Sex Addiction

[Kindman 300]

I suffer from sex addiction i.e. the constant pursuit of sexual pleasures. I laugh when I read that this is not a real addiction. I would like to hear from others who have seen sex taking over their lives. Many think this is a myth created by men as an excuse for their actions. I do not agree. I also think it afflicts women. Surely the solution to sex addiction cannot be more sex?

[loopie 15358]

I don't mean to be rude, but posting a thread asking for support in quitting sex on an escort message board seems a bit like having an Alcoholics Anonymous meeting in a bar.

I have tried to understand this addiction because it gets a lot of press lately. And I will admit that I do not feel I understand it. Nobody has really provided me with a consistent or meaningful definition. So I can't really say I even understand what the problem is and what sex addicts feel they would need to do in order to cure themselves or treat themselves. But if you feel sex is ruining your life, I really don't think this is the place to get away from those temptations.

[Alexandra-Sky 12606]

@ Loopie, I sort of agree with what you're saying, but given that sex and everything surrounding it is a highly "hush hush" subject in a lot of social settings, it might make sense for someone to bring up a topic such as sex addiction in a setting like CERB where we all gather on the basis of sexual experiences/encounters amongst other things.

 

It also seems plausible that people in this setting are experiencing similar things and thus can private message the OP with some ideas or support resources.

 

And so while this topic may not make sense to be discussed on CERB for some, it sort of makes sense to me for the reasons I've stated above.

 

Sky

[r100rs 859]

sex addiction is a real addiction. For me addictive behaviour is when I need to take or do something to change what I am currently feeling. This could be drugs/alcohol/sex/shopping/food/exercise/etc.

 

I would suggest going here and trying the questionnaire.

 

http://saa-recovery.org/IsSAAForYou/SelfAssessment/

 

You are NOT ALONE.

 

r100rs

[scribbles 6031]

I don't know if I believe in sex "addiction." I'm more apt to believe in sex "compulsion," because I believe just about anything in life can become a compulsive focus.

 

Think about it in these terms: people who are obsessive compulsive will exhibit certain habits, like always having to place their pens in a row on their desk. They feel the need to do it, and it satisfies something in them once it is done. They can experience discomfort or anxiety if they try and resist their compulsion. I sort of think sex "addicts" are the same. They feel a compulsive need, and will obsess about the need until they satisfy it to the extent that seeking satisfaction of the obsession gets in the way of normal day to day life.

I can see where some think it's an addiction because of the endorphin release and so on, but then that means anything that releases endorphins could be addictive and one activity that releases endorphins could theoretically replace another.

 

I don't think there's anything wrong about talking sex addiction on CERB, so long as the material read here doesn't feed your compulsion. The enticing images in the ads, the nature of some of the recommendations.... I could see that as something that would more likely feed a problem than resolve it, whatever good intentions were at the outset. I think that's what loopie meant.

 

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[roamingguy 300292]

Kindman

If you truly suffer from sex addiction, you should be seeking help from a therapist/psychologist. If diagnosed as such already, your therapist/psychologist would likely direct you to appropriate chat rooms. He/she would also likely tell you to stay away from escort sites, such as CERB. I do understand Alexandra's point about CERB, although I have to agree with Loopie.

First question coming to mind is how you came to CERB. I found CERB when I decided to begin embarking on this lifestyle, and used Google. If it were me, and I was to be looking for help regarding sex addiction, I would Google sex addiction

Here's what I quickly came up with

http://www.sexhelp.com/am-i-a-sex-addict/sex-addiction-test

This can tell you whether you are a sex addict or not (if not already diagnosed), or at least it's a starting point.

Some quick ramblings

RG

[dominoeffect 1077]

Wow i took that survey... WOW is all i have to say...

 

DoM

[Guest W***ledi*Time]

I'm no expert, and even the experts disagree. But whether you call it an addiction or call it something else, if any behaviour is interfering with your life and/or creating negative outcomes for yourself and those around you, then it's a genuine problem. The long-term happiness of everyone affected by this behaviour depends on the problem being addressed and dealt with. And no... ha ha (to return to the original question)... the solution, no matter how difficult it may be, is not to engage in still more of the problematic behaviour.

[Malika Fantasy 144625]

bahaha. I did the test. They say most addict are above 6.

 

I scored 15 0_o

[loopie 15358]

I am definitely not one to tell people what topics they should or should not discuss on this or any other message board. In fact, I do think a discussion of sexual addiction is a relevant and interesting topic for this board and I am interested in learning more about it.

 

Like I said, I don't know enough about this specific addiction to make strong statements. I can only take what I know about other addictions and try to apply some of that to this. Other types of addicts are warned to avoid environments that tempt them to indulge their vice. And success in beating other types of addiction usually means not indulging their vice at all. I don't know if beating sex addiction means never having sex ever again or if it just means reducing that amount of sex one has or the amount of time one spends thinking about sex and pursuing sex. I really haven't been able to get any consistent or definitive answers.

 

I think we all hope Kindman can find help for his problem, I just think the best way is to do what roamingguy said and go directly to the source of the help by contacting professional therapists/psychologists and not to hang around in environments that tempt him.

[antlerman 17064]

I do not have a sex addiction........i just do not get enough sex........

[Alexandra-Sky 12606]

It sounds like there is a genuine concern here for the OP. I'm not sure if this thread is the best place to post jokes about sex addictions.

[cometman 35115]

I'm of the opinion that if the OP actually has a sex addiction, then this is probably not the site to frequent. I think most people are here to explore ways to enhance their sexual activity- not explore ways to suppress it. On this site, I feel like a kid in a candy store and I am here because I enjoy the interaction. If I'm addicted to chocolate, I wouldn't take a tour of a Ganong factory. I actually do mean this post to be respectful.

[Studio 110 by Sophia 150333]

I have overlooked this thread almost on pupose, as it made me question my own intent and desire.

 

I once has had an awful flirtation with addiction.

So much so that it deystriod my life, of the material and as physical.

I was at that cross road where I needed to decide what I was going to do to fix it....it did not happpen the first time

 

What I have learned and want to share with you is...

 

If there is something that is disrupting your life, setting off those triggers, or

simply affecting you in a harmful way and you have no control over it... then THAT IS AN ADDICTION.

 

so if you do hun....

then you do need to make an attempt to understand it.

 

Do so with an open mind;)

 

Sincerly, my best wishes, xoxo

[Kindman 300]

Thanks to all of you who have offered comments so far. I know that being on this site is somewhat ironic but we are all here because sex is important to us. In my case it has taken too much importance and I must deal with that.

[JuliasUndies 7288]

This board is a great place for these kind of questions, especially a place like this that is about sex.

Sex-addiction is not a downer here and is completely relevant and real. In fact, I'm surprised we have no support groups here for such matters, because it only seems right to help those that cannot help themselves.

When you visit a Casino, the very first thing you see is an ad that reads "Know your limits, plat within it".

If you are addicted to sex and it interferes with your life then maybe we should have a help and awareness section on the matter, we have an STD's section?

[hoji 307]

I did the test.

 

 

 

God help me......