Confused with the recommendation section.

[randy36 1078]

Earlier we had a few recommendations in Ottawa but with the new recommendation sections it seems that most SP's have made it to the list and say with proud that they in cerb recommendations in their ads in EC and even CL

 

I kind of take it as confusing to just go by the recommendations. Today I was with a sought after lady on the site and my experience with her as well as her placed totally sucked. I felt fleeced by her - can't name her here.

[Capital Hunter 18263]

Actually, I find the new recommendation section very helpful. Whenever, I feel like finding a girl with a good probabily of great looks and services, I just need to scan this section without having to do the time consuming searches all over the board. In most, services provided are listed one by one and that is great too. Also considering that there are possibly hundreds of SPs in Ottawa altogether, I am not sure that close to 45 ladies who have made it to the recommendation section would constitute most.

 

In my view, it is important to remember that recommendations are just personal experiences with ladies and personal views and not words from the bible. We also almost always say case of YMMV. Please also note that SPs are people too just like us. They can have off days too for a day in a month or two. Besides someone who may look beautiful and very sexy to me (i.e. an unshaved untanned tall slim lady with say short hair) may not be so great to someone else. My (or your or his) recommendations are based on personal preferences and likes.

[Guest f***2f***]

Earlier we had a few recommendations in Ottawa but with the new recommendation sections it seems that most SP's have made it to the list and say with proud that they in cerb recommendations in their ads in EC and even C*****ist.

 

I kind of take it as confusing to just go by the recommendations. Today I was with a sought after lady on the site and my experience with her as well as her placed totally sucked. I felt fleeced by her - can't name her here.

 

I'm truly sorry to hear that because it is the first time I've heard that. Usually ladies recommended here by long time members are excellent sps

[ulixestrojan 3757]

I trust the text more than the numbers. I have yet to meet a 10 in my books but frankly I think I rate only a 6 or 7 on many of the categories. Buyer beware and remember that these are people and not turnips.

[loneskater 25635]

I trust the text more than the numbers. I have yet to meet a 10 in my books but frankly I think I rate only a 6 or 7 on many of the categories. Buyer beware and remember that these are people and not turnips.

 

I agree. Numbers are to subjective. We each have our own scales. I also go by what is written in the text. Remember even SPs can have a bad day and we all have different taste and connect on a different level. Becuse an SP is well recommended doesn't mean you will like her service. It differs form one SP to the other. Otherwise they would just be robots and programmed all the same. You can't compare a PSE service to a GFE service theya re not the same.

[PistolPete 61421]

It also deals specifically with human chemistry, if you both nail it off, she has all the looks and service its normally a 10. About numbers, be careful, these are simply just that... numbers, So in my encounters it was a 10 it might be a 7 in someone elses book but it is just simply that your personal dealing with each other.I agree with Loneskater, I also go by written text, what was offered,how they both felt...so when I rated my previous ladies for example...Paige,Dreamgirl,Mia,Sydney Lacroix,Ava,Kelly1234, all very high marks if not perfect 10's it was because how I felt afterwards....and you know what? I went back 2nds,3rds, 4ths......and that my friends is what it is all about, chemistry and mutual respect and hitting it off with one another.

[randy36 1078]

I agree with what has been said in the post and the names that have been put as highly rated in Ottawa.

 

I would think that there should be a rule that only after a certain number of positive reviews (say 3) only the lady would be added to the recommendation section. Now a lady can win over the first few and get herself into cerb good books..

[cat 262460]

I agree with what has been said in the post and the names that have been put as highly rated in Ottawa.

 

I would think that there should be a rule that only after a certain number of positive reviews (say 3) only the lady would be added to the recommendation section. Now a lady can win over the first few and get herself into cerb good books..

 

Dear Randy,

 

I read this and gave a little giggle because the impression your post gives is that a good recommendation here can make or break a girl. I didn't advertise online for almost 2 years and still had a strong client base. The recommendations here help solidify a reputation online, but the majority of my clients are not on the boards and would not know to look. As time goes on, that will change but for now its just the icing on the cake.

 

To assume that an SP would think that she can sparkle for a couple of days, get her name on the list and then rest on her haunches isn't reasonable. There is a tremendous amount of work involved in getting up and running and we are all too well aware of the necessity of repeat business.

 

As the gentlemen above have so completely explained, the numbers are subjective. I am well aware if standing next to most of the Ottawa SP's, I should accurately rate a 7 on the physical scale. I have many years on most of them and am still all natural. Next to women of my own age I'm at least an 8, or maybe even a 9. But I am well aware that men who love women love us because we are uniquely crafted. No two of us are made alike, just as no two men will have the identical tastes in the fairer sex.

 

My suggestion is that you drop the SP a note, and just honestly explain your impressions. If you are honest and upfront it gives her a chance to either correct the situation with an explanation or apology and also gives her a chance to recitfy the situation. I have had guests that I knew that I wasn't at the top of my game when they came to play. If they leave smiling then it's all good and I simply give them 120% the next visit. If it really didn't click, then I simply put the envelope back in their pocket and tell them to come back and we'll have a do over. Maybe she would welcome the chance to make it right...

