Malika Fantasy 144625 Report post Posted September 16, 2011 yes it will be one of those other sappy post:) I have been on Cerb for pretty much 2 years no (despite what my joining date say, it was a fuck up)...it has its up and down. up and down... I've been extremely annoyed at people, wanting to almost strangle them, ,some people make me cry of joy...learn that well being an Escort isn't being a street walker, or the high end class escort at 1000$/hr ( I though you only had those type when I first join). I've made some friends, whatever SP or hobbiests... Sometime I feel like saying, screw you Cerb, I hate your drama (cause there is plenty of it on here), but I still keep coming back because, well it's an amazing advertising tool and I can't be judge like a piece of meat, like some other erb website...it's a place where I get to voice my opinions and not be judge for it (well ok sometime I am)... I just want to thanks all those amazing people that have been in my life, private or escort-ing life for the past 2 years, most of you did touch me in a nice way, or random way that I still remember you BOOBIES FOR ALL:D and here is one of my random and brutally honest post:D 17 Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Meg O'Ryan 266444 Report post Posted September 16, 2011 Malika, my soulmate, I must agree. I have has highs and lows here but I will admit that the highs are much more frequent. This site has helped me grow, not only as an escort, but as a person. The many wonderful people I have met in person as well as online (and yes, those connections are just as important) have helped me expand my horizons and discover the true beauty of being an escort. Cerb, I am genuinely honoured to be a part of your community. To each and every one of you who has managed to touch my heart, I thank you. blah, blah, blah meg is in a sappy mood LOL Oh, yeah...not one of you "so called cyber friends" noticed my post count! Low moment! LMAO Just kidding!!! 2 Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
bcguy42 38594 Report post Posted September 16, 2011 I, for one, am glad you are here and stuck it out through the less than pleasant moments. Yeah, there is the occasional touch of drama but the overall CERB experience is valuable to all in one way or another. Glad you expressed your opinion (or vented or whatever.) Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
castle 38816 Report post Posted September 16, 2011 This place is better because of you, Malika! I too have had my instances where I thought I had enough...but it keeps dragging me back in...and it's not even the hobby (ok, well part of it is)...I left the hobby for several months earlier this year but kept coming back to cerb...it's really the community that keeps bringing me back. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Winnipegcub 21293 Report post Posted September 16, 2011 First Way to Go Malika! I too am just over 2 yrs here as well. I probably was more active in posting a few months back. Some of the 'drama' recently and frankly disrepctful posts turn me off and as in life...on CERB I too just take the higher ground and try and stay out of it. But I think those highs and lows can be expected. I am sensing we're on a more positive trend now. Regardless CERB remains a great tool for me to find women I value and respect and who can bring something positive into my life. I have also communicated thru posts/chat with some guys who I've found I share a common bond with. As long as that stays...so will I. Cub 1 Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Guest **cely***r***ne Report post Posted September 16, 2011 This place is home for me. Fuck Facebook. I may not have met everyone I have made friends with....yet, but I tell you, your day will come...eventually.... I have wanted to leave before because of drama, but who am I to say that...? There is drama in everyone's life,everyday.. you cant escape it, at least here you have support from hundreds of people for certain issues. And sometimes it helps when you are going through something to come on here and talk about it with people you dont even know. The unbiased opinions from everyone is truly what helps me, so I thank everyone for their help in the past few days. Millions of kisses for you! Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
EmilyRushton 253372 Report post Posted September 16, 2011 We all have our good and bad days and the same goes for our days with this board. At the end of the day you take the good with the bad and you pull through, some days are amazing others you want to just snap. All in all it is worth it for what you as an individual gets from this community. This board is unlike any other out there. 10 Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Malika Fantasy 144625 Report post Posted September 16, 2011 This place is home for me. Fuck Facebook. I may not have met everyone I have made friends with....yet, but I tell you, your day will come...eventually.... I have wanted to leave before because of drama, but who am I to say that...? There is drama in everyone's life,everyday.. you cant escape it, at least here you have support from hundreds of people for certain issues. And sometimes it helps when you are going through something to come on here and talk about it with people you dont even know. The unbiased opinions from everyone is truly what helps me, so I thank everyone for their help in the past few days. Millions of kisses for you! The kisses are to me, right?:D I wanted to leave also because of the drama. If I could, I would honestly live in Narnia or in a world fill with unicorns