocolate) in full light (I am sure this is how it must be in heaven) before I started this hobby. Unfortunately never dared to ask above most favourite two dancers for private dance (I didn't want risk losing their friendships and most likely they would have declined anyway, so why risk).

 

I know kitty very well she is the sweetest, also such a nice girl, a real sweetheart ! I make outfit for ladies and used to dance at barbarellas so Maybe we met already! I haven t seen her for a while :(

[Capital Hunter 18263]

I know kitty very well she is the sweetest, also such a nice girl, a real sweetheart ! I make outfit for ladies and used to dance at barbarellas so Maybe we met already! I haven t seen her for a while :(

 

Just to update you on Kitty, she is as beautiful as ever (both inside and out) ever young looking sweetheart (looks like a teenager still) and is planning to go back to school (college) in September, but still will dance part time (I think she said Saturdays only). BTW, she reminds me so much of my very first love (my own cousin) when we were both teenagers.

[d*mm*y 887]

I've only once been asked for a picture from an SP. I thought it odd at the time but I didn't give it much thought. Would I do it again? Probably not as she certainly didn't live up to her billing.

 

I guess if she met with Insidevoice and me that we can eliminate the screening for looks!

[Capital Hunter 18263]

hmmm ... kissin' cousins, eh? And of course I'm referring to the 1964 Elvis Presley movie and not passing any judgement. Well, I could pass judgement on Elvis' poor judgement as that was one horrible movie.

 

Actually she was my mother's cousin and half German on the father side.

[d*mm*y 887]

Dreamgirl, you should sell gift certificates that we the men could purchase to offer to the ladies as tips or gifts.

 

Now that is a Capital Idea!!

[ulixestrojan 3757]

Dreamgirl, you should sell gift certificates that we the men could purchase to offer to the ladies as tips or gifts.

 

Gift Certificates are just like money - only worse. I am all for supporting Dreamgirl but when I get a tip, I want the choice of where I spend it.

 

On the topic, let's forget photos and go straight to full-body strip searches.:D

[niceguy1 100]

WOW! such a long thread already!!!

 

To add my voice, I am against sending picture for privacy reasons (remember, your picture in an email is different from your picture taken from a website) however if a SP asks for it for security reason, I don't have problem with that and as others said, it's their choice. Now someone brought a reason such as screening out "Married Men???". Sorry I couldn't resist but to me that's just rediculous to screen people based on moral grounds.

 

Again, as others said SPs have the right if they want to see a picture before hand and clients equally have the rights to refuse to send the pic and move on to other SPs if they don't know the SP who is asking for the pic. If I know the SP and she is well reviewed, I wouldn't mind sending my pic but she is new and unknown, I would not send my pic.

[misterdynomite30 174]

Now someone brought a reason such as screening out "Married Men???". Sorry I couldn't resist but to me that's just rediculous to screen people based on moral grounds.

 

I agree with this as well. Plus, all a guy has to say is 'im not married'. Not sending a pic isn't proof that he is married at all. Thats just absurd.

 

I don't send a requested pic by preference. If the SP isn't down with that.. thats cool. I just give my business elsewhere. Simple as that.

[d*mm*y 887]

Several new ladies getting into the business have asked for my opinion on getting set up. It does help calm there vervs if they see a pic before setting up the appointment, or if they get a reference from someone they now this can also settle there nervs. Trust me they get enough requests for business that they can afford to implement some screening process. However I would open to suggestions from you guys as to the best approch for a new lady doing this on the side with a busy life and privacy issues to screan potential clients. The main problems are the ladies cannot have a web presence as they are hiding there profession, the ladies do not want to run into anyone that travels in the same circles as them i.e. freinds of freinds busienss relationships etc... and the ladies do not want to get involved with any crazy people that could become obsesive. The Picture does help screan a certain amount of this but is not the final answer that is for sure. Any other nuggets of wisdom? We obviously have a huge pool of knowledge here and are passionate about ensure that the ladies feel as comfortable and secure as possible so any ideas would be greatly appreciated by the ladies. (I do know at least one SP that does the screaning through her appartment security camera, when you buzz her she looks at you on the screan and makes the final call on lettting you in, or letting you hang, is this better?)

