For new or less new guys...Expectations

[Guest w*ng**]

I agree with a lot that's been written here. I't s the comparability between provider and client that goes a long way to a successful appointment. Also being respectful of one another.

I don't agree with menus , I just like a general idea what to expect during a session. It should just unfold naturally all within each other's boundaries.

[Code Blue 3585]

Honestly, I've stopped reading reviews.

 

When I first came to the board I did, because I found them a way of sorting one SP's name from another in what felt, at the time, like a profusion of names.

 

I use other criteria now to make an introduction and then decide how to proceed once a "channel" is open.

 

I tend to agree with the posters who regard them in the same way as "locker conversations", although being the nerd at school, I tended to exclude myself from them for reasons of self-preservation! Despite the emphasis on Recommendations here - a feature I do find appealing - they can at best mislead and at worst still be hurtful.

 

CB

[Guest Ou**or**n]

There are many sides to this issue and I agree with many of the comments made in this thread.

 

However it is not always possible to get a feel for a lady by her posts if she is not one to post much other than ads. There are of course SP's in Ottawa that don't advertise on CERB but other Internet forums or on EC.

 

Not all ladies are big on getting into discussions via PM, email or text because (and it has been often commented here) they find some guys can be big time wasters.

 

Some of these ladies that don't participate here and aren't big on protracted PM, email or text conversations are quite excellent providers and are often best discovered by reviews.

 

Now reviews need to be treated like movie trailers - with a big grain of salt. Also like most reviews you get a better picture if you can read multiple reviews (these is why RottenTomatoes is popular in the movie review world).

 

And ladies, some guys just don't certain things at home and they are looking for providers to get certain services. So to some the menu is important. I'm not saying change your ways, I'm just saying that is why some guys may ask. I know full well YMMV but I find in general things work out best when ladies are upfront about their hard restrictions (in ads, emails or in phone calls - whatever suits best). The rest is all YMMV, chemistry and sometimes the dynamics of multiple encounters.

[SamanthaEvans 166767]

Not all ladies are big on getting into discussions via PM, email or text because (and it has been often commented here) they find some guys can be big time wasters.

 

I wouldn't want any gentleman to feel that he's not allowed to ask questions about what the lady offers and what her restrictions are. If you've checked out her website--where such things are frequently described--and still have questions, by all means, ask for the information. I can't imagine why any of us would consider polite inquiries to be a waste of time. Compatibility makes for a good rendez-vous, after all!

 

Time-wasters are not trying to determine whether the lady is right for them. Most are more turned on by the fantasies they have while making contact than by actually meeting us. Their inquiries are not so much about trying to figure out whether we're compatible as they are about material for their own, private, solo pleasure, for free. Some of the time-wasting things I've experienced from men I've not met have included:

 

1. Peppering me with long lists of questions about minutiae. I once had someone send me a list of 75 questions to which he wanted me to respond on a sliding scale of 1-5, from "absolutely not" to "our meeting would be a failure if we don't." This wasn't a BDSM scene negotiation: the questions were about "vanilla" activities.
   
2. Demanding information about what went on in my recent meetings with other clients.
   
3. Expecting me to provide a list of clothing and lingerie options from which he would decide what I would wear and, if I didn't have something that he thought he would like, also expecting me to go shopping to acquire whatever he thought would be suitable. At my own expense, of course.
   
4. Sending highly explicit pornographic scene descriptions to which I was expected to respond, giving exact details about how closely my responses to the activities would or would not match those of the woman in the scene.
   
5. Asking for advice about problems they're having at home or at work.
   
6. Pointed questions about my sexual fantasies.
   
7. Trying to turn phone conversations into phone sex, which is not something I offer.
   
8. Describing encounters they claim to have had with other companions in the city, whom they name, and expecting me to offer opinions about those ladies and their alleged actions.
   
9. Repeatedly making appointments a week or two in advance and then cancelling the morning of, or one or two hours before, the meeting. (I know that unexpected things happen to everyone. But if short-notice cancellations happen twice in a row, I may not agree to meet with a prospective client a third time without a non-refundable payment in advance.)
   
10. The most common time-wasters, though, are the fellows who want to exchange e-mail daily or even several times a day about unimportant things like the weather, what kind of music I listen to, what I'm reading, what I cooked for dinner last night, and so on. These men tend to sulk or chide if their expectations aren't met to their satisfaction. I'm quite happy to exchange e-mail, sometimes two or three times a week, before meeting, particularly if the man is from out of town, but my notes will be fairly brief, warm, cheerful and rarely include much info about my personal, private life.
    

I've received many other, similar time-wasting requests. I'm sure that most of the companions on this board could easily come up with quick lists, too.

 

I'm happy to answer serious questions. I know how important it can be to find someone who provides experiences that he hasn't been able to have at home or elsewhere. If the man seems to be nervous or anxious, I usually suggest we have a strictly social meeting, first, like lunch in a restaurant. My social rates are lower than my private rates and I'm happy to get to know someone while relaxing over a meal without the expectation that we'll have private intimacy afterward. These social meetings aren't a waste of time, at all. I enjoy them!