roamingguy 300292 Report post Posted November 18, 2011 Well I am going to chime in on the topic. I found it hard as a newbie to write a recommendation. There was something in my mindset that private intimate encounters between a man and woman were just that, private...I had to somewhat unlearn that when I partook in this lifestyle. I learned that a recommendation is appreciated by a lady. Now mind you, some ladies prefer nothing said at all. In any case, when I write a recommendation, I do let the lady read it first, for her ok. She doesn't edit it, or add to it, but if she would prefer it not posted, then I wouldn't. But all recommendations I write are completely my writings, and I only write recos of ladies I had a good or great time with. Also any lady I write a recommendation on, I would (or have) seen again. Something else to keep in mind. Yes a recommendation lets the lady know she is a good SP/MA and her service is good. But something else, irrespective of the business side of it, it has to be flattering for a woman to know a man enjoyed his time with her. That he found her beautiful, desirable and would see her again. There is a personal side to seeing ladies, and what lady doesn't want to hear she is attractive? Some quick thoughts from a man who has been fortunate enough to see many beautiful ladies, and has many wonderful memories of the encounters RG Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
cometman 35115 Report post Posted November 18, 2011 With me, I also want it to be a bit personal, although I know it cannot be overly so. However, I've never been a wham, bam, thank you ma'am, kinda guy (okay, the odd drunken encounter when I was younger :icon_lol: ). I do take a personal interest in my partners/dates and have a lot of respect for them as human beings. What I am asking of them, I take seriously and want it to be enjoyable for both parties. If it isn't, one or both of us have erred and it could have and should have been better. I've had one date, written one reco, and look forward to the next date AND reco. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
LeeRichards 177238 Report post Posted November 18, 2011 I find myself in a similar situation as MrNice, often in a little more personal connection with the Cerb ladies I visit with, therefore finding it hard to write a recco sometimes. I also end up with delayed reccos many times...but I eventually get there :) I only hope the ladies appreciate a delayed reccomendation that is somewhat thought out and worded appropriately, rather than an off the cuff writeup that perhaps is hastily worded after a very enjoyable encounter. I like Pete said, write a recco for the lady. So I want it to be what she would like. Not a menu orientated writeup, or how many shots on goal there was. More about the lady, and the environment, the mood and the fun and enjoyment that was had.....sexually and non sexually. 1 Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Roxcii Rachelle 696 Report post Posted November 19, 2011 I think SPs need to accept that lots of guys just aren't good with words. So don't take it personally that guys don't write them. They probably just aren't sure what to say. Writing a tasteful but helpful reco is a difficult line to walk. I am sure people understand that and I do not post this thread to try and "make people write reco's" by any means .. I was just posting to see where people stood , because a lot of men were requesting them before having a meeting , and then I thought on it and said "How are we supposed to be a reco if every man is waiting to see one for coming to have some fun?" That was all I wanted to get out there :) & thank you all for your opinions :) Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
explorer69 3513 Report post Posted November 19, 2011 I don't like to write recommendations on this Board because you get criticized/warned or banned if you suggest anything slightly negative. (ie it could be 95% positive and 5% soso but you can't write that). Also if a SP/MPA is active on this board and has no reviews, I take that as a negative, as no one is prepared to write a review of her. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
cat 262460 Report post Posted November 19, 2011 I don't like to write recommendations on this Board because you get criticized/warned or banned if you suggest anything slightly negative. (ie it could be 95% positive and 5% soso but you can't write that). Also if a SP/MPA is active on this board and has no reviews, I take that as a negative, as no one is prepared to write a review of her. I'm don't agree, there are numerous reasons why recos aren't made on CERB. The reason why I shun recommendations is because of the impact it has had on my personal life. If you want to find out if a provider may not provide 100% service all the time, go check the review boards. If you can't find anything negative there either than it may be a personal choice of the provider. Even completely positive reviews can have a negative impact on ones personal life... cat 3 Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Meg O'Ryan 266444 Report post Posted November 19, 2011 I don't like to write recommendations on this Board because you get criticized/warned or banned if you suggest anything slightly negative. (ie it could be 95% positive and 5% soso but you can't write that). Also if a SP/MPA is active on this board and has no reviews, I take that as a negative, as no one is prepared to write a review of her. Umm you don't like to write reviews but yet are leery to see someone without any? Also, if you are more than 95% satisfied what would be the point in indicating any negatives? Can you not just be happy with the great time you had? Sorry if this sounds harsh but typing on an iPhone is still challenging for me. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Rassilon 982 Report post Posted November 19, 2011 I just wanted to say I appreciate the encoruagement, and that I did it. Had no idea it would generate another two pages of discussion. Sorry. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Meg O'Ryan 266444 Report post Posted November 19, 2011 I just wanted to say I appreciate the encoruagement, and that I did it. Had no idea it would generate another two pages of discussion. Sorry. Awesome!!!!!! 1 Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