and cheese that doesn't make me fat. I have been involved in drama here that I didn't want to...but at the end...I still come back because I love the ambiance of it. I am on Facebook and Fetlife...and the drama is even worst there, and I can't say a word because they don't know that I am an SP...so when I see them bash "hookers, escorts and the like" i just want to scream...but I can't...but I can here:D soon...I'll hugs the crap of you :D Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Guest **cely***r***ne Report post Posted September 16, 2011 The kisses are to me, right?:D I wanted to leave also because of the drama. If I could, I would honestly live in Narnia or in a world fill with unicorns and cheese that doesn't make me fat. I have been involved in drama here that I didn't want to...but at the end...I still come back because I love the ambiance of it. I am on Facebook and Fetlife...and the drama is even worst there, and I can't say a word because they don't know that I am an SP...so when I see them bash "hookers, escorts and the like" i just want to scream...but I can't...but I can here:D soon...I'll hugs the crap of you :D Oh Malika 998,997 kisses ARE just for you! Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Guest S**a*Q Report post Posted September 17, 2011 (edited) I get what everyone is saying, however... We are a business. When we become SPs, we become a small business, like a Mac's or a 7/11. We are in the line of many 24/7 convenience stores, in a sense. Yeah I know it sucks, hearing things that specifically reflect on our business (or us), but it's no different than opening a Blockbuster next to a Rogers. We're all competition... We are all selling the same product, our vaginas... There's bound to be arguments and people getting pissed off, cause someone just set up shop beside us. I think it's funny how we bond with other girls that do what we do... but all in all, they are our competition. We all sell vag. I'm sorry for taking the fantasy out of what we do, but it's what we do... My vagina is no different than the next, to the client. In the long run, it's all how you sell yourself... Some people will be more inclined to see other people's vaginas, as we all offer different types of services. Ultimately though, I am just selling sex, or the use of my vagina, just like the next escort beside me... I get that things have been "different" lately... Whether it be on Cerb, CL (that is closed now) or DL... Things change, whether we want them to or not. So what does one do? We change, with the business, with ourselves and make things happen in the business that we got into, because we love what we do. You can't make everyone happy, but you can make yourself happy. So work on that, the rest will just come with time. Yeah it sucks that "it's not like it once was..." BUT... Where would life be without change? *(Coming from a retail manager and a small business owner... Just go with change, you can't control everything, but you can maximize on what you do control.) I love Cerb and it's my home... but we have to think of the business first. Our business. Our vaginas. Edited September 17, 2011 by S**a*Q Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
roamingguy 300292 Report post Posted September 17, 2011 There are days on CERB where there is drama, and it's kind of a downer. But balanced against everything, CERB is a real good and positive community. I think it's the nature of boards that they have these cycles of some drama every now and then...I also am on a couple fishing boards, they cycle that way too. The good boards, like CERB run the cycle and keep going. And it's CERB general positivity between the ladies and gentlemen that sets it apart from the rest Malika, I'm glad your still on CERB...in fact everyone, I'm glad your all here, CERB is what it is because of all it's members Some ramblings RG Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Old Dog 179138 Report post Posted September 17, 2011 Malika, Malika.... Pinky.... One of the most beautiful things about this place is that you get to know and (dare I say it???... hell yes) love some of the people with whom you interact, at the same time it is also a venue that can bring out some of the more loathsome characteristics in any of us. We are protected to a degree, whether you agree or not with what might seem like an artificial sweetness to our environs. Sweetness is nice, but sometimes our own version of diabetic shock sets in... and this place gets uber pissy. We have all seen it... it's like a picnic scene in a meadow, where everyone is enjoying an idyllic existence, the sun is shining, the breeze is cool, the colours are vibrant... and then zombies come in and eat everyone's brains. Zombies suck (BE PREPARED) - but they do serve a purpose. They keep us on our toes and usher in inevitable change. Like the sophic and sometimes seraphic SaraMQ states :"BUT... Where would life be without change?" CERB endures and we endure within it only because we are adaptable and despite our objections, we accept that change as necessary for our survival. Some will inevitably leave as a result of upheaval, more may join, but the one thing that is constant is that there will always be a core of amazing people with whom to interact - people that will make you smile so much that your cheeks ache. See the names that have posted so far??? People like them. Luv ya Pinky. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
