newboy 4919 Report post Posted September 3, 2011 Whenever I am with a lady who can have several bone shaking, teeth gnashing, muscle spasming orgasams, I am always envious. It has been several years since I have been able to achieve a "second shot", (perhaps caused by the fact that I have been on this rock they call earth nearly a half century now). I just thought I would pose the question to the guys out there. Any of you had this issue and found a solution? Any ladies out there have any suggestions? Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Winnipegcub 21293 Report post Posted September 3, 2011 Sounds like I might be the same vintage as you. And many will say 'oh yeh' but honestly the number for me isn't important. I have and sometimes (not predictable) can do 2 or 3 but that has so much left the criteria of what is a great meeting for me. I often will see a lady over a couple of nights and for longer (2hr) sessions. I try and find ladies who I think I'm compatable with and we might find a connection. This removes so much pressure of the # of orgasms I have. I've actually spent 2hr plus appointments with a lady and never had 1...knowing I would be seeing her the next night and it would be my turn. I've been lucky to meet some great ladies on CERB and made (IMHO) a connection that makes my time with them measured in much more substantive ways than the number of orgasms I have. Now don't get my wrong - I love the feeling. But am much more prepared and comfortable to just let two people explore each other slowly and naturally and see what happens. Cub Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Guest E*******h S******s Report post Posted September 3, 2011 Whenever I am with a lady who can have several bone shaking, teeth gnashing, muscle spasming orgasams, I am always envious. It has been several years since I have been able to achieve a "second shot", (perhaps caused by the fact that I have been on this rock they call earth nearly a half century now). I just thought I would pose the question to the guys out there. Any of you had this issue and found a solution? Any ladies out there have any suggestions? Oh sweetheart, you need to understand that women were given multiple orgasms in an attempt to make up for the fact that we have to cramp and bleed 7 days a month for 50 years. Wanna trade? Seriously though, I agree with Winnipegcub, it's not about how many orgasms you have, it's about the journey to get there. Slow down and enjoy the anticipation, the flirtation, the soft kisses. The more attention you pay to the fun stuff that leads up to the orgasm, the more intense and satisfying that orgasm will be. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
SamanthaEvans 166767 Report post Posted September 3, 2011 I've read that there are tantric techniques that men can learn which will help them have more than one orgasm per session. I've never met anyone who had learned them, however. The men I've known who could have more than one orgasm per encounter have some strong similarities. They are in good physical condition, not overweight, don't smoke and do not have diabetes or pre-diabetes. Their blood pressure is either well-controlled or doesn't need strong medication to keep it within a healthy range. They can have good erections without medication or, if they use something like Viagra, the drug works in that it helps them achieve good, firm, lasting erections AND helps them control when they will ejaculate. Men who have trouble with premature ejaculation (PE) don't often have multiple orgasms in my experience. The orgasms that they do have are often not very satisfying, as well. Fortunately, PE is easily treatable. From my own point of view, a man who can have one good, satisfying orgasm when he's ready for it is set to be a wonderful sexual partner. However, men who have erectile difficulties and/or men who have trouble achieving orgasm can also be wonderful partners. While I understand how important strong erections and powerful climaxes may be to many men, these are not the most important qualities in a sexual encounter for me. I am more interested in mutual giving and receiving, overall sensuality, playfulness and a dedication to pleasure for both parties whether anyone has an orgasm or not. 1 Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Guest t**obb**** Report post Posted September 3, 2011 (edited) Its hard to have a second ejaculation if you're not comfortable. It can be difficult for the lady to pleasure you as the aggressor with intercourse if you can't stay hard again. I find for best success in a 2nd go is to make yourself comfortable so you can acheive maximum firmness for the attempt, and be the agressor for intercourse so you can use what ever stimulations you need to maintain the erection. Some thoughts for comfort: *remove any distractions **start again with what ever foreplay turns you on the most 1. use pillows to help with angles so that you don't have to work too hard to acheive the desired position 2. If you are a big fan of doggie style, try having the ladies legs together between yours. That way you can angle back and draw her into you without moving your own hips 3. Use a weight bench or adjustable bench, or better yet, if you are in your own place, ensure your bed is setup at the right hight to allow you to stand and access your partner while leaning into the bed. My personal favourite is to just sit back and enjoy back to back oral pleasure from a spirited and talented lady ;) p.s. I am not particularly in good physical condition - but I am mid-30s, I have smoked, and have a family history of diabetes, and require medication for other health reasons. p.p.s. stay off the liquor, coffee, red meats, fatty foods, and hydrate with a lot of water before attempting. Better yet, keep off anything that may make you feel altered or has the effect of slowing you down. Edited September 3, 2011 by t**obb**** quick additions Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Old Dog 179138 Report post Posted September 3, 2011 From my own point of view, a man who can have one good, satisfying orgasm when he's ready for it is set to be a wonderful sexual partner. However, men who have erectile difficulties and/or men who have trouble achieving orgasm can also be wonderful partners. While I understand how important strong erections and powerful climaxes may be to many men, these are not the most important qualities in a sexual encounter for me. I am more interested in mutual giving and receiving, overall sensuality, playfulness and a dedication to pleasure for both parties whether anyone has an orgasm or not. Couldn't have said it better. The best release you have is that mental one when you give yourself to your partner and truly enjoy the experience. There are times when your mind is so excited and engaged that traditional orgasm seems almost a nuisance; it changes the focus. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Surf_Nazis_Must_Die 8958 Report post Posted September 3, 2011 Whenever I am with a lady who can have several bone shaking, teeth gnashing, muscle spasming orgasams, I am always envious. It has been several years since I have been able to achieve a "second shot", (perhaps caused by the fact that I have been on this rock they call earth nearly a half century now). I just thought I would pose the question to the guys out there. Any of you had this issue and found a solution? Any ladies out there have any suggestions? A great solution in two words: Cleo Catra Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
