Guest s**nflute Report post Posted December 9, 2011 Sorry lol, thay was my fault. To me it was obvious but that's only because I know the place lol. Ill be more clear the next time. We all learn from our little "oops ":bigclap: Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
whiteman 14028 Report post Posted December 9, 2011 I've given little cash gifts to an MA for Christmas that I've known for a while. And if I really know them well enough to know their birthdays, then I gave them for that too. I don't think I've ever given physical presents, however, the MA's always seem to remember me. :) Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
explorer69 3513 Report post Posted December 10, 2011 I've overheard MPAs laughing at the guys who bring gifts. Sure they like them; what girl doesn't. They'll still laugh and call you a loser behind your back. 7 Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
roamingguy 300292 Report post Posted December 10, 2011 (edited) I've overheard MPAs laughing at the guys who bring gifts. Sure they like them; what girl doesn't. They'll still laugh and call you a loser behind your back. Well they can still laugh and call me a loser behind my back (said sarcastically, I don't for one second believe ladies laugh behind our backs), I'm going to keep tipping/gifting. And it's what happens face to face, privately in an encounter is what I tip/gift give for. And frankly, I think your full of it. An SP/MA appreciates being treated like a lady by a gentleman, it makes what is her livelihood, an enjoyable and respectful time. Why would she laugh at someone showing her respect The gift, a little token of appreciation. The tip, well it helps the lady pay the bills, put food on the table, offset expenses, or just buy something she wants I think you just wanted to put a rationalization (an unwanted rationalization) out here probably to justify that (I assume), you don't tip/gift give Do you really think your negative comments necessary? RG Edited December 10, 2011 by r__m__g_uy 3 Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
ottawaadventurer 5114 Report post Posted December 10, 2011 I'm with you Roamingguy. And when I read posts like the one previous to yours, it makes me feel for the ladies and the contempt that sometimes is directed at them. 4 Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
slurp 7020 Report post Posted December 10, 2011 I've overheard MPAs laughing at the guys who bring gifts. Sure they like them; what girl doesn't. They'll still laugh and call you a loser behind your back. Don't be so harsh about explorer69's post, there is SOME truth to it. Ladies don't always get gifts from only their favorite clients, they get gifts from some they don't really care for for one reason or the other. And yes, I've heard comments similar to what he says above. It's not the norm but it does happen now and then. And they do not talk about only guys who bring gifts, they probably talk more often about the ones who don't in my experience. Truthfully, can all MAs say they have never had anything bad to say about a client? And you have never told another MA or perhaps a longtime trusted client who you consider a friend? Maybe in a perfect world this wouldn't happen but we haven't reached that on earth. I know in my job, like many of us, I have to be nice to unpleasant people all the time. And my colleagues and I talk about our experiences. And yes, we do have some laughs and probably called some of them losers or worse. While some MAs may seem angelic or saint-like, they are human. I'm not naive enough to think that I have not been talked about, everyone can't like me, that's just the way it is. A successful MA will be able to put aside her personal preferences and make a client feel like they are treasured and liked. It doesn't mean it is always true, but it's part of the experience some pay for. You can say the same for an escort, not to single out MAs. It's a tough job that I couldn't do and kudos to you all. But I don't beleive for a second that what explorer said is not true, I have heard it myself several times. Was it a great idea to post it? That's another debate ...... 1 Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
roamingguy 300292 Report post Posted December 10, 2011 It may happen (and I emphasize may) sometimes with some SP's/MA's, but for him to categorically post as if all MPA take gifts and then laugh behind the clients back, uncalled for. Just posted, IMHO to make out the ladies as money grabbers, and the clients who gift give as losers. He should look to the top of the CERB page next time, you know, the part which says if you do not have anything nice to say...Please don't say anything at all I stand by my original post, and fully understand why he got the negative rep points he did RG 2 Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Guest s**nflute Report post Posted December 11, 2011 I've given little cash gifts to an MA for Christmas that I've known for a while. And if I really know them well enough to know their birthdays, then I gave them for that too. I don't think I've ever given physical presents, however, the MA's always seem to remember me. :) Like Whiteman, I also have given little cash gifts PLUS the regular tip, to favorite MA for Christmas that I've known for a while, I got that "are you serious look".......my reply was "hey it's tax free money, I can take it back it you want" Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
explorer69 3513 Report post Posted December 11, 2011 (edited) Don't shoot the messenger. I wasn't trying to say that it is true for all MPAs or SPs but it happens more often than you would like to think...but its a fantasy right? Edited December 11, 2011 by explorer69 Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Reuben Sandwich 13841 Report post Posted December 11, 2011 Don't shoot the messenger. I wasn't trying to say that it is true for all MPAs or SPs but it happens more often than you would like to think... I'm not sure why you think this is a message that needs to be heard? Other than RG reminding you about not saying anything if you do not have something nice to say, you are showing a lack of discretion that is part of the interaction we have with the ladies. Whatever you say you may have heard in the privacy of their establishment should not be fodder for public gossip. 3 Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Guest ***nsut***jr Report post Posted December 11, 2011 I always like to bring a gift. I think it creates a bit of a positive vibe and helps get the mood started in the right direction. As far as getting laughed at about it, I think that's absurd. You picked the wrong lady to see in the first place if thats the case. Just my 2 cents J Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Sensual Erin 33928 Report post Posted December 11, 2011 You're obviously now just trying to cause trouble, attention seeking or stirring the pot twice? What is your point exactly? You got our attention on the first comment. Please keep your poor attitude for other places that thrive on possible slander and gossip. There's another site for that and it's not here. Don't shoot the messenger. I wasn't trying to say that it is true for all MPAs or SPs but it happens more often than you would like to think...but its a fantasy right? 2 Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Areez 11906 Report post Posted December 12, 2011 (edited) I've overheard MPAs laughing at the guys who bring gifts. Sure they like them; what girl doesn't. They'll still laugh and call you a loser behind your back. the post nomination was a mis-click on my part!! not to be misunderstood. :b I love bringing gift for whomever i visit, actually more often than not i asked ahead of time if i could bring anything :) easy way to break the ice! Edited December 12, 2011 by Areez blee sunday lmao! 1 Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Guest s**nflute Report post Posted December 12, 2011 You're obviously now just trying to cause trouble, attention seeking or stirring the pot twice? What is your point exactly? You got our attention on the first comment. Please keep your poor attitude for other places that thrive on possible slander and gossip. There's another site for that and it's not here. Well said Erin, now he is changing his gun to a different shoulder. You forgot to mention he was full of it.:motion: Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
