No shows, what is considered appropriate afterwards

[Secrets of Victoria 7208]

I know this happens all the time, but how do others handle no shows?

 

After messaging, information, texting, phone calls and confirmation, when a client does not show, how does everyone handle that?

 

I know that whenever I must cancel an appointment with anything, I take the time to either let the person know that I am running late/delayed/can't make it/can I reschedule. It is common courtesy.

 

I feel, that at least a call or message to let me know that a person cannot make the time that they have booked, would be appropriate.

At least that way I may be able to reschedule something else.

No call, no text, no pm to state they are not coming, is not acceptable to me.

 

I took the time today to accomodate someone that did not confirm with me the night before, as I had asked to do. I was left with an email address that I could not connect to through their system, and I pm'd the client to ask them to confirm with me by calling/texting my phone the night before.

I received a call three hours before the time was to take place.

I did confirm the appointment, but the person wanted to now reduce the session to a service of lower denomination, and after knowing where I was located, called me back an hour later to state that he 'didn't like the location I was in', so he wanted to cancel.

After going over some information with him, he agreed to see me in the location I was in.

He basically wanted me to move to another hotel, at my cost, to do a service call for a reduced rate, that would have cost me more for the hotel than I was going to receive!

 

I don't know about other sp's on here, but I have never heard of anyone ever being asked to do this!

There are not a lot of places available, I am in a clean, quiet location, that I took the time to decorate myself (as we all know that hotel decor is not always the best), but it is clean and quiet.

I am the only person on this floor, so how much more discrete do you think I get be right now? Pretty sweet from what I see.

 

As far as I am concerned, when I provide the hotel room, I can assure that the place is cleanust as I would have in my own static location.

 

What gets to me is the fact that the person did not even have the courtesy to let me know that he wanted to cancel, he just opted to not show up at all.

 

It would be interesting to see from the guys what they do when they feel a need to cancel. I know that when I am seeing someone, I usually give them their full fee if I have had to cancel with less than a days notice.

That seems to be a standard practice in any business.

Feedback from others certainly woul dbe appreciated in this matter.

[Kate von Katz 49953]

If someone wants to cancel based on your location, I don't feel its as big a deal as if they just didn't show up at all. I mean, yeah it's kind of silly to use that as a reason - especially if you've got good reviews. But at least he's letting you know he's cancelling. I wouldn't worry about it if that's the case. It's inconvenient, but he's not likely to book (and cancel) again if he won't go to your location.

 

The worst is people who just don't show up at all. No phone call, no nothing. In that case, I wait for a day to see if they send me any kind of apology. If they do, then okay. If they don't, they go on my Do Not See list.

 

Of course my understanding is not bottomless, and I personally won't give someone more than a second chance. Sometimes life can get complicated, I of all people know this, but at the end of the day I won't waste my time on someone who has wasted my time twice. There will never be a third chance.

 

I think a lot of gents are like this as well. If a lady - for whatever reason - cancels the appointment. There are limits to reasonable understanding and patience.

 

In the end, the decision is yours alone, and how many chances you give someone is entirely your call. Use your guts.

[Guest W***ledi*Time]

Based on your description of the situation, it sounds like your potential client was a bit of a "nervous nellie" from the get-go. The behaviour described is that of someone who isn't sure that he wants to go ahead with things, and is at least half-looking for an excuse or pretext to not go through with it. Obviously, you'd be in a position to better judge this than I am, though.

 

From what I've read here on Cerb over the years about this subject, many ladies would have just crossed a potential client off their tentative schedule when he failed to follow instructions and make the requested confirmation the night before, and they would have proceded to re-book their time at that point.

 

I myself have been lucky enough to have never had to cancel, but if and when I wind up in that situation, I would cheerfully compensate the lady for her wasted time and effort.

[Secrets of Victoria 7208]

Based on your description of the situation, it sounds like your potential client was a bit of a "nervous nellie" from the get-go. The behaviour described is that of someone who isn't sure that he wants to go ahead with things, and is at least half-looking for an excuse or pretext to not go through with it. Obviously, you'd be in a position to better judge this than I am, though.

 

From what I've read here on Cerb over the years about this subject, many ladies would have just crossed a potential client off their tentative schedule when he failed to follow instructions and make the requested confirmation the night before, and they would have proceded to re-book their time at that point.

 

I myself have been lucky enough to have never had to cancel, but if and when I wind up in that situation, I would cheerfully compensate the lady for her wasted time and effort.

 

He emailed for a week, then confirmed last week he wanted the booking, then confirmed again today.

