Is Anal All It's CRACKED Up To Be ?!

[Roxcii Rachelle 696]

Hey everyone ,

While recently visiting a friend of mine , we were having a few drinks and having conversations girlfriends usually have with each other. We came across the topic of anal sex and exchanged feelings and thoughts on the act , and she shared some "anal experiences" with me.

Anal sex is something that I have thought about trying for sometime now , but can never seem to bring myself around to doing it. The main thing stopping me is the thought of how painful the whole experience must be , and the thought of something going IN where "things" are supposed to be coming out! Lol!

I have been told that the first time is the worst time , and if u can bear it the first time , every time after that becomes easier and easier! But I have been told by someone else that she does it for clients occasionally , and that every time you have anal sex it hurts worse every time!

Because I have never tried it yet , I have no idea what it is true .. OR if both females could be telling the truth & everyone just reacts differently to having anal sex .. Either way , I am very curious on how everyone feels about anal sex (whether being the giver or receiver) , and if they feel it is any better than oral or intercourse.

Look forward to hearing your replies ! xo

[toine 30556]

difficult topic, obviously, and one that should be explored at one's own sweet time with a trusted partner...

There are many threads that will touch on this topic here, from both men and women (often SP) perspective, and here is a Slate contributor take on it http://www.slate.com/id/2270622/, with a veneer of scientific analysis, likely hard to assess for non-specialists like myself....

My take? some love it, some just don't want anything to do with it, I have discovered it is most likely not really for me, though I will try again, and all of us are different...Ain't that a great piece of news, all of us are different, lol!

[Roxcii Rachelle 696]

Yes it is something that requires a lot of thought .. And it is something I feel like I need to be 100% ready for

[Katherine of Halifax 113932]

I think a lot of times it a love it or hate it event. I hate it but have lots of friends that love it. So its just best to find the partner that matches up with your desires or if you are are interested in trying go SLOW, use lots of lube, patience and respect. :icon_smile: Fast answer to a complicated question!

[Roxcii Rachelle 696]

Thanks babe , its appreciated ! I can't even bring myself to TRY it , lol .. I'm terrified of the thought !

[stevecurious 42059]

I think a lot of times it a love it or hate it event. I hate it but have lots of friends that love it. So its just best to find the partner that matches up with your desires or if you are are interested in trying go SLOW, use lots of lube, patience and respect. :icon_smile: Fast answer to a complicated question!

 

Couldn't have said it better myself!

 

To touch on Cathy's (sorry Katherines) post this isn't something that should be done just for the sake of doing it. If you are unsure or uncomfortable then this could lead to you tensing up and therefore you enjoying yourself less, or should I say not at all! Trying greek is something that should be done slowly, carefully and with a willing and understanding partner. The last thing you want is to try this for the first time with someone who doesn't understand the word STOP!

 

Keep in mind that a lady doesn't have to offer greek just to keep up with the Joneses...at least not here on Cerb! Start off slow or if possible with a small toy then work your way up to bigger, better and more natural "members."

[whatsup 11893]

Allow me to give my experiences of anal sex. My first was when I was requested to provide this to a very well respected SP and I thought my first why not and fairly new to hobbying. It was a great experience. Lots of passion and there was a friendly bond between us, we had numerous encounters after that. Second was totally hot just give it to me in the a-- here and now and we did in the bathroom. Must have been something to do with the big mirror. :icon_biggrin:

[Roxcii Rachelle 696]

Oh , it is never something that I would try because of pressure or someone suggesting it .. I have been wanting to try it for months now , but as I said .. Haven't found the right person to try with , but when I do , I will try it & let everyone know how it works out ;)

[stevecurious 42059]

Haven't found the right person to try with , but when I do , I will try it & let everyone know how it works out ;)

 

The right person wouldn't be a Cerb member from Prince Edward Island who just happens to be a Red Sox fan would it????:wink: Pay close attention to my avatar and location before responding. Ha ha

[Roxcii Rachelle 696]

Haha , u are funny ! You just never know luv , it could be ! ;)

[whatsup 11893]

Haha , u are funny ! You just never know luv , it could be ! ;)

 

Yeah I`d tap that a-- :icon_idea: :biggrin: :icon_lol:

[stevecurious 42059]

Haha , u are funny ! You just never know luv , it could be ! ;)

 

Have to log off now...got a long drive to Halifax!

[Roxcii Rachelle 696]

Have to log off now...got a long drive to Halifax!

lol , well i'll see you when you get here ! ;)

 

Additional Comments:

Yeah I`d tap that a-- :icon_idea: :biggrin: :icon_lol:

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[Andee 220524]

My only comment to this thread is:

 

For me, it's EXIT ONLY

 

But I do have some friends who swear by it, saying they have the best orgasms that way.

[Guest W***ledi*Time]

Like many other things, anal sex isn't for everybody. But humans have been engaging in anal sex for millenia. Why would they do that? Because they like it. It feels good. I myself enjoy both giving and receiving. (In my case, the receiving has been courtesy of toys, and, even better, ladies' strap-ons.)