frenchlover22 261 Report post Posted September 3, 2011 I agree with all of you. The absolute key elements are good health and the quality of the connection. If those conditions are present, I can attest to the result. You can multiple shots in a reasonable amount of time (a few hours in my case). My personal record is four orgasms in one long session with a very special lady. The trick is not to focus on wanting more releases but let yourself be consumed by the moment and enjoy the quality of the connection with your lady. And that takes effort on both parties ! Posted via Mobile Device Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Butterfly Kisses 2301 Report post Posted September 3, 2011 (edited) I agree with all of you. The absolute key elements are good health and the quality of the connection. If those conditions are present, I can attest to the result. You can multiple shots in a reasonable amount of time (a few hours in my case). My personal record is four orgasms in one long session with a very special lady.The trick is not to focus on wanting more releases but let yourself be consumed by the moment and enjoy the quality of the connection with your lady. And that takes effort on both parties ! Posted via Mobile Device Your advice regarding letting yourself be consumed is great, but the lady you are consumed with needs to be consumed too. I have found my number of orgasms is directly related to seeing the lady I am with enjoying herself as much or more than me. My turn on is seeing her respond to my attention. That gets me totally consumed and ready again. And another thing to keep in mind is if you are going in thinking you are going to set a new repeat peformance record, it probably won't happen. Lastly, if I can delay my orgasm as long as possible, when it comes, I will shake in spasms until it's over, incredible! So one orgasm can be more satisfying than multiples. Edited September 3, 2011 by Butterfly Kisses Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
frenchlover22 261 Report post Posted September 3, 2011 Your advice reagrding letting yourself be consumed is great, but the lady you are consumed with needs to be consumed too. I have found my number of orgasms is directly related to seeing the lady I am with enjoying herself as much or more than me. My turn on is seeing her respond to my attention. That gets me totally consumed and ready again. And another thing to keep in mind is if you are going in thinking you are going to set a new repeat pefromance record, it probably won't happen. Lastly, if I can delay my orgasm as long as possible, when it comes, I will shake in spasms until it's over, incredible! So one orgasm can be more satisfying than multiples. I think you and I are totally on the same page my friend. FL Posted via Mobile Device Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
newboy 4919 Report post Posted September 4, 2011 Thanks everyone for the information. Yes I do just relax and enjoy the company of my partner, (and I mostly do not see alot of ladies these days). I do enjoy giving pleasure, and seeing my partner enjoying receiving it. As some of you have said, it's not that important for the second orgasam, (and I agree), just sometimes it would be nice... Take care everyone... Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
haida41 214 Report post Posted September 4, 2011 i am a senior but a newcomer to the whole SP scene. my first time i told the lady that i had two fears...that i wouldn't be able to get it up or i would explode too soon. she told me not to worry, that she had ways to make sure i was fine. OMG did she ever. just under the hour. anyway, i WISH i could worry about MSOG. i am proud (and happy) to be able to experience the one great one. :)., (70 yrs. next month. no viagra etc.) 2 Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
capitalman 3861 Report post Posted September 4, 2011 I've had a lot of problems achieving multiples too and when I can I've noticed a few things which most of you have already touched on. The lady has to be into it. Stimulating my mind is so much more important than stimulating my erection. When I she is into me, my mind gets there so much easier. Gotta take a break in between. Relax and don't even think about it. When I'm thinking about it, it never happens. When I've resolved to that fact that I probably won't shoot again, I find myself doing it! No clock watching. That'll just kill everything! Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
sexnonstop724 1727 Report post Posted September 4, 2011 Usually the soapy shower for 2 after the first round with a helping hand do the trick for me. SNS724 Whenever I am with a lady who can have several bone shaking, teeth gnashing, muscle spasming orgasams, I am always envious. It has been several years since I have been able to achieve a "second shot", (perhaps caused by the fact that I have been on this rock they call earth nearly a half century now). I just thought I would pose the question to the guys out there. Any of you had this issue and found a solution? Any ladies out there have any suggestions? Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Mutau 2516 Report post Posted September 4, 2011 Like other posters I am of a certain vintage. I am in relatively good shape and health and take no prescription medications. I do follow a daily regime of vitamins and a small baby aspirin. My appointments are usually for two hours to allow the lady and I the time to become better acquainted in a non-rushed atmosphere. I am not a MSOG seeker. It is more of a search to connect with the individual and through mutual stimualtion to achive orgasmic release(s). Communication with my play date partner is key in finding the right combination of sensous activities which will enable her to achieve orgasm. Like SNS724, I find that a nice warm shower mid-appointment allows my body to re-adjust and the pump to become primed once again. Hydration with water or juices is also very important. The main thing is to be relaxed and thus have no performance anxiety stress. Just simply enjoy the experience. After all, it is not the numbers that count but the intensity and satisfaction, of both yourself and your partner. Bon voyage! Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