I just didn't like the way he handled it, could have just said, 'sorry, but I'm not comfortable with the location'. I gave up another client (as the space was now booked)and actually went to expense for this guy today.

 

I admire your compensation method.

 

Additional Comments:

If someone wants to cancel based on your location, I don't feel its as big a deal as if they just didn't show up at all. I mean, yeah it's kind of silly to use that as a reason - especially if you've got good reviews. But at least he's letting you know he's cancelling. I wouldn't worry about it if that's the case. It's inconvenient, but he's not likely to book (and cancel) again if he won't go to your location.

 

The worst is people who just don't show up at all. No phone call, no nothing. In that case, I wait for a day to see if they send me any kind of apology. If they do, then okay. If they don't, they go on my Do Not See list.

 

Of course my understanding is not bottomless, and I personally won't give someone more than a second chance. Sometimes life can get complicated, I of all people know this, but at the end of the day I won't waste my time on someone who has wasted my time twice. There will never be a third chance.

 

I think a lot of gents are like this as well. If a lady - for whatever reason - cancels the appointment. There are limits to reasonable understanding and patience.

 

In the end, the decision is yours alone, and how many chances you give someone is entirely your call. Use your guts.

 

 

yes, I agree, life does get complicated, and this is why I like to confirm to confirm with a phone number I can reach you at as I have had to cancel due to complications.

Idon't like cancelling, but this way I can give the person notice that I am not able to make it and will offer them another time or day..

 

Just not showing up at all is plain inconsiderate

If I receive an apology, I will consider letting the person see me, but a second no show, and its adios, darling! lol

[Pink Kitty Escorts 6195]

Ottawa is famous for No-shows. Most of the time it isn't for a good reason, it's either they found someone else that they wanted to see more, or you were a plan B, or found someone cheaper.. ect..

 

Asking someone to change hotels and wanting a discount is a deal breaker right there. As soon as I get a client asking for a discount its game over right there.

 

It's amazing how many ppl are in a "car accident" on the way to see a lady..almost an epidemic. LOL

 

So when someone pulls a no show, we automatically ban them and call it a day. Just for clarification, if someone makes an appt and cancels it in a reasonable amount of time, that is a different story. But if we have to call the client and they tell us they have to cancel.. We cancel them, permenantly.

[Kate von Katz 49953]

I agree! Not that I've worked in a lot of cities, but I have worked in Victoria, Vancouver, Halifax, and Ottawa. And out of the lot Ottawa BY FAR has the worst no-shows, time-wasters and just plain bad clients. Maybe that's just my luck, but I think because Ottawa has so many gorgeous ladies of all types to choose from, the gents here have become a little too demanding/finicky.

 

Overall. I've also met some wonderful gentlemen here, don't get me wrong. But percent-wise, I've had a much higher percent of undesirables than in any other place.

[fortunateone 156618]

I think SofV is in Halifax.

 

I agree this guy seems like a nervous type. Also, my cynical side says he booked a week in advance deliberately, then strung you along until he knew it would be too late for you to book someone else.

 

I suggest instead of turning away other interested clients, instead ask them if they would like to know if you have any last minute availabiltiy, and that you can send by email within a certain time usually on the same day if you have an opening, then they can phone you to let you know. You will know the approx times, or the 2nd person wanting an already booked time would just be contacted if something goes sideways.

 

In this case, you didn't hear from this guy at the time you ask for confirming. At that time, you simply would have set up the time for the 2nd client. When the first one finally calls you 3 hours ahead, you would simply tell him that time is no longer available. If you do have an alternate, suggest it to him and tell him the only way to book it is by phone, and he needs to provide the #. If not, you cannot set any time for him.

 

It is almost impossible to prevent no shows/no calls. You can only set up a booking process that will help both deter the true time wasters (fake bookings) and reduce the impact of these types of callers.

 

 

fwiw, I never give out exact location to any new caller that far in advance. They get sent to cross streets within 5 minutes of me, then call from there for the exact address. I would say giving it out to someone who does not commit to getting to the cross streets may open you up to some problems when you are working out of a hotel incall. You don't want someone getting that info many hours in advance, then come to it early and wait around watching to see if they can catch sight of you prior to the appt. (again the supsicious side of me rearing up here)

[SamanthaEvans 166767]

Real gentlemen keep appointments or give as much advance notice as possible that they need to change the meeting time. When they give little notice or call after the meeting was scheduled to begin, the sincere ones won't be upset about paying for the missed meeting. Similarly, if a good companion needs to change a meeting time, she gives as much advance notice as possible and, if on short notice, generally reduces her fee or offers some other kind of benefit for re-booking the meeting.

