Seymour 3970 Report post Posted October 26, 2008 This word comes up a lot in the relationships we forge. A lot of members here have a spouse, and even for those that don't there has to be someone you turn to for advice - (besides the boys). I suppose it is possible to have different type of feelings for different people -two of my closest female friends come to mind. I guess I love them, but above this I respect them. They are both smoking hot - one is married but both are off limits. They do not know about this 'hobby' of mine - but it is possible to discuss many topics from relationships to politics to cuisine to fashion with them. These are amazing people that can share their experiences, emotions and can be a great sounding board. I enjoy their company and I value their friendship. It is great to get a woman's perspective on many topics. Now don't get me wrong, there are some lovely ladies in 'the business' that share a friendly piece of advice on many a topic (you know who you are my lovelies). The question for members here - who do you trust enough to turn to, open up to, for advice and for being a sounding board? Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Guest meteor Report post Posted October 26, 2008 well, whatever you do, important to remember that a hobby is a hobby- nothing more. Like any hobby, one should be able to live and function without it, give it up at will. If this isn't the case, then it's no longer a hobby, becoming an addiction or dysfunction. In which case, it does not matter whom one trusts, it only matters how one handles it. Thing about women in general, don't think one should respect more or less the ladies in this profession then any other girl. Am not talking about some freakshow one must run from, that it's applicable both in real life and here. Bottom line, talk to whomever you may wish, but, when it comes to women, treat them all like women. Never confuse love with respect. For me, respecting any girl means treating her like a woman. It's amazing how those available girls turn the heat on when treated as such. What this means, treat your friends like the sexual beings they are if you like them, and they will jump on you- then make your pick. Do not reserve that energy only for an EP. Perhaps, the most important lesson, is never ever put more energy into the hobby then reality, or it will stop being a hobby, as said earlier. No reason matters, busy, and so on. For every hour spent around the hobby, including forums, spend at least the same amount outside with girls that may or may not interest you. And if it isn't working, well, try another. Math will always work in ur favor.. m Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
spud271 47779 Report post Posted October 27, 2008 I have one friend who I trust enough to tell about my hobby. His family work in the porn industry, so it wasn't exactly a shock to him. I am by nature not an overly trusting person, so when I do open up to someone, I have put out feelers for a very long time to test their true character. I made the mistake of telling someone who I thought I could trust about what I do in my spare time, and it did not go very well at all! They were less than impressed, since then I really don't say much to anyone about it. I am fortunate to know some people on here who I know I can talk to about this and who seem to be very trustworthy people. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
loneskater 25635 Report post Posted October 27, 2008 As I have mentioned before, my best woman friend is actually an SP. We only see each other as friends so I have no issues discussing this business with her. Who better to talk to about this then somebody who knows it very well. However we don't discuss the details of our personal meetings. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Capital Hunter 18263 Report post Posted October 28, 2008 I have been very open with my family members and friends (not colleagues at work) about my previous hobby (going to strip bars and making friends or even dating dancers) and mostly it was well received, however, I am much more selective about people who I trust with my new hobby though (escorts). Only very close family members and very few selective friends know about my new hobby. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
getiton76 100 Report post Posted November 2, 2008 I, personally, trust no one. Just because of my line of work, it's best I trust no one. Except the girls to be uber discreet. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