 

Catherine

[mod 135640]

If you see a recommendation this means that someone (or some people) have had positive experiences with the provider - it does not mean you will have the same experiences but it greatly increases your chances. It does not make any guarantee that you will have the same experience but what it does do it reassure you that someone before you felt the service was good enough to share the experience with others.

 

Here is my problem with your post (Randy36).

 

Your initial post says "Today I was with a sought after lady on the site and my experience with her as well as her placed totally sucked" I read this as meaning you chose someone who was recommended and had lots of positive comments... correct? If she was sought after then she must be one of the more recommended ladies with lots of positive posts be a number or members? Later your reply says "there should be a rule that only after a certain number of positive reviews (say 3) only the lady would be added to the recommendation section" and this leads me to think that maybe you chose a recommended lady who did not have a lot of recommendations or was posted by someone with a low post count? It reads like you are trying to attack or discredit the recommendation area because it failed for you (or for some other reason). At least that is how I am seeing this...

 

As for the low post count... No rule needs to exist for this, really what that boils down to is "Is the person making the recommendation credible and proven themselves here" or "Is the person making the recommendation a new user or possible low post count or potential SHILL post". You can see everyone's post count and you can see all the posts they have contributed to the board (Use this to help you decide if the person making the recommendation is credible and this will allow you to make a informed decision).

 

Now it is possible a fake (SHILL) recommendation was made (It would be impossible to prevent that and we have removed some in the past already) - usually when a credible member PM's me to let me know that they had a very different experience and the post may be a shill I take a much closer look at the posting.

 

PM me and let me know who this is and why you feel the recommendation is not valid. I will look into it and I may even contact any of the credible members here who may have commented on her recommendation to get some more info. Together we can weed out any of the bad ones and I will remove members and recommendations if found to be false (Shill).

 

I am sorry your experience did not pan out for you as a positive one but reading some recommendations before making your decision on booking someone is still a much better plan to avoid disappointment in the long run. As you can see from the many many many replies and comments on this site (it works for 99% of the active members here).

[ulixestrojan 3757]

In my books it is like this:

Anyone can recommend anything - it is up to you to decide if you want what is recommended. I prefer to do reviews. I have already made my decision and I am just reporting on my experience. Do I want you to follow? I don't care what you do frankly as long as you don't get in the way of my pleasure and enjoyment.

[d*mm*y 887]

In my books it is like this:

Anyone can recommend anything - it is up to you to decide if you want what is recommended. I prefer to do reviews. I have already made my decision and I am just reporting on my experience. Do I want you to follow? I don't care what you do frankly as long as you don't get in the way of my pleasure and enjoyment.

 

Amen Brother, follow if you can, but don't expect me to slow down for ya if you can't keep up!!

[Seymour 3970]

I've been posting for a month now. When I started posting, I saw a number of ladies based on the content in the recommendation section - not numbers. In my mind it is not a numbers game. As you will notice from my posts I have seen recommended ladies but I also do my fair share of Taking one - or sometimes two for the team. Yeah, I like duos.

When I post a recommendation I try to portray my session - emphasizing the concept of your mileage may vary, based on personalities, chemistry, respect etc. I hope this helps.

[jdstar 1065]

I think there is enough valid information on this board, such that if you have a bad encounter, it would be fair to chalk it up to poor chemistry, rather than blame it on a bad recommendation. Just my opinion.

[loneskater 25635]

I think there is enough valid information on this board, such that if you have a bad encounter, it would be fair to chalk it up to poor chemistry, rather than blame it on a bad recommendation. Just my opinion.

 

Might be just your opinion but it is a valid one. Either poor chemistry or not doing the homework properly and expecting something different than what was described.

[Guest m***2]

I had a similiar situation where I was kinda of let down by a recommendation however when I think back to the recommendation it was very clear that it was not the type of girl that floats my boat if you know what I mean. I think everyone has certain preference. In fact the recommendation in question for me did even mention that this gal may not be for everyone - fair enough ! For me it is the anticipation, the waiting to see what awaits. Sometimes the not so good experiences are at the very least interesting (to a point) ;-)

[Seymour 3970]

Generally speaking - expectations, timing, mood, chemistry all contribute to the overall experience. Mood of the lady, time of day, perhaps you're anticipating a certain type of service and she is tired or in a bad mood or has a headache or something else because she is human and well shit happens. Perhaps you show up in a crappy mood yourself and well - she isn't equipped to deal with your emotions.

 

Some are better at rebounding from a bad situation and some can detect the lack of chemistry and try to make the best of the situation for you - not themselves. The better ones and perhaps the legitimate ones can do that.

As their clients perhaps we need to manage our expectations better also - not because we are paying for a 'service' does it give any entitlement over anyone. The ladies have the right to see whomever they wish. Chances are in everyone's 'normal' life there are people/personalities that does not gel with your own - so you find a way to deal with those, and get on with life.

Similarly if we approach the 'hobby' with the expectation that we will not 'click' with everyone, when you don't click, chalk it up to one of those and move on. Remember - one man's meat is another man's poison!

 

Again - general comments.

P.S - in some threads some of the ladies have mentioned they do not like the term SP - so starting now, I will do my best to refrain from using this term to refer to anyone.