 

One of the difficulties that companions have to accept is that, for some men, going through the steps of making an inquiry, having a discussion about meeting options, fees, locations and activities, and making a firm booking is all they need to feel satisfied. It's all foreplay, part of an elaborate personal fantasy that he will never complete except in his own mind.

 

In my experience, those prospective guests who insist on extensive e-mail and/or telephone conversations for days or weeks prior to meeting are more likely not to show up when the time comes. I don't mean that there's a problem with exchanging e-mail or calls ahead of time--far from it! I enjoy a good conversation that gives me a sense of who I will be meeting. The troublesome fellows are often easy to identify because they may write long, pornographic tales and urge me to reply in kind. (I never do.) They may try to set up elaborate fantasies or rituals, require specific and sometimes unusual wardrobe or make-up, demand intimate photographs not found on my website, or even nag me to tell them stories about things I may have done in the past. The guys who express great anxiety or uncertainty about whether it's safe to visit and who seem to want me to go beyond reasonable limits to reassure them that they will be safe with me are also much less likely to show up as planned.

 

Unfortunately, people occasionally set up appointments that they have no intention of keeping because they want to reduce the likelihood that a paid companion will be able to work. I'm sorry to say that some SPs have been known to masquerade as potential male clients, contacting and booking time with touring ladies. They do this because they're insecure, new to the industry, jealous or envious; they hope to discourage highly-regarded, high-rated travelling companions from visiting their city.

 

In Vancouver for the last three summers, a loosely-organized group of men has tried very hard to book false engagements with many high-end companions, often targeting particular days of the week. Their objective was to book appointments and not show up, in the hope that they could ensure that none of us would make any money that day.

 

No-shows are almost inevitable in this business. I can't think of any hard-and-fast rules that will guarantee that a prospective new client will keep a meeting. But careful screening, patience and dedication do pay off in the end. I've found it best not to take special or unusual requests for first meetings. I also request deposits for extended meetings, particularly those made weeks or months in advance. I will not book an overnight engagement with someone I haven't seen before, nor will I go out of town to meet someone I don't know.

 

For me, getting to know a bit about a gentleman before he visits me is always helpful for both of us. The more we can establish a friendly, personal rapport with one another, the greater the likelihood that all will go as expected.

[Nicolette Vaughn 294340]

I've had no shows ( the reality is it's a cost of doing business) with no phone call or anything but most guys have cancelled within a reasonable amount of time. If you're cancelling 10 mins before then I find that unacceptable.

 

I also have a "Do Not See list" and have had guys try to contact me again in the hopes that I won't know or had forgotten about whatever they had done. Once someone wrongs me, I freeze them out. My SP friends call me the Ice Queen for this very reason. Once someone wastes my time or anything that is considered bad in my books, they are a waste of time to me. I don't bother with them again..they become invisible in my world and I rarely give second chances.

 

I don't screw around ( oh, the irony!lol) and for every no show/rude ass time waster, there will always be a good customer wanting to meet. Life is just too damn short....

[Kate von Katz 49953]

I'm exactly the same! Not just in my working life, either. People show you their true character, and if I don't like what I see, then it's curtains. No encore. There are exceptional circumstances, but they don't happen very often. If a client can't treat you with respect, courtesy and good manners from the get-go, then he's not worth it IMO. There's no shortage of other ladies he can go see, and there's no shortage of other guys you can see. Better than to suffer through an awkward appointment that neither one of you will really enjoy.

 

You tell people how you wish to be treated by how you respond. Do what you feel is best, and in accordance with how you want to be treated. It's a rule I live by.

[SexxxyRebecca 57989]

Unfortunately, this is something who never gonna change, I guess. There will always have some guys out there who wont have respect for the girls time.

 

I personnaly, dont give a second chance. Why should I bother if you didnt have the respect to call or text me to say you cant be there? I always save numbers from people who waste my time and dont even answer to their calls if they call me back. (The worse is that sometimes they leave message.. Why you never pick up?? LOL)

 

Im ALWAYS mad when it happens to me.. BUT, I believe so much in ''karma'' that everytime it happens, somebody else more worth it book me for an appointment :)

 

So, people who find it really funny to pull no show, if they think affecting our buissness... Sorrry, it didnt work!!! One day, somebody will waste THEIR time, they should understand why. Karma is a $%/"$/".