[RubJunky 1954]

Another reason one should never send a photo or give an SP personal info is because in some cases the information is never handled properly as far as privacy or securing this information, and if it gets into the wrong hands all hell will break loose.

 

Just look back the most recent case of that high paying escort in NY who got busted and her entire client list that ranged from Supreme Court Judges to local Politicians was a feeding frenzy on CNN....Ouch.

 

This biz is a hit and miss, so if you are lucky to find the few good SP's or MA's my advice is to stick with them. If your the kind of person who likes to test all the waters then its a hit and miss and sometimes you will get burned.

[PistolPete 61421]

This entire thread has been a wealth of information.

 

That being said..your points below are exactly how a newly SP getting into the business should conduct,interview process,reference process, prior to getting into the business.

 

If she so desires, to get feedback on hobbiest, there is other SP's that could help her out through communication of email,pm here...but than again the SP competition factor weighs in, so I worry about that playing any part of the process.

 

 

If she so desires to un-settled her nerves, she may have every right to ask for a picture prior to seeing clients.

 

We all have a large circle of friends outside this community, so her points on not wanting to run into possible well known associates can eleminate those hobbiest. Which is fair ball.

 

I still think if you are able to give out your phone number (trust factor), have a brief discussion, give a little information it could work out. But the last word is always in the hands of the SP for her safety, thus asking for further detail information is her right...for her safety.

 

As far as the on site camera, hardly fair if you book and than are left standing there looking like a doofus, cause she won't let you in.

 

I also find that through emails in the past 2.5 years of really getting into hobbying myself, giving a detail discription of yourself really helps.

 

I've done it on many occasions, and was allowed in through the door after being veiwed through the peep hole.

 

Giving out inaccurate information leads to a sham,and you could be shit out of luck. Be yourself act accordingly, give detailed info, and it should unsettle the ladies nerves..I hope.:idea:

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

Several new ladies getting into the business have asked for my opinion on getting set up. It does help calm there vervs if they see a pic before setting up the appointment, or if they get a reference from someone they now this can also settle there nervs. Trust me they get enough requests for business that they can afford to implement some screening process. However I would open to suggestions from you guys as to the best approch for a new lady doing this on the side with a busy life and privacy issues to screan potential clients. The main problems are the ladies cannot have a web presence as they are hiding there profession, the ladies do not want to run into anyone that travels in the same circles as them i.e. freinds of freinds busienss relationships etc... and the ladies do not want to get involved with any crazy people that could become obsesive. The Picture does help screan a certain amount of this but is not the final answer that is for sure. Any other nuggets of wisdom? We obviously have a huge pool of knowledge here and are passionate about ensure that the ladies feel as comfortable and secure as possible so any ideas would be greatly appreciated by the ladies. (I do know at least one SP that does the screaning through her appartment security camera, when you buzz her she looks at you on the screan and makes the final call on lettting you in, or letting you hang, is this better?)

[bangminton 145]

I agree with Pete, for both of us to have mutually agreed to an appointment and for the lady to not open the door because she doesn't like what she sees on the building camera, be it race or weight or what have you, is uncalled for, for the lack of a better word.

 

The SP has all the rights in the world to ask for a brief description of the client before she agrees to meet but if she backs out at the last minute then I don't know what to say here fellas.

 

A simple and effective way to screen potential dates (and I am not saying it is foolproof) is to make use of webcams. They are fairly inexpensive these days and provide both clients and SPs a certain level of comfort before proceeding further.

