Whatshisname 100 Report post Posted January 6, 2009 Hi Everyone. I am a very new member (about 10mins) but a lurker for some time. Long story short - it took me years to figure out that it was okay to call a SP - I was the nervous guy that got over it in two minutes, everyone had fun, and I've been a secret hobbyist since - I love the term by the way. it sounds like a collect stamps. Anyway - the one problem I have is that I am far more relaxed in my own home - I can appreciate that a SP would feel better on her turf. I am always concerned when I am the visitor that its a sting - and I'm not even sure if that makes me sound like an idiot - if so, an honest idiot I assure you. That said - I would like to meet a SP for a PSE in my own home - my concern is that I require total discretion - ie you can't show up at my house looking like a porn star - as I have neighbors etc. I do have lots of people in and out of my house - but ... well you know what I mean. To all of you - thanks for all of your posts. I looked at this site so often, that I got comfortable - so thanks. Happy New Year. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Athana dos Santos 966 Report post Posted January 6, 2009 Hi Everyone. I am a very new member (about 10mins) but a lurker for some time. Long story short - it took me years to figure out that it was okay to call a SP - I was the nervous guy that got over it in two minutes, everyone had fun, and I've been a secret hobbyist since - I love the term by the way. it sounds like a collect stamps.Anyway - the one problem I have is that I am far more relaxed in my own home - I can appreciate that a SP would feel better on her turf. I am always concerned when I am the visitor that its a sting - and I'm not even sure if that makes me sound like an idiot - if so, an honest idiot I assure you. That said - I would like to meet a SP for a PSE in my own home - my concern is that I require total discretion - ie you can't show up at my house looking like a porn star - as I have neighbors etc. I do have lots of people in and out of my house - but ... well you know what I mean. To all of you - thanks for all of your posts. I looked at this site so often, that I got comfortable - so thanks. Happy New Year. No, I really don't know what you mean by that statement; please elaborate. As for me... I never visit private residences on 1st meetings. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Whatshisname 100 Report post Posted January 6, 2009 Sorry - what I mean is that it would be perfectly okay for me to have someone drop by my house as I have a lot of visitors etc. who come by - but I would require the SP to not sex/porn it up too much in my driveway. I'm looking to host, to have fun, for everyone to be comfortable, have a drink or two. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
caveman 147 Report post Posted January 6, 2009 I think most SPs know how to be discreet, especially the ones who have been recommended here. I think many of the SPs also do outcalls (although I tend to be an incall person myself). As Athana mentioned above, some may want to get to know you first in an incall setting (for basic security purposes). Just contact the provider you want to see and let her know that you're looking for a discreet outcall, and as always use the recommendations here on CERB to guide your choices! :-) Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Whatshisname 100 Report post Posted January 6, 2009 here is what happened - not naming names, no negativity. I may have been a victim of bait and switch - as i was very clear that I needed total discretion - specifically I said "you know, I need to be able to open the door, say "hey how are you", and if anyone is watching, wondering who you are - they would think that you must be expected, and a friend etc." what showed up was a very hot girl wearing a skirt that was a belt, her bum hanging out. I will check reviews - thanks Caveman. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Seymour 3970 Report post Posted January 6, 2009 Hi Everyone. I am a very new member (about 10mins) but a lurker for some time. Long story short - it took me years to figure out that it was okay to call a SP - I was the nervous guy that got over it in two minutes, everyone had fun, and I've been a secret hobbyist since - I love the term by the way. it sounds like a collect stamps.Anyway - the one problem I have is that I am far more relaxed in my own home - I can appreciate that a SP would feel better on her turf. I am always concerned when I am the visitor that its a sting - and I'm not even sure if that makes me sound like an idiot - if so, an honest idiot I assure you. That said - I would like to meet a SP for a PSE in my own home - my concern is that I require total discretion - ie you can't show up at my house looking like a porn star - as I have neighbors etc. I do have lots of people in and out of my house - but ... well you know what I mean. To all of you - thanks for all of your posts. I looked at this site so often, that I got comfortable - so thanks. Happy New Year. Dude - welcome to the site. You can collect as many stamps as you wish, you can lick as many as you can collect. But silly puns aside - check out the recommendation section on here. You might want to see a few of the ladies at their location (since they were recommended here, they are the real deal). Now once you have seen a couple and you've established a rapport with them and feel comfortable inviting them to your home, then chances are they would feel more comfortable visiting you on your turf. Of course being sophisticated ladies they will dress appropriately for the trip to your home. Happy travels. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
buggernot 588 Report post Posted January 6, 2009 I've had about a dozen different girls at my place in the past year and never had a problem with discreet dress or behaviour. I lived in a townhouse in the burbs for most of that and if my neighbours wondered anything, it would be, "how can this guy have all these girls delivered that are way too young and good looking for him?" ;) Only thing that ever made me paranoid about the neighbours was having the driver parked out front waiting for me to answer the door or for her to leave. Thankfully, I don't care what they thought and most people don't notice these things unless they sit on their front stoop 18hrs a day... Perhaps you just got unlucky with your choice of SP, especially considering that you were up front about your want for discretion. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Seymour 3970 Report post Posted January 6, 2009 (edited) On a bad day they are nosy. In the summertime, everyone is outside and even more nosy. Not to hijack, but for anyone who is interested in outcall to his residence, and interested in discretion - well play safely is all I can say. I'm pretty sure there was a thread a while back on incall vs outcall ... again, not attempting to hijack. http://www.cerb.ca/vbulletin/showthread.php?t=6087&highlight=incall Edited January 6, 2009 by Seymour post the link. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
o*****j***e 136 Report post Posted January 7, 2009 All you need to do is make sure you let your SP know that you expect a discreet outcall and the well recommended ladies here on Cerb will respect your request. Trust me, i live in the worst neighbourhood for having nosy next door nieghbours, and have requested total discretion and have received it well. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Whatshisname 100 Report post Posted January 7, 2009 I appreciate this link actually - and it has helped me. What I need is a SP/PSE who drives her own car ... the dude parked outside is a whole other issue. Thanks everyone. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Cowboy kenny 50799 Report post Posted January 7, 2009 If discreation is assured by the girl or the phone operator and it is not delivered I would turn them away saying "sorry but I asked for someone to be dressed discretely, you obviously have the wrong address" In some situations, especially where the customer requests discretion due to neighbors or for what ever reason, the provider is showing disrespect buy not obliging. Was it at least a pretty bum hangin' out ? :razz: Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
o*****j***e 136 Report post Posted January 7, 2009 If discreation is assured by the girl or the phone operator and it is not delivered I would turn them away saying "sorry but I asked for someone to be dressed discretely, you obviously have the wrong address" In some situations, especially where the customer requests discretion due to neighbors or for what ever reason, the provider is showing disrespect buy not obliging. Was it at least a pretty bum hangin' out ? :razz: Very well said. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
