Do SP's ever fall for clients

[justlooking123 100]

Just wondering if the Pretty Woman situation ever happens? We all know that clients fall for SP's or become creepy ass stalkers etc etc.

 

But do SP's ever fall for clients? Not sure if anyone else gives a crap about this, but I'd be interested in finding out how SP's deal with relationships, I know its private info, but if anyone wants to share or specculate do it here!

 

Is it possible for SP's to find a partner considering the work? Are SP's even interested in relationships? etc etc.

[VedaSloan 119179]

I live with my boyfriend in an open polyamorous relationship and I asked his permission before becoming an escort. I'm quite lucky in that sense, I've never had to worry whether a potential lover will be put off by what I do. And I do keep lovers on the side, and I keep them informed of my job, and thus far, I haven't had any problems.

 

I've gotten crushes on clients, but never anything full-blown.

[ulixestrojan 3757]

I live with my boyfriend in an open polyamorous relationship and I asked his permission before becoming an escort. I'm quite lucky in that sense, I've never had to worry whether a potential lover will be put off by what I do. And I do keep lovers on the side, and I keep them informed of my job, and thus far, I haven't had any problems.

 

I've gotten crushes on clients, but never anything full-blown.

 

Pardon the pun. It would certainly be easy for clients to fall for you.

 

I have had deep intense relationships with SPs and MPs but practicalities of life sometime intervene.

[loneskater 25635]

I have heard of Sps falling for clients. However in most cases the relationship doesn't last. Either the SP continues her work and the new boyfriend can't handle it or if the Sps does quit the business the boyfriend will be quick to remind her of her past business during a heated argument. Also there are many clients who are married which is not the best for an SP to start a relationship.

[cat 262460]

Of course we do! Over the years I have seen many SP's become involved with clients, sometimes it works...sometimes it doesn't. It all depends on why it happened. The "knight in shining armour" is often the reason, a client falls for the illusion the SP presents. The SP is the damsel in distress and is thankful for someone being willing to attempt the rescue. This relationship is often doomed once the real personalities start to emerge. In this scenario the SP's working because something in their life isn't and they just want to put things right and move on. When this combination happens, it is often difficult to distinguish the fact from the fantasy until it's too late. Very tricky, feelings get hurt and no one is happy let alone happily ever after.

 

Others end up really getting to know each other over time, and the relationship developes slowly and this type has a chance. I know several couples that started out as business and ended very well, most are still together. It's important to remember that SP's are human and our emotions can come into play at times. I have never seen an SP fall for someone without the someone putting the proposition forward initially, meaning I've never met a stalker SP personally.

 

Good question tho...

 

Catherine

[justlooking123 100]

Hey,

 

I just want to thank everyone that has posted or PM'ed me on this subject. And thanks for the posts to come.

[p22*** 236]

I can honestly say once, my doctor you know who you are... Florida was are escape...Kisses

 

I still miss him...

[Emma Alexandra 123368]

I agree with Catherine...

I have had the night in shinning armour and once i realized what was going on i had to end it. I have also had the other when i have ended up dated the client and we were really into each other. Not just sex but true feelings. Thing was though he couldn't handle what i do anymore...even though that's how we met. I have become very close to others as well and love them to pieces.

When people say to me "your so nice why don't you have a boyfriend?" my response is "i do i have a couple per day"...

 

kisses,

Emma A

[Seymour 3970]

Funny - I'm reading this thread tonight. Earlier this evening as I was with my lady friend we were chatting about this very topic. I guess it works both ways and if the chemistry is there then things can happen. How it turns out I guess depends on the individuals and what each want.

 

By the way -not to hijack this thread -there are three topics that are interesting to get input on from both hobbyists and SPs.

1) SPs falling for clients,

2) clients falling for SPs and

3) telling friends/family about your work as an SP or hobbyist.

 

In terms of #3, in my travels the SPs that tell their friends/family are in the minority.

[TrueSwitch 100]

I've seen and have personally had this occur. I'd have to agree with a majority of the girls here, it does happen and depending on the reasons, can go either way. It can be a beautiful thing or a trial by fire, as with anything, it depends on the people involved.

[VedaSloan 119179]

If I am seeing a guy in my personal life, as I often do, I am completely upfront about my work as an SP, because I feel it's only fair for him to know what I do, and know what he's getting into beforehand. I have only had two guys have a problem with it and they were completely polite about it.

 

As for my friends and family, my family does not know, but I am very open about it with friends. My parents are from a different generation and I don't think they would be able to look beyond any possible health risks (both disease and physical attack) and their own moral code to understand my reasons for choosing this profession (none of which were drug/money motivated [though the money is nice :P]).

[esoterica 624]

To turn the topic around, I dated an SP once, 23 years ago. She told me that she was an escort after a few hours, and I was never a client (well, not officially, to make a sly dig at relationships) - we met at a club - I think I was too horny to care. It was almost an exotic feeling to know it and it certainly did not bother me what she did - I am pretty poly. It wasn't very serious, and it lasted a couple months but I couldn't handle her habit of drinking cola-n-speed.

 

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[Rachelle Reigns 4828]

I thought I'd add my take on this subject. I met a client 5 years ago..We fell madly in love and even had a baby together...my beautiful 2y/o son. So I think that the pretty woman fairytale can and does happen.Service providers come in every class from SW to Cortesan, but to the world outsite of hobbyiests we are all the same....We are labelled and judged and forget about having a normal dating life...the minute a guy finds out what we do they run the other way....so here we are SP's and hobbyiests, we both respect aand enjoy this world. So who best to date then someone who respects and likes for who you are an SP.....this is usually a hobbyiest. Now this cannot and will not happen for evey client and girl, but I really believe that many SP's will and have ended up with former clients....just my .02 cents!

[spud271 47779]

I've had an ongoing relationship with an sp from Montreal as I've mentioned before. It has worked out well for both of us until the last couple of months. It really ended because I chose to move on due to personal reasons with my family back home. It was a wonderfull relationship that worked out well for both of us. So yes it can happen and yes it can work out if you are not the jealous type and fall for the person, not the fantasy.

[Elle 1961]

Another scenario I've seen happen, is the client starts "dating" the SP in order to get her services for free and never actually intends for it to be anything serious. Then she finds out that he's still paying to see other SPs behind her back. I ditched a good client because he did that to another SP.

[RubJunky 1954]

Everyone should know, falling in love with an SP takes a ton of strength and commitment. Falling in love with an SP because she is beautiful or gives you that dreammy sex every man is searching for will just end in perile.

 

You girls choose this industry for many reasons, if you are a smart business woman you have already beat 70% of the competition, if you're in it for the money you will surely fall off the beaten track, its no different then any other business.

My belief is Yes, you can easily fall in love with a client, your head is already in the game you just need to make sure his is as well.

 

Tip: Great sex is a ton of fun. Add, disagreements, bills, fatigue, long hours at work, commitments, other friends, domestic indiferences... and now you have what they call a relationship.

 

rub

[Narman 117]

Have you ever run into trouble/strife with a 'partner' because of a review or comment on a board like this? I've been seeing a gal (MA) who specifically asked me not to review her. I guess it's because her BF (and former client) read some explicit details previously on the other board and got jealous/suspicious. Apparently she only does manual but some guy said he got much more. But regardless of the details of that situation; have any of you had any trouble with your guy/gal after they read the nitty gritty?

Narman

[loneskater 25635]

Narman; If you want to ask a new question, different form the one that started this thread, you should start a new thread.

 

What you are doing is called hijacking the thread. In other words you are changing the subject by asking a new question and that is considered very impolite on the board.

 

Have you ever run into trouble/strife with a 'partner' because of a review or comment on a board like this? I've been seeing a gal (MA) who specifically asked me not to review her. I guess it's because her BF read some explicit details previously on the other board and got jealous/suspicious. Apparently she only does manual but some guy said he got much more. But regardless of the details of that situation; have any of you had any trouble with your guy/gal after they read the nitty gritty?

Narman

[Narman 117]

Sorry I meant in the context of an SP and client who 'fall' for each other but the ex-client/new BF starts getting jealous about other guys posting reviews. I was not attempting to hijack the thread and I am again sorry if anyone took it that way.

narman

Narman; If you want to ask a new question, different form the one that started this thread, you should start a new thread.

 

What you are doing is called hijacking the thread. In other words you are changing the subject by asking a new question and that is considered very impolite on the board.

[AmberWyld 311]

I am sure it happens from time to time. Same make weather the past of what SP's have done in the past, but once things become shakey in a relationship, its usued as a spear to cause pain an hurt in the lady... Myself, I don't get that attached, but I do have feelings for my very good clients, and those meetings tend to be more intimate and erotic in nature. I get a lot of clients asking me why am I single "your so beautiful and nice, why don't you have a boyfriend?" they continue to ask. My answer is simple, I am have too much fun doing what I do, and besides, I have many per day right? Like perhaps you, yes you; the one now reading this. And if not you, then I am only a call away and then it could be you!! Wink! Wink!

[Loki318 1631]

 

In terms of #3, in my travels the SPs that tell their friends/family are in the minority.

 

I expect that the hobbiest that tells his friends and family are even fewer!

[Seymour 3970]

I expect that the hobbiest that tells his friends and family are even fewer!

 

I will agree with you on that one. The challenge with 'opening up' is 'mainstream' still has huge issues with certain behavior. There are still too many labels used by 'mainstream' to refer to people in this industry. So what ends up happening is people of like minds will share ideas - covertly or via an forum like this one. Perhaps with time we will eradicate these social barriers...

[drlove 37204]

I expect that the hobbiest that tells his friends and family are even fewer!

 

I told two people: My best friend, who was more curious about the hobbying scene than anything else. He kept asking me all kinds of questions and was practically drooling all over himself when I told him about all the hotties I have sex with on a regular basis.

 

The second person I told was an LF of mine. Big mistake... she kept going on and on about it, and not in a good way. She eventually got over the initial shock, though we never spoke of it again! *lol*

[362434 100]

When I was in College, I befriended a beautiful girl in 1 of my classes. After a few tries she accepted a date. Then after the date, she told me that she was a SP (Escort). I didn't believe her at first so she proved to me by showing me her adverising ads. She told me that she thought I was going to leave her after spending the night together. But her and I made up some rules that we both had to agrre upon.

For instance, always wear protection, no heavy drugs, both of use finish school, I wanted to know how everything went each weekend, she said if I get jealous or want her to quit, that would probably be the end of the relationship. There were more rules we worked out with each other.

But the 1 rule I really wanted her to follow was to have FUN.

It may have been a job but I told her I'd rather see her each day knowing she loved what she was doing. She agreed and after we starting seeing each other, she said it was the best time of her life. She SP for the whole time we went out, we stayed together for around 1.5 years. She finished College and moved to a new city. It was a blast I enjoyed it the whole time.

[YoungStud 468]

I've been involved in a long-term relationship with an SP who also had a long-term live-in BF. After a point, you just forget about "rules" and follow your heart, but only with someone who's truly worth it. This usually doesn't happen overnight. You have to accept that each really important relationship in your life is unique and has its own context and reality.