Can an escort help with getting over a break-up?

[ramukhsoj 100]

I recently encountered an online guide to escorting. It suggested that seeing an escort can help someone get through/get over a break-up. Has this been anyone's experience? Please share here or PM me.

[fortunateone 156618]

I am not sure from the guy perspective, but I am not sure about doing this for that particular reason. It can relieve a feeling of loneliness, and relieve stress, but it may also leave a bitter aftertaste.

 

It might depend on the feelings surrounding the breakup. Sad feelings will cause different reactions than bitter and angry ones. The angry ones will probably benefit from a nice revenge PSE sort of encounter, but sad ones maybe just want a gentle massage session without expectations, and someone to listen.

[backrubman 64800]

I recently encountered an online guide to escorting. It suggested that seeing an escort can help someone get through/get over a break-up. Has this been anyone's experience? Please share here or PM me.

 

That's an excellent question and I think the answer has to be YES! When someone is going though a difficult time (for whatever reason) they might rely on their friends or perhaps they go see a psychologist for advice. The SPs I've met are complete professionals and probably understand more about the real world than many psychologists do. They are non judgmental, comforting and wonderful companions.

 

After a relationship ends they can help someone restore their sexual confidence also. I guess what I am trying to say is it is probably as good or better therapy than any other kind of professional can provide, at perhaps a similar price and a lot more fun. I consider them to be professional friends but there is much more of a dynamic going on here that is difficult to describe, perhaps someone else feels the same and is better at articulating their thoughts.

 

I find the ones I've met to be really neat, cool, wonderful people in every way. Spending some time with such a wonderful person when you are down for whatever reason has to be helpful.

[2bigalow2 2938]

I know it helpedme after my 1st GF, I was less depressed after seeing an escort, it did help alittle. it released alot of sexual frustation and allowed me to know that \I was sexually compatable with other people. And gave me confidence in asking other women out.

 

This may not work for everyone. It also depends on the SP you get also.

 

This is why there is so much Ysmv.

[ottanon 2930]

I would just be careful and not try to transfer lost feelings onto the SP. Once intimacy is involved that can happen.

[roamingguy 300292]

I would say the only real way to get over a break-up is time

Seeing an escort immediately after a break up might help with what appears to be a void. But if it's a break-up (I'm assuming with a woman that you had/have feelings for) just seeing someone else won't diminish the feelings you had/have for the woman you broke up with. True feelings don't transfer like that

But seeing an escort will at least allow you to have female companionship. Just remember it is no strings and non-committal. If you read more into it, that's where you could run into problems

A rambling

RG

[backrubman 64800]

I would just be careful and not try to transfer lost feelings onto the SP. Once intimacy is involved that can happen.

 

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... Just remember it is no strings and non-committal. If you read more into it, that's where you could run into problems

 

Of course you are both very right. That's why I referred to SPs as "professional friends", but of course a far better distraction than your regular friends :) and a much better (and healthier) distraction than turning to alcohol, drugs or any other self destructive behaviors. Only time can heal the wounds from a breakup and then I'm not sure ever completely.

 

I know when I am having a particularly bad day I often think of my next visit with a nice SP and it helps to get through the day with no intention of dumping my problems on her when I do see her, I look at it as more a time to relax and forget my troubles and the world outside that room completely. I remember once when someone was red faced mad, yelling, trying to pick a fight with me -- I knew they were in the wrong and could have easily got my back up and was just in the mood for a good punch up but then I thought of my appointment a few hours away and just smiled at them.

 

I guess part of the point I was trying to make earlier is that I see SPs no different than Doctors, Dentist or Lawyers -- They are very necessary professionals (and most very professional indeed) who we may need to see from time to time.

 

Which leads to one final point: I really think it is neat that they are discreet by definition and don't cross over into our personal lives. Once I was sitting in a restaurant with some regular friends and my Doctor walked over and started discussing my health and how I was doing, similarly on another occasion an SP I knew walked by and smiled at me knowingly (just ever so slightly) but didn't invade my real world life, so she was more discreet and professional than the Doctor and I do expect and appreciate this from an SP. They are true professionals in every sense.

 

But I agree, anyone that thinks this can cross over from being a "professional friend" to being a regular friend will "run into problems" as roamingguy said. I didn't meant to imply otherwise.

[Boomer 33202]

I'm not so sure it will be the answer, after all it's only an hour here and there. If that's all you were getting from the girlfriend then maybe. The other thing you have to consider, it might take quite a number of dates to find the right "therapist", the one with the skills that suit your needs.

[ramukhsoj 100]

Well, I figured a GFE cannot be used as a substitute for a real GF(unless maybe you're super rich?). I have never used an escort service but I would assume the experience is more comparable to a one night stand / friends with benefits situation than a long-term relationship.

[mrrnice2 157005]

Whether an escort can help one get over a break-up I really cannot comment on, however along much the same lines as that, is the role of an escort in helping one get over the loss of a spouse.

 

Since joining CERB I really can attribute some of my 'healing' to the amazing women that I have met. I know that I tend to be very selective regarding which women I choose to contact and I have found that those that I have met have been women with great compassion, empathy, intelligence, and their own worldly experiences. Sometimes for me they have more played the role of a counsellor or confidante than an intimate companion, and that was my choice. It is fascinating that I can talk more openly sometimes with a 'stranger' than with good friends or even family.

 

I know that I am more content than I was a year ago, and a large part of that I can attribute to the escorts that I have spent time with. For me, seeing escorts has not been solely about sex or maybe has not even been primarily about sex. These women are remarkable in ever so many ways.

[Guest o*etw*****e]

I believe in dealing with a lot of the pain first. I was single for a year and a half before I tried an escort (only once). But have seen a couple MA's. The fact that I had a few terrible dates (being set up by friends, etc) actually made me feel shittier during that post-breakup time.

 

I think if I had tried one sooner, it could have helped speed up "moving on". If I would have known how much fun and chill an MA was I likely would have only waited a few months. lol.

 

Plus, it feels nice doing it while being single... Not having to lie to anyone... Helping balance that sexual desire you have when you first meet a girl by allowing you to REALLY focus on her as a person... Rather than a ragingly-horny ape. haha

[spud271 47779]

I'm not so sure it will be the answer, after all it's only an hour here and there. If that's all you were getting from the girlfriend then maybe. The other thing you have to consider, it might take quite a number of dates to find the right "therapist", the one with the skills that suit your needs.

 

I'm with Boomer on this. I would be very cautious about using hobbying as a way to get over a breakup. I'd say go on a couple of dates once you are ready to help get over the emotional distress of a breakup.

[Guest L**gh M****e]

I like to keep it simple! To answer: No...not if you were emotionally involved and there's a history (ie. family, love...etc) but yes...for sexual frustrations and/or an ear! Professional SP's have boundaries! Professional SP's have respect as well! Professional SP's Understand...however, like said before, Boundaries.... These are my thoughts...

 

I've read the book by Steve Harvey....Act Like A Lady...Think Like A Man...the most valuable book I've read thus far!

 

Lee xoxo