explorer69 3513 Report post Posted November 22, 2011 Umm you don't like to write reviews but yet are leery to see someone without any? Also, if you are more than 95% satisfied what would be the point in indicating any negatives? Can you not just be happy with the great time you had? Sorry if this sounds harsh but typing on an iPhone is still challenging for me. I post lots of reviews on the other Board. Secondly, from a guy's point of view we like to know the good and the bad. (The bad could be as little as she smokes, cat hair everywhere, place is a mess, she took another phone call, doesn't know how to do final release etc etc Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
roamingguy 300292 Report post Posted November 22, 2011 I post lots of reviews on the other Board. Secondly, from a guy's point of view we like to know the good and the bad. (The bad could be as little as she smokes, cat hair everywhere, place is a mess, she took another phone call, doesn't know how to do final release etc etc Well a couple questions then. Do you not post reco's at all on CERB?...or just reco's of ladies who meet 100 percent to your standards. Second question, if the other board, whatever board that is, is so great, why are you on CERB if you don't like it's policy regarding recos And Meg is right, you can't on one hand complain about lack of reco's here for ladies and use that as a negative for the lady but on the other hand not post any reco's yourself. My two cents RG 2 Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Andee 220524 Report post Posted November 22, 2011 It is the same with me I see a number of CERB members who are true regulars and they haven't done a reco but the ones I've seen 1-3 times have. To me a reco is like a thank you or a tip, never expected but appreciated. A reco really has had no impact on my business. If I receive one awesome, if not oh well. I believe recos should be considered as one of the factors (but not the only one when determining who to see). I can assure you there are hidden gems and some of the best SPs on cerb have little or no recos. Clients who rely solely on recos may be cheating themselves out of experiencing an an awesome lady. For what it's worth, like Lexy, it doesn't affect my business in the least that I have few recos. I don't ask for them or encourage them but if they are written, I am grateful. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Carley Chase 18985 Report post Posted November 22, 2011 I would not worry to much about it. As you said you have many clients that visit you on a regular basis. Reccomedations are not everything. What is important is that you have confidence in yourself. By the sounds of things you are doing everything right. I must also say you are a gorgeous woman. You also seem very smart and determined. You have it all going for you. ;) Lots of love xoxox Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Guest Report post Posted July 3, 2012 Personally , I dont think recommendations mean everything on this site , but I have also ran into people who have refused to meet me until someone posted a recommendation for me. Now that I have one , I dont notice an increase or decrease in my business. But the reco is highly appreciated ;) I wouldnt stress too much about not having a reco , just because it isnt posted in the recommendation section of your city , it does not mean that a member doesnt speak highly of you , or a member does not PM other members inquiring about you and your services. Recommendations will come , the more involved you become with the site and the more members you meet through this lovely site :) Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
nntsci 11076 Report post Posted July 3, 2012 "It's nothing personal. Some guys just don't do the reco thing." One reason is that it is difficult to be absolutely confident that ones post will not come back to haunt me. In my case after more than a year on this site, I'm not becoming increasingly confident (or reckless) about posting, but I was very reluctant to post or to make recommendation for a while. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Nicolette Vaughn 294340 Report post Posted July 3, 2012 I really don't care about recos. I've had enough of them in the past that gave me the positive reputation I have today. I've got tons of regulars so I must be doing something right. I've felt that I have proven myself over time so I don't count on them. Yes, it's great to bring in new business which I still do on a regular basis but there are many others ways to advertise or spread the word about your service without recos. The key to any successful business is having repeat and loyal customers and keeping them happy. If someone doesn't write a reco, either they are not up to it but it doesn't mean they won't be back to see you. So don't take it personally. I have so many cerb clients who have never wrote a reco about but have been back to see me many times. And I'm okay with that. :) Recos aren't the be all, end all. Your service, personality, looks and attitude speaks for itself. 1 Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
PistolPete 61421 Report post Posted July 5, 2012 Recommendations are here for a purpose after all it is called C-E-R-B Canadian Escort Recommendation Board. Personally I enjoy sharing my encounters, as I think others should do the same,but if they don't, that is their choice. Some encounters,and rec's are of the detailed kind, some others are not, but it is sharing to others that you had a great time. Some ladies may have pages of them some others not, but it is not the end of the world, some gents are perhaps gun shy of writing their experiences, or simply wish not too all together. 1 Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites