Do SP's ever fall for clients

[Guest i***k***]

I've been involved in a long-term relationship with an SP who also had a long-term live-in BF. After a point, you just forget about "rules" and follow your heart, but only with someone who's truly worth it. This usually doesn't happen overnight. You have to accept that each really important relationship in your life is unique and has its own context and reality.

 

That sounds tremendously complicated...

[mrmidland 100]

my last gf was a sp. i don't recommend it. no trust

[YoungStud 468]

I've been involved in a long-term relationship with an SP who also had a long-term live-in BF. After a point, you just forget about "rules" and follow your heart, but only with someone who's truly worth it. This usually doesn't happen overnight. You have to accept that each really important relationship in your life is unique and has its own context and reality.

 

That sounds tremendously complicated...

 

Actually, pretty simple, believe it or not. Because there was trust and caring and honesty. Three things which are very important to any real relationship, but are often difficult to achieve whether or not one of the parties is an SP. Just a one-time thing that worked for me because of unique circumstances and a particular individual. Not recommending it to anyone else as a model.

[Emma Alexandra 123367]

Another scenario I've seen happen, is the client starts "dating" the SP in order to get her services for free and never actually intends for it to be anything serious. Then she finds out that he's still paying to see other SPs behind her back. I ditched a good client because he did that to another SP.

 

i was just rereading this thread and came across Elle's response...

i have had this happen and i'm lost to what or how to feel...it kind of hurts but then i think ...why should i be hurt if i'm still seeing clients my work}....but then again if hes paying to be with someone else how can he really respect me? Does this make sense? Confused? I am...

[esoterica 624]

i was just rereading this thread and came across Elle's response...

i have had this happen and i'm lost to what or how to feel...it kind of hurts but then i think ...why should i be hurt if i'm still seeing clients my work}....but then again if hes paying to be with someone else how can he really respect me? Does this make sense? Confused? I am...

 

Emma, it's very complex. And definitely confusing. As much as I try to look at this logically, I cannot. I guess the only thing that makes some sense to me is to insist on emotional fidelity.

[YoungStud 468]

I think "then she finds out" is the key. If he's going to be going on paid dates, he better discuss it with her before he does so and if she doesn't like the idea, then he has a choice to make. If there's emotional fidelity, he'll make the right one.

 

Relationships don't have to by symmetrical - they usually aren't. Just honest and complementary. I.E. & E.G. She does dates for money. He doesn't. They both know and accept what each other do and are happy with it.

[Emma Alexandra 123367]

I think "then she finds out" is the key. If he's going to be going on paid dates, he better discuss it with her before he does so and if she doesn't like the idea, then he has a choice to make. If there's emotional fidelity, he'll make the right one.

 

Relationships don't have to by symmetrical - they usually aren't. Just honest and complementary. I.E. & E.G. She does dates for money. He doesn't. They both know and accept what each other do and are happy with it.

 

interesting concept...truth,dicussion,honesty...:smile:

[buggernot 588]

i have had this happen and i'm lost to what or how to feel...it kind of hurts but then i think ...why should i be hurt if i'm still seeing clients my work}....but then again if hes paying to be with someone else how can he really respect me? Does this make sense? Confused? I am...

 

As mentioned, it is complicated. Take away the context where you enjoy your job, and what's left is that you are working and he is entertaining himself. You need to work to put food on the table, he is spending his money for something he wants to have.

 

However from his perspective, maybe your work schedule and family commitments were difficult for him to be able to spend the time with you that he wanted. It's even possible that he felt that you wouldn't be able to give him your all or wouldn't be as interested in having sex with him if you've had a busy stretch. Or perhaps his intentions weren't as 'thoughtful', and he was just trying to get some freebie's. Bottom line is that there was a lack of honesty and no doubt that's likely the source of your distress over it.

 

Reminds me of an article I read a few years ago about porn stars dating each other. Don't remember who exactly, but this guy was talking about how difficult it was for both of them to be intimate with each other at times. She would come home at night and be too sore for sex after a shoot. The next morning she would want to have sex, but he had to go to work that morning and needed to be professional and save himself for that. End result was that the relationship did not last because they had difficulties in coordinating their sex life.

 

So yeah...it is complicated sometimes...

[YoungStud 468]

Reminds me of an article I read a few years ago about porn stars dating each other. Don't remember who exactly, but this guy was talking about how difficult it was for both of them to be intimate with each other at times. She would come home at night and be too sore for sex after a shoot. The next morning she would want to have sex, but he had to go to work that morning and needed to be professional and save himself for that. End result was that the relationship did not last because they had difficulties in coordinating their sex life. So yeah...it is complicated sometimes...

 

Damn! You have just ruined my long-term fantasy about dating a porn star. Lol 8-)

[Seymour 3970]

Damn! You have just ruined my long-term fantasy about dating a porn star. Lol 8-)

 

You can't quit now Stud - you must follow your dream! ;-)