xmy556 6095 Report post Posted September 17, 2011 I get what everyone is saying, however... We are a business. When we become SPs, we become a small businessWe're all competition... We are all selling the same product, our vaginas... ...We all sell vag. I'm sorry for taking the fantasy out of what we do, but it's what we do... My vagina is no different than the next, to the client. In the long run, it's all how you sell yourself... ...Some people will be more inclined to see other people's vaginas, as we all offer different types of services. ...Ultimately though, I am just selling sex, or the use of my vagina, just like the next escort beside me... I see it way, way differently. WAY Different.. I purchase a bundle of services that may involve fantasy, visual stimulation, sensual touch/response, and, yes, the use of "vag".. but to me, if I was only in it for "vag" I could buy one of those weird artificial "fleshlight" thingys. But that would do me no good, because I need the interaction with that other vibrant soul to get the synapses to light up like nothing else. Sure, its a business. But a very interesting one. 2 Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Guest S**a*Q Report post Posted September 17, 2011 I see it way, way differently. WAY Different.. I purchase a bundle of services that may involve fantasy, visual stimulation, sensual touch/response, and, yes, the use of "vag".. but to me, if I was only in it for "vag" I could buy one of those weird artificial "fleshlight" thingys. But that would do me no good, because I need the interaction with that other vibrant soul to get the synapses to light up like nothing else. Sure, its a business. But a very interesting one. When I say vagina.. obviously you aren't buying just the vag. It's sexuality in a nutshell that we sell, the experience I guess, whatever you aren't getting at home. I'm a fan of getting to know everyone, building chemistry with people, but it's all about the outcome... No matter who you are, you aren't paying me for conversation. I just tried to make it easier for everyone to understand.. Maybe better to put it out as we sell "sexual experiences"... Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
roamingguy 300292 Report post Posted September 17, 2011 When I say vagina.. obviously you aren't buying just the vag. It's sexuality in a nutshell that we sell, the experience I guess, whatever you aren't getting at home. I'm a fan of getting to know everyone, building chemistry with people, but it's all about the outcome... No matter who you are, you aren't paying me for conversation. I just tried to make it easier for everyone to understand.. Maybe better to put it out as we sell "sexual experiences"... I know what your saying Sara, but for me at least, I'm looking for companionship...which yes, includes a sexual side, but that is only a part of the encounter...there is more to being with a lady than just sex At least for me there is RG Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Phaedrus 209521 Report post Posted September 17, 2011 I think it's the nature of boards that they have these cycles of some drama every now and then...I also am on a couple fishing boards, they cycle that way too. The good boards, like CERB run the cycle and keep going. And it's CERB general positivity between the ladies and gentlemen that sets it apart from the rest Actually, I take it as a sign of health for the board... a lack of disagreement and debate often means a forum that's on the way to getting boring and stagnant and... fading away. We're all human, and sometimes we're all going to be slightly more intemperate than we'd perhaps wish. But also we're all adults, and to be honest I think everyone here does a pretty good job of keeping a lid on it when things get pissy. Trust me, there's far worse out there. I have phases of indulging in political arguments, and *far* worse gets said in the forums where politics is discussed :) So, carry on, everyone. You're all awesome, even when you're having a collective bad day. 1 Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Guest S**a*Q Report post Posted September 17, 2011 I know what your saying Sara, but for me at least, I'm looking for companionship...which yes, includes a sexual side, but that is only a part of the encounter...there is more to being with a lady than just sexAt least for me there is RG Ah companionship... I'm good at that, that's one of the things that pushed me into this business. I don't sell just the "sex", people that have seen me know that... Creating chemistry is an important part of the business. I can talk, make out or make you think of me just like the next girl, if not better. My point was that this is "just" a business and it's bound to be filled with competition issues. My previous posts are not talking about the one on one, in the bedroom, but more the business/industry as a whole. *(Think of looking at the year in general I suppose... not the individual meetings or by day, but the whole year. This business is no different than a corner store, we have good days and bad days, but it's the whole monetary year that matters in the long run, to us.) Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