explorer69 3513 Report post Posted December 12, 2011 Well said Erin, now he is changing his gun to a different shoulder.You forgot to mention he was full of it.:motion: CERB motto" if you do not have anything nice to say...please don't say anything at all" Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
roamingguy 300292 Report post Posted December 12, 2011 (edited) CERB motto" if you do not have anything nice to say...please don't say anything at all" You in essence post that the ladies laugh behind the guys backs after receiving gifts and that the guys are considered losers. Your post fuels a lot of the negative and incorrect stereotypes about this lifestyle. So maybe your using the CERB motto "if you do not have anything nice to say...please don't say anything at all" would carry more weight if you practiced it yourself. RG Edited December 12, 2011 by r__m__g_uy Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Royalfun 55449 Report post Posted December 12, 2011 Just to add something from my personal point of view: Offering a gift is a personal decision from the hobbyist, and most of the time, if not everytime, the SP appreciates it. For me, it is something that comes from me, a free gesture, and I dont have any expectations from it. It is only the pleasure to please somebody that I find pleasant. Period. At the end, if the SP appreciates it, I am happy and the encounters, actual and future, will only be improved in depth. But that's only my opinion. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Meg O'Ryan 266444 Report post Posted December 12, 2011 Just to add something from my personal point of view: Offering a gift is a personal decision from the hobbyist, and most of the time, if not everytime, the SP appreciates it. For me, it is something that comes from me, a free gesture, and I dont have any expectations from it. It is only the pleasure to please somebody that I find pleasant. Period. At the end, if the SP appreciates it, I am happy and the encounters, actual and future, will only be improved in depth. But that's only my opinion. Honestly, if I was a teller at your bank and u took the time to think of a gift I would like I would be most appreciative. If I was your real estate agent, I would appreciate it. If I was your child's teacher I would appreciate it. I would never expect it but I would never not appreciate it! An apple, a note, flowers or something special u know I would like. It's the thought that counts. And if u can't afford it a massage :) LMAO 2 Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Guest s**nflute Report post Posted December 12, 2011 CERB motto" if you do not have anything nice to say...please don't say anything at all" And that my dear friend works both ways.......... Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
zorobaby 4121 Report post Posted December 12, 2011 This thread really wasn't meant to be a flame war lol. I was asking a question and got my answer, now are there any suggestions on gifts? Or just typical flower and what not... Cash just has no thought put into them lol Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Sensual Erin 33928 Report post Posted December 12, 2011 I complete agree with you. This is a thoughtful thread and there's always a negative apple or two that will pour their rain all over us. :) He's on ignore here so pay no attention. I suggest you pay attention to this particular ladies interests. I've received gifts from computer monitors, computer speakers, to a new shower handle. Money can be cold so just pay attention to her needs and you may just find yourself picking up something very personable for her. My gifts were not always flowers, perfume or things the guys think we may like because we're females. ;) Hope that helps but may take a little effort on your part to dig in on her most wanted list. This thread really wasn't meant to be a flame war lol. I was asking a question and got my answer, now are there any suggestions on gifts? Or just typical flower and what not... Cash just has no thought put into them lol Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Guest ***nsut***jr Report post Posted December 12, 2011 Money is the easy way out. And the value is written right on it. lol Its fun to try and pick something that has meaning in some way. It can tell the lady something about your character so in the long run it can be a very good thing. J Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Guest s**nflute Report post Posted December 12, 2011 (edited) This thread really wasn't meant to be a flame war lol. I was asking a question and got my answer, now are there any suggestions on gifts? Or just typical flower and what not... Cash just has no thought put into them lol As Erin said, pay attention to here needs, keep your eyes and ears open, once you get to know the lady in question, give gift cards from various stores and restaurants. Starbucks or Tim Horton's gift cards are always welcomed.:icon_biggrin: Additional Comments: Edited December 12, 2011 by s**nflute oops Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Royalfun 55449 Report post Posted December 12, 2011 Money is a easy way out, but it's not very creative. A bottle of wine is nice. Once, after I verified with the SP, I brought some fresh oysters and a bottle of white wine, and we shared. A gift certificate is also very appreciated. Specially during this Christmas time. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Sensual Erin 33928 Report post Posted December 12, 2011 Jessica mentioned this idea as well. Do get the verification form your provider as not everyone drinks and a bottle of wine given to a non drinker can be awkward. What an original thought with the oysters. :) I've never had a Gent bring me oysters. I have enjoyed a bottle here and there with a client that stays over an hour. Whether we drink or not, remember it's the season where the police are cracking down more on drinking and driving so just make sure you have enough time with your provider so you don't leave over the limit. It doesn't take much these days. Gift certificates are great! I received one from La Senza last year and it was very much appreciated. Money is a easy way out, but it's not very creative. A bottle of wine is nice. Once, after I verified with the SP, I brought some fresh oysters and a bottle of white wine, and we shared. A gift certificate is also very appreciated. Specially during this Christmas time. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