 

If you're doing it right, the sensations are unique and can be very pleasurable and fulfilling. The anus is sensitive, and sensitive spots on the body are erogenous zones. Treated right, this sensitivity makes anal sex great. Treated wrong, this sensitivity makes it painful. Just like sexual activity involving any other erogenous zone, except to an exaggerated degree.

 

The anus does not naturally lubricate in the way that the pussy does (that's why greek should involve lots of lube!), and the tissue is (comparatively) delicate. Pain is an important signal that damage may be being done and to "stop doing that"!

 

The receiver should always be in control and the giver should go slowly at first, following the receiver's lead and the receiver's signals. Just starting out? Partner with someone who knows what they're doing. You may want to use a couple of toys of increasing girth to prepare with. Take your time. Relax. Use plenty of lube. Enjoy the unique sensations.

[Guest p**h*x]

The receiver should always be in control and the giver should go slowly at first, following the receiver's lead and the receiver's signals. Just starting out? Partner with someone who knows what they're doing. You may want to use a couple of toys of increasing girth to prepare with. Relax. Use plenty of lube.

 

Good advice. In my experience with someone who wanted to but was really nervous to do so it was all about taking it slooooow and following her lead in controlling it. The best advice I can give, other than a ton of lube, is when first trying is to be in the spooning position. Gives lots of control to the receiver to take it slow and not be at an angle where it could potentially be too easy to slip or go to hard. After some time she became crazy for it, wahoo!

[rdymango 673]

Have you tried anal sex on yourself, using a finger(s) or toys? That way you're in complete control of how fast and how deep you go. Glass toys are really good because they are non-porous and stay lubricated well. It would be a really safe way to experiment. It might be a good first step in determining if it's for you.

 

As far as the mechanics of it go... (a) take you're time, (b) there's no such as thing as too much lube when it comes to anal sex, and © stay away from vaseline or any oil-based lubes!

 

As the saying goes, different strokes for different folks. If it turns out that anal strokes aren't for you, leave the anal strokes for other folks.

[cat 262460]

Yes, yes it is!

cat

[Roxcii Rachelle 696]

Have you tried anal sex on yourself, using a finger(s) or toys? That way you're in complete control of how fast and how deep you go. Glass toys are really good because they are non-porous and stay lubricated well. It would be a really safe way to experiment. It might be a good first step in determining if it's for you.

 

Yes that sounds like a good idea to me , I would be more comfortable trying it for myself , that way I know my limits and know when enough is enough !

 

Thanks for all the advice & feedback everyone ! Keep it coming !

[stevecurious 42059]

Have you tried anal sex on yourself, using a finger(s) or toys?

 

Yes that sounds like a good idea to me , I would be more comfortable trying it for myself , that way I know my limits and know when enough is enough !

 

 

That in itself would be worth the hours donation amount!

[Roxcii Rachelle 696]

haha , u just never know what I might have in store for you !

[Nicolette Vaughn 294340]

I don't particularily like anal sex but I like it wth toys. It is something I'm not 100% comfortable with and if you think of it from a physical standpoint, it's not an area you should screw around with. No pun intended. I have tried it a couple of times in my private life when the time was right and it was really good. However, I couldn't do this over and over all the time. And if I did do it with a client, i would be charging a premium to make it worth my while. Plus there is a lot of preparation involved. It is painful and sometimes guys are too rough even when they are taking it slow. Some of the best orgams I've had were with anal toys but it was when I was able to control the speed and rythym.

[Nathalie L 112512]

Have you tried anal sex on yourself, using a finger(s) or toys? That way you're in complete control of how fast and how deep you go. Glass toys are really good because they are non-porous and stay lubricated well. It would be a really safe way to experiment. It might be a good first step in determining if it's for you.

 

I would add that it's important to start with a butt plug, something small and delicate. A great deal of people I've met (including myself) enjoy anal stimulation, but not penetration. The nerve endings around the anus are extremely sensitive, and I think everyone can enjoy that area being slightly touched and massaged if they are open minded to the experience.

 

Also, make sure to use a water-based lubricant, rather than a silicone based lubricant. Most toys (apart from the lovely glass suggestion) will be made of silicone and cannot be used with silicone based lube. Also, there's never too much lube.

[silverado17 12689]

when u watch porn movie and the girls bend over and spread there butt checks that is not a small whole must be all the anal they do so it must be the more you do it the more the whole get's bigger

[capitalman 3861]

It seems to me that anal has now become mainstream and everyone is expecting it or expected to give it. Almost all porn includes it now. There is novelty and excitement surrounding it because it's TABOO and DIRTY and in all honesty I like it, but once you've had it on a regular basis it's no big deal.

 

I do however like the dominance it provides....the sense of control over the receiver. It's easier for a lady to push a guy away when he's just entering her regular holes but in the ass it's just got this control factor that raises the level of excitement. Just my humble opinion.

 

I think girls that really enjoy it, enjoy this part of it more than the physical feeling.