LeeRichards 177238 Report post Posted September 17, 2011 Well Malika that is an awesome random and brutally honest post :) It is good to get things off your chest and out there sometimes. I sooo agree with you that there are days when you want to reach through the computer screen and grab someone and ask them what planet they are from or who made them God or sometimes you just want to choke slam them. Then you look at the next thread and smile cause it is a very happy thread, a very helpful thread, a fun thread, or something that makes you laugh your ass off. I kinda fit into the fun and laughing part of the equation....you either smile or laugh or think I am a retard or idiot which I am sure many do;) but I don't really concern myself with that. I would not be doing what I am doing if it wasn't for Cerb. I went on this site probably 4 months before I ever met with anyone, ever, and realized, wow there are some sexy hot ladies yes, but some amazing ladies out there that have rockin personalities and love what they do! It is positive, and meant to be, and allows you to find what you think it is you might be looking for. Sexual wise, companionship wise, personality wise. Its all there right in front of you.....but.....positive. I had also spent a very short time on the western erb site. Wow. Not alot of good things to say there much of the time. I did return there recently to read about myself in regards to my Cerb posts. Interesting....and no not positive ;) but funny. I have spent alot of time here the last 10 months or so. It has indeed become like a home away from home. As Angel worded....fuck facebook! This is a pretty awesome community here particularily for the ones that participate and banter about. I have what I now consider friends coast to coast. Some I have met already....Some I hope to meet very very soon, and some I will probably never meet. But friends. I read people say that friendship doesn't happen or shouldn't happen. Well bullshit cause it does and it should. We are all just everyday people with personality, feelings and a heart looking for something in life and friendship is a key ingredient to life. Just a bunch of horny folk ;) Someday I will meet Sara's vag :) I hope. That would be kinda up to her I guess ;) hahaha I do thank Cerb and its members....the sexy ladies and the guys as well for making my life a happier place. Cheers :chug: ps....:boobies: to Malika Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
SamanthaEvans 166766 Report post Posted September 17, 2011 Well, I think that Cerb rocks in a major way! There's drama, there are arguments, a cat-fight breaks out occasionally. Some days one needs hip-waders just to get through the men's pissing contests. In other words: it's a lot like "real" life. I've been on the interwebs for eons. Seriously, I have. Back when my first computer was a box of parts and a manual that was missing most of the pages 'cuz no one had gotten around to writing them yet. Online communities started to spring up, attached to various electronic bulletin boards, and they were fascinating places to be. MUDDs, MUDXes and other virtual worlds came along. History was made as we figured out what we wanted to do and be online. I was at LambdaMOO when Mr. Bungle created his voodoo doll and committed the first rape in cyberspace; he was subsequently toaded. It was all very dramatic and pathetic, full of fantasy and banality. Like life can be, anywhere. So, here is a lot like other places, but it's also different. At least it is these days. Change is the only constant, after all. Even so, we've yet to see the equivalent of a drive-by shooting. Other boards have been shamefully infected with evil spirits that have tried to drive some hard-working women out of the business, just because a certain faction wanted to see if they could do it. In too many cases, they succeeded in breaking not just careers, but communication, authenticity and comradeship. Notice that women don't speak up too much on those boards? 'Nuff said! Here at Cerb, we squabble and kvetch, sometimes, but we're good to each other a lot of the time, too. Very good--reputation points, nominations, sweet notes on guestbooks... it all adds up to something. Which is a lot in a place that's mostly made of ones and zeros, where nobody gives out their real name. You can hide your identity in cyberspace, but you can't hide much else. If you come out here, you'll find out who you are and you'll have to deal with that, one way or another. Here, where all we have are the words we string together, our words will save, reward or kill us. It's a great place, Cerb. Great folks are here. AND there's sex, too! 2 Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Touch 57501 Report post Posted September 17, 2011 There are days on CERB where there is drama, and it's kind of a downer. But balanced against everything, CERB is a real good and positive community.I think it's the nature of boards that they have these cycles of some drama every now and then...I also am on a couple fishing boards, they cycle that way too. The good boards, like CERB run the cycle and keep going. And it's CERB general positivity between the ladies and gentlemen that sets it apart from the rest Malika, I'm glad your still on CERB...in fact everyone, I'm glad your all here, CERB is what it is because of all it's members Some ramblings RG RG, You are CERB's Churchill -- CERB, like democratic governments, may too often drive people to distraction, but it is still so much better than any existing alternative. Jumping from the frying pan into the fire is rarely if ever a good plan... Take care all, Touch 1 Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Guest k***na Report post Posted September 17, 2011 I agree with having good and bad days. Days where you might be more annoyed then others. It happens in places like CERB where everyone is entitled to their own opinion. We all run our business in different ways. Some Ladies or Gents may not agree with whatever it is but at the end of the day Malika, we are all here for the same reason....WE ALL LOVE SEX AND THE LITTLE THINGS ABOUT IT!...I think.....I learn new things everyday from this board and I wouldnt give it up! Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