[Dreamgirl 246]

for me, no picture is a NO. I am very picky for the people I see , eighter we chat for a bit and they tell me about themselves their nationality ect ... It happen a few times where I cancelled , with my instinc, nothing personal (the person had no picture or refuse to send one) And I would never do such a thing as some are affraid like posting the picture or something like that. It might be mean to say but I have standards for the people i see, i must have fun too. They are very greatful that I am selective , I am happy and healthy when I have my appointment. I dont have to worry about thinking of bad experience or beein nervous of having one , all that because of my screening process! :)

[loneskater 25635]

for me, no picture is a NO. I am very picky for the people I see , eighter we chat for a bit and they tell me about themselves their nationality ect ... It happen a few times where I cancelled , with my instinc, nothing personal (the person had no picture or refuse to send one) And I would never do such a thing as some are affraid like posting the picture or something like that. It might be mean to say but I have standards for the people i see, i must have fun too. They are very greatful that I am selective , I am happy and healthy when I have my appointment. I dont have to worry about thinking of bad experience or beein nervous of having one , all that because of my screening process! :)

 

I respect the ladies screening process. One thing that always make an experience more pleasurable is if both the lady and myself are feeling confortable with each other. If that means she wants a picture then I send her a picture. In the end I benefit from it. Also I have no issues with the ladies screening her clients. Aren't we doing the same. We screen ladies form their pics. Many have made comments on new ladies advertising on CERB where are your pics?

 

You do those little easy things the ladies ask from you and you will build trust and a reputation. It goes a long way in this business. It will also give confidence to the ladies that you are not one of the many "No Shows" Ottawa is reputed for.

 

My best lady friend is an SP and I am very proud to have her as my best friend. We have had many interesting discussion about this business and just like Dreamgirl said, the last thing on their mind is posting the picture or something like that. Remember they prefer repeat clients.

[Kubrickfan 12836]

This whole string started because a well-respected (and I'm sure absolutely wonderful ... smile) SP requested a photo from me. Personally, that is, and always will be, a non-starter for me for privacy reasons. However, I respect the right of any SP to ask for that.

 

As to dummpy's requests, I would think one criterion could be the client's cerb name (or name on other escort boards). At least that way, a new SP could get more comfortable by reading the potential clients posts. It wont help mitigate the "OMG I know you" issue (geez, wouldn't that be embarrassing). But I would recommend it to any lady who is concerned about security (and they all should be to some extent), even if the guy gives them a photo.

[d*mm*y 887]

This whole string started because a well-respected (and I'm sure absolutely wonderful ... smile) SP requested a photo from me. Personally, that is, and always will be, a non-starter for me for privacy reasons. However, I respect the right of any SP to ask for that.

 

As to dummpy's requests, I would think one criterion could be the client's cerb name (or name on other escort boards). At least that way, a new SP could get more comfortable by reading the potential clients posts. It wont help mitigate the "OMG I know you" issue (geez, wouldn't that be embarrassing). But I would recommend it to any lady who is concerned about security (and they all should be to some extent), even if the guy gives them a photo.

 

Handles do work well for sure, and the web cam thing is a good suggestion as well (however I think you can capture a screen shot so no better than sending a URL with your pic) however I have been told by many ladies that 50% of the requests come from lurkers who are guests, or never post. I guess the savvy ladies will develop a strategy implementing the various methods to get themselves comfortable.

[capitalman 3861]

If a girl is picky, I just want her more.

[Guest ye****y1*3]

picky is fine. if it came down to it though, i would not be sending my photo.

who knows where it can end up and there is just that small chance that you are no longer just a face at the door, but now permanently on someones computer. what is the difference between this and the provider taking your picture when you arrive, just in case. it all comes down to the fact that most guys here have more to loose, as many are attached or married.

i would reassure the girl that i am not some weirdo, describe myself physically and take it from there. dont forget, appearances mean very little in many cases. i know this for a fact from sales experience.

both sides make valid points, and i am sure it is that the provider is just being picky. honestly though, i can afford to be picky as well because i am the one paying for a service and i have more to loose than the provider. i would just move on to the next one. i just wouln't be able to get over the thought that someone has my picture on their computer. i dont even like giving my real name for gods sake. you hear stories of guys bumping into providers while with their gfs or wives. just not worth it IMO. there are plenty out there who dont ask for a picture, and people who are willing to just throw their picture out there without really thinking about it are selling themselves short.