qwertyaccount 15793 Report post Posted September 17, 2011 ... We are all selling the same product, our vaginas... I must respectfully disagree. For me, first and formost, I want what's between a ladies ears, and if the other fun & naughty parts come with it too, all the better. Malika, I hope this doesn't count as drama! :) 1 Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
baileydog 9367 Report post Posted September 17, 2011 I must respectfully disagree. For me, first and formost, I want what's between a ladies ears, and if the other fun & naughty parts come with it too, all the better. my thougths exactly ... many other things other than what is between their legs will decide whether I like or go back to an SP ... "upside down in the dark they all look like sisters" yikes ... I guess this is highjacking the thread ... Malika ... you know I would sincerely miss what you bring to the dialoque on cerb ... your willingness to be direct ... your humour ... and much more, including boobies :) Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
castle 38816 Report post Posted September 17, 2011 I must respectfully disagree. For me, first and formost, I want what's between a ladies ears, and if the other fun & naughty parts come with it too, all the better. I think the point Sara's making is that yes, we are also interested in their personality and how intelligent, fun, charming, etc they are. Those aspects still go into the decision process of who we want to spend our time and money on. But at the end of the day we are still there for sex. It's the sexual encounter that is being sold....would you still be paying if you knew all type of intimacy was off the table (even kissing, cuddling, etc) and that all you were going to get was an intellectual conversation, or just have fun "hanging out"? Basically would you pay someone to be your friend and nothing else? A lot of you may be tempted to say yes, hell...even I'm tempted to say yes to that question. But the hard truth is no, we wouldn't... we're paying for sex. And anyone who says they would pay to just hang out with her, when there's someone else in line who's offering the same exact companionship + sex? I'm afraid I'll have to call bullshit on that one. Really not trying to objectify women in any way....I know full well the ladies here are real people with real feelings, insecurities, issues, etc. But a good analogy is to picture a really good restaurant, with excellent food, and and excellent wait staff who are really friendly and attentive, always on hand to refill your drink when it gets low, coming by often to make sure the food is ok, etc. After going often you start to build a kind of repore with the staff. Now imagine if that restaurant stopped serving all food and drinks...would you still go there and pay money just to hang out with the staff? Of course if I've built a repore with them I'll try and keep some kind of friendship going with them because I enjoy their company, but I sure as hell wouldn't pay for it. I was paying for the food. I think she's saying that yes, cerb is a wonderful place, the community here is great, but it also makes it easy for us to forget what it is and what we're all here for. I know I've been guilty of it...I've sometimes gone weeks without checking the "escort" areas and just looking at the general discussions...and all of a sudden remembering "Oh yeah!......there's escorts on here!" :D 1 Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Guest S**a*Q Report post Posted September 17, 2011 I think the point Sara's making is that yes, we are also interested in their personality and how intelligent, fun, charming, etc they are. Those aspects still go into the decision process of who we want to spend our time and money on. But at the end of the day we are still there for sex. It's the sexual encounter that is being sold....would you still be paying if you knew all type of intimacy was off the table (even kissing, cuddling, etc) and that all you were going to get was an intellectual conversation, or just have fun "hanging out"? Basically would you pay someone to be your friend and nothing else? A lot of you may be tempted to say yes, hell...even I'm tempted to say yes to that question. But the hard truth is no, we wouldn't... we're paying for sex. And anyone who says they would pay to just hang out with her, when there's someone else in line who's offering the same exact companionship + sex? I'm afraid I'll have to call bullshit on that one. Really not trying to objectify women in any way....I know full well the ladies here are real people with real feelings, insecurities, issues, etc. But a good analogy is to picture a really good restaurant, with excellent food, and and excellent wait staff who are really friendly and attentive, always on hand to refill your drink when it gets low, coming by often to make sure the food is ok, etc. After going often you start to build a kind of repore with the staff. Now imagine if that restaurant stopped serving all food and drinks...would you still go there and pay money just to hang out with the staff? I think she's saying that yes, cerb is a wonderful place, the community here is great, but it also makes it easy for us to forget what it is and what we're all here for. I know I've been guilty of it...I've sometimes gone weeks without checking the "escort" areas and just looking at the general discussions...and all of a sudden remembering "Oh yeah!......there's escorts on here!" :D Thanks for explaining what I couldn't! :D Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
